having trouble

[SyKo]

ok i have been lurking around here for a while and have run into a problem so I need some help. when im having sex with my GF i just can't seem to cum and this has been a problem with others just haven't been with them long term enough for it to matter. but with my current one she is starting to think its her. i can stay up the entire time and then some and im right there most of the time but just cant get over the edge. just lookin for some idea on what might help fix this

 

[yourheroINfla]

It might be mental, or you rub it yourself too much.

 

[Cathleen]

You sure are a longtime lurker, glad to have you here (well, not glad you're having a problem).


Can you climax from masturbation? How old are you? Have you had an overall medical checkup lately?

From your words it's evident this is bothering you deeply and that can cause problems even if we think we're not thinking about it. It's like someone telling you not to think of zebras, immediately we think of zebras.

I wonder if the next time (or sometime) you're with your girlfriend you concentrate only on her pleasure maybe it'll take the pressure off your mind. Have a romantic evening, candles, soft music etc, maybe give her an erotic full body massage, spend time on all her favorite spots, etc., make it not about your orgasm and see what happens. Distractions can help a lot -- maybe you won't be thinking about zebras.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

A pussy is not as tight or as stimulating as a clenched fist so either hold off masturbating for a while or do it more gently, with lots of lube.

Also consider that condoms make you less sensitive. Don't ditch them, but give yourself a break and remember that there are probably other little issues going on than you thinking the wrong thoughts.

 

[Mansa Musa]

ok i have been lurking around here for a while and have run into a problem so I need some help. when im having sex with my GF i just can't seem to cum and this has been a problem with others just haven't been with them long term enough for it to matter. but with my current one she is starting to think its her. i can stay up the entire time and then some and im right there most of the time but just cant get over the edge. just lookin for some idea on what might help fix this

Add a few drops of lube to the inside of the condom (if you're using condoms) and encourage her to be more vocal. You may have maneuvered yourself into overstimulation, and a bit of dirty talk helped me get over the edge when I was in that situation.

 

[SyKo]

You sure are a longtime lurker, glad to have you here (well, not glad you're having a problem).


Can you climax from masturbation? How old are you? Have you had an overall medical checkup lately?

From your words it's evident this is bothering you deeply and that can cause problems even if we think we're not thinking about it. It's like someone telling you not to think of zebras, immediately we think of zebras.

I wonder if the next time (or sometime) you're with your girlfriend you concentrate only on her pleasure maybe it'll take the pressure off your mind. Have a romantic evening, candles, soft music etc, maybe give her an erotic full body massage, spend time on all her favorite spots, etc., make it not about your orgasm and see what happens. Distractions can help a lot -- maybe you won't be thinking about zebras.

yes i can climax from masturbation, im 25, im in good health.

thanks for the advice people

 

[subwannabe]

you are masturbating too much. A hand is tight, a pussy is usually not, and lubricated as well.