Guys: How would you feel about if a woman proposed marriage to you?

[eudaemonia]

Guys: How would you feel about it if a woman proposed marriage to you?

In the fine tradition of HT Cafe, I'll weigh in down thread later after the polls have opened ...

Also, I'm interested to know of any men here who have been on the receiving end and of the women here who've done the proposing. And of course, the answers you got and why or why not.

N.B. Feel free to vote, too, ladies. I'm curious about all opinions, thots, cheers, jeers on the matter.

Obviously, this could be construed as a heterocentric thread, but I'd like it not to be.

 

[ickle_stace]

I'm a bit of a traditional I guess, I want my guy to do the asking

well I would if I had a guy, well and if it was heading that way too obviously!

 

[JBCorbell]

Interesting poll. Personally I have no problem with a woman asking.

 

[midwestyankee]

Been there, done that, wore out the flipping tee shirt years ago.

I blame it all on the Pouilly Fuissé.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

He asked me in the middle of the night when I woke him up from a nightmare. It was weird and we decided to pretend it didn't happen.

AFter a few months I couldn't take it anymore and proposed to him. He accepted and immediately proposed back.

Then when the ring came in, he did the full on knee thing.

 

[eudaemonia]

Nice av, yank.

Ooooh, Delish! I like your and your guy's style. That's pretty sweet.

Maybe it's my advancing bravado (or just my age that's advancing), but for some reason I've done an about-face on this subject from when I was in my 20s. I figure that since I have no fear about asking for what I want in bed why should it be any different when it comes to the one I want to be married to.

Suppose he's really shy. Wouldn't it be an act of loving acceptance and understanding of him to tell him flat out that I want us to be together?

 

[StrixVaria]

If it came right down to it, I would probably stammer a lot just before my ears caught fire (if I was proposed to).

However, if a marriage is an equal partnership, then why the hell not? Why can't a woman go out and bag her man?

 

[Zoulie]

I'd have no problem asking at all, but I'd be so scared he would turn me down that I'd be a wreck about asking. LOL

 

[eudaemonia]

I'd have no problem asking at all, but I'd be so scared he would turn me down that I'd be a wreck about asking. LOL

I imagine this is what nearly every man in the world goes through (god bless 'em).

So my reason for asking is that if the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with would be more of a wreck than me about proposing, is it necessary, I wondered, that he do the asking. I thought about it and decided, "heck no!" If I'm that positive him, why necessarily must the onus be his?

Maybe better minds than mine have an answer that I haven't thought of.

 

[yogiforlife]

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Ahh, if she asked me I would immediately remind her that I stated in the beginning, I NEVER WANT TO GET MARRIED!

 

[fgarvb1]

Ahem... I've been proposed to twice in my life.

Once by a woman head over heels in love with me (obsessed really) and one by a very beautiful young lady half my age.

I could not marry the first one because I was not (in love) with her.

The second one was to young for me and there was the small detail of being MARRIED to someone else at the time.

I was damned flattered.

 

[human_male]

If I wanted to marry her I'd be over the moon. If I didn't, I'd feel all awkward and put-upon.

 

[titmouse]

The lady proposing ... now this is an idea I have given some thought in the past few years. I am an old fashioned person in most of my ways, but this idea seems rather enticing. It is the woman who does the choosing originally they say, so why not?

The conclusion is: I personally would/will do it in a heart beat. As soon as I am sure things are headed that way for both of us. I am an optimist as far as marriage is concerned and have faith in 'till death do us part and most days even beyond. Just hoping for one shut at happiness and am pretty determined to make it work.

So if and when I do the asking, I will make sure that I have chosen the right man and will probably put lots of thought, effort and emotion into making that moment beautiful and memorable for both of us.

 

[gregor2001us]

I would love it.

 

[M's girl]

I have no problem asking him if the time and place and such were right. On the other hand... I'm kind of a traditional 'girl' too and would rather be asked. However, if I would be certain I found the right man to spend the rest of my life with and he would not ask me, I would in the end I suppose...

 

[shy slave]

I have had proposals (three I think) and been married twice.

I have never proposed and I can't imagine I would, but I never say never....

I did dream that he and I discussed marriage and he said we would marry in the future. I was so confused as to whether it happened or not, I actually had to ask him if he said that

Besides marrying somone who has been married twice doesn't sound like a good bet to me!

 

[shy slave]

If I wanted to marry her I'd be over the moon. If I didn't, I'd feel all awkward and put-upon.

It is awkward when someone asks and you have to say 'No.' Not fun at all, and I would not want to put anyone in that situation