guy wants me to take charge needs help

[cittykat22]

this guy iv been seein for a lil bit wants me to charge...iv always been submissive...but since im always up to trying something new i need advice cuz i have no idea what to do...but im not goin dominatrix on him...lol...nothin wrong with thats just to much to fast for me maybe sumday...lol

 

[ImOnIt]

Do what gives you a power trip. What amuses, whatever interests you. Horsey rides, breakfast in bed, to groom you in your preferred way. To dress how you like. Watch your choice of movie. 'No, we're doing it my way'.

You can bind the limbs at any stage, and get out of their sight line. Sexually, maybe what you normally do but he's not allowed to come until you feel like it. Or you could go the opposite way and overload his poor senses. You can tease him with his fears, tell him just what he is , or just demonstrate your own confidence.

Taking charge is doing what you want - whether it is intense or mundane, sexy or ordinary.

 

[satindesire]

this guy iv been seein for a lil bit wants me to charge...iv always been submissive...but since im always up to trying something new i need advice cuz i have no idea what to do...but im not goin dominatrix on him...lol...nothin wrong with thats just to much to fast for me maybe sumday...lol

Well, since you have BDSM experience (that's what I'm assuming since you said "I've always been submissive"), just take your experiences with submission, and mimic what the Dominants did to you.

 

[DVS]

Yeah, it doesn't have to always be sexual to be dominating. And he won't ever know if or when you decide to bring in anything sexual, if you keep him on edge. Bind his wrists behind his back and force him to watch a chick flick with you. Wear something sexy and brush up against him from time to time. Denying someone's sexual release is also a form of domination.

Make him do the laundry, fold it and put it away...clean the kitchen, etc. while he's naked, just to give it an edge. You can sit in luxury and watch, correcting him if necessary when he doesn't get something as clean as you like. If you prefer, your correction could also include a little pain. Maybe hold his erect cock in your hand and squeeze it as you talk to him. You'll always have his attention.

Have him draw a bath for you, including bubble bath, candles and nice music. Then have him wash your body in a sensual way.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Or send him out into the yard in his tighty whities with a shovel and rake in hand and watch him get gloriously sweaty and dirty.

Then, bring him into the bathroom for that sensual bathing-- of YOU.