group sex /swinging

[Guest]

I am on overly sexed married male in mid 40's and badly desire the touch of another woman. I live in a very small town in a rural area and to risk an affair would be nuts. BUT....
There must be some way to get involved with some sex clubs or swinging clubs in Northern New England but I don't know where to start. Would like some advice only serious replies please. I am very curious and sincere.

 

[Michael]

This will merely get you started. I have never attended a swingers event, though I would like to. By coincidence, chatted with a woman online only yesterday who hosted a 4-day party for 40 guests at her house in CA over Christmas and is now sore, but very happy.

Just go to your web browser and type "Swingers," and without too much trouble, you will see listings for some good sites that I believe are legit--that is, they really do advertise real clubs and are not just a come-on. Sorry I can't remember the names of the sites, but there is some online swingers magazine that has listings for clubs all over the U.S.

In addition, for those new to it, there is a very good site by some Iowa couple, reflecting on their experiences, pro and con, listing pitfalls to avoid, and so forth.

From my information, unfortunately, you should expect a little harder time being accepted, as a male without a partner. Too many clubs, apparently, have had too many bad experiences with men who showed up alone and didn't have much sensitivity or restraint, or men who "talked" their wives into coming, and it was no fun for anyone, or worse yet, men who hired "escorts" to be their partners. For a long time, we had a club in Memphis that had private parties in a hotel every Saturday night, but the fellow told me, nicely enough, that the nearest club that let in unaccompanied men was in Nashville, 200 miles away. Now, there is a club that will include 4 unaccompanied men in a total mix of 20 to 40 people. They let you attend twice as a guest, and then, both you and they make the decision about a continuing membership.

Be prepared also to be asked to meet with a club representative somewhere for coffee or something and be "looked over" as an individual, before they accept your participation. Apparently, a lot of it is a matter of chemistry.

Again, all this is what I have read, but I think it is reliable. I would imagine that someone is organizing something within 100-150 miles of you, and if you look on the net, you should be able to eventually connect with them. And no doubt, someone else will come along and post more particular info. here, based on their own experience.

Something else I just thought of...in Yahoo! personal ads, I see ads all the time for couples who want a guy to play with them. Some of them no doubt are false, but some may be real. You might check those.

 

[Angel]

Another thing is to check out the Nightlife in the nearest large city to you, Most fairly large cities have some kind of club where you can do this, or at least one where you can meet people who are into it.

One more thing is..your wife. Is there any way at all you could get her involved? She might surprise you. ::grin::

 

[Guest]

I agree with angel, ask your wife. See if she has had any fantasies about the subject. My wife and I have been swinging for 3 months now and are having the time of our lives. It sounds cliche' but it has definately improved our sex life and strengthened our relationship. One bit of advice I wll pass along....if you already have marital problems, this will not help. Both have to be in complete agreement. Set some some ground rules and talk, I REPEAT TALK TO EACH OTHER. It can be the greatest thing you have ever done or the worst. hope this helps

 

[Endlessly]

Swingers' clubs? *sighing, mumbling slightly* Ach, there's one thing they don't have in Montana. No good theatre, and no sex clubs. Oh, well. I'll get to civilization eventually. *smirk*

 

[EveBBW]

I know of several "clubs" for couples and single females who have "Meet and Greet" parties, usually on a monthly basis. (in New England) What internet server are you on? There are a few "clubs" who have chats on AOL, I could direct you there, but ONLY If you and your wife are both interested, they are strictly "no single males/ no cheating" type affairs. You can email me, and I'll direct you there if you'd like.

 

[EveBBW]

I should clarify.. The "clubs" I'm referring to are simply groups of people who hold events for swingers. There ARE several bars/clubs that are labeled "alternative" in the area as well, though I've never been to them.

 

[Fallen Angel]

"I live in a very small town in a rural area and to risk an affair would be nuts."

I doubt that you will find a way to swing that isn't as risky as having an affair. Gossip is the lifeblood of small communities and little happens that someone doesn't eventually notice.

After having been to a couple of the public swinger(?) club/bars I doubt that you will find much there except for a bar full of guys with just a few couples. You can probably pickup one of the swinger publications there or better yet from any good newsstand.

 

[Guest]

EveBBW,
I'd be interested in corresponding do you have an email where we can talk discreetly?
Mc2 here hoping you read this enjoy

 

[Guest]

So when your out meesing around on your wife, could you give me your address and i will keep her company. Don't mess around unless your wife is involved. It will cost you dearly sooner or later. And believe me, you would die from the emotional pain of having your wife cheat on you.