Girl Seaking Help From Experienced People

[His_DirtySecret]

I'm not exactly sure where to post this.. Becasue it's a sexual thing but it's also kind of a relationship and moral thing...
So here goes...
I have been in a sort of friends-with-benefits situation for the past while now. With a good friend of mine whom I do care about and who cares about me. We are also both surrently single aside from each other. He will be leaving soon on a business trip that will last at least a year, possibly too.
Given the circumstanses I cannot go with him. On his return we will most likely start up again, possibly entering in a real relationship. The problem I face is wether to wait for him and not have sex while he's gone, or to date around and have sex with those men. I don't know if I want to have sex with anyone else but him... And I also don't know if it would be fair to effectivly use the other men involved just for sex and fun. Or if I should even tell those men they are bassically just a place holder.
My 'partner' will not be in a position to enter into any kind of relationship sexual or otherwise becasue of his business (don't ask... long story. Family Drama. ) And it is not that he has promised me he wouldn't but that he CAN'T. So is it even fair for me to go around having sex while he is in that position?

And any all help on this is welcome wether from opinion or experience... please PM me.

21 Female

 

[sata85]

My personal view is that, as long as everyone's aware of the situation and fine with just having one-off fun, there's no problem. A year or two is a long time to go without sex, and there's no guarantee he won't go looking while he's off.

 

[Lemmy963]

I haven't been in this situation so no first hand experience but, I know that I wouldn't expect anyone to wait for me unless there was something real there. And we had talked about Us.

Nor would I be offended if they sought comfort while I was away as long as she was adult about it.

 

[chargergirl]

The posters here in Fet. Central are great advice givers, however you could also try posting this in the How To forum here: http://forum.literotica.com/forumdisplay.php?f=6


Good luck!

Chargergirl, Mod of Fet. Central

 

[tonyp]

Hi there

maybe you can just find some erotica and maybe a toy?

actually you know maybe you should not plan either way and live it instead !

 

[twister947]

I don't hear commitment in your post...

 

[The_Volunteer]

I agree with twister. You don't sound like either one of you is committed now, so what would be wrong with having sex if you choose to while he is gone?

 

[TwoShades]

Life is too short. Sex is too important. If you feel the need to discuss it first, discuss it. But don't wait around. Life is ful of so many surprises, so many twists and turns, you should live your life in the present. This is the advice from somone who USED to have a great sex life but doesn't anymore.

 

[pfflyerhot]

If you're considering entering into a relationship with this guy upon his return, then I think you ought to be upfront and forthright with him about this dilemma. Figure it out together... tell him straight up if you don't think you can go w/o sex while he's gone... I'd opt for integrity in your actions. You'll wanna look back and not be ashamed of how you acted, right? I say talk to him about it honestly. And, listen, too. Hopefully, he can do the same.
Even if you're not planning a relationship, be straight with people, you know? It's better for you, in the long run.
One to two years is a long time to go without sex, but, take it from me, one can go longer...dammit.
Signed,
Another Small Town Dweller.