Fuck Buddies

[andy_charles]

For some reason I woke up this morning wanting to talk about fuck buddies. Let's hear your thoughts: good/bad thing? Personal experiences? Say as much or as little as you want.

Andy Charles

 

[dirtycarol]

I've had three over the years, the advantages are; Good sex, as dirty as you want without a commitment, and just about anytime you want.

Disadvantage; They always seem to become possive and have to be broken off.

 

[Tcoyote]

I've had three over the years, the advantages are; Good sex, as dirty as you want without a commitment, and just about anytime you want.

Disadvantage; They always seem to become possive and have to be broken off.

That about sums it up in my expereince too..........->.

 

[Natalya555]

ive onl had one..and it was great! but he always disappeared on me. i would hear from him for a couple weeks straight and then he would be gone for a week. i broke it off also because he was becoming attached and then got mad when i spent time with his friend while he was gone lol

 

[coffeelover5]

I confess that over the years I have had the pleasure of a few fuck buddies, not bragging, perhaps that is my problem after all. I have his wander lust, gypsy type of feeling all of my life and even have tried marriage (twice). Maybe a shrink would help me get through it all but I have found them to be as wacky as anyone when I have tried.

I suppose that I just never much felt at ease with establishing a solid relationship of trust and sharing. Good lord I might just be a mess now aren't I?

 

[jenniboo]

I've had three and only one of them has worked out in a non-complicated way.

 

[sugaredwalls]

Fuck buddies usually turn complicated, sometimes it was just easier to have a one night stand.

One guy, we would call each other up when we were unattached for no strings sex. He ruined it by always wanting me to come with him to his parents for dinner, to do the dog and pony show that he had a girlfriend, so his parents wouldn't rag him about settling down and getting married. The sex wasn't that great!

A long time ago it was fun to be a plaything for an older lesbian couple (I was only 20 something and they were in their early 40's, so not that old). We would get together once in awhile and get high on weed and good wine and then fool around. Nothing bad happened, I just sort of drifted from them and eventually lost touch.

And after my divorce, met a lovely Ugandan woman when I went back to school to get my teaching degree. She was a professor teaching African Studies classes and we would get together a couple of times a month for dinner to "talk" but the evening would inevitably end with us having sex at her small apartment. It was great because she was smart and interested in politics and global issues like I was. We would eat pussy, fuck, cum a bunch of times and then weigh options for the upcoming Dem primaries, cap and trade energy, the economy...any current issue that interested us. It was a good situation, fun and stimulating without it having to be a complicated relationship that went anywhere, until her fiance from Uganda turned up.

 

[Firebrain]

I've had three. They always get complicated.

I married one of them.

 

[CoralJones]

For some reason I woke up this morning wanting to talk about fuck buddies. Let's hear your thoughts: good/bad thing? Personal experiences? Say as much or as little as you want.

Andy Charles

if you find the right person, FWB are awesome. i recently had my mind blown, and am looking forward to another hot night.

 

[iechacha]

The few I've had became complicated. They were great before they hit that point though!

 

[Pinktacokitty]

I prefer the term Boy Toy....If both people go into the relationship eyes wide open and being honest with each other it is so much fun. The luxury of making a call and having someone come over to give you sexually what you crave and need can make life seem to be so much easier. I also agree it usually does not last, always life gets in the way.......

 

[joenorthwest]

Fuck buddies are great as long as you can find someone who has the same attitude to sex as you.Its very easy to start off like that but end up with a prospective s/o.

 

[PeterHenson]

They are great but if it seems perfect chances are it is not, and sooner or later you find out it is not.

 

[TalondeKarrde]

human interactions of the carnal kind can become intricate

the few opportunities I have had to enjoy the friends with benefits

have been some of the most erotic and therefore desirous of More episodes of adventure

I have ever participated in

like all human interactions they have had their ebbs and flows


but Man I value each and every one of them

and desire to re-live a number and expand upon the experience further

as Master Yoda says

do or no do there is no try

and I do like to

 

[monique1971]

I always end up feeling used. I guess I am just not confident enough to handle a NSA sexual relationship.

 

[BaltoBoy]

I've had three. They always get complicated.

I married one of them.

Uh...Fuck Buddies...you're doing it wrong.

Seriously though that's awesome. Someone was good enough with sex to make you want it all the time, and you connected on enough other levels to marry that person?! Badass!

I had a FB in college. It was awesome. It got complicated the opposite way though. We started dating and it didn't work out. So we stopped dating and just kept having sex. It was fantastic!

 

[Firebrain]

Uh...Fuck Buddies...you're doing it wrong.

Seriously though that's awesome. Someone was good enough with sex to make you want it all the time, and you connected on enough other levels to marry that person?! Badass!

I had a FB in college. It was awesome. It got complicated the opposite way though. We started dating and it didn't work out. So we stopped dating and just kept having sex. It was fantastic!

Hahah...when I first met him, I remember thinking "he's quite good looking and sweet and he's got some money...he'd make a good husband." Then I screwed him.

Three months later, we were engaged

 

[deskuser]

Had one once but he became obsessed and although he is physically attractive he became a total idiot. An immature clown.

The total downside of younger men.

 

[BaltoBoy]

Had one once but he became obsessed and although he is physically attractive he became a total idiot. An immature clown.

The total downside of younger men.

You mean we grow out of our immaturity as we get older?!

Fuck! That's disappointing.

 

[BaltoBoy]

Hahah...when I first met him, I remember thinking "he's quite good looking and sweet and he's got some money...he'd make a good husband." Then I screwed him.

Three months later, we were engaged

That's just so beautiful...I feel a tear coming on.

Imagine if you were one of the couples talking about how they met in When Harry Met Sally and told that story. hahaha

 

[inaicedia]

There is no such thing as just friends.. with benefits. Sooner or later, someones going to fall harder or get annoyed. You can only hope it happens to both of you at the same time.

 

[Julie_in_the_north]

I've had a handful. I really, really, enjoyed the sex...but more often than not I'd end up falling at least slightly in love with them.

 

[andy_charles]

I confess that over the years I have had the pleasure of a few fuck buddies, not bragging, perhaps that is my problem after all. I have his wander lust, gypsy type of feeling all of my life and even have tried marriage (twice). Maybe a shrink would help me get through it all but I have found them to be as wacky as anyone when I have tried.

I suppose that I just never much felt at ease with establishing a solid relationship of trust and sharing. Good lord I might just be a mess now aren't I?

Don't worry - you could never be as much of a mess as I am, lol!

A long time ago it was fun to be a plaything for an older lesbian couple (I was only 20 something and they were in their early 40's, so not that old). We would get together once in awhile and get high on weed and good wine and then fool around. Nothing bad happened, I just sort of drifted from them and eventually lost touch.

And after my divorce, met a lovely Ugandan woman when I went back to school to get my teaching degree. She was a professor teaching African Studies classes and we would get together a couple of times a month for dinner to "talk" but the evening would inevitably end with us having sex at her small apartment. It was great because she was smart and interested in politics and global issues like I was. We would eat pussy, fuck, cum a bunch of times and then weigh options for the upcoming Dem primaries, cap and trade energy, the economy...any current issue that interested us. It was a good situation, fun and stimulating without it having to be a complicated relationship that went anywhere, until her fiance from Uganda turned up.

This was awesome! Thanks for sharing - any more experiences to tell us about?

I've had three. They always get complicated.

I married one of them.

He's a very lucky guy!

if you find the right person, FWB are awesome. i recently had my mind blown, and am looking forward to another hot night.

Good for you, CoralJones - if you want to, let us know how it goes next time!

Fuck buddies are great as long as you can find someone who has the same attitude to sex as you.Its very easy to start off like that but end up with a prospective s/o.

That's a good point - but then the people who are looking for fuck buddies should surely already have that attitude?

I always end up feeling used. I guess I am just not confident enough to handle a NSA sexual relationship.

Confidence is paramount in anything sexual, I've found - from just starting a conversation with soemone you're attracted to to taking it all the way. Hope you don't feel too down about it, hun.

I had a FB in college. It was awesome. It got complicated the opposite way though. We started dating and it didn't work out. So we stopped dating and just kept having sex. It was fantastic!

Good for you, BaltoBoy. I think I missed out on some opportunities back at Uni, especially one with my gorgeous housemate who I know loved sex almost as much as she loved weed.

Imagine if you were one of the couples talking about how they met in When Harry Met Sally and told that story. hahaha

Ha ha! I love that film - one of my top ten. The scene you're describing would probably be in the porno version. Hmm - is there a porno version?

There is no such thing as just friends.. with benefits. Sooner or later, someones going to fall harder or get annoyed. You can only hope it happens to both of you at the same time.

That's a very good point. I think you're always taking a risk with anything to do with sex or relationships, and someone will get hurt no matter what. But then should we be put off by that? Life is shit, and people get hurt all the time.

I've had a handful. I really, really, enjoyed the sex...but more often than not I'd end up falling at least slightly in love with them.

I think I'd probably do the same!

Thanks all for your comments - let's keep this dialogue flowing! Any more experiences peeps wnat to share - posisitve or negative?

Andy Charles

 

[lindahotstuff]

Hubby and I have a fuckbuddy, a young 28 y.o. toyboy who joins us in bed about once a week for some great sex. It's nice as you get older not to go looking for new studs all the time. Pete is very well endowed and lasts so much longer than hubby, and after a few minutes and an oral workout from me he is ready to go again. Our favourite position is reverse cowgirl, and hubby can get between my legs and lick Pete's shaft as it slides in and out of my hole.

 

[cherrypies]

We tend to have fuck couples. They come and go, some we are friends with and some we just play with.