Forgotten Anniversaries

[Calamity Jane]

Have you ever forgotten an anniversary or an SO's Bday?

Today is the 7th aniversary of my marriage. My husband totally forgot, even though we were talking about it last night. His birthday is tomorrow, so it's not like we're talking some totally random date he has to remember. When I asked him what he wanted for his birthday dinner, he said "Wow, today's our anniversary, isn't it? Is it 6 or 7 years?"

I'm not sentimental, I don't expect to be showered with gifts or flowers. But why am I on lit on my anniversary this year when 2 years ago I was on my way to a nice dinner wearing a 1 ct diamond set in platinum? What the hell changed? (and no, I don't really expect anyone to answer that)

 

[lavender]

 

[Mischka]

If it's any consolation, pagancowgirl, some people are simply terrible with dates. I've been married for less than two years, and I've already forgotten our anniversary date several times. I had to add it to my Outlook calendar so I wouldn't forget it.

I agree with lavender, though, talk to him about how much it means to you to celebrate these dates. I bet he wasn't trying to be an insensitive clod; any guy that would shower you with gifts on a previous anniversary can't be too far removed from being a great guy.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Why are you on lit? You should be in his face. And he's not the only one who could plan an elaborate affair, or at least a nice dinner, for an anniversary. Sometimes one has to take measures into one's own hands. As soon as he realizes just how important this is to you, he'll make sure he remembers it from now on. He loves you, right?

Now turn off the computer, slip into something sexy, and go seduce your husband. If that doesn't work, do the dominatrix thing and tie him up. That way you can give him a good piece of your mind without interuption.

Don't forget to forgive him when he realizes he's done you wrong.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Why are you on lit? You should be in his face. And he's not the only one who could plan an elaborate affair, or at least a nice dinner, for an anniversary. Sometimes one has to take measures into one's own hands.

~~Did that. Made dinner for the kids early, had them bathed and in bed before he got home. Had a yummy dinner ready to put in the oven. He walked in, opened a beer, sat in his recliner and said "Hey, are you cooking tonight?" Not exactly romantic.~~

As soon as he realizes just how important this is to you, he'll make sure he remembers it from now on. He loves you, right?

~~One would hope.~~

Now turn off the computer, slip into something sexy, and go seduce your husband. If that doesn't work, do the dominatrix thing and tie him up. That way you can give him a good piece of your mind without interuption.

~~Tried that too. He's 'really tired'. Tying him up is an intriguing thought, but I am no longer in a mood to even be in the same room.~~

Don't forget to forgive him when he realizes he's done you wrong.

Thanks for the advice, and normally, it would all work. Something is definitely not quite right lately. I just wonder if it's me. (and that ugly lil monster that is low self-esteem just pisses me off)

 

[nasty]

I forgot my Mom's birthday this year. I usually start school on that day, so it's easy to remember, but, this yr., I took the semester off.

 

[cinnamon1686]

My husband and I have been together 6 years and he never remembers my birthday or our anniversary. This year I put a note in his lunch box and I got a dinner. So it wasn't bad.It wasn't romantic or anything, the whole family went. But at least he put forth an effort.As for the birthday thing , he knows the date of my birthday , he just says he never knows what day it falls on. Go figure. LOL...... I love him though.

 

[sexy-girl]

could be a simply enough reason that he forgot or maybe he didnt realize how importent it was for you ... some people dont see anniverserys as being that importent

 

[KillerMuffin]

No, darlin, it's definately not you. So kick your self esteem in the ass until it perks back up. You've got a lot going for you. In case you didn't realize it, there's a slew of guys here who would be all over you like a tight condom on a cock if you just said the word.

Talk to him? It could be that he feels like something just isn't quite right either.

 

[Guest]

*HUGS*
That sucks. Period.
I'm not like that. I've not known my women friends to be like that. I've known male friends to be like that.
Some folks do not get it. Of course, it hurts.
Tell him how you feel. Make him feel guilty. Then, milk it for all it's worth.

 

[Merelan]

As usual Killer says it all. Talk to him. it isn't just the anniversary is it? You say something isn't right. Then make him talk about it. try very hard not to cry though. That might make you feel better, but ends the conversation. Or write him a letter explainging how you felt. No excuses for him frgetting, especially when you discussed it the night before.
I would have forgotten his birthday to show him what it felt like.

 

[Weird Harold]

Thanks for the advice, and normally, it would all work. Something is definitely not quite right lately. I just wonder if it's me. (and that ugly lil monster that is low self-esteem just pisses me off)

Speaking as one who wouldn't know what day of the week it was if my watch didn't have a date function...

I suspect that your hubby is in a rut where all of the days just run together. another WAG -- he's worried about making ends meet or his job security.

Significant dates and sex are very low on my list when I'm worried about food and shelter or working long hours or on a difficult problem.

I'm almost positive that it isn't you that is at fault, because the situation sounds so much like I get when stressed over work or finances.