For Those Of You Who Still Doubt Me

[siren101]

I have been sorely tempted to post the website of the Mistress i referred to.
But it would be improper.
But i so wish i could.
Then the cynical amongst you could note that She lives where i do, and is a professional Mistress, who charges like a wounded bull (i would not have been able to afford meeting Her, if i had needed a booking...why wasn't i born a Domme! ~rueful smile~)
But then..the cynics among you would just say that i plucked a local website, and posted it ~shrugs~
It's unfortunate that my encounter was not on webcam (as far as i know ~smile~...there WERE cameras on tripods around!)
All i can say is...i hope your cynicism fulfils you.

Is not real life D/s, realisation of our fantasies?
But when i re-tell my real experience, it is met with a tirade of doubt.

I have had 3 years very active real life experience in D/s, and yet, for the very first time with Anyone, i came to Her with NO limits discussed, i "allowed" Her to restrain me on a first meeting (NOT in public) no safewords arranged, and i was unable to pass on Her name.
Am i proud of this? No, i would not advise it..it just felt right in this instance.
(i did however leave the address with someone, but purely as a lip-service to SSC. I had no doubt of Her)
Countless signals re-enforced my trust in Her, before meeting, and most definitely...during...my visit to Her home.
And i am here now unscathed. Not even hurting emotionally.
It was not damaging to me in any way.
Nor have i ever been the slightest damaged in my r/l D/s career.

Posting to this Forum was more damaging to myself.
The Forum was recommended to me...i read many threads, and decided that here seemed like a caring internet place to be.
I was encouraged to post my experience here. Perhaps someone had experienced similar?
I blithely pressed send, and went to my bed......and awoke to ridicule.

i DID label it bizarre.

Well, i thank sincerely again those who contributed constructively, and/or gallantly dived on the grenade ~warm smile~
And thank you, KillerMuffin, for your erudite linguistics analysis. Honestly! ~bright smile, eyes twinkling~

Be Well and Safe
I'm outta here for keeps, very shortly..to concentrate on doing my "fictional" adventures, rather than disclosing them to a mainly-disbelieving audience.
Enjoy your D/s

~inserts gag~

veronika
(aka Forum Football ~wry smile~)

"I now return you to your regular programmes..."

 

[KillerMuffin]

I hope you stay.

I'm sure you've seen those people I like to call "fantasy subs." The ones with tall tales of just the most absolute perfect dom in the whole wide world. Or that "fantasy dom" with the absolutely most perfect view of what a dom should be.

You know, the chatroom whores. We're not a chatroom and we don't want to be, so we tend to get a little spooked when someone shows up with something that seems to be a little too good to be true. Fantasy isn't what this board trades in. Apparently, neither do you.

For what it's worth, I still believe ya. I don't think you're a fantasy sub or that she's a fantasy dom. She just runs counter to a lot of things BDSM is about and these old guard mannerisms just cement the bad impression. I don't like her very much, she sounds like a dangerous person.

 

[Cirrus]

Jeebus, let it go. If you're telling the truth, then you know it. Right now you are she who is protesting far too much. And to start another thread about it? Bad form.

I don't believe you. You may very well be telling the truth but I personlly don't take any stock in it. Take it at face value. Leave. Or stay. Or say you're leaving and then stay. No one can make you do anything you don't want to do. But drop it already.

 

[lovetoread]

I'm lost.

But as a side note,dont let what anyone posts make you go away.

They aint worth it.

 

[Lancecastor]

Ditto.

(edit)

But as a side note,dont let what anyone posts make you go away.

They aint worth it.

A hearty ditto to that.

Nobody has the franchise or monopoly on your opinions, thoughts, hopes, dreams, fears, wishes.

Illigetimi Non Carborundrum!

Lance "Latin? It's All Greek To Me! You Say Greek? Freak!" Castor

 

[cymbidia]

Is not real life D/s, realisation of our fantasies?
But when i re-tell my real experience, it is met with a tirade of doubt.

Stop pouting. Become an active and known part of the life of this forum - or don't. When - if - you do, doubtless there will be times in the future when someone entirely new to this place comes riding in with what seems to you to be a somewhat fantastical tale, and then you'll react with the honesty of your thoughts, too.

I have had 3 years very active real life experience in D/s, and yet, for the very first time with Anyone, i came to Her with NO limits discussed, i "allowed" Her to restrain me on a first meeting (NOT in public) no safewords arranged, and i was unable to pass on Her name.
Am i proud of this? No, i would not advise it..it just felt right in this instance.

I've got 30 years into this kinda headspace, this kinda sexuality, darlin'. Been there, done that on the "not playing safely", maybe even before you were out of grammar school. The length of time one has done this means nothing, sometimes, in the heat of the moment. All we can do is try to help people become more aware of making, good, safe choices by offering the collective base of info we all have share.

Some of us here have lots of real skin-to-skin experience.
some of us are just beginning.
Some of us are still doing an online investigation of what could become skin-to-skin, eventually.
Some of us aren't remotely interested in having anything much to do with BDSM sexuality.

There are all kinds of people here.
No one is any worse or better than anyone else, except if you need info from people who have actually done some of the things we talk about. Then, of course, those who haven't done it, who are theorists and supportive nillas, need to step to the side a bit, hmmm?

Posting to this Forum was more damaging to myself.
The Forum was recommended to me...i read many threads, and decided that here seemed like a caring internet place to be.
I was encouraged to post my experience here. Perhaps someone had experienced similar?
I blithely pressed send, and went to my bed......and awoke to ridicule.

Oh well. Sometimes we get the reaction we're fishing for and sometimes we don't. It's always dicey to assume you know about a place like this before you've spent your time and emotions with us for a while. Don't you think it's very much like any community anywhere in the world, online or not, in that regard?

And thank you, KillerMuffin, for your erudite linguistics analysis. Honestly! ~bright smile, eyes twinkling~

Yes, Muff is a treasure all right. No one would ever know that she's totally nilla, would they?

I'm outta here for keeps, very shortly..to concentrate on doing my "fictional" adventures, rather than disclosing them to a mainly-disbelieving audience.

Are you trying to get someone to say, "Well, okay, good bye, don't let the door slam you in the ass on the way out"?

????
Why the dramatics?
Why not simply join the community and find your niche?

 

[Ebonyfire]

Is not real life D/s, realisation of our fantasies?
But when i re-tell my real experience, it is met with a tirade of doubt.

In my case, No. D/s is not a realization of my fantasies. But that is Me. We do not have to have the same experiences or opinions. We are individuals, and as such we can disagree.

As for being met with a "tirade of doubt" , so what? Opinions are like buttholes, everyone has one. Do not trouble yourself about people not believing you, after all this is a thread on a porn site.

Ebony <who is disagreed with all the time, and still says so what?> To each his/her own.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Ditto.

A hearty ditto to that.

Nobody has the franchise or monopoly on your opinions, thoughts, hopes, dreams, fears, wishes.

Illigetimi Non Carborundrum!

Lance "Latin? It's All Greek To Me! You Say Greek? Freak!" Castor

I could have sworn I said that two days ago. Duh!

Ebony

 

[Lancecastor]

I just think it's tres cool...

...that Siren can pop in once a day from Australia and have not one, but two of the most heated threads on this side of the site without hardly touching the keyboard.

~~~shift~~~

I've been thinking lately about sexual politics...how conventional wisdom says that when it comes right down to it, women make all the decisions surrounding sex...

Which got me to wondering about the nature of the whole D/s thing (in a male D, female s situ)....

And in seeing the SubSiren punching all these buttons here...

Wondering who the D really is.....


Am I making any sense here at all?

~~~~~~~~~shift~~~~~~

This much I know.....Somebody needs to be *spanked* !

Not sure who...really...But Somebody ought to get a good spanking soon!

~~~~~~~~~shift~~~~~~~~

Thoughts? What's it all about, Alpha?

Lance "Totally Confused As To Who's On First" Castor

 

[KillerMuffin]

I didn't see this discussion as even remotely heated. It looked somewhat productive to me, whether or not she stays. Strife can be cleansing and it can make smoother relationships and communities.

But I'm funny that way.

 

[Ebonyfire]

cleansing?

I didn't see this discussion as even remotely heated. It looked somewhat productive to me, whether or not she stays. Strife can be cleansing and it can make smoother relationships and communities.

But I'm funny that way.

When I hear that I think of an enema, lol.

Ebony

 

[KillerMuffin]

You too?

Hey, sometimes this board needs an enema. I think we just got one.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: I just think it's tres cool...

[B

Wondering who the D really is.....


Am I making any sense here at all?

No Lance, you lost Me. I am not a sub, I am a dominant who owns two male subs. So as for being in charge, I am.

Ebony

 

[RisiaSkye]

siren: don't get your knickers in a twist, darlin'. If you were better known around here, and hadn't opened with a rather ...unusual... tale, such things wouldn't even be an issue. Have a little perspective. Disagreements happen, and then they blow over.

So, let me offer you a belated welcome to the Forum. I hope you change your mind and decide to stick around. However it might seem to you now, you are wanted here.

 

[siren101]

Hanging In There ~smile~

On tiptoes, no doubt!

Anyone want to hear what i got up to tonight! ~laughs~

No way, Renee! Only 8 lives left.

 

[Etoile]

Wow, I haven't yet found the thread that prompted this one, but now I'm definitely curious and will have to run off and find it!

And KillerMuffin...I don't know what I think it is. What is it?!

 

[Sandia]

Re: Hanging In There ~smile~

On tiptoes, no doubt!

Anyone want to hear what i got up to tonight! ~laughs~

No way, Renee! Only 8 lives left.

Keep hanging, Siren. I'd love to hear more!

Sandia.

 

[Guest]

 

[Sandia]

Lance:

I've been thinking lately about sexual politics...how conventional wisdom says that when it comes right down to it, women make all the decisions surrounding sex...

Which got me to wondering about the nature of the whole D/s thing (in a male D, female s situ)....

And in seeing the SubSiren punching all these buttons here...

Wondering who the D really is.....


Am I making any sense here at all?

Let me see if I can pick up where that thread leaves off...

<sigh> This is a tough one... You said it was conventional wisdom that women make all the decisions about sex... But can you really doubt it?

As for submissives, or the submissive fantasy... it's tough to be a good dom. Sub's often don't know what they want... or if they do, they may not be willing to tell you. (Sorta takes the fun out of it.) So they can be very hard to please.


Hope I don't get flamed for this...

Sandia
SIN

 

[cymbidia]

Re: Lance:

Hope I don't get flamed for this...

We don't do much flaming here, Sandia, ever. We have disagreements, yes, but they're almost always handled in an adult manner, without the histronics, personal assaults, and temper tantrums that so often characterize flame wars.

Don't worry about flames.
Speak your truth.
If someone disagrees, they will say so - and without flames.

 

[Sandia]

Trouble

Thanks Cymbidia.

Truth is, normally I like to stir up trouble... But I've already posted too much about myself to want to do it here.

Sandia.

Sandia
Experienced

Registered: May 2002
Location: Austin, Texas
Posts: 82

Look at that. Already more than a tenth as many as you!

 

[cymbidia]

Re: Trouble

Look at that. Already more than a tenth as many as you!

This is my 7,313th post.
You have 84.
That's not a tenth in my book, Sandia.
It's about 1.15% via the math we teach in my area.

 

[Sandia]

Re: Re: Trouble

This is my 7,313th post.
You have 84.
That's not a tenth in my book, Sandia.
It's about 1.15% via the math we teach in my area.

Oops. Sorry. <blushing>

Ya' know, I was NEVER good at math...

Sandia.

 

[Sandia]

Re: Re: Trouble

This is my 7,313th post.
You have 84.
That's not a tenth in my book, Sandia.
It's about 1.15% via the math we teach in my area.

But, ya know, proportionally, I'm catching up...



1.52%

 

[cymbidia]

Re: Re: Re: Trouble

But, ya know, proportionally, I'm catching up...
1.52%

~laughing~
That you are!