(For the Ladies) What about that shy guy?

[Black_Bird]

You are at a party, or some other type of social gathering, and you see this really cute looking guy checking you out. He doesn't approach you, or anybody else for that matter, and everytime you catch him looking at you, he turns away.

You know damn well that he's not going to make the first move - would you?

 

[estevie]

Nope, not necessarily. I don't care for shy guys, nothing wrong with them...just not my type. I prefer a man who knows what he wants and is not afraid to let me know it!

 

[MidnightAngel]

Yes, I would, and Have.

 

[MissVictoria]

I don't usually go to social gatherings that have people I don't know. If it was a small group of people, and the shy person was a friend of one of my friends, I would try to make him feel comfortable by talking with him. But I'm rather shy myself.

If it was a large social gathering... well, thats just not my thing. I wouldnt be there. But say I was? I'd be off hiding somwhere where there was the least ammount of people. If he was hiding there too? An ackward joke, then we would probably sit in silence.

 

[juicylips]

Nope, not necessarily. I don't care for shy guys, nothing wrong with them...just not my type. I prefer a man who knows what he wants and is not afraid to let me know it!

Yep.

That is me too, estevie

I would probably scare him out of his pants if I came onto him anways. I tend to be a little too..uh...aggressive

Cassidy

 

[Nigel]

Juicylips? Aggressive? No way...........

;-)

 

[juicylips]

Juicylips? Aggressive? No way...........

;-)

Hey!!!

You making fun of me??

Huh?? Huh???



Cassidy

 

[Wiggles]

I might go over and try to start a conversation with him. I wouldn't flirt or come on to him at all if he didn't show he was interested in me.

I'm a shy girl, especially at parties. So, a little light conversation might make me feel more welcome.

 

[Nigel]

Hey!!!

You making fun of me??

Huh?? Huh???



Cassidy

Cassidy...you know me. I would NEVER do a thing like that.....

Nigel
Sneaking silently away so the ladies can dish about shy men....

 

[KillerMuffin]

I stare at him until he quits looking at my body and looks into my eyes and I know we've made contact, then I smile and crook my finger, come here.

He'll look around, putting his hand on his chest, who me?

I'll smile more predatorily and nod, running the barest tip of my tongue over my upper lip, oh yes, you.

He'll smile shyly, dropping his head in embarrassed pleasure and slowly shuffle forward, are you sure?

I'll cross my arms under my breasts and grin, canting my head off to the side, what are you waiting for?

He'll put his drink down and walk a little more boldly until he's next to me. He'll studiously ignore me for some local landscape feature, wall, painting, carpet, potted plant, bartender, I'm just making sure it's me you're talking to.

I'll intertwine my arm with his and lean my body against his body, hello, I like you.

"Hello, uh, my name is ____," he'll usually say to cover up his nervousness. Since he has to be still and quiet to hear me speak and I have a voice in the lower registers, he usually finds it soothing.

And we're off and he's made the first move. Or so he thinks.

 

[MissVictoria]

You all sound so much more interesting. Lets hope you get invited to the party instead of me

 

[Ree]

I would probably scare him out of his pants if I came onto him anways.
Cassidy

I have been told by a shy guy that I scare the hell out of him because what I talk about doing, I might actually do. I did approach this shy guy because he told me he was afraid of rejection and didn't like to make the first move. I made the awkward first move with some help so maybe it was more of a mutual move. What is surprising is that we have had sexually charged conversations and that didn't seem to embarass him but the idea of making the first move, even though there was no chance of him getting rejected, was out of the question. The more practice you get at making the first move the better you are at it. It all depends on how attracted you are to this person as to how willing you are to make the first move. And I promise if I get another "opportunity" with this shy guy, I will try very hard not to scare him...too badly anyway.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I would go over and say hi. If he didn't come out of his shell after some conversation I'd move on. Some people just need the ice broken first and then they are fine. But I need someone to stimulate me too, so if he didn't wake up I would move on

 

[daughter]

Yep

I have no qualms approaching someone I am interested in. Of course, what happens next depends on what happens when he opens his mouth.

He doesn't have to some great conversationalist. Interested and willing to engage in a little talk is fine.

Of course, I'm also the kind of woman who doesn't play that silly game of purposely putting off returning a call or believing that a guy always has to do the calling. That's silly to me.

Peace,

daughter

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I would probably scare him out of his pants if I came onto him anways.

That's a good thing right - after all, you did want him out of his pants right?

Seriously, us shy guys know what we want, and we are not afraid of letting you know it, once we get to know you, and we know you are interested. In fact, a number of people have told me I come on too strong once I feel comfortable with someone.

But do you really want some guy that you don't know coming up to you and saying "hey baby wanna fuck?"

Besides, until I meet someone and get to know them, I am not sure that they are what I want; despite being attractive I may not like them. Why is it that it is always the guy who needs to be the agressor at initial contact? And why does that make us shy guys not know what we want? Why does it make us afraid to go after what we want? I will give you a clue; it doesn't!

I know very much what I want and what I don't want, and I know that it takes time to get to know other people and find out if they are indeed the person I want a relationship with.

However, I have this little problem; I am a bit shy and nervous at first contact, especially with women, especially in person. I used to not be able to speak very well; I had a speech impediment when I was young and I didn't really talk much at all until I was about 6 years old. A little physical and speech therapy and I got over my speech impediment while still a child, and I speak normally now (although I still have problems with words like Chrysthaninum - see, I can't even spell it! ).

That caused me to be shy and it took me years to get over most of it, but I am still a bit shy. I can carry on a conversation, perhaps I talk too much now (just ask Cath! - I talked her ears off when we had dinner). I am not good at small talk though - the conversations needs some meat.

Give us shy guys a chance - I think you may be pleasantly surprised in that most of us have a tiger waiting inside ready to pounce, unless that is, you are afraid of being devoured whole.

 

[J.B.]

I love shy guys ...

I just think they're so cute. You want to just protect them... even though more than likely they can surprize you once they get over being shy around you... I think that's what I like most getting them out of their shell & really knowing what they're like...

Why is it that it is always the guy who needs to be the agressor at initial contact?

Well, if I see a guy who's just standing there all alone & looking like he's not enjoying himself, then yes I go up & start a conversation with him... I just don't like seeing people not having a good time... But, call me old fashioned, I wouldn't ask him out... He's got to do it...

and I speak normally now (although I still have problems with words like Chrysthaninum - see, I can't even spell it! ).

I just have to say though... I hope you don't take this the wrong way... but I think it's sweet... I'd love to hear you say it...

 

[Cherry]

It's always a treat ...

when that shy guy turns out to be so self-confident and manly, despite his initial shyness.

Rather refreshing ... much more desirable than a man who easily talks and talks about himself ... I like the subtle surprises in life.

Don't equate initial shyness with lack of masculinity ... you'll miss out on the BEST ones.

My big guy keeps telling me, "I don't know how to flirt" ... and yet, there are always these panting women following him everywhere! *smiles*

Just something about a strong, self-confident man that exudes through his shyness to make the first move ... or maybe, that was the plan all along?

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I will walk over to that shy man and introduce myself.
I am a curious woman and I would go over and see what he is all about.
I tend to do this ... that is how I met my ex ... I saw him and just had to have him.

 

[Thumper]

Wish I had a dollar for every bar I have closed down....just quietly sittng there. Not sure if anyone would be interested. I have made eye contact plenty of times...almost never got any signal that she may be interested so I didn't usually bother her. On a few occasions she approached me...after the ice was melted, she wasn't disappointed...

There are ways of breaking the ice without pouncing on him...

But being pounced on is nice too

 

[April]

I like the shy ones. I think there are more surprises there. And they are usually not so shy once you get to know them. And it makes me feel like I am corrupting them. LOL

 

[doctor_insanus]

I stare at him until he quits looking at my body and looks into my eyes and I know we've made contact, then I smile and crook my finger, come here.

He'll look around, putting his hand on his chest, who me?

I'll smile more predatorily and nod, running the barest tip of my tongue over my upper lip, oh yes, you.

He'll smile shyly, dropping his head in embarrassed pleasure and slowly shuffle forward, are you sure?

I'll cross my arms under my breasts and grin, canting my head off to the side, what are you waiting for?

He'll put his drink down and walk a little more boldly until he's next to me. He'll studiously ignore me for some local landscape feature, wall, painting, carpet, potted plant, bartender, I'm just making sure it's me you're talking to.

I'll intertwine my arm with his and lean my body against his body, hello, I like you.

"Hello, uh, my name is ____," he'll usually say to cover up his nervousness. Since he has to be still and quiet to hear me speak and I have a voice in the lower registers, he usually finds it soothing.

And we're off and he's made the first move. Or so he thinks.

My God... that could be me she's talking about...

*gulp*

 

[Guest]

 

[Mellon Collie]

I'm very shy myself so whether not I would go talk to him is very circumstantial. But there have been times when knowing that the other person is more shy than me has given me a little bit more guts than I usually have.

 

[EthiopianPrince]

I'm not shy, but KillerMuffin's post makes me wish I was!

 

[Dragonette]

Try to catch his eye!

I would move closer and smile.

I don't pounce but I try to make it easier!

I won't yell in a crowded place, but if it's quiet, then I'll speak!

I'm not shy, but I am not pushy either.

LOL

Wicked grin