For the first time in my life, I am scared

[BgMma]

yer in my thoughts today, so is your little one.

im not entirely sure, but i remember reading or hearing some where that autistic people are in their own little world because theyt hink soley in pictures and it takes all their mind power to think that way.

honestly, that cant be such a terrible thing to live with , sometimes lost in your own little world is kind of nice.

i hope he does well, and try to relax dear, no matter what things could always be worse. ill light a candle for him today.

Thank you. i really do wonder what his mind is like. I wish there was a way for me to go there and talk to him, but as long as I am wishing I'd like a pony, too.

 

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[PepperminTrish]

Thank you. i really do wonder what his mind is like. I wish there was a way for me to go there and talk to him, but as long as I am wishing I'd like a pony, too.

You have no idea how many times over the years I've wanted desperatley to visit my son's 'world'. I take so much comfort from the fact that he seems so happy just about all of the time. His world must be a beautiful place.

You CAN handle this, regardless of the diagnosis. Trust me on this. Over the years, I've said "I can't handle it anymore" but I do handle it because I love my son.

 

[BgMma]

That is what made me do this. His grandmother kept telling me that he was ADD and that he needed ritalin. I kept telling her that he didn't have ADD and that he was too young for medication. She didnn't believe me until I took him to see the doctor. I hate when people do that. Like I don't know my own child. Shit.

He does seem happy quite a lot of the time. I think that is my saving grace.

 

[PepperminTrish]

That is what made me do this. His grandmother kept telling me that he was ADD and that he needed ritalin. I kept telling her that he didn't have ADD and that he was too young for medication. She didnn't believe me until I took him to see the doctor. I hate when people do that. Like I don't know my own child. Shit.

He does seem happy quite a lot of the time. I think that is my saving grace.

NO ONE will ever know your child as well as you do.
Good for you on following your instincts.
If he is autistic, you'll get yourself armed with information and you'll push on and do what needs doing.

I'm glad that the food allergy was mentioned and I forgot to make reference to that. Make sure all aread are covered and please keep me posted, OK?

 

[BgMma]

I will post the results as soon as I have them. If I weren't already grey, I probably would be now. I worry about Jesse constantly because I know him so well.

 

[Hairgrip]

just wanted to say all the best for the meeting with the neurologist and to point out that love and care and patience are the best things for all kids, not just those who may have a specific difficulty. autisic people (according to all the nice stories in the media) often have skills that others don't, art, maths and so on.
everyone is valuable in themselves, without comparison with others.

with love and positive thought from H and F in the UKxxxx

PS the pesimitic, let me fuck your life up, view of certain respondents is not only insensitive but also generally inaccurate.

 

[BgMma]

just wanted to say all the best for the meeting with the neurologist and to point out that love and care and patience are the best things for all kids, not just those who may have a specific difficulty. autisic people (according to all the nice stories in the media) often have skills that others don't, art, maths and so on.
everyone is valuable in themselves, without comparison with others.

with love and positive thought from H and F in the UKxxxx

PS the pesimitic, let me fuck your life up, view of certain respondents is not only insensitive but also generally inaccurate.

Thank you very much. He seems to be talented in maths. He has been counting to ten for oover a year now. From what I have been told, that is very good. He does count back also, but from seven instead of ten. it's really cute to hear.

Other people don't need to be mentioned, but ignorance is bliss, I suppose.

Thank you, again.

 

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[SilverVeil]

My thoughts are with you.

I can offer no advice to you.

Only an ear to listen, and a heart to care.


We don't know each other, but I am only a PM away.

 

[vffan]

Sweetie, you and your little one are in my thoughts. *hugs* to you both.

J

 

[BgMma]

Thanks everybody. I am certain that I am going to have to do a lot of talking. I am sweating bullets right now at the idea of him having to go thorugh this, but at least I can talk to you guys. I don't have much of a support system at home.

 

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[BgMma]

Oh shut up you whiny bitch

*yawn*

 

[Rubyfruit]

BgMma,

You are not alone.

PM me.

 

[BgMma]

BgMma,

You are not alone.

PM me.

I will. Inbetween chasing sdown the boy and Dave interrupting me, I think I will have to save time for that later tonight. *sigh*
This is a very trying week so far.

 

[Guest]

i am

totally speechless, this sounds so terrible, wish i could help you in some small way i can only imagine how this wears on your mind, i will keep you in my thoughts, and wish the best for everyone!!!

 

[BgMma]

Re: i am

totally speechless, this sounds so terrible, wish i could help you in some small way i can only imagine how this wears on your mind, i will keep you in my thoughts, and wish the best for everyone!!!

It's not really terrible, but I understand where you are coming from!

It's tough, but it's just the idea of the changes that have to be made. Thank you for being so kind.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I don't have anything to say that doesn't sound like a Hallmark card. Good luck, darlin.

Make sure everything is tested for though. Autism is hard to diagnose, and there are so many other things that could cause the limited behaviors you mentioned.

I rarely spoke until I started first grade. From the age of 3, all I ever wanted to do was sit quietly in a corner and read a book. My father was convinced I was 'handicapped' (not exactly the phrasing he used). My mom just sat back and gave me the time I needed to become comfortable around other humans. Sometimes I still struggle with that.

*rereading* Ok, blah blah blah. Just make sure you get all the information available, ok?

 

[marksgirl]

BgMma99

I know a wonderful book that might help you a little it's called

"A Mind at a Time" by Mel Levine, M.D.

Hugs and good wishes

 

[BgMma]

I don't have anything to say that doesn't sound like a Hallmark card. Good luck, darlin.

Make sure everything is tested for though. Autism is hard to diagnose, and there are so many other things that could cause the limited behaviors you mentioned.

I rarely spoke until I started first grade. From the age of 3, all I ever wanted to do was sit quietly in a corner and read a book. My father was convinced I was 'handicapped' (not exactly the phrasing he used). My mom just sat back and gave me the time I needed to become comfortable around other humans. Sometimes I still struggle with that.

*rereading* Ok, blah blah blah. Just make sure you get all the information available, ok?

You got it! I have been thinking about all this for a long time and it's hard to accept that he could be ill. But I know that I have to go on and do what is best for him. At least these tests will tell us if he has any neurologial issues that could be holding him back.

 

[BgMma]

BgMma99

I know a wonderful book that might help you a little is called

"A Mind at a Time" by Mel Levine, M.D.

Hugs and good wishes

While I am out at his appoinment, I will pick it up. At least I may get a bit of grounding while I am there! Thank you.

 

[Guest]

huggggggs bgmma

 

[BgMma]

Re: huggggggs bgmma

Hi again, hon,
It doesn't like your son's completely withdrawn, and that should give you lots of hope.
A good friend's son has Asperger's. He had a lot of trouble with language a few years ago, but he's actually quite a brilliant kid, now 7 years old. He finds the schoolwork for his grade level too easy. Where he has trouble is with some social appropriateness--he doesn't always understand what other people feel or the correct behavior with his friends. But he's learning it through the patient intervention of his parents and teachers.
My friend, who's in his late 50's was at the psychologist's office the other day with his son, and she told him that he (dad)also exhibited the signs of Asperger's (there seems to be a heriditary link). I'll tell you sweetie, this guy has had a career I could only dream of having in spite of it. So please don't dispair. Take a deep breath, calm down and wait for the doctors to help you.

It'll be all right.

Lioness

You know, that does sound a lot like Jesse. Maybe things are looking a little more up. A different set of rules now, but still the same idea.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

*yawn*

You know, if you ignore him, he will go away - or at least it will seem that way.

BTW, I didn't really talk that much until I was 6 or so. For one thing I had a slight speech impediment, and for another I was quite shy, so talking is not everything, but it is best to have him checked out.

Don't be too nervous or worried about it - he may pick up on that and it could worry him too.