floofy question about attraction

[lickerish]

Here's a floofy question for you. Have you ever pictured in your minds eye, the kind of man/woman you want to meet and spend forever (or a good portion of it) with? Can you imagine the way they look (what physical features you're really attracted to)? What style clothes they wear? What they do for a living? What kind of hobbies they have? What music they like? blah blah blah

Single litsters... what makes you look twice at a person when you first see someone you're attracted to? What qualities do you hope they have?

Married litsters.. did you find that 'someone' you had envisioned? Or did your partner ever turn into that 'someone'?

All I can say is I've met 1 that came awful damn close... all the others, not so much.

 

[Nora]

Yes, I have a picture of that person in my head, although I know it's an unrealistic goal (and if I met him he'd prolly turn out to be a jackass...perfection can do that to a person! lol).

No, I didn't marry someone who embodied all of those qualities. No, he hasn't become that person, but I didn't expect him to.

 

[freakygirl]

I plead the fifth

 

[I'mVan]

Yes. All except the face and the personality. The two most important aspects.

 

[Ginny]

nice tits there, lickerish.....yum.....i'm not too swift and probably shouldn't ask.....but what is that in your cleavage?

 

[Silverlily]

Yes, I've always been turned on by tall (6'2" or better) men in jeans and work boots who are good with theirs hands. Not only does the current Mr. Silverlily meet that description, so did the ex.

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[I'mVan]

nice tits there, lickerish.....yum.....i'm not too swift and probably shouldn't ask.....but what is that in your cleavage?

cancer stick

 

[Ginny]

cancer stick

ooooohhh....duhhh.....i see it now....thanks van....well that sure is handy...

 

[freakygirl]

nice tits there, lickerish.....yum.....i'm not too swift and probably shouldn't ask.....but what is that in your cleavage?

It's a cigarette.. she's trying to get me to smoke again.

I'm almost tempted

 

[sufisaint]

I do have a mental picture in my head of how she would look, what she do and how she would be...but thats not reality, so I will be happy with who ever I meet...if I ever meet anyone who moves me tolove....

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Yes, I have imagined what my " ideal man " would look like , the kind of personality I would like for him to have , what sort of work he would do and all those others little things.

But, I have found out that , that sort of " ideal man " does not really exsist.. or maybe its better that he does not exsist because then I would have overlooked all the men that did come into my life.
I tease my man a lot about this sort of thing , I tell him that when he came into my life , he broke all my requirements I had in my imaginary list. He is the total opposite of what I would have imagined.. but that is good because we get along so well and we fit together like a puzzle, that is why I love him so very much.

Single litsters... what makes you look twice at a person when you first see someone you're attracted to? What qualities do you hope they have?

I think that one thing that makes me notice a man is his personality and the way he interacts with me. And, also I like when he is appealing in my eyes.

 

[Guest]

Q

I envisioned someone almost completely opposite of myself. I always thought I would end up with a brown haired brown eyed guy...who dressed kinda prepish. You know..the cover of GQ type.

But somehow I have always ended up with the ones who probably should be on Tattoo magazine or Rolling Stone...and no thats not bad... but it certainly shows how you can think one thing and feel another.

What makes me look twice at someone? Attitude.

 

[Mackdaddy_74]

The first thing I'm attracted to is her eyes, then attitude.

I have met the woman I envisioned to the "T". Alas it wasn't meant to be. Funny how that thing called fate works.

Edit for me being a lowsy typer.

 

[I'mVan]

I have met the woman I envisioned to the "T". Alas it wasn't meant to be. Funny that think called fate works.

been there

 

[horny_giraffe]

Single litsters... what makes you look twice at a person when you first see someone you're attracted to? What qualities do you hope they have?

Look twice? I notice a woman who is a peacebringer--who tries to make other people comfortable.

I have a vision of a woman of graciousness and tact, socially skilled but yet independent; one that warms my heart and makes me feel kind and loving. She speaks softly with a rich alto voice. She can diffuse tension without jokes or weeping--with subtlety.
Her manners are excellent and she carries her body gracefully. She is confident in herself and has no need to boast regarding her intelligence or achievements. She inspires me with her achievements (as I discover them) but she does not belittle me for lacking them.

I have never met anyone like that. I don't believe that a person like that exists. I have met people who seemed like that, but their achievements usually mask deep-seated needs for attention and often fears of abandonment---things that come to light as one begins to know them and understand them.

If I were to meet someone so wonderful as to lack any fault, I'm certain they would want someone without the insecurities that I carry. To paraphrase Mark Twain--I'm not sure I would want to be in a relationship with the sort of woman that would find my problems acceptable.

So there's two ways out, as I see it. Self-improvement or lowering my standards.

 

[Reverie]

Of course I have a clear idea of my "dream" man, but that's all he'll ever be. I don't think dream men really exist. The likelyhood of my stumbling across my Mr. Perfect isn't that likely. I have rather eccentric tastes

However, I'm sure Mr. Almost Perfect exists.

A few "requirements" for my ideal man:

Smart, funny, talkative,sexy, charming, romantic, caring, a non smoker/non drinker, likes kids, is very supportive, has a great smile, tall and attractive,creative or artistic, likes things I like, enjoys quiet times at home, makes me feel special, is good with his hands

(Edited to add; May 22 2003 I THINK I FOUND HIM )

 

[The Heretic]

It's a cigarette.. she's trying to get me to smoke again.

I'm almost tempted

If I got to remove it from her bra with my lips, I would be tempted too.

 

[glamorilla]

stance,shoulders,face,bi~ceps,fore arms,pecs,thighs,legs and a turn around to see that nice ass please.

 

[Weevil]

Yeah, the wife is pretty much what I saw.

Smaller tits though.

 

[glamorilla]

i must say i do prefer fluff to floof tho.

 

[lickerish]

Yuppers Ginny, it's a smoke.. I was trying to tempt Freaky. I'll find out if it worked this weekend

Aphrodisiac, I love your current av.

Heretic


I'd like to say that I definitely have my 'Dream Man', but I don't believe there is a 'Mr. Perfect'. I wouldn't want him anyways... the whole too good to be true factor, ya know?

The guy I envision:

Tall, like 5'8"- 5'10". Perfect hugging height, I fit *just right* Fit build, but doesn't have to be muscle-y, I don't mind a little gut. I just don't want a guy skinnier than me. Dark hair, sexy eyes and smile. Strong hands that aren't afraid of a little hard labor. Likes to dress casual, jeans and tshirt.. but knows how to dress up for a night out. I like the rugged bad boy look, a lot. Combine that with the snowboarder look.. and I could melt. Has outdoor hobbies that he could do with the guys, but wouldn't mind me tagging along.. like snowboarding, rock climbing, 4-wheeling.. whatever. Likes a variety of music, can listen to rock alternative one day and turn around and listento country music without cringing. Have full lips, can kiss. Mmm.. yum. Knows how to fix stuff.. cars included.. and doesn't mind teaching me. Can put up with me during the cursed time of the month.. and can take me serious when I'm being moody, without really taking me serious. (Ya gotta just nod your head and trust me on this one.) Likes to go out and just *do* stuff, but also doesn't mind being at home and reading a book, or watching tv, or playing on lit. Oh yeah, has to like fish, and onions.


*sigh* I guess I can stop now.... Can ya tell I daydream a lot? I can kick myself because a couple of years ago I had a guy like that, but I let him go because he was too young (19) to be tied down. He left, not to willingly, but it was for the best. :\

 

[freakygirl]

The guy I envision:

Tall, like 5'8"- 5'10". Perfect hugging height, I fit *just right* Fit build, but doesn't have to be muscle-y, I don't mind a little gut. I just don't want a guy skinnier than me. Dark hair, sexy eyes and smile. Strong hands that aren't afraid of a little hard labor. Likes to dress casual, jeans and tshirt.. but knows how to dress up for a night out. I like the rugged bad boy look, a lot. Combine that with the snowboarder look.. and I could melt. Has outdoor hobbies that he could do with the guys, but wouldn't mind me tagging along.. like snowboarding, rock climbing, 4-wheeling.. whatever. Likes a variety of music, can listen to rock alternative one day and turn around and listento country music without cringing. Have full lips, can kiss. Mmm.. yum. Knows how to fix stuff.. cars included.. and doesn't mind teaching me. Can put up with me during the cursed time of the month.. and can take me serious when I'm being moody, without really taking me serious. (Ya gotta just nod your head and trust me on this one.) Likes to go out and just *do* stuff, but also doesn't mind being at home and reading a book, or watching tv, or playing on lit. Oh yeah, has to like fish, and onions.

Shit.. You just described Mr Freaky.. kinda...except for the "Dark hair, sexy eyes and smile" part. LOL

 

[freakygirl]

If I got to remove it from her bra with my lips, I would be tempted too.

Tell ya what.. come over Saturday night... You can remove the cigarette.. I'll remove the bra.

I get the left tit.. you get the right one.

Forget about the cigarette.

 

[lickerish]

well he *is* my husband.