Fit To Be Tied, Hopefully Soon! Help, Please. :o)
- Thread starter Arden
- Start date
WriterDom
Good to the last drop
- Joined
- Jun 25, 2000
- Posts
- 20,077
It sounds like he'd be open to new ideas by the way you describe him. Have you thought of writing your ideal fantasy into a story form and either sending to him by snail mail or email? That way you wouldn't face the embarrassment of telling him, and he'd be clear on what turns you on.
On being shy
I too was extremely shy to share me feelings and desires with my SO others in the past. Only until I found someone who was truly willing to please me did I begin to get over that feeling. I thought I would be mocked for the "strange" things I wanted which is exactly what you describe. It seemed that there was nothing more humiliating then to be asked what I wanted and then not have it done.
Your man sounds like he may be opened to it, but is also to shy to persue it. I agree with much of what Writerdom says. Share and let things develop.
Just a note, I am also from Michigan, Western Central. It is nice to see other Michiganders in this forum.
I too was extremely shy to share me feelings and desires with my SO others in the past. Only until I found someone who was truly willing to please me did I begin to get over that feeling. I thought I would be mocked for the "strange" things I wanted which is exactly what you describe. It seemed that there was nothing more humiliating then to be asked what I wanted and then not have it done.
Your man sounds like he may be opened to it, but is also to shy to persue it. I agree with much of what Writerdom says. Share and let things develop.
Just a note, I am also from Michigan, Western Central. It is nice to see other Michiganders in this forum.
You sound like you want to walk exactly the path I just have, and still am, getting aquainted with.
I had the same thing happen. I was, and still am severely emotionally damaged after my last relationship prior to this one. Nearly 3 years passed before I even thought of dating until I met my current partner. With us, it just kind of "clicked".
I found out that he had been in a D/s relationship prior to me, but I never would have thought it. Your guy probably hasn't, but don't be afraid to bring it up. Blindfold play sounds like a great place to start. My guess is he'll react favorably to it, either as the giver or the receiver. Any guy worth his salt, and it sounds like yours is, will try just about anything once to please his lady. If he tries it once and likes it, which he probably will, gradually go further.
If he doesn't enjoy being the recipient of such play, suggest him being the provider. Either way, just let him know there's something you want to try, and feel comfortable enough with him to do it. He'll probably be honored and touched that you've shared this with him.
Best of luck!!
I had the same thing happen. I was, and still am severely emotionally damaged after my last relationship prior to this one. Nearly 3 years passed before I even thought of dating until I met my current partner. With us, it just kind of "clicked".
I found out that he had been in a D/s relationship prior to me, but I never would have thought it. Your guy probably hasn't, but don't be afraid to bring it up. Blindfold play sounds like a great place to start. My guess is he'll react favorably to it, either as the giver or the receiver. Any guy worth his salt, and it sounds like yours is, will try just about anything once to please his lady. If he tries it once and likes it, which he probably will, gradually go further.
If he doesn't enjoy being the recipient of such play, suggest him being the provider. Either way, just let him know there's something you want to try, and feel comfortable enough with him to do it. He'll probably be honored and touched that you've shared this with him.
Best of luck!!
CarolineOh
Newbie Phase Two
- Joined
- Feb 12, 2002
- Posts
- 4,762
Arden, there are two difference between me and you, and they are one year in time and a different side of the state.
Your blindfold plan ought to work, absolutely, and once that door to experimentation is open, it will be so much easier for the two of you to introduce other new elements into your lovelife.
Good luck to you, have fun!
Your blindfold plan ought to work, absolutely, and once that door to experimentation is open, it will be so much easier for the two of you to introduce other new elements into your lovelife.
Good luck to you, have fun!
Arden
Un amor, Una verdad
- Joined
- Jul 10, 2002
- Posts
- 26,574
More Thanks
Cirrus and CarolineOh,
I can hardly express my thanks to both of you, and everyone else that has taken the time to reply to a newbie post. It amazes me that there are such sincere and kind people here that offer help and share their ideas.
Cirrus and CarolineOh,
I can hardly express my thanks to both of you, and everyone else that has taken the time to reply to a newbie post. It amazes me that there are such sincere and kind people here that offer help and share their ideas.
Last edited:
