First Time

[Red Vixen]

Good Evening,

I am a new slave. In fact I had my very first training session with my Master just this evening. It was incredible. In many ways it was all I had hoped, and in some ways it was not. Or perhaps the dynamic is just so different than 'regular' relationships. He is by far the most demanding man sexually that I have ever been with.

I don't want to bore everyone with all the details, but I feel like I have lots of questions and who better to ask than the folks here. I would really appreciate advice from both subs and doms on how to proceed and what to expect. I guess I need a few mentors.

My own personallity is outgoing and agressive and I am always in charge in all other areas of my life which is why this appeals to me so much I suppose. It has been a challenge to 'let' myself be dominated even verbally by him and tonight of course physically as well. I feel so different from the way I usually feel after many hours of sex. ( My well spanked ass aside!)I feel like I have so much to learn even though I am certainly no stranger to sex.

Any advice would be very welcomed

Vixen

 

[ammre]

I'm just basically going to ditto your post...
While i've been around this bord for a while and i've posted about my meager flirtations with BDSM.. i think i may finally be getting my real chance with it and after only one encounter, i've already started seeing some of the topics talked about here in a much more vivid color.

 

[Red Vixen]

Yeah- I know what you mean. I have been reading the Library with interest.

Here is a question I have:

Is it a Masters 'job' so to speak to train and mentor his chosen slave, developing her (or him) into a slave that can please him in exactly the way he wants- or do Masters expect new slaves to be at a cetain level to start?

Vixen

 

[s'lara]

Welcome to the board Vixen.

Our Library is full of BDSM related topics which address many areas of the lifestyle.

Here are few subjects from the Library which may be helpful.



Contracts

Checklists

Exploration

BDSM Questions and Answers

Health

Introspection

Limits

BDSM Links for Info

Literature

Relationships

Safewords and Safecalls

Subdrop

Submission

Subspace

Terminology

i know it seems like quite a bit to begin with, but these topics cover some basics as well as other areas of BDSM which you may encounter as your relationship with your Dominant progresses.

Finally, please do not be afraid to turn to your Dominant with questions you may have regarding the direction of the relationship. While we (board members) can provide information, we cannot tell you what to expect from your Dominant as we don't know you or Him. If you have a specific question regarding your practices or feel you don't understand something fully, feel free to search our Library for a related topic or start a new thread requesting information. Most here are more than willing to help.

Good luck to you Vixen. i hope your exploration with your Dominant is an enjoyable and safe journey.

lara

 

[sunfox]

Yeah- I know what you mean. I have been reading the Library with interest.

Here is a question I have:

Is it a Masters 'job' so to speak to train and mentor his chosen slave, developing her (or him) into a slave that can please him in exactly the way he wants- or do Masters expect new slaves to be at a cetain level to start?

Vixen

While I would imagine some Masters enjoy teaching, I'm sure equally, some prefer a more experienced submissive.

At the same time, sometimes an experienced submissive can be something of a teacher for an inexperienced Dominant. (As is the case for myself and my partner, though I'd hardly term myself experienced... I just was more in touch with who I was and what I wanted than he was.)

In a manner of speaking, with each new D/s relationship, as with a vanilla relationship... both sides are learning the quirks of their new partner at the beginning. Even an experienced Dom/me or submissive has to learn the ins and outs of the new person they are with.

Good luck in your new relationship. Sounds like you had a very pleasurable first time together.

 

[Red Vixen]

Another question

Thanks to all of you for the wise words and advice.

I have started on all the recommended links.

Vixen