First time swingers club advice

Thank you all for the comments.

As promised - I hounded my husband into writing it from his perspective. As he doesn’t have a Lit account I’m posting it.

I’m not much of a writer so this isn’t my comfort zone.

Ive obviously read Laura’s post on our night and I think it captures things really well.

We were both very very nervous, I’m not ashamed to say that. There were moments of pure insecurity as we arrived. Laura, as most of you have seen is beautiful inside and out so I had no concerns that she would be found attractive . But in the other hand, a middle aged man isn’t exactly hot property. But I was relieved to see the crowd was made up of very similar couples, beautiful women, and us men. Ha ha . Sure there were a few very attractive, gym obsessed men as well but the majority were healthy decent looking men. So that made me feel a bit more relaxed immediately.

The atmosphere was amazing. Everyone was friendly and the idea that many would be naked later was very much hanging in the air.

The couple we eventually played with were simply amazing, and we were so lucky to have met them. Very easy to talk to, they kept the conversation going initially when perhaps our own shyness crept in and totally respectful of our limits, which Laura was very clear about from the beginning. I think we may have scared off another couple earlier by being too hard on those points but that’s the reality we set for ourselves. I guess a lot of couples may not want the hassle of playing with newbies that may or may not run screaming from a playroom when confronted with a strangers penis.

The big play area was really intense. Much more than I thought it would be. Almost too much going on to focus. But we took our time and Laura’s constant hand grasps, something she does on a day to day basis to draw my attention to something or someone, was on overdrive. And that how she communicated to me when Steve started to touch her as we watched. Know the obvious question that I’d be asked is - how did I feel seeing his hand on her butt. Honestly, super excited, a huge adrenaline rush, but my attention was also on the room and Paolo . And yes, I Started to touch her after that point as well. She had on a black body so I was touching her over that.

In the private room again Laura and Steve took the initiative. And seeing them make out made a hard on I had even harder. (That had been another concern of mine, so much so I had stashed a viagra in my trousers but I never needed it). And when I turned back to Paolo she had already taken the top down on her body. Kissing is a big thing as Laura said. We’d heard some swinging couples don’t kiss, but I can’t imagine being in that environment and not. And she was a great kisser, and her nipples were so long and hard.

And Laura comments on how hard it was to stop at our limits, and I can say it was one of the hardest things of the whole night. You have a willing body, wanting your touch and to stop felt wrong. But when Laura felt she needed to stop I did to (and I really didn’t want to if I’m honest)

Watching them have sex and making Laura cum as we watched was hot and I know that Laura has also posted about us having same room sex with another couple a few years ago, so when we were on our own and being observed that didn’t phase me.

So would I want to do it again. Absolutely. But we’re going to take our time before deciding anything. One thing I’ve always been clear about in this journey is that anything we do should be an addition to our sex life, and not the focus.


Lit is Laura’s domain so I’ll leave it there. If anyone does have any questions I’ll happily answer through her. But as you all know, shes the fun one.
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Well done LG for asking your hubby to take the time to write out his thoughts and feelings on your big night out! And well done to hubby for giving a great response. It truly sounds like you guys have a great relationship (and very enviable!) and your experiences are really inspiring.
 
Well done LG for asking your hubby to take the time to write out his thoughts and feelings on your big night out! And well done to hubby for giving a great response. It truly sounds like you guys have a great relationship (and very enviable!) and your experiences are really inspiring.
Agreed!
 
Ok- I have no idea where to start.

We had a great night. Everyone we met was super welcoming and curious, especially when we told them it was our first visit.

We had a lot of nerves in the immediate lead up to going but we managed to keep it together.

I wore new red lingerie and a black dress, nothing too over the top but both got a lot of complements during the night.

You enter into the social area and it was busy but not overly packed. We got a drink, one of only two alcoholic ones that night. That helped calm a few nerves. There were lots of people chatting, mingling and it wasn’t long before we started talking to a few couples. Nothing explicit, a lot about how often we’ve been (never) have we come far, how long in the lifestyle etc. everyone was nice but I didn’t feel immediately connected to any couple. And a lot of people seemed to be taking their time. There was a mezzanine looking down to this area and upstairs led to the main play area. Downstairs was more geared towards bdsm which we did explore later in the night

I needed the bathroom after about 45 mins and as I went into the ladies another lady was coming out. She was slightly older than me, shoulder length darl hair. She complemented me on my dress and shoes. When I can back out my husband was still sitting in his own but as soon as I sat back down the lady from te bathroom and her partner came over and asked if they could join us. They introduced themselves (for this purpose we’ll call the Paola and Steve) and we started to chat. She was American/Venezuelan and he was British and we had a few work things in coming that helped the conversation. We spoke about the club, how long they’d been in the lifestyle and our firts impressions and hopes for the night, including our limits for the evening. After about 15 minutes another coupes came over and they knew Steve and Paola, we chatted again all for about 10 mins before they left to go to the play rooms. Steve said they’d be up soon. It was shortly after that that Paolo asked if we wanted them to show us aroudn upstairs with no pressure, just a friendly hand to hold.

We felt we were comfortable and relaxed so we’re happy to.

We had to go upstairs and to the locker room to change as the play areas tended to be more risqué outfits, they stripped down straight away with lout any hesitation but it took a little courage for me to take the dress off and just be in my underwear. Again, both complimented me on my outfit, Steve especially couldn’t seem to get enough and I was flattered and embarrassed at the same time.

The play areas had lots of private sode rooms. Some with doors open and couples and more inside, others with doors closed which we knew meant they wanted privacy.

But it was the big play area that had the most action. So many people on various stages of nakedness and sexual activity. It was quite overwhelming with the sites, the sounds and even the smell. Very very arousing. My husband and I were holding hands as Paola led us around the room until we settled in one corner taking in some of the action.

There was a lot going on.!!!

Steve then asked if he could put his arm around me. I was comfortable with that, squeezed my had to indicate to my husband and he looked and smiled as agreed. Steve’s hand was on my waist but also stroked up and down my body, including my bum. He was chatting as we watched, saying that when I’m ready I could probably have anyone I wanted, and was there things I was seeing I liked. His hand was definitely exploring and I really liked the feeling holding my husbands hand as another man felt my body. My husband was chatting to Paola as we continued to watch so much.

Paola than lent over to ask us both if we’d be open to joining them to find a more private room. Again, she was very clear that they respected or boundaries but thought we might like a more private space to explore them. My husband checked in with me and o could tell he was up for it. And I was really liking Steve’s company so we agreed.

It took a few minutes to find an empty room. And as we went in Steve asked if we were ok to keep the door open. I wasn’t totally sure but I also knew we weren’t going to be doing too much so I agreed .

We sat at chatted as we relaxed on a big bed area, a few couples looked in but passed on by when they saw nothing was happening. Steve then asked if he could kiss me. Now kissing is a big thing for me, a huge turn on. And we had said kissing, making out, touching was our limits for the night. No penetration or oral of any kind.

So we shifted spots and Steve came over next to me and we slowly started to make out. I could see my husband and Paola watching and then they started. He was a great kisser. Really good. His hands explored but he checked in on each different part of my body.then he asked if i wanted to take my bra off. Paolo was already topless , her boobs were smaller than mine but long nipples.


I took it off and then he started to play with my boobs as we continued to make out. I felt his cock over his underwear and he stroked me over mine. I was very very very turned on.


I didn’t take my underwear off with him but his fingers did touch me , and I stroked his cock for a bit without taking his off.

I felt I wanted to stop there and he totally accepted that and my husband came back to me( with a raging hard on).

They then asked if we wanted to watch them fuck. And I really wanted to, so they started to have sex whilst we watched and my husband fingered me. A few minutes later the other couple that knew them walked past and saw them having sex and asked if they could join us.

Paola said we weren’t playing but they could if we didn’t mind. So they joined and all four of them started to have sex.

We actually left them to it about 10 minutes later, there were too many legs. Ha ha.

I grabbed my bra and we find a smaller room empty. We had sex with the door open, so people walking past could see. We had a few people hover for a while, but I was so into the sex I didn’t really notice .

After we finished we went back downstairs and got a drink. And recovered. The social area was really busy then. We took a short walk through the bdsm area, just to see it. And then felt we’d down enough for the night. We had no idea that by this time it was already 1am.

So we got dressed and got a taxi home.

A very very successful night. I hope this reads well, I’m missing out a lot of detail but o wanted to give a general review of the night.

Let me know to you have any questions s
That was incredibly hot, stroking as I read it. I look forward to hearing about you and your hubby’s journey!
 
So my husband and I have made the, quite frankly, terrifying (and thrilling) decision to go to our first swingers club.

We’ve discussed this for years, and have made strong boundaries and rules for this fact finding trip.

Let’s call it a dip our toes in a little and get them a bit wet………

So any advice, etiquette, knowledge 2 middle aged , well educated, socially acceptable (kind of) people on a flight of fancy should know before we go?
I adore your experience and courage both of you
would you mind asking how old are you both
 
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