Despina
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Nov 24, 2004
- Posts
- 254
Howdy, pervs. I'm relatively new here. I'm also new to the lifestyle and am having a helluva time getting focused. I've lurked this board & its library for months, reading like a wild-woman and have learned a great deal. Thanks for that.
However, I find that the more I take in the harder it is to catalogue all the information in my brain. Who knew people got off on being diapered?
On top of that, there's S/M, humiliation, servitude, wax, etc... Anyway, I feel most comfortable on the dominant side of D/s, this much I know. (Not that I've spent any time on the submissive side, to be honest, but dominant is natural and submissive feels wonky to me, personally.)
The most commonly occurring questions I have are:
- How organized about my own wants/needs do I need to be before incorporating bdsm into my life?
Consistency from the start? vs. Trial & Error?
- Is the 'flow' of a scene something akin to 'chemistry' in a relationship or is it something that develops over time?
- Do most people plan scenes in the beginning to test-drive new ideas, or is it spontaneously motivated most of the time?
- When the relationship is not 24/7, and you're feeling things out in the beginning, what's a good transition from, "Hey, Honey, how was your day?", when you're in the mood to hear her beg for release?
- Am I completely over analyzing things because I've had a taste, I WANT MORE, it's not as simple or smooth as you people make it look and I'm having a hard time finding my niche? (It's okay. You can be honest. I'll still be good with a strap-on in the morning.
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Thanks in advance,
~Despina
However, I find that the more I take in the harder it is to catalogue all the information in my brain. Who knew people got off on being diapered?
The most commonly occurring questions I have are:
- How organized about my own wants/needs do I need to be before incorporating bdsm into my life?
Consistency from the start? vs. Trial & Error?
- Is the 'flow' of a scene something akin to 'chemistry' in a relationship or is it something that develops over time?
- Do most people plan scenes in the beginning to test-drive new ideas, or is it spontaneously motivated most of the time?
- When the relationship is not 24/7, and you're feeling things out in the beginning, what's a good transition from, "Hey, Honey, how was your day?", when you're in the mood to hear her beg for release?
- Am I completely over analyzing things because I've had a taste, I WANT MORE, it's not as simple or smooth as you people make it look and I'm having a hard time finding my niche? (It's okay. You can be honest. I'll still be good with a strap-on in the morning.
Thanks in advance,
~Despina
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