Fetlife?

[NykkiLeigh]

I just joined Fetlife.com and I was wondering if it was a fairly good place to socialize and join groups and stuff. If not, I'll probably delete it lol

 

[cf23430]

I just joined Fetlife.com and I was wondering if it was a fairly good place to socialize and join groups and stuff. If not, I'll probably delete it lol

I have almost no luck there...but it could just be me.....

good luck on your search

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[Stella_Omega]

It's worked very well for me. I used it to start a new munch and monthly play party-- almost two years going, now. And pretty much every partner I am seeing ATM, I've met through events that I found on fetlife.

it's what you make of it, really

 

[bluemono]

I'm on there and it is good for me to see what people are into or freely explore reading about things without having to search as much.

Of course if you meet anyone in real life, you're just using the same precautions as if you are meeting them from any website to be safe.

 

[Ahlam]

It's great for learning about local events and whatnot. I've made a few friends on there, so I think it's worth it. If you'd like a Washingtonian buddy on there, you can add me. I am "PrisonerOfDoubt."

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Though I'm no longer active in BDSM "circles," as in groups/organizations, I've always felt that Fetlife was a good resource for people new to the culture to find munches, conventions, etc., and to make contacts.

 

[Amanda83]

I like fetlife. Its s very fun site.

 

[midwestyankee]

I enjoy the place too, though I found it daunting to navigate at first. Unlike Lit, there is no single list of forums so there isn't a central Table of Contents, so to speak. Instead, I found that if I checked out discussion groups where my friends were posting I discovered all sorts of interesting places to hang out there. The population is much larger than we have for our little forum here so there's much more diversity of opinion and such to be had.

Also, as others have pointed out, it's an invaluable resource for locating people and events in your area. This is the easiest thing to search for at Fet, in fact. Just click on "Places" in the navigation bar at the top of the page and you'll see how easy it is.

 

[Scotsman69]

It's great site. Through it I've discovered the local social scene. There are nearly 5,000 members in my city area of only about 1 million folk. It's not primarily a hook-up site though, more a social forum. But I've found a few subs there...

 

[PrettyKitty95]

Yeah, I'm a member (prettykitty95), but I've found that I get a lot of creepers.
But that might just be me.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

I met my Master there
It has a lot more local info, munches, local groups, parties etc and there are lots of really good writings and resources.

 

[FurryFury]

I run two Book of the Month Clubs there in The Kinky Intellectual's Book Club. I didn't not come up with that name.

One is for BDSM books, the other for nilla books and we change the genre each month. The owner made me the mod because I actually started out with some books that we could read. He never seems to come in there anymore.

I'm furryfury on there.

 

[MissVianne]

I've been on fetlife for a few years now but I only joined the local scene recently. It's really awesome when you can actually interact with people from the community and they're more often than not a very welcoming lot! I think Fetlife in general is a GREAT place to truly learn about BDSM and the fetish scene. I've learned far more that way than I probably would ever have just by reading online, I've been very lucky!

 

[Lordsmythe]

I've been on there for 6 months or so - bumped into some friends from other sites. Quite fun!

 

[gagginforit]

It's a good site. Lot of information, lots of people to talk to. They also list munches and functions in your area.

I took my profile down because my goal was to meet someone and I was getting frustrated. Just like anywhere on the net there's way too many single guys. But for a woman, depending what you want of course, I would recommend it. But there are the usual internet trolls, dressed up like pretend doms.

 

[ejredlady]

I just joined Fetlife.com and I was wondering if it was a fairly good place to socialize and join groups and stuff. If not, I'll probably delete it lol

I joined, actually met 2 men @ Starbucks. HUGE disappointments. Pretenders and liars.

 

[gagginforit]

I joined, actually met 2 men @ Starbucks. HUGE disappointments. Pretenders and liars.

There are genuine guys on there, but they may be a bit harder to find. They're not likely to be the ones that message you all cock sure of themselves.

 

[Scotsman69]

There are ways

to differentiate fakes from real doms. If I meet someone online I fancy, I always suggest that we meet in public first. And suggest that she arranges for a friend to call her mobile maybe half-an-hour after we're due to meet, to ensure that she feels secure.

If she agrees to come back to my place subsequently, I tell her exactly what she can expect from me. And give her my full postal address and landline number. so she can check that I am who I say I am.

And insist that she sets up a safecall from a friend, just as when we met in public.

If a man refuses to give you such security, stay well away, he's trouble. It's YOUR safety. I'm a feminist dom, not a misogynist or rapist thug.

I joined, actually met 2 men @ Starbucks. HUGE disappointments. Pretenders and liars.

 

[NaughtyRedSiren]

I enjoyed FetLife and meeting the different people who were local. But in the end, it felt more like a local hook-up site. Hope you have fun either way!

 

[Stella_Omega]

I joined, actually met 2 men @ Starbucks. HUGE disappointments. Pretenders and liars.

Two? did you think it would be that easy, really?

But my suggestion is to look for local events. Go to those.

People who step out into the community have more to prove than your average Starbucks liar.

 

[edal1959]

FetLife is more of a social site for kinksters. That being said, there are a lot of local groups with munches and play events to attend. Its a way to meet like-minded people, get to know them, and thereby possibly find a suitable partner or playmate. Its not setup to be a dating site. I've been active there about two years, and have met some of the best people ever, and made some very close friends. Take time to explore, interact, and attend events. Like it was said above, its what you make of it.

 

[Loverskitten]

It has good and bad things.
Good for finding events. Although I wish there were more that interest me, I may try to organize one someday.
I have bought things people were selling on there with no problems (so far)
BUT, I still find it confusing to navigate. I wish there weren't so many repetitive groups. I don't see the need for several, not area specific, groups of the same interest/fetish. Get all those people together in one group :/
I have also found some group leaders get on power trips and censor posts or delete members. It's annoying. Maybe I'm spoiled by Lit.
I talked a friend into signing up and she was bored with it after like 3 days.

 

[midwestyankee]

It has good and bad things.
Good for finding events. Although I wish there were more that interest me, I may try to organize one someday.
I have bought things people were selling on there with no problems (so far)
BUT, I still find it confusing to navigate. I wish there weren't so many repetitive groups. I don't see the need for several, not area specific, groups of the same interest/fetish. Get all those people together in one group :/
I have also found some group leaders get on power trips and censor posts or delete members. It's annoying. Maybe I'm spoiled by Lit.
I talked a friend into signing up and she was bored with it after like 3 days.

The biggest differences between Lit and Fet grow out of the fact that the structures are different. Lit is organized by the site owners and they have created a limited number of mostly discrete fora. Fet, on the other hand, is organized by the members. Anyone can form a new discussion group, which is the rough equivalent of a forum here at Lit. This is why there are so many groups that seem to be repetitive and it's also why the site can be so difficult to navigate. There's no index of discussion groups so there's no table of contents to help guide members to discussions they'd like.

Both sites have their advantages. Still, I find myself spending much more time here than there.

One other difference is the sheer number of regular participants at Fet versus the relatively smaller number of regulars who post in our BDSM forum here. Oh, and the profile section is set up differently so that members can post multiple pictures of themselves (which can also be set to a private mode, visible only to friends).

 

[Loverskitten]

Yes, I understand the differences. My post wasn't intended to compare the two at all. My lit comment above was ONLY in reference to the censorship from mods that goes on in the groups.
However, it would be nice if, say some dude was starting another pin-up group, a message would pop up asking if he'd rather join one of the 25 other pin-up groups already in existance.

 

[midwestyankee]

Yes, I understand the differences. My post wasn't intended to compare the two at all. My lit comment above was ONLY in reference to the censorship from mods that goes on in the groups.
However, it would be nice if, say some dude was starting another pin-up group, a message would pop up asking if he'd rather join one of the 25 other pin-up groups already in existance.

I'm sorry...I really hadn't meant to quote your post at all. Just an automatic thing done while I was up in the middle of the night.

I agree with your idea - I wonder if it would be feasible in their system. I haven't run into much in the way of censorship, but then we don't get too crazy in the Film Snobs group.