Female masochists?

[DpropertyofR]

I had a conversation with my Master not too long ago, and he told me that in all the years he has been in the lifestyle, I am the first woman he has met who really enjoys pain. He said most of the women he played with previously might be okay with a little bit of spanking, but not too hard or for very long. Others were okay with domination, but did not want to experience pain at all. I’ve come across posts from quite a few masochistic male subs here on Lit. Any masochistic female subs here besides me?

 

[Submissivepat]

Yes, I’m here! I liked to be spanked and paddled. I have had a crop used on my ass, pussy and tits. I enjoy the pain to a point. Happy to chat if you wish.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Yes, certainly for being a pain slut, not so much with the submission. Contrary to the impression you'd get from stories on Lit, clubs tend to involve some top suggesting what they'd like to do, and me saying OK.

Nothing like feeling bruises a couple days later. And receiving pleasure to go with the pain....

 

[MakeMeSayPlease]

Cutting, branding, whipping, love to see how much I can endure, how long i can hold out. Of course I haven't done anything like that since Hector was a pup

 

[Boat1]

I had a conversation with my Master not too long ago, and he told me that in all the years he has been in the lifestyle, I am the first woman he has met who really enjoys pain. He said most of the women he played with previously might be okay with a little bit of spanking, but not too hard or for very long. Others were okay with domination, but did not want to experience pain at all. I’ve come across posts from quite a few masochistic male subs here on Lit. Any masochistic female subs here besides me?

I'm one of those sub guys... I always love reading your posts and I so thoroughly enjoy the pain.

 

[AprilTwenties]

My owner says that I must have liked it 'cos I kept comin' back for more, so...I guess so.

She'd punch and kick me for disobeying her.

A x

 

[Waiter519123]

A good hard pussy spanking will help
https://i.ibb.co/T20tpY7/IMG-3338.gif

 

[Eshu]

I had a conversation with my Master not too long ago, and he told me that in all the years he has been in the lifestyle, I am the first woman he has met who really enjoys pain. He said most of the women he played with previously might be okay with a little bit of spanking, but not too hard or for very long. Others were okay with domination, but did not want to experience pain at all. I’ve come across posts from quite a few masochistic male subs here on Lit. Any masochistic female subs here besides me?

For most submissives, punishment is not a pleasure in itself, but a way of submission, of reinforcing the hierarchy. Then there is the hormonal cocktail of adrenaline, dopamine and endorphins, along with the emotional roller coaster.

In my experience, when a novice submissive is about to receive each blow, her body tenses up, and after a few minutes she ends up exhausted as if she had run a marathon. Experienced submissives are able to relax and can last longer, but not more than twenty minutes. I don't see the point of more either.

 

[holesinyourshoes]

If seeing my pain turns him on, I am turned on by that. So I dont need to like the pain to enjoy the experience, it’s the pleasure in the pleasing

 

[emme8]

I'm learning that I must be a masochist. I enjoy being spanked. Yes he doesn't go as hard as possible, but the slapper has some sting and I came from just a flogger.

I like more than just pain, but a relationship with out it would be missing something.

The first time I met him he wanted to spank me to make sure that I really liked being spanked.

There must be at least a few women that endure the pain for the submission or something.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

My owner says that I must have liked it 'cos I kept comin' back for more, so...I guess so.

She'd punch and kick me for disobeying her.

A x

Did you consent to being punched and kicked before she did this?

 

[AprilTwenties]

Did you consent to being punched and kicked before she did this?

No, boo...but I learned to do as I was told.

A x

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

No, boo...but I learned to do as I was told.

A x

Oh sweetie, you deserve to have all your kinky fantasies met by someone who won't hit you without your express consent. Doms can be all kinds of harsh while playing but treat you like a human being and stay within your limits. If they don't, they're not Doms, they're ignorant or abusive.

I saw your posts in another thread about how you met her and what you're getting out of the relationship but nobody should be beating on you without your consent, even if you happened to be into pain. You didn't sound that certain about being into pain in one of those other threads. Don't let her make you think you have to endure being beaten to get the stuff you like. You do not.

Doms can inflict punishment as part of training but even that should be within your limits. It's sounding like this woman hasn't even asked about your limits. It sounds more like she is using you, like an abuser, not like a Dom "uses" a sub.

You could get those wants and desires met by someone who understands Dom does not mean violent asshole. You could get used by men, owned, degraded, given pain, even hit, anything you like, but it would all be consensual. It would be mutually agreed upon, in advance, before any play.

Please, please don't stay with someone who beats you, regardless of whatever you're getting that you like.

I know outlets for kink can be really hard to find. I know how desperately someone can crave getting them satisfied. I just really hope you have other options, like finding BDSM clubs or going to kinky lunch meetups. If they don't have those where you live, maybe you can drive to the nearest city? Or play with someone online? They can't hit you online.

 

[AprilTwenties]

Oh sweetie, you deserve to have all your kinky fantasies met by someone who won't hit you without your express consent. Doms can be all kinds of harsh while playing but treat you like a human being and stay within your limits. If they don't, they're not Doms, they're ignorant or abusive.

I saw your posts in another thread about how you met her and what you're getting out of the relationship but nobody should be beating on you without your consent, even if you happened to be into pain. You didn't sound that certain about being into pain in one of those other threads. Don't let her make you think you have to endure being beaten to get the stuff you like. You do not.

Doms can inflict punishment as part of training but even that should be within your limits. It's sounding like this woman hasn't even asked about your limits. It sounds more like she is using you, like an abuser, not like a Dom "uses" a sub.

You could get those wants and desires met by someone who understands Dom does not mean violent asshole. You could get used by men, owned, degraded, given pain, even hit, anything you like, but it would all be consensual. It would be mutually agreed upon, in advance, before any play.

Please, please don't stay with someone who beats you, regardless of whatever you're getting that you like.

I know outlets for kink can be really hard to find. I know how desperately someone can crave getting them satisfied. I just really hope you have other options, like finding BDSM clubs or going to kinky lunch meetups. If they don't have those where you live, maybe you can drive to the nearest city? Or play with someone online? They can't hit you online.

Boo, I get you. The beatings, that was at the start of those 14 years that we have been together. The first year or so? Yeah, quite often, but in the last 10 years there's a respect there.

I am ok. She is ok. I am happy being owned by her. I'm not hit anymore.

A x

 

[Boat1]

Boo, I get you. The beatings, that was at the start of those 14 years that we have been together. The first year or so? Yeah, quite often, but in the last 10 years there's a respect there.

I am ok. She is ok. I am happy being owned by her. I'm not hit anymore.

A x

Proud to hear that.

 

[AprilTwenties]

Proud to hear that.

Thanks boo.

A x

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Thanks boo.

A x

I’m so relieved and glad you’re not being hit anymore. Thank you for letting us know!

 

[AprilTwenties]

I’m so relieved and glad you’re not being hit anymore. Thank you for letting us know!

Proud to hear that.

All that was years ago. If you read my shit then you'll understand how things went and as how things are now. True stories that I've had to write 'as fiction' 'cos it'll be seen as promotion otherwise, if you know what I mean.

Anyways, feel free to read...

https://www.literotica.com/series/se/april-from-teen-to-street-hooker

A x

 

[Boat1]

All that was years ago. If you read my shit then you'll understand how things went and as how things are now. True stories that I've had to write 'as fiction' 'cos it'll be seen as promotion otherwise, if you know what I mean.

Anyways, feel free to read...

https://www.literotica.com/series/se/april-from-teen-to-street-hooker

A x

Thank you so much!
...and working in south Louisiana, I LOVE the way you say Boo!

 

[AprilTwenties]

A

Thank you so much!
...and working in south Louisiana, I LOVE the way you say Boo!

Ah, sweet boo! Always said that since I've been in this life...

A x

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

All that was years ago. If you read my shit then you'll understand how things went and as how things are now. True stories that I've had to write 'as fiction' 'cos it'll be seen as promotion otherwise, if you know what I mean.

Anyways, feel free to read...

https://www.literotica.com/series/se/april-from-teen-to-street-hooker

A x

I wish more people would read the autobiographical works of sex workers. We need to quash the stupid stigma around it, bring it out of hiding. Sex workers deserve the same safety and respect as anyone. It’s a service profession like any other, just way more intimate. And sadly in our society, needlessly dangerous.

At least that’s my outsider’s perspective. I wouldn’t presume to explain sex work to someone engaged in it.

Thank you for the link. I had only seen your comments in several threads and very mistakenly assumed yours was a new relationship. I should dig deeper before assuming but when something looks like current domestic violence, I’d rather reach out first and be wrong than wait.

 

[AprilTwenties]

I wish more people would read the autobiographical works of sex workers. We need to quash the stupid stigma around it, bring it out of hiding. Sex workers deserve the same safety and respect as anyone. It’s a service profession like any other, just way more intimate. And sadly in our society, needlessly dangerous.

At least that’s my outsider’s perspective. I wouldn’t presume to explain sex work to someone engaged in it.

Thank you for the link. I had only seen your comments in several threads and very mistakenly assumed yours was a new relationship. I should dig deeper before assuming but when something looks like current domestic violence, I’d rather reach out first and be wrong than wait.

I appreciate the concern, boo. My entry into 'The Life' is not quite the same as, well, anyone that I have met before. My owner said that I should write it down. It'll give some people an idea of, a) why I do what I do, and b) what the lifestyle can be like.

Enjoy, boo...

A x

 

[Boat1]

A

Ah, sweet boo! Always said that since I've been in this life...

A x

I absolutely LOVE IT!

 

[HarleyQuim]

I had a conversation with my Master not too long ago, and he told me that in all the years he has been in the lifestyle, I am the first woman he has met who really enjoys pain. He said most of the women he played with previously might be okay with a little bit of spanking, but not too hard or for very long. Others were okay with domination, but did not want to experience pain at all. I’ve come across posts from quite a few masochistic male subs here on Lit. Any masochistic female subs here besides me?

I love it! But I want everything to work afterwards. I can be sore but I don’t want to have to visit my doctor because of a session.

Also, the more I like a person the more I want it. If I’m into them I’ll beg for it.

 

[base10]

I love it! But I want everything to work afterwards. I can be sore but I don’t want to have to visit my doctor because of a session.

Also, the more I like a person the more I want it. If I’m into them I’ll beg for it.

Had a recent discussion with a partner about how long it's good for marks to last. We settled on a few days (like 3) being perfect. It lingers for a few days to remind us of the fun, but doesn't actually do any lasting damage, nor does it effect your ability to go about your day (ie wearing a swimsuit soon)