Female dominas were are you all....

[selfbondage@]

Female dominas where are you all....

Now it is time that you mistresses, get out and into the open, where you can use us subs. There are to few of you or hide wery well Please... those who still looking for slaves, or not. Leave af message here, so we subs can find you, the one we want to live for .
Love selfbondage@

 

[CutieMouse]

Sweetie? There is a BDSM personals section down the hall. And the Dommes here don't hide. They're quite out in the open already.

 

[selfbondage@]

It's no personal add

I know about the BDSM personals . Allready have an add there for my self.
This thread was more ment as a place where other could share there wiews on this subject, just as you did. sorry to here that they are all in the open, I just haven't been able to find the mistress in my dreems yet. It is damn hard

 

[graceanne]

I knew what they were, but I don't know where they are.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I knew what they were, but I don't know where they are.

Now be nice....having more than one language is not easy and I have found this is one of the most common errors, even from native english speakers. I used to edit posts for Francisco when needed as english is his third language, but am finding these days he has very little need of my editing.

As to where they hide selfbondage, I think you will find most Dommes have particular views on this and don't feel a need to either hide or display themselves. Good luck in finding the one you seek.

Catalina

 

[graceanne]

Now be nice....having more than one language is not easy and I have found this is one of the most common errors, even from native english speakers. I used to edit posts for Francisco when needed as english is his third language, but am finding these days he has very little need of my editing.

As to where they hide selfbondage, I think you will find most Dommes have particular views on this and don't feel a need to either hide or display themselves. Good luck in finding the one you seek.

Catalina

Why? I don't wanna!

Actually I know, I was just teasing him. I make mistakes like that too, mostly with their/there.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Why? I don't wanna!

Actually I know, I was just teasing him. I make mistakes like that too, mostly with their/there.

LOL, well the english language is not noted for making a lot of sense.

Catalina

 

[sphynx's dragon]

LOL, well the english language is not noted for making a lot of sense.

Catalina

Which is why it's one of only 2 Catagory 5 languages in the world. Extremely hard to master. Especially for native speakers!

 

[graceanne]

LOL, well the english language is not noted for making a lot of sense.

Catalina

LOL Tell me about it.

 

[snowy ciara]

Which is why it's one of only 2 Catagory 5 languages in the world. Extremely hard to master. Especially for native speakers!

Okay, now I have to ask... What's the other one?

 

[sphynx's dragon]

Okay, now I have to ask... What's the other one?

A dialect of Swahili...yeah I know..more useless information. Just one of many experiences in life was to go to a language institute to learn ho to speak a foreign language like a native. In the process I learned all kinds of useless language related trivia.

 

[MintSoda]

I have to agree with the original poster though. I've gone through the pesonals and didn't find any ads that matched what I was looking for. In fact I found almost no domme ads at all. More importantly they all seemed to be straight domme ads. I saw TONS of ads looking for dommes and tons of dom ads, but neither interests me. So I can understand the original poster's frustration. Maybe this is a good idea.

 

[selfbondage@]

thanks

I have to agree with the original poster though. I've gone through the pesonals and didn't find any ads that matched what I was looking for. In fact I found almost no domme ads at all. More importantly they all seemed to be straight domme ads. I saw TONS of ads looking for dommes and tons of dom ads, but neither interests me. So I can understand the original poster's frustration. Maybe this is a good idea.

There you go. good to here I am not the only one

 

[schmerzgarten]

*does yoda*....you are not to choose, rather be chosen *L*

I have to agree with the original poster though. I've gone through the pesonals and didn't find any ads that matched what I was looking for. In fact I found almost no domme ads at all. More importantly they all seemed to be straight domme ads. I saw TONS of ads looking for dommes and tons of dom ads, but neither interests me. So I can understand the original poster's frustration. Maybe this is a good idea.

Just based upon my own personal experience, I'd like to offer up the following. In addition to this forum, I belong to several others, including alt.com, as well as on and off to a few local groups in my area. In my grand 33 years on this planet, one thing I can say with consistency is that every relationship I've I had with a Domme / Top has been by her choosing. I've simply placed myself in those environments, tried to enjoy the banter, and then felt a knock on the noggin...."I choose you." This manner of selection, if you think about it, is quite appropriate. In contrast, when I've initiated contact, twas to no avail consistently. I didn't understand the latter until I lived with a few Dommes and began to understand how inundated they were by such solicitations. Indeed, one of my tasks was to weed through candidates and produce a list of potentials based on "Her Interests." So, my two cents is show yourself, put yourself out there, don't harass, and be patient. Remember you are not the fisherman/woman. *L*

Best, sg.

 

[Aeroil]

Just based upon my own personal experience, I'd like to offer up the following. In addition to this forum, I belong to several others, including alt.com, as well as on and off to a few local groups in my area. In my grand 33 years on this planet, one thing I can say with consistency is that every relationship I've I had with a Domme / Top has been by her choosing. I've simply placed myself in those environments, tried to enjoy the banter, and then felt a knock on the noggin...."I choose you." This manner of selection, if you think about it, is quite appropriate. In contrast, when I've initiated contact, twas to no avail consistently. I didn't understand the latter until I lived with a few Dommes and began to understand how inundated they were by such solicitations. Indeed, one of my tasks was to weed through candidates and produce a list of potentials based on "Her Interests." So, my two cents is show yourself, put yourself out there, don't harass, and be patient. Remember you are not the fisherman/woman. *L*

Best, sg.

Hmm, certainly how it happened with me, and a good thing too, seeing as how I'm quite incapable of approaching women, domme or no.

 

[MintSoda]

Just based upon my own personal experience, I'd like to offer up the following. In addition to this forum, I belong to several others, including alt.com, as well as on and off to a few local groups in my area. In my grand 33 years on this planet, one thing I can say with consistency is that every relationship I've I had with a Domme / Top has been by her choosing. I've simply placed myself in those environments, tried to enjoy the banter, and then felt a knock on the noggin...."I choose you." This manner of selection, if you think about it, is quite appropriate. In contrast, when I've initiated contact, twas to no avail consistently. I didn't understand the latter until I lived with a few Dommes and began to understand how inundated they were by such solicitations. Indeed, one of my tasks was to weed through candidates and produce a list of potentials based on "Her Interests." So, my two cents is show yourself, put yourself out there, don't harass, and be patient. Remember you are not the fisherman/woman. *L*

Best, sg.

I've made no secret about it and I don't actually look, so I guess I'm just not viewed as good sub material.

 

[Shadowsdream]

It is not a given that Dommes approach subs...in My case I do not. All I own approached Me both online and off. There is no script for meeting a Dominant Woman as we are as diverse as anyone else in society.

Being respectful open and honest increases the likelihood of success in the search. Not having an agenda that is couched in bull is helpful and being realistic and up front about your desire for online or real time doesn't hurt either.

I see that collarme.com has a very large number of Dommes looking for subs from all over the world. As on all sites...some are real some are just putting their feet into the water and some are no more than horny women looking for a new avenue to sex.

Good luck tracking Us down ~~smile~~

 

[Hecate]

One seeking Domme here

I have to comment from the different side of the whip here.

I may be too picky/serious and maybe I am not up to nowadays submissive ladies' expectations as I refuse to accomodate "pillow princesses", but I am genuinely seeking for many, many months now. (unfortunately I am stuck in a very remote corner of my country at present so there are no munches etc. on a regular basis for me these days)

I spend time to read through profiles and I send the occassional note to submissives whose profiles say "seeking" and "bi" and are approximately in a reasonable location ... but I don't even get replies most of the time.

I tried here ( European Domme seeking fem sub ), on b.com and now on collarme.com ... and all I get contacting me is MEN while my profile says "FEMALES ONLY".

So I can not really say I am not out there ... I appear just to look for the wrong things I guess *s*

 

[h_i_s]

my opinion:
In any situation, regarding most anything in life, (to include finding/being found by a 'PYL' / 'pyl'), ... sitting around and doing nothing, more often than not, will result in NOTHING happening (to bring about a particular goal, or positive result).

Whether PYL or pyl, getting out there and being seen, as well as getting out there and actually LOOKING for what it is you seek, is more likely to cause SOMETHING positive to occur.

Far too many people sit around whining, complaining, about NOT being able to find/not being found, while doing NOTHING to make ANYTHING actually HAPPEN.

As for the topic of those submissives who have been successful in finding/being found by a PYL, based on my understanding of the 'PYLs' i know, most are as active at finding as they are receptive to being found. Once you find one/are found by one, like any other relationship, you'd better have your act together:

• Know what you seek, as well as what it is you have and are willing to offer.
• Know your likes, dislikes, limits, & desires & expectations regarding BDSM as well as THEIR's, to include all other areas outside of BDSM which will or will not define your compatabilities.
• Understand & make it known up front: While starting out in getting to know each other, maintaining an online interaction is acceptable, and a meeting REAL time, should occur ASAP (if that is what you seek) . Be clear in defining whether you are seeking ONLINE ONLY or REAL TIME experiences.
• When registering a profile at any personal site give a truthful, accurate description of yourself: List your areas of interest regarding BDSM. Provide a description of your experience regarding BDSM. CLEARLY define what it is you seek in a PYL/pyl, as well as what you are NOT looking for. Provide your location and whether or not you can & will travel and how far. If you have a picture, post it (most show more of an interest to those photos which depect one in their natural every day casual type presentation). Understand that this is YOUR billboard, your 'WANT AD', your profile is the means for selling yourself, and marketing yourself successfully. Put your best foot forward. Last but not least, yes .. grammar and spelling will make or break you. Not sure if your profile is attractive enough or paints a true picture of yourself? Then ask a friend or other PYL/pyl to critique it for you... seek a neutral party's opinion.
• Once all of the above is in place, browse other people's profiles. Don't sell yourself short in accepting LESS than what it is you want & need. Don't give up if you do not find it right away. When you find what you are seeking, send an email or a PM and address them by their screen name (Based on my own experience, most times Ma'am or Sir is fine .... but, many legit aka realtime PYLs are put off by being called Master or Mistress except by a slave or submissive already collared as their own) stating that you HAVE read their profile, state what it is about them/their profile that caught your interest, note that you are interested in getting to know a bit more about them, and provide a link to your profile. Keep it simple.

Finding what you seek is sometimes hard work, & often times discouraging, but certainly NOT impossible. i speak from my own personal experience as well as that which i have witnessed of other's as well. i FOUND and WAS FOUND. He saw my profile, and i saw His just minutes apart from each other (amoung THOUSANDS of other profile ads) We found each other at collarme.com on June 25, 2004, met on June 26, 2004 & were marrried on April 25th, 2005.

These suggestions are my own, based on my own experiences, as well as my own definitions of what works and what does not. Everyone is different & some may not entirely agree with my ways, and this IS what worked for me. i only offer it in hope that someone else may benefit as a result.

You have nothing to lose in trying, and nothing to gain in NOT trying. It's that simple.
Dreams DO come true if you MAKE them happen.

 

[Quint]

I just feel bad for male subs trying to find a dominant gay male partner around here...I don't think I've EVER seen one of those (as I recall, JB only dominates women). But as I haven't heard much complaining, I guess they're all out in the real world hooking up. Go figger.

 

[Maximumtest]

Even harder if you live outside the US to find personal ad's that fit your needs.

 

[MsHighHeels]

Applause to Sinn!!
I could not have said it better myself. As a Domme you would not believe some of the emails I get. I personal 'tick-offs' are "Wazzup?" "How R U?" and any other slang/bad grammer. It sets my teeth on edge.
What does get my attention? A well written ( no mispellings and good grammer) and one that describes your experiences and yearnings. Are you into humiliation? Service/servitute? Are you looking for sex or denial? What are your limits?
Dommes are not mind readers. We need input. I hate having to drag information out of people.



MHH