Feeling Blue

[petrel]

just want some hugs and stuff right now really - feeling real blue, can't get up interest in anything, really wanted to spend the weeknd with partner in bed but now just want to curl up and hide somewhere.

How the hell do you pull youself out of this type of mood?

 

[RawHumor]

How the hell do you pull youself out of this type of mood?

Candle wax can help.

But seriously, the answer probably has to do with the cause.

If the cause is hormones, then it's tough.

If the cause is nutrition-related, then it's easier.

If the cause is outside of you (someone did or said something or the day just isn't going well), then you need to just suck it up.

Okay, I know this isn't making you feel any better so far, so I'll leave you with the last words of my Grandfather, who said:

A truck!





Hope your day gets better!

 

[Ebonyfire]

It happens to me sometimes...

What I do is give myself 15 - 30 minutes to indulge in self-pity. I cry, rage, whimper, scream, any and anything to let it all out. then, when I am drained I go and do something fun.

I go shopping and buy something with no redeeming value except for the fact that I like it and it is for me.

then I count my blessings and I feel so much better. I try to find someone to hug, and that is susally my 15 year old sister who lives with me. That makes me feel even more better!

Then I reflect on what life was like before I fell in love with Bluespoke, and lo and behold, the mood is gone.

Hope that helps, but if it doesn't here are some roses and kisses for you from a fellow traveller down the road of life!

Ebony

 

[Guest]

I, too, am mired deeply in what feels like a bottomless depression. I don't know what to do about it or how to pull myself out of it. I do a lot of pretending to those who care about me that i'm doing okay, and they believe me, for the most part. But i'm not. I'm not doing okay. Some days - like today - i'm not sure i even remember what "feeling okay" feels like.

I've lived too long, too widely, to know it'll be like this forever. It's sure bad for now, though.

 

[Frouwa_Aph]

just want some hugs and stuff right now really - feeling real blue, can't get up interest in anything, really wanted to spend the weeknd with partner in bed but now just want to curl up and hide somewhere.

How the hell do you pull youself out of this type of mood?

I'm sending a HUGE HUG across the channel.
Sometimes you just feel blue, it'll be over soon. When I feel like that I get myself a hot cocoa, listen to some fave musik and just be blue.

If it's not over soon, go see a doctor.

Monika

 

[bad kitty]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}} Sorry, i don't really have any advice, but i am offering hugs and love, i will keep ya in my thoughts.

 

[HotXBunz]

Depression and I are on a first name basis. I used to kick myself for getting down. I had so much to be greatful for, my life was better than it had ever been and here I was depressed. I did the medical option for awhile and felt better but did not want to be there forever so now I just let myself go there knowing that I will get better soon and it is okay to feel down now and then. I also talk about my feelings to someone. If you want to PM me and just vent I will gladly listen.

(((HUG)))

 

[cymbidia]

I, too, am mired deeply in what feels like a bottomless depression. I don't know what to do about it or how to pull myself out of it. I do a lot of pretending to those who care about me that i'm doing okay, and they believe me, for the most part. But i'm not. I'm not doing okay. Some days - like today - i'm not sure i even remember what "feeling okay" feels like.

I've lived too long, too widely, to know it'll be like this forever. It's sure bad for now, though.

That was me, chickenshit that i am.

I took my dog for a brisk walk. I feel better now. Didn't do anything at all about my issues but it helped my frame of mind for now. Sometimes the best we can do is take care of ourselves a few minutes at a time.

 

[morninggirl5]

I've been feeling out of sorts for months now. None of us can really find the answer for anyone else, but cym's advice to take care of yourself a few minutes at a time is the only thing working for me right now.

I can make it through 45 min or an hour without feeling like everything is completely fucked up. But when i allow myself to look any further than that, i'm right back in that hole.

I've gotten really good at "i'm okay, really, i am" and so far everyone believes it. I don't know if i would be relieved or not if they finally refused to accept that answer. I think part of what's keeping me down is the person i want to really see that i'm not okay really believes me when i protest that i am.

 

[Merelan]

I raged, cried myself to sleep. Took a a long hot shower, groomed myself to perfection, found myself crying on the floor of tub, then washed some more. Then came out, put on comfy flannels, lit some candles, and hopped in here.

Along with a glass of chilled wine and some fresh strawberries.

 

[MissTaken]

I wish I had the answers for all of you.

I can only offer my most sincere and heartfelt wishes to some of the most wonderful people I have the pleasure of knowing...******* or off.

Depression sucks.

Petrel? I know the emptiness of nights alone, needing someone to talk with and touch. *hugs*

Cym? You know where I am. Know that I care.

Merelan? There need be no words for you. *hugs*

When we don't feel special, worthy or loved, that is the time to kick our own asses and do something that makes us feel special. Walks? Shopping? Getting pretty and flirting at the local mall, pub etc? For me, my children have an uncanny ability to bring my spirits up....or trounce them further if they, too, are having a bad day! Ack!

Be well all.....sincerely sending hugs and best wishes.

 

[willfulbrat]

Hugggggggs, Petrel. Sometimes curling up for a good long sleep does the trick for me. Things just don't seem as bad when I'm rested and have had some time without whatever on my mind.
Hope you find some wonderful things to do this weekend to take the sting out of being alone.

HotXBunz, Cym, MorningGirl and Merelen, big hugs to you, too.
This too shall pass, and in the meantime, be good to yourself.

 

[CarolineOh]

Big Hugs to all of you.

 

[cellis]

All you make me feel so much better. I thought I was the only one who felt that way and I have been feeling that way for a few months now.

It is confusing and perplexing because the depression affects all areas of my life. There are some days when I just drag myself out of bed and go to work. I have to stay busy, be busy doing something, because I cannot afford to think too much or that just makes it worse.

I quit smoking and I am sure that is some of what is going on... the hardest thing I have every done. Almost seven weeks today without a cigarette.... and I still want to smoke all the time.

I'm sure that all of this has something to do with it... It is just comforting to know that there are others who feel the same way I do...

 

[willfulbrat]

Cellis, i am so proud of you! I wish i could quit. Hang in there, it will get better. *Huge hugs*

 

[cellis]

Thanks WB... you just have to quit buying them first... that really is the hardest part...

 

[willfulbrat]

Yes, I've done that, but I get soooo grouchy, the family actually buys them for me. LOL But you're right. I just need to get away for the first couple of days when it's the worst.

 

[cellis]

You know I was that way too, the first three or four times I tried to quit.

This time I worked with my doctor and used the patch for 2 weeks and Zyban.

I don't know if it was the combination of the two or what, but other than intense cravings when I first wake up, I have not been too grouchy.

I am still taking the Zyban and the MD thinks I should take it for at least 6 months... so we shall see...

I will keep you posted...

 

[willfulbrat]

Thank you. Maybe I can try something like that. I just can't take Zyban right now.

 

[Frouwa_Aph]

Zyban is known to have depression or mood swings as a side effect.

All of you... feeling blue and depressed once in a while is quite normal. BUT if you feel depressed for longer than a week and you don't have a reason, go see a doctor. Modern antidepressants are quite effective and there's absolutely no shame in having to take them.

Monika

 

[DRxBlue]

Gee, petrel....so feeling Blue is a BAD thing?

Sorry i missed this thread yesterday. i hope you're feeling better. i'm beaming industrial strength hugs across the deep Blue sea.

Maybe you just haven't known me that long, but from my point of view, being Blue is something i'm very HAPPY about.

Hope the sads don't ruin your whole weekend. Just look at the love you've inspired here.

That alone should be a small upper.

Here...Eb's right...more of these.

 

[petrel]

feeling better

thank you all, coming in to find almost 3 pages of replies really helped - you guys are my community and its great to know I have one.

I plan to curl up on the sofa, watch buffy videos and eat apples now - thanks again.

 

[SierraMoon]

Glad you are feeling a bit better today, petrel... whenever i'm feeling down, i go in and run a hot bath, light a bunch of candles in my bathroom, have a glass of wine, and just lean back and relax... letting all my problems flow out of me.. it almost always helps.... or, i will pop in a movie.. comedy always, and forget my problems exist for atleast the 2 hours while the movie is playing...
i hope you are back to feeling good very soon!! hugs to all... sierra

 

[Merelan]

Got room on the couch for me? I have never seen a Buffy episode, okay I saw most of the one where Xander was suppose to get married.. confused the bejesus out of me.
I saw the original movie, which I guess has nothing whats so ever to do with the series. I love apples!!

Please? I will bring the wine.

 

[petrel]

Plenty of room on the couch merelan; its rainy and cold over here so blankets, videos and a bottle of wine are in order!