Fatal Attraction

[juicylips]

You met.

You fucked.

and fucked..and fucked.

It's time to move on and he/she just won't let you?

How can the other person not see that things had changed?

How would or how did you handle a situation like this?


Cassidy,
who denies this thread has anything to do with her own life. Honest.

 

[RainbowBright]

You met.
You fucked.
and fucked..and fucked.
It's time to move on and he/she just won't let you?
How can the other person not see that things had changed?
How would or how did you handle a situation like this?

You sade a bad word. Say enough bad words and you will be lonely.

I do'nt want you to be lonely.

He'res a flaower.

 

[SilverVeil]

Re: Re: Fatal Attraction

You sade a bad word. Say enough bad words and you will be lonely.

I do'nt want you to be lonely.

He'res a flaower.

Oh my fucking God.

 

[SilverVeil]

You met.

You fucked.

and fucked..and fucked.

It's time to move on and he/she just won't let you?

How can the other person not see that things had changed?

How would or how did you handle a situation like this?


Cassidy,
who denies this thread has anything to do with her own life. Honest.

Yeah. A long time ago. And it was not easy. It took a gradual " phasing out " of my life totally to make him go away. And at first he did not get the hint. But I really did not want to hurt his feelings. Goddess knows I have had my feelings hurt by people, I hate doing it to others with sensitive feelings.

 

[VanB]

Re: Re: Fatal Attraction

You sade a bad word. Say enough bad words and you will be lonely.

I do'nt want you to be lonely.

He'res a flaower.

Watch out Juicylips - you could be going straight to hell

 

[The Dipsomaniac]

its so hard letting go sometimes. I had this problem once - i couldnt let go of this girlfriend i had. I kind of initiated the breakup in an indirect way - by telling her i wanted to see less of her and more of my mates - in hindsight that was probably hurtful to her - that i wanted to hang with my mates more - bt hey i was fairly young - and didnt want to get too serious too soon.
Then she up and left... i couldnt handle it. I tried so hard to talk to her all the time - but in the end she just didnt want to. You now what the problem was for me? I was too dominant and she was too submissive to me. She wouldnt say directly too me that she didnt want to see me anymore - just her actions showed that she didnt.

What got me over it wa i asked her to be as blunt as she could. It worked and i got over her.

And the good thing is i never have had this problem again. When its over i can just walk away. Maybe having a little more age helps??? (i'm now 30) back then was only 19.

Sometimes you want to be sensitive - but being open and blunt is what worked for me. NO I DO NOT WANT TO SEE YOU ANYMORE - AND WILL NOT GO OUT WITH YOU AGAIN. ahhhh
time to move on...

 

[juicylips]

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Watch out Juicylips - you could be going straight to hell

*Grabbing your hand*

I'll need some company

Cassidy

 

[riff]

The adult thing to do is to tell them.

Saves time, saves anguish, and is best for all involved.

Personally, nothing is more heartbreaking to me than a lack of closure in such matters. I have been left on my own before to figure it out for myself and it nearly drove me crazy. To say it "sucks" doesn't cover half of it. When it comes to stuff like that I like things concrete- I have never been one to take hints well.

On the other hand, I've done the same thing to others (what goes around comes around) and to this day wish I had had the balls to be honest- so perhaps I deserved what I got.

 

[riff]

Sometimes you want to be sensitive - but being open and blunt is what worked for me. NO I DO NOT WANT TO SEE YOU ANYMORE - AND WILL NOT GO OUT WITH YOU AGAIN. ahhhh
time to move on... [/B]

Not much room for misinterpretation or misunderstanding there!

You're all right!

 

[VanB]

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*Grabbing your hand*

I'll need some company

Cassidy

Don't worry - I'm cumming with you - here's a flaowr

 

[juicylips]

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Don't worry - I'm cumming with you - here's a flaowr

You're cumming and giving me flowers.

This is suppose to be hell???

Wow.

I am reserving a room for an extended stay

Cassidy

 

[Guest]

 

[juicylips]

If I've done the nice thing and tried to be friends etc etc and it's *still* not working ad the message *still* isn't getting through, I get quite brutal and cut off all contact.

I firmly believe, though, if you're going to be friends with an ex there should be a clear separation between the end of the relationship and the start of the new friendship. Without a definite distinction (say, a period of weeks or maybe months of little or no contact) then the healing from the failed relationship can't take place.

The nice thing works for me, though, because I am friends with most of my ex b/fs and parted on good terms with the others, bar one.

Foxy, who reckons you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

You are so fucking wise, sweet cheeks

How can anyone NOT be friends with you?

I don't care if you are wearing honey or vinegar.. I'd let you catch me

Cassidy

 

[Debbie]

You met.

You fucked.

and fucked..and fucked.

It's time to move on and he/she just won't let you?

How can the other person not see that things had changed?

How would or how did you handle a situation like this?


Cassidy,
who denies this thread has anything to do with her own life. Honest.

I met him. I liked him. He liked me. The feeling was mutual. We fucked. ??? I didn't like it. We made a child. He liked me. He was mean. Cruel, unkind and possessive. It had to end. How? Over time. I stayed. Got pregnant again and thought? I don't want my kids to grow up violently. Perhaps repeating the cycle. I had to break the cycle. We split up and had to stay that way. It was over.
Honesty is always the best policy.
Constant repition works too. In the end they get the point or they go on to other relationships.

A long time later? (8 years) and we have learnt to be friends.
My kids are growing up in a healthy relationship where there is no violence and their father is working on his problems.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Fatal Attraction

I met him. I liked him. He liked me. The feeling was mutual. We fucked. ??? I didn't like it. We made a child. He liked me. He was mean. Cruel, unkind and possessive. It had to end. How? Over time. I stayed. Got pregnant again and thought? I don't want my kids to grow up violently. Perhaps repeating the cycle. I had to break the cycle. We split up and had to stay that way. It was over.
Honesty is always the best policy.
Constant repition works too. In the end they get the point or they go on to other relationships.

A long time later? (8 years) and we have learnt to be friends.
My kids are growing up in a healthy relationship where there is no violence and their father is working on his problems.

You are a strong, strong woman Deb.

Honesty IS always the best policy. But it takes guts. Lots of them. Sometimes we find ourselves in short supply.

Thanks for sharing. Sometimes you just can't walk away, can you?

Cassidy

 

[alexandraaah]

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Don't worry - I'm cumming with you - here's a flaowr

Can't we all have a flaower?

 

[juicylips]

How can the other person not see that things had changed?

How would or how did you handle a situation like this?

What sometimes amazes me, is that this same relationship can affect two people so differently.

One person is full...each encounter saps them until there are dry of emotion and lust for the partner.

The other person, is only fueled by each encounter. Their lust and desire increasing with each encounter.

Something has to give here. There are signs all along the way and sometimes you just don't see them. Or, maybe you do. But you don't want to face that fact that it's over.

Cassidy

 

[Guest]

so?