face slapping

[LongHairAdmirer]

I agree though when you combine slapping with breath play.... wow. Nothingg like one hand on the throat and the other being slapped with wile in missionary. It turns a "normal" position into something very hot. But I think there is a difference in a slap that leaves a nice red hand print or one that ruptures an ear drum.

Sounds a little scary, but yet oddly attractive...

 

[rosco rathbone]

lol, when Mr and I swing, and he complains about other chicks not being good at sucking his dick, I always tell him he shoulda slapped them over the head.... cos it worked for me.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Getting my face slapped is not fun or erotic. It is pure discipline and I hate it. I am afraid that I will be bruised. I cannot face my children or go to work with a bruise on my face. Daddy has slapped my face a few times when he has thought I needed it.

 

[eastern sun]

My face has always been slapped during sex as erotic punishment for desires my body gives away. It always hurts more than I think it will, and it always makes me fuck harder and disappear into myself.

He usually mixes it with a kind of smothering dismissive hand-pushing-on-face move that makes me feel like he wants to erase any sign of me.

I get that feeling too when he flips me over and fucks me from behind. Like I've ceased to exist as anything more meaningful than fuckable flesh.

 

[FloggingMolly]

My face has always been slapped during sex as erotic punishment for desires my body gives away. It always hurts more than I think it will, and it always makes me fuck harder and disappear into myself.

He usually mixes it with a kind of smothering dismissive hand-pushing-on-face move that makes me feel like he wants to erase any sign of me.

I get that feeling too when he flips me over and fucks me from behind. Like I've ceased to exist as anything more meaningful than fuckable flesh.

I would probably freak out if this were the way I felt. For me, the slapping is largely to do with the sensation, but also in his reaction, how intensely he watches how I take it, and how much it fires him up. If it made me feel dismissed or in anyway rejected, I'd hate it.

The one act has so many different contexts that do or dont work for each of us.

I am afraid of bruising, yet the pinkish marks I could see the next day were an erotic reminder that I liked.

 

[JustaSCOUNDREL]

I am a fan of face slapping. It is part of slave and my play. She says it is a reminder of what out respective rolls are and deepens her feeling of submission.

That being said I would remind both the giver and the receiver of the many dangers of being too forceful with the slaps. The face is full of many relatively fragile bones and a woman's face is more easily damaged then a man's. Having suffered from 4 facial bone fractures I can tell you they hurt like hell. They are also a general pain if you have to have your jaw wired shut. Spending 4-6 weeks on a liquid diet is not a lot of fun.

I never slap slave in anger or when I'm in Dom space or she is in subspace. A stinging slap to correct minor behavioral infractions works wonders.

Mike

 

[TenCentPistol]

I find face slapping really hot, but it is always seen as that grey area between sexual pleasure and abuse for most of the public...I recently told my partner (in the past couple of months) about my kinks including slapping and choking (basically anything rough) and he was just not cool with doing any of it to me. He said he was afraid of hurting me and he also witnessed some abuse as a child. He'll only spank me and bite me at this point....ah well, I'm ok with finding a happy medium. Most guys I've been with find it quite intriguing, much like women having rape fantasies I don't think a lot of guys realize the amount of women that like the pain, excitement, and submission.

 

[iwantyoufuckme]

ive always been turned on by face slapping, but i have found it difficult to find men comfortable with doing so, but the few i have found are amazing and we seem to have a much better understanding and trust with another.

 

[rida]

The first time the Sadist slapped me across the face, it took me by surprise and rage started boiling inside. You see, I never even thought such a thing could be a possibility. I had laid down my limits, but face slapping did not even cross my mind. It did however achieve its desired scope: making it clear that if I was to be at his service, I was going to be expected to obey and accept his will and whims. And I did.

The most intense face slapping happened during a visit to a local club/dungeon when the Sadist would slap me across a couple times and then sent me crawling across to the next table for the guy from this other couple to slap me. Back and forth. The other guy started out with gentle rebuffs and I felt both grateful and fearful as I knew that the game was not going to be over until the Sadist was satisfied, that meant either the other guy delivered a good blow or the Sadist got tired of delivering it himself. I don't remember how long it went on, probably not as long as it felt. The resulting aftermath was a slightly bruised lip and a bruised cheekbone. The good thing is that being not particularly fair skinned, it went totally unnoticed.

What is it about face slapping that causes so much negative reaction? Is it because we automatically associate it with domestic violence?

Personally, I think that one of the reasons is because of the fact it strikes the face, a very visible and public part of our body, it has an added feel of being demeaning for the person being slapped. Plus, with the fact that visible bruising would rise all sort of social red-flags, it makes it somewhat an edgy kind of play.

 

[Etoile]

The first time the Sadist slapped me across the face, it took me by surprise and rage started boiling inside. You see, I never even thought such a thing could be a possibility. I had laid down my limits, but face slapping did not even cross my mind. It did however achieve its desired scope: making it clear that if I was to be at his service, I was going to be expected to obey and accept his will and whims. And I did.

The most intense face slapping happened during a visit to a local club/dungeon when the Sadist would slap me across a couple times and then sent me crawling across to the next table for the guy from this other couple to slap me. Back and forth. The other guy started out with gentle rebuffs and I felt both grateful and fearful as I knew that the game was not going to be over until the Sadist was satisfied, that meant either the other guy delivered a good blow or the Sadist got tired of delivering it himself. I don't remember how long it went on, probably not as long as it felt. The resulting aftermath was a slightly bruised lip and a bruised cheekbone. The good thing is that being not particularly fair skinned, it went totally unnoticed.

*shivers* That sounds intense.

Personally, I think that one of the reasons is because of the fact it strikes the face, a very visible and public part of our body, it has an added feel of being demeaning for the person being slapped. Plus, with the fact that visible bruising would rise all sort of social red-flags, it makes it somewhat an edgy kind of play.

Have to agree with you there...along the lines of why facial tattoos are taboo in many cultures, too.

 

[FloggingMolly]

Even knowing what I know about BDSM, I suppose if I saw a woman with a bruised face, my mind would think domestic abuse before sex play.

 

[Bandit58]

Personally, I think that one of the reasons is because of the fact it strikes the face, a very visible and public part of our body, it has an added feel of being demeaning for the person being slapped. Plus, with the fact that visible bruising would rise all sort of social red-flags, it makes it somewhat an edgy kind of play.

This, and also I feel that because so many of our senses are centred around the face (sight, smell, hearing, taste) that it can be quite shocking to be slapped especially if there is no warning.

To be clear, both Sir and I consider face slapping to be a hard limit, mainly because as others have said about the connotations of abuse it conveys. We aren't into humiliation or degradation for much the same reason.

 

[RunningJib]

Concerns

I agree though when you combine slapping with breath play.... wow. Nothingg like one hand on the throat and the other being slapped with wile in missionary. It turns a "normal" position into something very hot. But I think there is a difference in a slap that leaves a nice red hand print or one that ruptures an ear drum.

It is concerning that the slapping is abusive

I am from the school of dominance to where is the responsibility of the dom to see to their support and comfort of the sub. The relationship is based upon trust and abuse shouldn't be part of the relationship.

I've pushed limits, cajoled, encouraged and denied. I've even made one ass red for a week. But nothing that was permanent

 

[Etoile]

But I think there is a difference in a slap that leaves a nice red hand print or one that ruptures an ear drum.

It is concerning that the slapping is abusive

I am from the school of dominance to where is the responsibility of the dom to see to their support and comfort of the sub. The relationship is based upon trust and abuse shouldn't be part of the relationship.

I've pushed limits, cajoled, encouraged and denied. I've even made one ass red for a week. But nothing that was permanent

It was an accident. I wasn't permanently harmed by it. It was not abusive, for christ's sake.

 

[BiBunny]

It was an accident. I wasn't permanently harmed by it. It was not abusive, for christ's sake.

There's a difference in intentionally setting out to fuck someone up and an honest mistake.

 

[Master_Loki]

I think it's incredibly hot. A great turn on for my sub, as well, when she's on her knees with my cock in her mouth. I was hesitant to introduce it, at first, but haven't looked back.

 

[subish2009]

My husband rarely does it, but I love it when he does. Makes me focus. I long for it more frequently, which may be why he doesn't do it often.

 

[preggo15]

I like being slapped a little. Not too hard though

 

[Bette_coquette]

When my pet has his face buried between my legs, I sometimes pull him up by the hair and give him a couple sharp slaps across the face so he'll remember exactly how I like my clit stimulated. I've clicker-trained him endlessly on this performance of oral sex and it never fails that he resorts back to something I think he learned in high school.

 

[pwr2theblondes]

I had a lookie but the only thread is from forever ago!

What is it about face slapping that causes so much negative reaction? Is it because we automatically associate it with domestic violence? Or is it because of the risk of injury?

And am I the only one who finds it really hot?

I didn't know there was such a negative reaction to it. You are not the only one. Face slapping is something I can never get enough of.

 

[Makerman]

She said she would leave me if I slapped her face

So I did and continue to do so, alternating it with choking. She comes big and hard, soaking the bed. She said it makes my cock much bigger when i do that.

She hasn't left yet.

M

 

[WastelandVoice]

I had a lookie but the only thread is from forever ago!

What is it about face slapping that causes so much negative reaction? Is it because we automatically associate it with domestic violence? Or is it because of the risk of injury?

And am I the only one who finds it really hot?

Absolutely not

 

[CurvAppeal]

I was smacked in the face a lot by my father, so it doesn't rub me the right way. I don't mind getting my jaw squeezed tightly....but no slapping. I'll get very angry if so.

I am incredibly sensitive, it has taken me a long time to develop the tough skin that I now have.

 

[Mollieslips]

I've always enjoyed getting my face slapped, especially during oral. It's a great way to keep me focused during the longer sessions. The humilation/ taboo aspect of it does more for me than the physical pain, although it is such a lovely sting.

It's not for everyone. I think any Dom worth their salt would know how to do it forcefully and skillfully to minimize hard to explain marks.

 

[Patchouli]

I was smacked in the face a lot by my father, so it doesn't rub me the right way. I don't mind getting my jaw squeezed tightly....but no slapping. I'll get very angry if so.

I am incredibly sensitive, it has taken me a long time to develop the tough skin that I now have.

we have a no face slapping policy. i very much have the same issues. face slapping was always a sign that my mom was really angry. it was something she swore she wouldn't do, but she did it every once in a while. to this day she swears she never slapped my face.

it puts me in a bad place.