Every feel like the real you is being completely ignored?

[Todd]

I mean like you can post a joke or a story or a massively invasion copy and paste opinion and you get lots of people saying what they will usualy not on the topic presented but at least they say something.


But when you pour your heartinto something nothingness, emptyiness, viod.

Strange that is.

is it because they are in awe of the new depths, or shocked at the thought that you don't quite fit in the box they put you in anymore

 

[April]

Umm, yeah Todd. I kinda know how you feel. But Lit is not the best outlet for the innermost thoughts a lot of the time. It's either misinterpreted, or ignored. And, of course, how you are perceived affects how your important-to-you stuff gets treated. Try other venues. Maybe the proverbial vacation from Lit? It helps in a way, but also makes you more alienated. (speaking from experience) Once you go away, you can't ever really come back unless you are one of the garrolous (sp?) types.

Anyway. Just a spew of crap from your friendly invisible girl.

 

[Tim1]

oh man

I realize that you have milliions of posts, However is that why you post? I'm posting now since late Nov. and maybe I've gotten only about 4 or 5 responses that I know of. I love to poke fun and just have fun. if someone likes it and responds great if not, I don't really care.

I have however gotten a few PM's from Phantom5875 and Myst. Both of them are great people and friends for me here.

As in life....if you can count your GOOD friends on one hand your luckey...

 

[Black_Bird]

Hey - I got back from getting a hair cut! Look! I'm all clean cut now and...

Really Todd, I believe you are just thinking too much... These types of things happen on Bulletin Boards all the time. Its apart of the banter and distraction of it all - not everybody gets answered. I know its that way on Newsgroups, and I'm pretty sure it's that way here... especially concidering that not everybody is on at the same time you are and that of those who are on, about 50% are lurkers at any given time. If it's really important - give it a bump the next day. Couldn't hurt.

 

[Black_Bird]

Re: oh man

I realize that you have milliions of posts, However is that why you post? I'm posting now since late Nov. and maybe I've gotten only about 4 or 5 responses that I know of. I love to poke fun and just have fun. if someone likes it and responds great if not, I don't really care.

I have however gotten a few PM's from Phantom5875 and Myst. Both of them are great people and friends for me here.

As in life....if you can count your GOOD friends on one hand your luckey...

Regardless of how many responses you have gotten, it doesn't mean that you haven't been read...

 

[Mensa]

Try other venues. Maybe the proverbial vacation from Lit?

Did April just tell Todd to get lost?!?!

 

[Tim1]

Re: Re: oh man

Regardless of how many responses you have gotten, it doesn't mean that you haven't been read...

Right on!!!!!

 

[April]

Fuck off Mensa!! Cym says I'm evenly kind, so there.

I mentioned the vacation from Lit because it does seem to help one to regain their perspective. But it does have its drawbacks. I would like to take one myself, but I don't think I have the willpower to do it voluntarily.

 

[PHANTOM5875]

Know how you feel sometimes......

Todd, I've noticed that out here on occasion and did a little soul searching wondering if I was just that boring and finally decided it wasn't personal. Those that post around either your thread or your really good posting just have their own little agenda (not meant to say "bad" just different). I have noticed a tendency for threads within threads to develop. For me, getting off topic is distracting to the main question or point being made. I am sure I have been just as quilty of that myself.

I have been trying to do a better job myself in responding to posts either directly on the thread or through PM's to let the poster I appreciated what they said or to provide support or whatever the occasion might call for.

I assure you, you're NOT invisible. You have made me smile and laugh on many an occasion. As a matter of fact, I think I have YOU to blame for getting that term "Spammer Newbie" stuck in my head right now!

You're appreciated by this humble Phantom. (April, you too!)

 

[Mensa]

Forget-me-not

Fuck off Mensa!! Cym says I'm evenly kind, so there.

I mentioned the vacation from Lit because it does seem to help one to regain their perspective. But it does have its drawbacks. I would like to take one myself, but I don't think I have the willpower to do it voluntarily.

Don't you dare go anywhere, girl.

 

[ksmybuttons]

Reality Check

I have read many of your posts, Todd. You have 6000 of them.
This is a porn board.
You are a fundamentalist Christian.

You are only as real to me as I perceive you to be. I can't hold your hand and tell you it will be alright. I can't take your virginity away.

I don't have you in a box. Maybe you need to look outside of the one you think you're in.

The world is a pretty amazing place and although this corner is very comfortable for you me thinks it is time to take a look around.

This is what I would say to my son.

And you could be!

Now that is a scary thought.

 

[cymbidia]

I value you Todd, and have for a long time.
I know, too, that if you're real here, if you're honest and open, then people respond to that, just as they do to anyone like that anywhere in their lives. And you're mostly open and honest here, too, as i think you'll admit if you can step back from your miasma for a moment and take a larger-picture look.

Everyone has times when they feel ignored or slighted of as though their thoughts/feelings/reality is just so much electronic chaff on the wind here. Everyone sits alone in their own home, monitor lighting their face, and dissolves into melancholy (or worse) on occasion when facing a lonely moment.

In reality, for real, it's true: each of us is essentially alone. Each of us has had times of pouring our hearts and souls into the "something nothingness, emptyiness, viod" that the slipstream - even here - sometimes is.

It is strange.
And it's true, too.

But it's not true, either.
We're here for you, with you, just as you're there, with us.
It's a matter of perspective, of mood. Even with our everyday friends and family, sometimes we're not there with them, for them. Sometimes we're removed.

This is a new way of being, this slipstream friendship/community thing, new to human interactions. We're all pioneers here, still feeling our way. Sometimes all of us feel alone and cut off, no matter where we are, whether it's with a group of friends at the local pub or here at Lit, bantering posts about.

It's not because we're in awe of your new depths, Todd, or shocked at the thought that you don't quite fit into your box anymore (personally, i don't like boxes - not even as a part of my BDSM sexuality), it's because you're in an off mood. You'll get over it - then you'll see that we love you as much as always.

 

[Mensa]

Re: Reality Check

I have read many of your posts, Todd. You have 6000 of them.

Can you say "masochist"?

 

[ksmybuttons]

Re: Re: Reality Check

Can you say "masochist"?

I've read yours, too. Funny how they follow you around, itsn't it?

 

[Mensa]

Re: Re: Re: Reality Check

I've read yours, too. Funny how they follow you around, itsn't it?

My God!! It's worse than I thought. It's almost pathological. Seek immediate professional help! It may take some time but with proper care you may return to normal.

 

[morninggirl5]

Todd,

I almost started a similar thread last night. Post-holiday funk - whether or not you admit it - is there for many of us right now. I like the time off but having so much of it centered around holidays that are always ultra stressful is not always a good thing.


Relax, regroup, and try again.


mg

 

[BigDawg69]

Post Holiday Funk? Yeah that's pretty accurate, at least for me anyway.

 

[Herbie Handcock]

Aw fuck, I'd answer but deep thinking makes my head hurt.

 

[morninggirl5]

Laughter is one of the free cures for a headache.

 

[shyybabe]

Since I usually try to stay in the background, I often appreciate being ignored.

But don't forget our "mile out" date.

 

[Todd]

Since I usually try to stay in the background, I often appreciate being ignored.

But don't forget our "mile out" date.

that date will be one not forgotten

 

[Laurel]

I mean like you can post a joke or a story or a massively invasion copy and paste opinion and you get lots of people saying what they will usualy not on the topic presented but at least they say something.


But when you pour your heartinto something nothingness, emptyiness, viod.

Strange that is.

Sure I understand. For example... in our monthly newsletter thing, I used to write quite a bit about our adventures with our feral cats. On newsletters where I'd talk about search terms or site/sex-related stuff, I'd get positive emails from many people. In the ones where I talked about the cats, I'd get fewer emails - and some of those weren't happy ones. On that I remember clearly read "ENOUGH ABOUT THE GODDAMN CATS!!!"

Of course, this hurt to some degree. But I had to keep in mind that this IS a sex site, and that people have expectations regarding a newsletter. Though the cat issue is dear to my heart, it's not entirely fair for me to expect the newsletter audience to find it as compelling as I do. Now, if I were to discuss the cat thing in a cat-related newsletter, I'd probably get a much better response.

Same goes here. Like some wise person already pointed out, this is a public bulletin board. People come here to be entertained to some degree, and for light socializing. Not everyone will be totally receptive to deep, personal posts. However, some will. You can either decide not to make these posts, or you can do what I do and slip the kitty stuff in every now and then, critics be damned. But don't take it personally. You're well liked here - by me and by others.

 

[pabloback]

nobody knows how to perceive me on the board , that is not a problem
but i do have a problem when people misquote me

 

[Laurel]

Really Todd, I believe you are just thinking too much... These types of things happen on Bulletin Boards all the time. Its apart of the banter and distraction of it all - not everybody gets answered. I know its that way on Newsgroups, and I'm pretty sure it's that way here... especially concidering that not everybody is on at the same time you are and that of those who are on, about 50% are lurkers at any given time. If it's really important - give it a bump the next day. Couldn't hurt.

Very well said, and good advice.

 

[Mensa]

Re: Re: Every feel like the real you is being completely ignored?

On that I remember clearly read "ENOUGH ABOUT THE GODDAMN CATS!!!"

You can either decide not to make these posts, or you can do what I do and slip the kitty stuff in every now and then, critics be damned.

Good sense does still exist!