Ever thought about...

[Xander]

Seriously giving up on whatever you have in you life. Really??

Just give up one way or the other and take it from there.

I seem to come across a lot of people that is staying in marriage/relationship, because of safety, which is why I ask.

Hvae YOU ever thought about giving up...for real!!

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I am not married but do know of some men and women who simply stay in there marriage because of the kids or because its not in them to break away from that relationship even tho there is no love. I guess they stay for the safety.


I tend to break away - if I am not happy I tend to simply say thank you for all the fun times and then just walk on ...

But maybe its easy for me cuz I am not mairred / don't have kids and all that stuff....

Just my opinion.

 

[Guest]

Give up Xander, she dumped you. Surprised? Shouldn't be.
I bet she's using her new webcam to send pictures to KidRock.

 

[MissTaken]

Seriously giving up on whatever you have in you life. Really??

Just give up one way or the other and take it from there.

I seem to come across a lot of people that is staying in marriage/relationship, because of safety, which is why I ask.

Hvae YOU ever thought about giving up...for real!!

~nods head~

I did that. Left my marraige that should have ended years ago. (I wouldn't leave til I tried everything I could.)

Then, eight months later, resigned my job.....so while there is risk, my life is changing quickly. And for the better, I might ad!

~slipping out of this thread after sharing too much information~

 

[GuyJD]

I GUESS THAT YOU CAN SAY THAT I HAVE

I left my two jobs and my wife to move 2000 miles away and start a new life. And hopefully one day, find a new wife.

 

[Mistress]

Give up Xander, she dumped you. Surprised? Shouldn't be.
I bet she's using her new webcam to send pictures to KidRock.

 

[Debbie]

I am married, happily but even if I wasn't I would tell my hubby, not take the spineless way out by cheating on him. Xander i don't know what you are going through at the moment but wish you well. Some woman are not honest nor kind. We are not all like that. Don't judge others by her actions. I have had that happened to my in both my marriages and it places barriers were there needn't be any.
Give up if there is more pros than cons in your marriage and you have BOTH tried your best...

 

[Xander]

I am married, happily but even if I wasn't I would tell my hubby, not take the spineless way out by cheating on him. Xander i don't know what you are going through at the moment but wish you well. Some woman are not honest nor kind. We are not all like that. Don't judge others by her actions. I have had that happened to my in both my marriages and it places barriers were there needn't be any.
Give up if there is more pros than cons in your marriage and you have BOTH tried your best...

I'm not entirely sure what you are getting at Debbie.

However one thing IS for sure. There is always something from an old relationship that will follow into the next.
Old fears and all that good stuff.
There always will, and those thoughts, no matter how hard one is trying to rid of those, they will always pop up at some point.

 

[Mistress]

I am married, happily but even if I wasn't I would tell my hubby, not take the spineless way out by cheating on him. Xander i don't know what you are going through at the moment but wish you well. Some woman are not honest nor kind. We are not all like that. Don't judge others by her actions. I have had that happened to my in both my marriages and it places barriers were there needn't be any.
Give up if there is more pros than cons in your marriage and you have BOTH tried your best...

Excuse me?

 

[Debbie]

Sorry my point was that I am who I am in my marriage (loyal, loving and honest) but twice now in both my marriages the woman previous to me have crapped on my men, they have learnt not to trust woman, tarring me with a brush that is not mine to carry.
I do not know what you are going through at the moment. Just saying that we are not all alike. I have been mistrusted and judged by another's actions (both were dishonest and unfaithful) I am not like them yet it has caused mistrust and lack of communication in both my relationships. It impends where a good relationship could grow. Stunting it and causing grief.
Yes we all carry baggage into new relationships but we also need to learn whe to throw the 'old' baggage out and hug the 'new' luggage.

 

[Debbie]

Does this make more sense, grasshopper? I hope so. *hugs* again to you

 

[Mistress]

No.....
You make it sound as if I'm bad and cheating on Xander...........
And to even remotely give anyone the suggestion of that all I can say is Fuck You.



Have a Nice Day

 

[Xander]

Sorry my point was that I am who I am in my marriage (loyal, loving and honest) but twice now in both my marriages the woman previous to me have crapped on my men, they have learnt not to trust woman, tarring me with a brush that is not mine to carry.
I do not know what you are going through at the moment. Just saying that we are not all alike. I have been mistrusted and judged by another's actions (both were dishonest and unfaithful) I am not like them yet it has caused mistrust and lack of communication in both my relationships. It impends where a good relationship could grow. Stunting it and causing grief.
Yes we all carry baggage into new relationships but we also need to learn whe to throw the 'old' baggage out and hug the 'new' luggage.

yes that made a little more sense Debbie.
And I can certainly understand, why you husband and ex has put up a barrier and is not easy to give out trust in the relationship.
WHy do I say that, becasue I have been there before, long before I met Mistress.

It does cause truoble, and having disloyal and cheating done to you, do cause unwanted thoughts to pop up there.

You are however right, one should be able to rid of the old bagage and embrace the new, however THAT is so much harder than it sounds.

 

[lavender]

 

[Debbie]

Mistress I have no idea what Xander is unhappy about. Please do not involve me in this. I am not stepping on your toes.
Fuck you is unnecessary. I do not take offence at this. I have absolutely no idea what is going on and did not even know you were a couple. Or were or whatever.

 

[Debbie]

Thank you Lavender. I had no idea what was going on. Nor do i still. Let me back out saying I wish you both the best, still not knowing what is going on. I am sorry.

 

[Xander]

Okay this is getting a little out of hand here.

Just so you all can see this

NO Mistress is NOT a cheater, and YES I do love her

I do not know where all this all of the sudden came from...Iadmit I started this thread yesterday...in a servere drunk state....and frankly...how did this get turned into a infidelity thread...when its actually about giving up??

 

[Debbie]

My intention wasn't to turn this thread into an infidelity thread. I read this thread and thought , seriously, there have been many times when I have wanted to give up and why haven't I given up? I typed my thoughts aloud, not realising they might be misinterpreted along the infidelity theme. Apologies to Xander and Mistress for the misunderstanding.
IMHO and in my experience, my relationship has been severely jeopardised by the woman before me and the baggage and crap they have *dumped* on my ex and 'new' hubby.

 

[Xander]

My intention wasn't to turn this thread into an infidelity thread. I read this thread and thoought , seriously, there have been many times when I have wanted to give up and why haven't I given up? I typed my thoughts aloud, not realising they might be misinterpreted along the infidelity theme. Apologies to Xander and Mistress for the misunderstanding.
IMHO and in my experience, my relationship has been severely jeopardised by the woman before me and the baggage and crap they have *dumped* on my ex and 'new' hubby.

Thank you Debbie.

And I hear you about the bagage thing.

 

[Debbie]

thanks Xander, now I'll feel better if Mistress reads this and understands.

 

[Xander]

I believe she just left for work Debbie. She will be back later on this afternoon and I'm sure she'll understand.

 

[Debbie]

Damn, It's 3:28 am here, was hoping my conscience would be cleared by her a ok before I went to sleep.

 

[Xander]

Better get some sleep then Debbie, she'll be back when you wake up again...New Zealand hmmm.

 

[Debbie]

ok off to bed now. Sunday tomorrow. Hoping to sleep in, will check in to see of Mistress is still mad at me.

 

[Guest]

bump for Debbiexxx and for Mistress to see when she finishes work