erotic strangulation?
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it's called erotic asphyxiation.
I am a big fan of it.
Ever been strangled? When you're being strangled, the air flow to your brain gets cut off, and everything goes a little dizzy, a little confused, and your perception is altered in such a way that makes pleasure FAR more enhanced than it would normally be.
And putting that much power and trust into the hands of your partner.. is a HUGELY inspiring act.
I am a big fan of it.
Ever been strangled? When you're being strangled, the air flow to your brain gets cut off, and everything goes a little dizzy, a little confused, and your perception is altered in such a way that makes pleasure FAR more enhanced than it would normally be.
And putting that much power and trust into the hands of your partner.. is a HUGELY inspiring act.
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I saw porn starlet, Tera Patrick the other night on Howard Stern extolling the virtues of it and she does it with her boyfriend like that.
I've heard it can be risky but like Vix says, it is a huge issue of trust.
I've heard it can be risky but like Vix says, it is a huge issue of trust.
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A number of people have died doing this, however.
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Yeah - every once in a while, there's a "suicide" reported - but the fellow sure didn't mean to kill himself. He was trying to halfway-hang himself while masturbating in search of that not-quite-enough-oxygen orgasm.
I've heard a safer way for women to experience the feeling is to have sex with their head hanging vertically off the side of the bed - blood pools in the head, giving something of the same feeling.
Frankly, I find the porno choking scenes to be a bit off-putting... But then again, I'm a freakin' Victorian about that stuff!
I've heard a safer way for women to experience the feeling is to have sex with their head hanging vertically off the side of the bed - blood pools in the head, giving something of the same feeling.
Frankly, I find the porno choking scenes to be a bit off-putting... But then again, I'm a freakin' Victorian about that stuff!
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Although I haven't let my husband strangle me as such, there was one time when we were having sex on our sides. Me on my left side and him inside me from behind and his hand was on the back of my neck. We got so passionate and animalistic that he ended up grabbing at my neck with a force I haven't felt before. And better still - I liked it!!! There were times before that where we have gotten quite "primal" in our approach and we start making noises that show that, it is some sort of raw passion that comes out...
I haven't been in the mood as intensely as that ever since but it was a different experience anyway.
I haven't been in the mood as intensely as that ever since but it was a different experience anyway.
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It is very risky. I have only allowed one person to do this with me (though more have done it than I've allowed).. and that is only after I taught him how tight to hold, what to listen for as way of a safe word, etc. I would never do it myself.. doing it to yourself is called AUTOerotic asphyxiation, and stupidly dangerous. Having a trusted partner perform that on you is safer, because they are concerned for your safety enough to let go if they think there is danger, and breathing can return to normal.
I think I enjoy it because of those people who weren't allowed to do it to me who did it to me. That doesn't sound like it makes sense, but think of it this way: those people were doing me harm. I could sit here and let that affect me badly for the rest of my life, or I can reclaim the action, by learning to temper it with trust, with safety, and by learning to enjoy it. That is a big thing for me, and it is one of the ways I have come to heal after such injuries in the past.
*shrug*
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My vote goes to the RISKY
That's RISKY not frisky.
Used to be a cop a life time ago. There was movie in the late 70's where some kids wanked off with a noose around their necks. Just before they came they'd let the noose take their weight and this type of erotic strangulation was supposed to be a huge rush. It increases pressure and CO2 in the brain so your orgasm is, from a cerebral stand point kinda turbo charged.
I must done (investigated) a dozen "suicides" that summer where the poor kid was found dangling in his closet, pants around his knees, a big mess dribbling down his leg and dead as a friggin doornail. He passed out and strangled before waking up. Try and explain THAT to a father / family. Considering what he was doing they were in a toss-up whether they wanted to remember his death as a suicide or a pervert whom GOD Himslef had struck dead for being a deviant.
Tragic.
One other thing. If you do this to somebody else and that unknown aneurysm does blow up or you hold off their air for just a sec too long and they cardiac arrest and you can't bring them back? Guess what the cops call that? Yup. Murder. Certainly not 1st Degree but I guarantee you you'll get about half a dozen years for it... not to mention how you'll feel if you really love the person you KILLED. Not worth it kiddies!
I also lost a wife of 21 years to a cerebral aneurysm a few yerars ago (no I wasn't doing that to her. we were at a Christmas eve party!) so I'm not a big fan of massively increasing the blood pressure in the brain. Even young people can have aneurysms. If you die that's one thing but many times you're just gorked - a tomato for the next 60 years ... so THAT'S your best but LAST orgasm.
Is a really good orgasm worth that risk? Not to anybody with a lick of common sense but then when has that ever stopped people from being dumb as bricks?
That's RISKY not frisky.
Used to be a cop a life time ago. There was movie in the late 70's where some kids wanked off with a noose around their necks. Just before they came they'd let the noose take their weight and this type of erotic strangulation was supposed to be a huge rush. It increases pressure and CO2 in the brain so your orgasm is, from a cerebral stand point kinda turbo charged.
I must done (investigated) a dozen "suicides" that summer where the poor kid was found dangling in his closet, pants around his knees, a big mess dribbling down his leg and dead as a friggin doornail. He passed out and strangled before waking up. Try and explain THAT to a father / family. Considering what he was doing they were in a toss-up whether they wanted to remember his death as a suicide or a pervert whom GOD Himslef had struck dead for being a deviant.
Tragic.
One other thing. If you do this to somebody else and that unknown aneurysm does blow up or you hold off their air for just a sec too long and they cardiac arrest and you can't bring them back? Guess what the cops call that? Yup. Murder. Certainly not 1st Degree but I guarantee you you'll get about half a dozen years for it... not to mention how you'll feel if you really love the person you KILLED. Not worth it kiddies!
I also lost a wife of 21 years to a cerebral aneurysm a few yerars ago (no I wasn't doing that to her. we were at a Christmas eve party!) so I'm not a big fan of massively increasing the blood pressure in the brain. Even young people can have aneurysms. If you die that's one thing but many times you're just gorked - a tomato for the next 60 years ... so THAT'S your best but LAST orgasm.
Is a really good orgasm worth that risk? Not to anybody with a lick of common sense but then when has that ever stopped people from being dumb as bricks?
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Yeah...I'd consider it a little too risky to put into my sexual repetoire. It's just not my gig. I don't mind a little kink or thrill here & there but it just seems too risky.
I remember back to my adolescence when someone would get teased for having a hickey. How does one explain possible bruising or strangulation marks??
If anything I might ask my lady to tip her head back like zhukov suggested if that's what she wants but to really strangle, I'll walk away from that one.
I remember back to my adolescence when someone would get teased for having a hickey. How does one explain possible bruising or strangulation marks??
If anything I might ask my lady to tip her head back like zhukov suggested if that's what she wants but to really strangle, I'll walk away from that one.
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I have a friend who is into it and only enacts it when his girl does it for him, so that she can monitor him, to decide if she is doing it long enough and what not. I'm not into that but yeah... interesting to say the least, even if it is just to be on the watchout ofr.
Re: My vote goes to the RISKY
I am not a stupid human being. I am not dumb enough to allow someone to hold onto my neck hard enough to cause bruising, or long enough to even make my face turn red. It's a momentary thing, with light pressure. With one hand. He doesn't use a chord, or a choke-tie, or anything, He uses His hand. And we communicate.. if I say to Him, "stop", He stops, no questions asked. And we have never gotten to a point where I couldn't clearly talk, because we are into it LIGHTLY, not hard-core strangulation.
Like I said, I was almost killed once by strangulation, and I know what it feels like, and it sucks. But a tiny restriction of air, to me, and claiming the act as my own, rather than the work of a rapist, is important to me.
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I am not a stupid human being. I am not dumb enough to allow someone to hold onto my neck hard enough to cause bruising, or long enough to even make my face turn red. It's a momentary thing, with light pressure. With one hand. He doesn't use a chord, or a choke-tie, or anything, He uses His hand. And we communicate.. if I say to Him, "stop", He stops, no questions asked. And we have never gotten to a point where I couldn't clearly talk, because we are into it LIGHTLY, not hard-core strangulation.
Like I said, I was almost killed once by strangulation, and I know what it feels like, and it sucks. But a tiny restriction of air, to me, and claiming the act as my own, rather than the work of a rapist, is important to me.
I have gotten into this with a lover in the past...we used a signal to 'stop', and for us it was dropping a heavy necklace onto a hardwood floor. There was no mistaking the sound and it allowed me instant control.
Besides that...
I felt like bumping this thread just to mention the BDSM library. They surely have good information on this, and probably in-depth conversation like you see right here.
Whatever you choose to do, remember...information is power. Stay safe.
S.
Besides that...
I felt like bumping this thread just to mention the BDSM library. They surely have good information on this, and probably in-depth conversation like you see right here.
Whatever you choose to do, remember...information is power. Stay safe.
S.
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Re: Re: My vote goes to the RISKY
I'm very big into choking. It puts my girlfriend off slightly even to watch it (when Daddy is over), but my Daddy doesn't have any problem doing it for me. The first time I was startled but loved it, and ever since I've asked for it on numerous occasions.
I've been choked by a hand (yes, enough to leave very light bruising), two hands, and a belt. I have specifically asked to be choked until I passed out, but I do consider that edge play. (Keep in mind that once the bottom passes out, the choking stops and normal breathing resumes, with awakening happening within moments.) I've never actually passed out, though - but I have had some very nice falls onto the bed from being off balance!
The sensation is similar to nitrous oxide. Some people only encounter that at the dentist; I buy a couple of box of whippits a year and do those. I think that's probably the effect the suicides were going for. I don't get the same rush when being choked, it's nowhere near that intense. But still, it's very enjoyable.
And yes, part of it enters into a rape fantasy. And yes, I would only ever do it with someone I trust. Choking and one night stands don't mix! It was a couple of years before Daddy ever tried it with me. No, we don't have a safeword or non-verbal signal. We don't have that for any activity. That also requires an immense amount of trust: I quite literally trust my Daddy with my life. And I've never had any reason to doubt that trust. I know that I am taken care of even in edge play.
Hopefully this doesn't put me into the "stupid human being" category, but I like my choking a bit more intense than vixenshe does. Then again, I've never had a dangerous encounter with it, so perhaps I'm mentally a little less inhibited with it.vixenshe said:
I'm very big into choking. It puts my girlfriend off slightly even to watch it (when Daddy is over), but my Daddy doesn't have any problem doing it for me. The first time I was startled but loved it, and ever since I've asked for it on numerous occasions.
I've been choked by a hand (yes, enough to leave very light bruising), two hands, and a belt. I have specifically asked to be choked until I passed out, but I do consider that edge play. (Keep in mind that once the bottom passes out, the choking stops and normal breathing resumes, with awakening happening within moments.) I've never actually passed out, though - but I have had some very nice falls onto the bed from being off balance!
The sensation is similar to nitrous oxide. Some people only encounter that at the dentist; I buy a couple of box of whippits a year and do those. I think that's probably the effect the suicides were going for. I don't get the same rush when being choked, it's nowhere near that intense. But still, it's very enjoyable.
And yes, part of it enters into a rape fantasy. And yes, I would only ever do it with someone I trust. Choking and one night stands don't mix! It was a couple of years before Daddy ever tried it with me. No, we don't have a safeword or non-verbal signal. We don't have that for any activity. That also requires an immense amount of trust: I quite literally trust my Daddy with my life. And I've never had any reason to doubt that trust. I know that I am taken care of even in edge play.
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Glad to see you back posting wise words of wisdom Etoile.
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Aw, thanks LE and vixenshe! http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/youloveme.gifLust Engine said:Glad to see you back posting wise words of wisdom Etoile.
it is a physiological thing
asphyxia provokes an increase of one of the blood gases that should be released by the lungs, which is CO2 (carbon dioxide).
this increases blood engorgement of various parts of the body, including the genital area, thus increasing the pleasure (as long as you are not unconscious or dead, thats it)
it is not rare to find people who have been electrocuted and burned by high tension electrical current (which provokes asphyxia) with terrible (also burned and scarred) hard-ons.
also people who is hanged get hard-ons until the heart stops.
holy fukcking shit! what a subject for a Saturday night!
asphyxia provokes an increase of one of the blood gases that should be released by the lungs, which is CO2 (carbon dioxide).
this increases blood engorgement of various parts of the body, including the genital area, thus increasing the pleasure (as long as you are not unconscious or dead, thats it)
it is not rare to find people who have been electrocuted and burned by high tension electrical current (which provokes asphyxia) with terrible (also burned and scarred) hard-ons.
also people who is hanged get hard-ons until the heart stops.
holy fukcking shit! what a subject for a Saturday night!
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TXappeal, I'm curious, where did you find that information? I'd be interested in reading about that online.
I notice most people want to focus on the death aspect and the hardon aspect. It's not about death for me, and I don't get erections. But damn, I have fun.
I notice most people want to focus on the death aspect and the hardon aspect. It's not about death for me, and I don't get erections. But damn, I have fun.
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In the novel Justine, de Sade describes an aspect of this, with the title character being strangulated by means of a silk cord during anal rape. This supposedly caused the sensations to be intensified.
Erotic strangulation is one of those things I've never tried, and would never try without a safeword, not even with my husband. And being the kind of switch I am, I'd have to have it done to me before I could ever do it to anyone else.
Still, if it were done lightly enough so there wasn't any bruising, and was very safely, I'd like to give it a shot. But I think I'll try the head-hanging-off-the-bed technique first.
Does anyone have any links with information on doing this safely?
Erotic strangulation is one of those things I've never tried, and would never try without a safeword, not even with my husband. And being the kind of switch I am, I'd have to have it done to me before I could ever do it to anyone else.
Still, if it were done lightly enough so there wasn't any bruising, and was very safely, I'd like to give it a shot. But I think I'll try the head-hanging-off-the-bed technique first.
Does anyone have any links with information on doing this safely?
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You bet:
http://dmoz.org/Adult/Society/Sexuality/Activities_and_Practices/Erotic_Asphyxiation/ has a whole collection of links about it. Unfortunately they're mostly negative, but there are some good ones in there too.
http://dmoz.org/Adult/Society/Sexuality/Activities_and_Practices/Erotic_Asphyxiation/ has a whole collection of links about it. Unfortunately they're mostly negative, but there are some good ones in there too.
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Thanks, Etoile.
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Ask the singer from INXS how much he likes autoerotica. Oh wait you can't he's dead. It killed him.
Breath play is EXTREMELY SERIOUS SHIT! If you insist on this form of play you best have a damned caring and attentive lover. No gettting into the moment for them. Their only role is to watch their partner. I am into many, many things and most would consider them "out there" but breath play is a no go in my world. I try not judge or condemn but this is a form of play that can very easily result in injury or even death. Be extremely careful.
Breath play is EXTREMELY SERIOUS SHIT! If you insist on this form of play you best have a damned caring and attentive lover. No gettting into the moment for them. Their only role is to watch their partner. I am into many, many things and most would consider them "out there" but breath play is a no go in my world. I try not judge or condemn but this is a form of play that can very easily result in injury or even death. Be extremely careful.
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Limbhugger said:
I always am. I often have the role of the one watching over him (and out for him), not just as the Mistress with the whip.
And don't worry, he's always quite careful to not harm me when he doms too. I don't think he ever really gets fully into when he doms, come to think of it. I wonder if I should talk to him about that?
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Yes, it is extremely serious. And while I don't "insist" on this form of play as such (I don't "insist" on anything, but I am permitted to request it), my Daddy is definitely attentive and caretaking. If I can tell that e does want to get into the moment, I then accept the role of caretaker and shut off my pleasure. I can still enjoy being choked when I know it's my responsibility to be the careful one, but it's not as erotic when I am in the position of being vigilant. But yes, more often than not Daddy is the one who is careful and lets me fall into the unique state that I can reach through breath play. We've gotten pretty serious with it - as I've said, I would classify some of it as not just breath play but edge play - but of course safety is always paramount.Limbhugger said:
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One thing I haven't mentioned yet is that I sometimes engage in a little breath play by myself. If I'm face down being fucked into a pillow, I will deliberately put my nose and mouth into the pillow for a few seconds, then stop. Then do it again, and stop. It's not continuous, and I really would classify it as just playing around.
