erotic strangulation?

[Crimson]

my boyfriend recently started asking (nonverbally) to be
strangled during sex. while i'm on top, he'll take one of my hands and place it on his neck. i obligingly press down until he stops saying "harder". he usually reaches up and does the same to me (one hand only) until he cums.

it's never left bruises and both of us are lightyears from passing out. i think we like it because it's a combative fantasy that involves me struggling against him. for example, he also enjoys asking me calmly and repeatedly to suck him while holding my hips firmly in place while he fucks me. he continues to ask until i successfully break away from his grip, usually after a few minutes of intense physical struggling.

crimson

 

[TXappeal]

Etoile

TXappeal, I'm curious, where did you find that information? I'd be interested in reading about that online.

I notice most people want to focus on the death aspect and the hardon aspect. It's not about death for me, and I don't get erections. But damn, I have fun.

I have not seen anything serious about the subject of hypercarbia (that is the name for elevated CO2 in blood) and sexual excitement online. You can get good information from internal medicine or anesthesiology books.

During mechanical sexual stimulation (intercouse, masturbation) the body builds up CO2 in blood (just because we don't breath as deep as we need during sexual activities) until that elevated CO2 reaches a limit which triggers orgasm. If you notice, during the few seconds just before the orgasm we are practically not breathing, just to enhance that feeling.

Maybe the subject of hard-ons is more talked about because it is more noticeable than female excitement but actually women get excited by hypercarbia too.

Death, I believe, is a subject in the discussion because, either sexual excitement is observed in persons that are axphyxiated, or because unsupervised asphyxiation for sexual gratification have ended in death numerous times.

 

[Etoile]

my boyfriend recently started asking (nonverbally) to be
strangled during sex. while i'm on top, he'll take one of my hands and place it on his neck.

Yup, I do this too. Sometimes I'll use my own hand and let Daddy know that way, or I'll just take eir hand myself and put it on my neck and e gets the idea!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Now on the subject of passing out.

I have never passed out from strangulation. Ever. He and I don't push it that far, and those in my past who willed it were not successful.

However, I HAVE passed out.. OFTEN.. from orgasms. I'm a fainter, in bed. And my partner finds it incredibly erotic.. He keeps pumping away, but he's gently holding my head, whispering for me to breathe.. somewhere, I can hear it.. and eventually I do.. and the minute I come to, I ALWAYS orgasm.. *grin* It's rather wonderful to pass out to an orgasm and wake up to one, only 20 seconds apart.. maybe it's that heightened CO2 thing in my blood... who knows.

 

[sheath]

Re: Etoile

During mechanical sexual stimulation (intercouse, masturbation) the body builds up CO2 in blood (just because we don't breath as deep as we need during sexual activities) until that elevated CO2 reaches a limit which triggers orgasm. If you notice, during the few seconds just before the orgasm we are practically not breathing, just to enhance that feeling.

Okay. I have a question about this.

First, I need to say that I have participated in erotic asphyxiation with a partner, more than once, and I loved it. The orgasms were intense, but more than that, the feeling of trust heightened the experience for me.

Now, on to the question:

I have had lovers who were into various 'eastern' types of sex, such as Tantra. One in particular was very good at it, and he taught me so much. One of the things I quickly learned was that controlled breathing could heighten the sexual experience. To be careful to continue to breathe, NOT to allow myself to stop breathing, to hold my breath, whatever, as I approached orgasm. It is instinct to do that, and it takes time to retrain yourself to act otherwise. Anyway...

Long, deep breaths at that point during sex gave me much, MUCH more intense orgasms. The same was true for him...the relaxation, the filling of his lungs with air, in a rhythm with the slow motions of his body, sent him to an orgasm that was incredibly powerful.

I mention this because it seems in contradiction of what you have said here.

Any thoughts?

S.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Sheath, ever been on oxygen?


I think the effect is somehow the same. Too much of any gas in your body will affect you, and the way you function. Having too much of the CO2 does one thing, but having too much oxygen can also cause dizzyness, and those other symptoms.

 

[sheath]

Sheath, ever been on oxygen?


I think the effect is somehow the same. Too much of any gas in your body will affect you, and the way you function. Having too much of the CO2 does one thing, but having too much oxygen can also cause dizzyness, and those other symptoms.

Your explanation does make sense.

I have been on oxygen before, but of course I was very ill at the time, so I have no idea what was caused by the illness or what was caused by the oxygen...so I don't have any reference point, really, as to how it felt.

Thanks for answering my question.

S.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Your explanation does make sense.

I have been on oxygen before, but of course I was very ill at the time, so I have no idea what was caused by the illness or what was caused by the oxygen...so I don't have any reference point, really, as to how it felt.

Thanks for answering my question.

S.

I should point out that my answer was only theory.. based on my experience.

I've been on oxygen due to asthma attacks, and they leave you on it longer than you ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO BE... so I started getting a little high. lol.

 

[TXappeal]

sheat - vixenshe

probably I should have said "you don't breath as efficient as you should" instead of deep.

sexual activity is a physical activity. In order to keep up with the demands for oxygen and the need to get rid of CO2 (which is basically cell waste) you need to incraese the frequency and the depth of your respiration (the same as running).

Usually, because of the positions that we adopt, the attention that we put to the sensations from our erogen areas, the attention to our partner, etc. we dont breathe as deep as we should, or as fast as we should.

now, if you consciously breathe deep but slowly, it is also inefficient in a way, because even though you inhale and exhale at the full capacity of your lungs (like a liter or so) the frequency of your breathing is so slow that it is inefficient. So the effect of accumulated CO2 is still there.

it is not harmful if you and only yourself consciously try to stop breathing until you pass out (providing that you are lying on a bed without the possiblity of hitting anything with yoru head, or you don't vomit and aspirate your vomit), because at the very moment that you pass out you will start breathing automatically.

on the other hand, if you breathe too fast (like with a panic attack) you do get dizziness from low CO2.
It is not possible to get excess oxygen by breathing on your own, the only way to get oxygen intoxication is if you are connected to a machine like a ventilator or have an oxygen mask.

 

[zhukov1943]

I'm glad you guys have found a practice that works for you - but I gotta say that the prospect of strangulation during sex scares the crap out of me.

I vaguely remember some "preppie murder" case in the '80's about some guy who strangled his girlfriend during sex - his defense was that she'd asked for it, and it was an accident. I guess mistakes can be made...

Frankly, mixing violence and sex makes me a bit queasy. If my lover asked me to strangle her during sex, I'm not entirely sure how I'd react...

 

[Etoile]

It's interesting how different words can give different connotations.

I don't usually call it strangulation; I'm not sure why. I most often call it choking; people over on the BDSM Talk board tend to say "choking" too I think. Strangulation just sounds like premeditated murder to me, for some reason, while choking doesn't.

 

[Jezebelle1458]

i have had 1 very experienced lover do this with me.it took a lot of trust on my part and he did know what he was doing. still,i dont kinow if i could trust anyone else doing this.it was very intense! but the key words are knowledge and trust!!

 

[intrigued]

I have no opinion to offer, but I can say that my friends husband died doing this, in the basement of a church of all places. He was doing whatever this is called, and died, hanging from the ceiling.

 

[fond of facials]

I enjoy being choked during sex immensely. Only with his hands though. I'd only trust my husband to do it, but I find it extremely erotic. I like it pretty hard, it's left light bruises before, but we're careful.

 

[Jezebelle1458]

did'nt leave bruising on me. this lover really knows his shit tho! one of the best i've ever had....and it's surprising that he's so young. back to subject. it's something i dont know if i would ever try again,but if your in doubt...dont.

 

[ReadyOne]

Consider pressing on the sides of the neck where the pressure points are that close down the arteries to the head. Do this right and the person faints.

Has anyone tried it (had it done to them)? Can someone keep you on the edge of passing out, or coming in and out of conscieness?

Is the effect similar to strangulation? And maybe safer?

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Consider pressing on the sides of the neck where the pressure points are that close down the arteries to the head. Do this right and the person faints.

Has anyone tried it (had it done to them)? Can someone keep you on the edge of passing out, or coming in and out of conscieness?

Is the effect similar to strangulation? And maybe safer?

My partner and I do this, and the effect, mentally, is similar to strangulation for me. I have never lost consciousness to it, as he doesn't hold on hard enough for that, but it has made me dizzy, and made the orgasms WAY more powerful. *grin*

 

[Jezebelle1458]

my partner did'nt use his hands. he used his forearms,crossed at my neck,so they were lightly resting on pressure points. no, i never passed out. he took it almost to that point then backed off the pressure just before i would have.like i said,if your going to try doing this you or your partner had better know what they are doing.

 

[DuchessMorgan]

I experienced this, sort of by accident once....his hand slipped up and around my neck and I was very surprised to find that it seriously turned me on! I couldn't even tell you why, really. Perhaps it is the control....I hope to experience this again some time, perhaps with the man I am currently dating.

 

[Etoile]

I experienced this, sort of by accident once....his hand slipped up and around my neck and I was very surprised to find that it seriously turned me on! I couldn't even tell you why, really. Perhaps it is the control....I hope to experience this again some time, perhaps with the man I am currently dating.

By accident, eh? You sure about that?

 

[Jezebelle1458]

thats what i was wondering. hmmm,hands just slip up and around neck....ohhhh kkkk.well,long as it came out well....*snicker*

 

[overthebow]

it's called erotic asphyxiation.

I am a big fan of it.

Here are some photos of a time when I didn't work out so well. These are crime scene photos of a cross dresser who was practicing self autoerotic asphyxiation.

They are morbid. Look at your own peril.

http://poetry.rotten.com/crossdressphyxia/

 

[DuchessMorgan]

I only say "accident" because it wasn't intentional. He was running his hand over my breasts and as he reached my neck, he saw my reaction and decided to take it a bit further. Either way, it was my first and only experience with this and I have never forgotten about it!

 

[Etoile]

Are you sure it wasn't intentional? Perhaps he wanted to see if you would be into it as much as he might be.

I accept that it could have been an accident, but it seems unlikely!

 

[hotchkiss]

This is fascinating reading, quite inspiring and has the creative juices flowing already

Rgds HK

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=151922