Ejaculate-less orgasm?

[mugman]

Recently experienced this for the second time. Very intense. More intense than regular orgasm, more total body thing. I'm in my 50's & never experienced this before. I like it, but have any other males (or ladies... your partners) experienced this? Thanks for any help in advance.

 

[naughtygirl69s]

Care to elaborate? What exactly did you do and how did you do it?

Are you saying you ejaculated less but had a better orgasm?

I thought men had less ejaculate when they got older, hmm whadda I know?

 

[Volz]

Care to elaborate? What exactly did you do and how did you do it?

Are you saying you ejaculated less but had a better orgasm?

I thought men had less ejaculate when they got older, hmm whadda I know?

I think he's talking about having an orgasm but not ejaculating at all.


As far as I know, my husband has never experienced this, but it would be awesome. I for one would think it was very sexy that I turned him on that he could have an orgasm w/o cumming.

 

[mugman]

Explain, duh!

Sorry should have been more detailed. My lady & I had been making love off & on for about 2 hours (she is quite multi-orgasmic & I don't take all the credit). I am an older guy & I do use (ocassionally) a Levitra. I was Levitra-ed on this morning. Anyway... as my partner in crime was having her third or fouth very intense orgasm from intercourse, I, simultaneously, felt all the contractions of an ejaculation (without a drop of ejaculate) PLUS the most intense, pleasurable total body contractions & spasms. They lasted about 20 sec.. No ejaculate... still hard... ready to continue after some tender caresses & nuzzling. I'm not intending to brag. But I'm very curious to visit that feeling again. Naughtygirl - thanks for the interest. Have you ever seen this in a partner or heard of it?

 

[mugman]

Absolutely again

Hell yes - I'm trying for this again. Volz - thank you for your interest. Yes, my lady had a big grin on her face at what wonders two bodies can accomplish!!!!!!!

 

[yodaboy]

I had been trying to do what you experienced for a long time my self.

I would constantly bring my self to the edge of orgasm then back off, it resulted in masturbation sessions that lasted up to 8 hours. But in the end I would always have a normal orgasm....

Then I entered a stable relationship and all my practice got put on the back burner.

My gf then went to visit family overseas for 3 months in that time I rediscovered my little interest, its more or less tantric sex, but with your own hand

I finally got to the point I climaxed without ejaculation. The first session was a little scary because by the 10th orgasm I felt it was time to finally let it out because each one was taking longer and longer and I was getting tired.... but when I wanted something to come out nothing did. Number 11 the same thing happened. So I gave up at that point and fell asleep dead tired and a little sore, in the morning it tried for a good old single shot session and the equipment worked like it should.

any way I practiced a few more times and gained a pretty good control over it, it seems the first one of the session is the hardest to suppress but from the on it gets easier to have a dry orgasm.

The one side effect I noticed is when my gf got back it was almost impossible for her to get me off. Outercourse if the only way to get close (she is a virgin and I respect that, so no intercourse for us), her hands and mouth don’t seem to provide enough stimulation any more. And although outercourse is fun it’s a tad messy if I cant suppress the first one, so we don’t do that a lot now. So now I end up giving her quite a few orgasm’s while I have none myself. After 3~5 for her she is starting to become to sensitive to stay aroused and I’m just getting going......

So yea... it’s a cool trick but it does have draw backs (not that your gf will complain).

Does any one with more experience got suggestions how I can gain that last little bit of control im lacking to insure its either dry or wet depending on my desire? its pretty ok on my own but harder with her as more often its wet then dry.

 

[mugman]

Anyone else?

Thanks Yodaboy for your input. Yes it was after more-than-a-few very close, 'almost' orgasms that I experienced what you call a 'dry orgasm'. VERY intense! And YES it was difficult for me to actually cum (we did though!), but I chalked that up to common Levitra side-effects. Any others that have had the pleasure?

 

[mugman]

Masturbating?

Sorry, have never tried while masturbating. But lately I haven't been there much (not that there's anything wrong with that!)

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

I've read the detailed versions of the tantric sex, etc. But for us who like the cliff notes ... how did you do this, yodaboy?

 

[naughtygirl69s]

I had been trying to do what you experienced for a long time my self.

I would constantly bring my self to the edge of orgasm then back off, it resulted in masturbation sessions that lasted up to 8 hours. But in the end I would always have a normal orgasm....

Then I entered a stable relationship and all my practice got put on the back burner.

My gf then went to visit family overseas for 3 months in that time I rediscovered my little interest, its more or less tantric sex, but with your own hand

I finally got to the point I climaxed without ejaculation. The first session was a little scary because by the 10th orgasm I felt it was time to finally let it out because each one was taking longer and longer and I was getting tired.... but when I wanted something to come out nothing did. Number 11 the same thing happened. So I gave up at that point and fell asleep dead tired and a little sore, in the morning it tried for a good old single shot session and the equipment worked like it should.

any way I practiced a few more times and gained a pretty good control over it, it seems the first one of the session is the hardest to suppress but from the on it gets easier to have a dry orgasm.

The one side effect I noticed is when my gf got back it was almost impossible for her to get me off. Outercourse if the only way to get close (she is a virgin and I respect that, so no intercourse for us), her hands and mouth don’t seem to provide enough stimulation any more. And although outercourse is fun it’s a tad messy if I cant suppress the first one, so we don’t do that a lot now. So now I end up giving her quite a few orgasm’s while I have none myself. After 3~5 for her she is starting to become to sensitive to stay aroused and I’m just getting going......

So yea... it’s a cool trick but it does have draw backs (not that your gf will complain).

Does any one with more experience got suggestions how I can gain that last little bit of control im lacking to insure its either dry or wet depending on my desire? its pretty ok on my own but harder with her as more often its wet then dry.

I COMPLETELY ENVY YOU and if I EVER find a guy that can do this, I AM SO THERE. I think tantric sex is HOT, but doesn't matter how much I practice, I always send myself over the edge, seems I can't stop.....guess i dont' have enough control yet, KUDOS TO YOU!

 

[DivineClaud]

oh man i have experienced this today..lol. I'm glad i ain't alone on this..i don't know why it won't do it anymore today...maybe i just masturbate too much..i dunno its kinda freaky. You can feel it coming...and nothing happens. lol. Imma see if things get back to normal for me tomorrow lol.

 

[yodaboy]

I COMPLETELY ENVY YOU and if I EVER find a guy that can do this, I AM SO THERE. I think tantric sex is HOT, but doesn't matter how much I practice, I always send myself over the edge, seems I can't stop.....guess i dont' have enough control yet, KUDOS TO YOU!

ahhh stop you will make me blush

You just need to know the right places to look, don’t go looking for a sex god, just some nice romantic guy, if he doesn’t know how he will probably be willing to learn.

As for yourself..... remember the fun is in the trying, practice, practice, practice.

 

[cummybear]

OK... we've had several state how wonderful this is.... I'm on board...

HOW DO YOU DO IT??

 

[yodaboy]

oh man i have experienced this today..lol. I'm glad i ain't alone on this..i don't know why it won't do it anymore today...maybe i just masturbate too much..i dunno its kinda freaky. You can feel it coming...and nothing happens. lol. Imma see if things get back to normal for me tomorrow lol.

Doh, I was about to write out them cliff notes for SlvrTongueDevil then your post popped up……so let me respond to you then do some typing for SlvrTongueDevil… you all don’t mind me being a bit of a post count whore?… I have a lot of people to catch up to

So yea time for my advice to you DivineClaud, just chill out and relax, if you get stressed over it now you might destroy a good thing.

Just wait till tomorrow and go for a normal one, don’t hold it back just to make sure it’s all working like it should be.

The day after your normal one if you have the time try again for an ejaculate-less orgasm ( or 10 ) then just keep practicing

 

[yodaboy]

ok for cummybear and SlvrTongueDevil..... im typing my little 'how to' right now and will edit this post when its done...... give me a hour or so it could be big..


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Ok… where to start? Ummm… firstly a disclaimer, this is not something you can expect to be doing right away, it seems some guys stumble on to it by accident and some have to work at it. So don’t expect great results really fast.


Step 1:
On your own or with your partner just go about your normal activities but as you get close to coming either let go or pull out.

This stage is really about 2 things:

1) Getting to know about your own body, about learning when are getting close, (most of you should already know how to do this) (think about the clichéd bits in the stories we all love where they guy whispers to the girl; “I’m getting close babe” that’s the feeling you need to be aware of).

2) And the other the point is to learn to STOP and not push your self over the edge.

You want to completely stop stimulation relatively early before your orgasm, just relax then continue on, as you get close again stop and relax.

Go through this cycle a few times (the more the better) each session.

When you’re always able to resist the temptation to continue on to orgasm you move to step 2….


Step 2:
In this stage you are repeating the same cycle that you were doing in stage 1 but the difference is each time you will be stopping stimulation just a little closer to climax.

Eventually when you can get really close but still back off you will want to learn to leave your hand there, or assuming you’re with a partner just stop moving. Let her know to stop because one little twitch of her muscles and you could go over the edge.


Step 3:
When you can get to the very peek and refrain form climax the next stage is to actually focus on allowing it to both “happen but not happen at the same time”.

You want to let your orgasm start but try to stop it right after it happens.

At first you will only be able to hold it back for tiny amounts of time, like a half second abut you will build on it each time.

Eventually you will get to the point you can complealy hold it all back you will be having the sensation of an extend orgasm, 20+ seconds (maybe up to a minute, by dam it’s hard to tell time when your in that state). The orgasm will pass and you should still be hard and can continue on towards another.

The second one is much easier to repress and the third easier again. Each one will take longer and longer to get too and at the very and don’t be surprised if you just can’t reach that last one no matter how much you want it.

At that stage call it a night and do something else. You might be a little uncomfortable but don’t worry that’s normal. The next day relive your self like normal if you worry that the experience damaged something (a lot of guys will think that when they come down from the high of the first time).

Try again for a multi when your up for it and enjoy your self.


Step 4: (this is where I’m at now, so some one else might have to add something)

Finally just continue to work on your control, try to get to the point you can consciously decide if you want a wet or dry orgasm each time one approaches.

Practice through continual stimulation as this is something that’s likely to trigger a wet one when you actually want a dry one…

Lastly just have fun, that’s what it’s all about.

Finished!

I wish I could write my university assignments so fast! If any one had any thing to add or questions post away! (be nice about spelling and grammar, I rushed this out)

If people are interested I can explain the tanta side, I kind of skipped all that because it’s just not needed. Some web pages will tell you how Tanta/multi-orgasms is a very spiritual thing... although I can see how it got associated with it because of the intense highs it can give you its really just leaning to control muscles that normally have an involuntary response.

And maybe this thread is now black manual material……

I hope that helps some people out!

 

[Theo Kojak]

Some prescription meds can cauae this to happen.Called a retrograde ejaculation,instead of comming out it goes backwards into the bladder.I had it for awhile,then changed some meds and it stopped.I can't remember the meds that caused it.

 

[Quoll]

Done it a few times never really practiced anything, just stop what I`m doing when I get close, do something else for a while.
Have read about it a few times, it`s nice when it happens.
Found this.

 

[mugman]

My experience is limited...

In my two experiences, both were during longer then usual lovemaking sessions (for whatever reasons). My lady loves to cum & I love to please her. Ergo the longer I can last (because at my age my refractory(sp) period is a while), the more enjoyment I can give to my lover. I do not stop when I'm close, I slow down stoking in & out until the urge to ejaculate passes. In the two 'body orgasms' I didn't concsciously do anything different. I think it was just the build up from 6 or 7 near orgasms (for me, she made it to the top). Also my lady climaxes completely with each close call for me. But when I have a 'body orgasm' she says her cum is more intense too. I also can ejaculate when we continue. Usually 20 to 30 minutes of more lovemaking following the 'body orgasm'. Again I'm not trying to brag, this wasn't planned. Of course now I'm trying to get there again whenever possible (with my lady's encouagement).Hope my experience can be helpful. Would be interested in other's experiences too.

 

[mikeofokc]

It's all between our ears.

*****

 

[yodaboy]

mikeofokc,

Nice post you make some interesting points.

Being new to the forums doesn't make you a rookie, it just makes you new to the forums . I have been a long time reader but only popped my posting cherry a few months ago too, the people here are an awsome bunch and will take your views and experiences just as seriously if your post count is 1 or 1000 (unless your a compleat ass of course, then you might get flamed )

Any way, I wanted to back you up on that point there is a mental component too it. What I didn't say is that when I have tried this on my own it was while reading stories or after I had been writing my own, not while watching porn. When it was with my GF it was the big long sessions where I started out being more intent on giving her the pleasure then my self, after a few hours I was aroused enough to start having the non ejaculating type.

Seems it's not an uncommon thing. Really the only components needed are a few close calls and long periods of arousal.

My little how to might not be needed to experience this but I like to think its given me a lot more conscious control over it.

So any way keep the post coming I'm really enjoying this thread.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

been there...

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[Foeh]

I don't know, but i think i experienced the same feeling before,
Orgasm, but i'm not ejaculate, and after that i feel so tired, yet my cock still hard, i wonder, it's happen after some long session of masturbation, on and off, on and off..

will try to learn the technique, thanks guys!

 

[nycphoto]

I say it would be time to start looking at the small print that is inserted into every pharmasutical product these days. It could be that having a dry orgasom is a bad sign. There could be a block flow that is caused as a side effect by the drug. Seman not ejaculated will just die off so there is no problem there, however you should look into this situation by visiting the pharmasutal company that you purchase the drug from. You should look through the clinical studies that fit, or are similar to your situation.
If there is conclusive evidence that this is a side effect you should prehaps change your drug while looking over the side effects of the new drug that you are switching to.
After studing these clinical studies which by law are in the public relam you should visit your doctor and ask him to give you a check up and make sure your prostate is okay. While I am not the leading authority in these matter years of workining for pharmasuticals allowed me to see some see that if you truly want to know about a drug you must research these documents. You must understand that your doctor will prescribe the drug that best suits him. In other words if the drug rep gave him more insentive to scrtipt drug a over drug b that works similar the doctor will write a script for drug a. So please make sure you know the side effects of these drugs. It may be nothing to worry about hoever you need to know.

 

[mugman]

Healthy as a horse!

Appreciate the concern & headsup, nycphoto. I've recently (& yearly) had a physical & am healthy as a horse. I did not include, but my first 'body orgasm' occured without the aid of Levitra, so I'm not worried at all. Also I can cum (with ejaculation) 'normally'. This is definitely not a bad thing, these 'body orgasms' are great!!! I will be exploring returning there & controlling in the future (hell, as often as we can). Very appreciative of all the responses & shared experiences. I wonder if any other ladies would share their take, if they have had the pleasure? Is it as good for you as it was for my lady?

 

[milman]

Have inadvertantly done this, but it was'nt all good for me.

Explanation: Had a worsening with time, " premature" problem, decided to give the muscle strengthing " kegel " process a try.
Short version, kegeling worked perfectly, can go quite a while now. I have the muscle control to stop ejaculation in its tracks, but if theres enough continueing stimulation, I still will orgasm, just without ejaculating.

This is NOT desirable, sort of like getting your ice cream sunday, but noticing they forgot the cherry on top.

This means I still have the " downtime" before I can perform again, the same oversensitivity for a bit that comes with a normal orgasm, even though the erection continues on, and there was no ejaculation.

The solution for me was to rely a bit less on muscle control to delay the orgasm, and more on pacing to lengthin the encounter, and then use the muscle control to make the orgasm itself more powerful.

I was never a " shooter" before, more of a dribbler, . Now I'm a shooter!