Does literotica ever depress you?

[M-Y-Erotica]

Does reading the stories or message boards on literotica ever depress you? I don't mean reading intentionally sad stories. That's one thing. What I am talking about is reading a message where someone wants something to be done to them or loves doing something with someone else. Most of the time my reaction is "how sexy" or "ooh, that's fun." But sometimes I get tears in my eyes because I think "that will never ever be me. I will never get to do that."

 

[bisexplicit]

I cry my eyes out every night 'cause I'll never fuck my boyfriend with a strap-on.

Sorry, but I just can't see how you can actually become depressed over something like that...

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

Laughing. Thanks for bringing me back to earth. I wasn't actually thinking about that in particular or anything of that sort. I have in mind an emotion, a desire, and a moment that is often described and which I feel is often missing from my life, but I get your point.

 

[Sybarist]

I'm not sure about depressed exactly, but maybe jealous is a better word in some cases??

The posts that get me the most are the ones about things going wrong in relationships that are obviously doomed or unhealthy. I find it hard to watch the original poster defend (usually vigorously) something that has cost them their individuality......

Syb.

 

[fgarvb1]

Does reading the stories or message boards on literotica ever depress you? I don't mean reading intentionally sad stories. That's one thing. What I am talking about is reading a message where someone wants something to be done to them or loves doing something with someone else. Most of the time my reaction is "how sexy" or "ooh, that's fun." But sometimes I get tears in my eyes because I think "that will never ever be me. I will never get to do that."

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With the grace of God and a little luck my new relationships and exploring and re-exploring the wild side of one or more sex partners is over with for me.

Life is...unexpectedly given to changes. You have no ideal even if you will be alive six months from now much less who you will be with and what kind of sex you will be having.

Trust me, Been there done that! Several times.

Learning to be content with life is one of the greatest satisfactions.

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

congrats sybarist

I just wanted to say congrats to Sybarist. I looked at your bio and you've been with your partner for 16 years. That totally makes me happy. Not depressed, not jealous, just happy.

 

[AppleBiter]

Um, no.

 

[SweetErika]

Laughing. Thanks for bringing me back to earth. I wasn't actually thinking about that in particular or anything of that sort. I have in mind an emotion, a desire, and a moment that is often described and which I feel is often missing from my life, but I get your point.

I'm curious, M-Y...what is that emotion, desire, and moment that you feel you're missing?

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

Hm. I promised myself when I joined literotica to stay fairly anonymous and not get personal. Let's see. It's that I want her to really want me. Not to be quiet, or to be embarassed, but to want something so much she cab barely stand the wait. The various physical acts are just manifestations of this desire, and that desire is what I want.

 

[Eilan]

I don't read the stories very often, unless I'm directed to things that my Lit acquaintances have written.

Sometimes, for whatever reason, stuff that gets posted on the boards bothers me, and when that happens, I step away for a while.

 

[SweetErika]

Hm. I promised myself when I joined literotica to stay fairly anonymous and not get personal. Let's see. It's that I want her to really want me. Not to be quiet, or to be embarassed, but to want something so much she cab barely stand the wait. The various physical acts are just manifestations of this desire, and that desire is what I want.

Okay, I get that. Personally, I've found it helpful to consider people feel and express desire in different ways. Sometimes I've slipped into thinking my husband doesn't have it, but then I see all of the little things that contradict that notion and realize he just feels and shows it differently.

I think it's easy to get sucked into the idea that things should be a certain way, and that leads to the thought that something's missing, even if it's not. I've learned (especially here) to really look for and be appreciative of what I have, as opposed to comparing it to how others live or what it "should be." When I take that perspective, depression is impossible.

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

Okay, I get that. Personally, I've found it helpful to consider people feel and express desire in different ways. Sometimes I've slipped into thinking my husband doesn't have it, but then I see all of the little things that contradict that notion and realize he just feels and shows it differently.

I think it's easy to get sucked into the idea that things should be a certain way, and that leads to the thought that something's missing, even if it's not. I've learned (especially here) to really look for and be appreciative of what I have, as opposed to comparing it to how others live or what it "should be." When I take that perspective, depression is impossible.

I think you are wonderfully smart.

 

[EndCredits]

I wouldn't say depressing, but there are some (especially first time stories) that have just the right combination of eroticism and poignancy that it's just like "well that's never gonna happen to me." But of course, they're mostly fantasies and they're fantasies for a reason.

 

[SweetErika]

I think you are wonderfully smart.

Nah, I just think way too much.

But thank you, that's very kind.

 

[Sybarist]

Thanks M-Y-Erotica!

I was raised to belive that a relationship takes a lot of time and effort, and it's not just something to try on for a bit and then slip into something more interesting... That and the fact that I still find my husband incredibly hot (He says it's just because I'm a nympho.. ) has gotten us through some of lifes ups and downs relatively unscathed...

I think that SweetErika has hit the nail right on the head. I'm quoting her again:

Personally, I've found it helpful to consider people feel and express desire in different ways.
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I think it's easy to get sucked into the idea that things should be a certain way, and that leads to the thought that something's missing, even if it's not. I've learned (especially here) to really look for and be appreciative of what I have, as opposed to comparing it to how others live or what it "should be." When I take that perspective, depression is impossible.

Syb.

 

[ZGuy32]

Every single day.

 

[stolenink]

Does reading the stories or message boards on literotica ever depress you? I don't mean reading intentionally sad stories. That's one thing. What I am talking about is reading a message where someone wants something to be done to them or loves doing something with someone else. Most of the time my reaction is "how sexy" or "ooh, that's fun." But sometimes I get tears in my eyes because I think "that will never ever be me. I will never get to do that."

Seeing as I am 31 years old, have 2 FANTASTIC kids, and been with my GFfor 6 years, I have not had ANY sexual contact in neary 2 years!! Literotica intensely depresses me. I have a very high sex drive, and I am terminally depressedreadingabout the things other people get up to, and I am missing out on. It drives me nuts. I am the sort of bloke that would give anything a try, but frigidity ishell on earth...

 

[naxalite0906]

Seeing as I am 31 years old, have 2 FANTASTIC kids, and been with my GFfor 6 years, I have not had ANY sexual contact in neary 2 years!! Literotica intensely depresses me. I have a very high sex drive, and I am terminally depressedreadingabout the things other people get up to, and I am missing out on. It drives me nuts. I am the sort of bloke that would give anything a try, but frigidity ishell on earth...

I agree with this... maybe not as bluntly as he put it..

This place is amazing.. it has helped me on many occaisions as people have been there for me to talk to as well as offering fantastic advice. The down side is, sometimes it also really makes you realise what you are missing out on.. You read about the different lifestyles and things people try and are curious to try it for yourself, but as some as you know.. my current situation doesnt allow this right now..

I wouldnt say it depresses me completely. but gets me down every once in a while as i wonder about "what if"?

 

[bobsgirl]

Most of the time my reaction is "how sexy" or "ooh, that's fun." But sometimes I get tears in my eyes because I think "that will never ever be me. I will never get to do that."

The quick answer, MYE, is yes. I thoroughly identify with the feeling of envy. MrB and I have been together for 30+ years, and it is what it is. The victory is in learning to be content, as fgarvb1 said.

My sadness comes from the fact that I hate change, and I've seen members of this board come and go, and I miss the ones who are no longer here. Can't do anything about the ones that leave, but I'm learning that no matter who is posting or not posting, the feeling of community is still here. At least it is at the HT Cafe.

 

[covariant]

The quick answer, MYE, is yes. I thoroughly identify with the feeling of envy. MrB and I have been together for 30+ years, and it is what it is. The victory is in learning to be content, as fgarvb1 said.

Well said. The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself. I am struggling with this too...

 

[asian_princess]

Not so much depresses...but i blame Lit for my melancholy this late monday night ( ok, i'm just sleep deprived haha) because through lit (full of amazing ppl as you all know) i met the most amazing man. Just breathtakingly, speechlessness rendering (and you don't don't know what a fear that is to perform over me!) sexy, amazing, man. But he sleeps in his bed tens of thousands of miles away tonight...as i sit here wondering where it all will lead.

Bittersweetness is a wonderful taste.

But with him I know I'll be able to play out all the naughty kinky little things I've ooohed and ahhed over in Lit...

I hope you find that person for you too M-Y-Erotica...we're all rooting for ya!

 

[Munachi]

well not depress - but make me wonder... particularly about the difference in attitude of the majority of guys here vs the majority of guys i have been sexually involved with.

 

[M's girl]

well not depress - but make me wonder... particularly about the difference in attitude of the majority of guys here vs the majority of guys i have been sexually involved with.

Yeah..... ditto....

By the way, your sig is very funny

 

[human_male]

Yeah it depresses me a bit. Mostly because I feel a bit ignored sometimes and I wonder if I'm invisible or just really uninteresting. Sometimes I feel like I'm back in school where you have to be one of the cool kids for anyone to talk to you. And I've been here for a couple of years and I don't have one friend to show for it.

And everyone seems to be getting it but me, so definately jealousy. There are amazing women here and I know I'll never meet anyone like them.

On the up side you can certainly kill some time here.

 

[BXGemini20]

Not depressed. A bit jealous? Yes.