Does being in a new relationship make people hit on you?

[LucyH]

People say this. Nobody shows the slightest interest, and then you get into a relationship and *poof* people are coming out of the woodwork trying to get you to go out with them.

Has this been your experience?
Has anyone ever tried to figure out whether this is actually true or not, in a scientific kinda way?

 

[sufisaint]

It has been my experience and i think it is for two reasons, first you are giving off happy vibes and second when it does not matter talking to the opposite sex is easy and fun...

 

[sweepthefloor]

I always wanted to be hit on.

 

[Liar]

Single people arise suspicion. Must be something wrong with them if nobody wants them, right?

Being in a relationship erases that suspicion.

 

[sweepthefloor]

I knew it. There is something wrong with me. I always suspected that.

 

[Liar]

Also, chatting up someone who is taken is face-saving. If they don't show any interrest or they turn out to be not your type, you always have an easy out in "What? I wasn't hitting on you, just making small talk. I know you have a girlfriend. Jeez."

If you come on to someone who is solo and they turn out to be a weirdo, you're stuck on Socially Awkward Street trying to untangle from it.

 

[JohnnySavage]

Single people arise suspicion. Must be something wrong with them if nobody wants them, right?

Being in a relationship erases that suspicion.

 

[Farrah]

Also, chatting up someone who is taken is face-saving. If they don't show any interrest or they turn out to be not your type, you always have an easy out in "What? I wasn't hitting on you, just making small talk. I know you have a girlfriend. Jeez."

If you come on to someone who is solo and they turn out to be a weirdo, you're stuck on Socially Awkward Street trying to untangle from it.

Your theories are better than any I've ever come up with.

 

[Liar]

Don't hate the player. Hate the game.


Well, I'm not a player either. Just a deliverer of astute albeit cynical observations.

 

[Saint Peter]

Sucks.

 

[Bert Notorius]

People say this. Nobody shows the slightest interest, and then you get into a relationship and *poof* people are coming out of the woodwork trying to get you to go out with them.

Has this been your experience?
Has anyone ever tried to figure out whether this is actually true or not, in a scientific kinda way?

Not for the last 29 years.

 

[fluffPE]

Not for the last 29 years.

You are old!

 

[Saint Peter]

You are old!

Dog years.

 

[Bert Notorius]

You are old!

Marriage will do that to a person.

 

[Angellica1612]

Dog years.

Dog years. LOL~

 

[KRCummings]

I've been in a relationship for 20 years so I can't really remember if I got hit on when it was new but I was in college then so I probably did. Not that I'm all that but I've been hit on most of my life. Most women have. We get used to it and sorta stop noticing until people stop hitting on us. Then we notice cuz it usually means we got fat or old.
Anywho all that basically means is that I don't know if it was different when I was new in the relationship but I sorta doubt it. Men don't care if we're married or dating or on the lookout, they just care if we're giving it up.

 

[RAddams]

People say this. Nobody shows the slightest interest, and then you get into a relationship and *poof* people are coming out of the woodwork trying to get you to go out with them.

Has this been your experience?
Has anyone ever tried to figure out whether this is actually true or not, in a scientific kinda way?

People want something they can't have much more than when they can have it. They can also sense the heightened level of happiness experienced during the early part of a new relationship.

 

[CandiCame]

Single people arise suspicion. Must be something wrong with them if nobody wants them, right?

Being in a relationship erases that suspicion.

Yeah, women can actually smell if other women like you- apparently, I read a research study on this, but I don't have it right on me- it was on psychinfo- but they had these rats that had mates, vs single rats, and all the ladies went to the dude that they could smell the mate on. The logic apparently being, "That guy's not a loser- he gets laid." Our brains are wired similarly. The rat that didn't smell like lady rats didn't get any rat-action. Wait, I actually think he did, but statistically significantly less rat-action then the non-loser rats. I do think that rats are known to be less selective then human women, though, so I'd say the descrepency in the human game would be even wider.

Now, I'm wondering if I can get around that whole thing just by wearing perfume- if women are judging me mostly by smell. Or I might just have to be this guy:

http://www.adrants.com/images/old_spice_on_a_horse.jpg

Whom I have long suspected to be a djinn.

 

[LucyH]

Interesting about the rats. I wonder if it was just the smell or if little rodent happy vibes had something to do with it.

 

[fluffPE]

Yeah, women can actually smell if other women like you- apparently, I read a research study on this, but I don't have it right on me- it was on psychinfo- but they had these rats that had mates, vs single rats, and all the ladies went to the dude that they could smell the mate on. The logic apparently being, "That guy's not a loser- he gets laid." Our brains are wired similarly. The rat that didn't smell like lady rats didn't get any rat-action. Wait, I actually think he did, but statistically significantly less rat-action then the non-loser rats. I do think that rats are known to be less selective then human women, though, so I'd say the descrepency in the human game would be even wider.

Now, I'm wondering if I can get around that whole thing just by wearing perfume- if women are judging me mostly by smell. Or I might just have to be this guy:

http://www.adrants.com/images/old_spice_on_a_horse.jpg

Whom I have long suspected to be a djinn.

You have a lot of time on your hands.

 

[fluffPE]

I've been in a relationship for 20 years so I can't really remember if I got hit on when it was new but I was in college then so I probably did. Not that I'm all that but I've been hit on most of my life. Most women have. We get used to it and sorta stop noticing until people stop hitting on us. Then we notice cuz it usually means we got fat or old.
Anywho all that basically means is that I don't know if it was different when I was new in the relationship but I sorta doubt it. Men don't care if we're married or dating or on the lookout, they just care if we're giving it up.

I want you!

 

[CandiCame]

You have a lot of time on your hands.

I had to read it for Stats.

And my rat is just not getting laid.

 

[fluffPE]

I had to read it for Stats.

And my rat is just not getting laid.

Ugly Rat?

 

[ivantheterrible]

seems to be that way. when i was married i had passes made at me at least once a month. they knew i was married even though i never wore a ring. one even wanted to have sex in a cave where i worked once.

i thought, why don't women do this when i wasn't married?

 

[LucyH]

seems to be that way. when i was married i had passes made at me at least once a month. they knew i was married even though i never wore a ring. one even wanted to have sex in a cave where i worked once.

i thought, why don't women do this when i wasn't married?

You worked in a cave? Cool! Or do you mean you just worked somewhere with a cave nearby.