Does anyone still believe in "Love"?

[jazey_43]

Been in here for just a short time now...and am wondering

(after reading a bunch of threads)...are there any men out there

who still believe in Love?...and Romance?...and making love

instead of "fucking"? I am 42, and after being truly in love only

once in my life, , it looks to me as if Romance has been pushed

out the door.

 

[slowfingers1]

Wow, what do you consider "truly in love"? Maybe I just fall in love too easilly.. but I've been in love 4 times.. in love enough to at least think about spending the rest of my life with that person once, is that true love?

Yes, I believe in love, and romance, I've made love with someone that I love more times than I once thought I ever would.. I think it's more difficult to find love as we grow older, I personally have no @#$% clue where to meet women.. but I continue to believe, and I continue to look

Slowfingers
*Tease me!*

 

[slowfingers1]

Jazey, clean out yer mailbox por favor

Slowfingers
*Tease me!*

 

[jazey_43]

hang in there....

.......and never give up! I had to chuckle at your "fall in love" too

easy comment. I used to be the same way, till I met that certain

someone.....and finally, after many years of life, and also being

married I found out what "real" love was. I was amazed at what

I felt. And you're right..it's harder to come by as you get older, but

it's also more real and intense.

And I don't know where to meet men either!

 

[metalpalace]

I have never been in ove but yes i believe in it. And i lov eromance and sensual things.

Hi jazey

 

[slowfingers1]

Ah I'll never give up, I'm a hopeless romantic

I was going to send you a PM thanking you for getting Huey Lewis's "Do you believe in love" stuck in my head

This would be a great place to meet people if people werent so darn paranoid.. I was chatting with someone the other night and she told me what she did for a living, I asked her where, and she wouldnt say.. as if knowing what state she was in would enable me to suddenly track her down and kill her.. yeesh

Do we get more picky as we grow older? I had a relationship recently with a woman that I think I would have fallen head over heels for when I was younger (I'm 31 now.. ancient! jk), but I just didnt.. part of me thought I did, but another part of me was screaming "DONT!", warning signs flashing in my head.. who knows

Slowfingers
*Tease me!*

 

[jazey_43]

did it

......Slow.......cleaned it out!!!


Metal....hi baby!!!

just e-mailed ya!

 

[metalpalace]

i am going there now! thank you

 

[metalpalace]

I dont have it, where did you email me at?

 

[Jenner]

Pain and happiness

I am a person who enjoys sex. I am a swinger or can be. Sometimes it depends on my mood. Sometimes I don't want anyone at all.

I've been in love twice now and when I fall, I fall hard. The first woman could not handle the distance issue and the relationship fell apart. I was crushed for months. In fact it's been two years, and though she ended things ugly, I have forgiven and think of her still. We made love. We walked together, we did everything together. Until I had to go off to college where I wouldn't have continued the relationship unless she wanted to move. At first she did but then got too scared to leave her home and family.

The second is something else. She seemed to be like me in many ways. She was straight up honest, laughed hard and enjoyed art and music. But then the hiding started. After almost a year her friends move here. From that point our relationship could not exist in front of them or her co-workers or anyone outside of my friends. She started to want to be alone more and wouldn't answer calls at night. Saying she just wanted to be alone. But the hiding of our relationship, which I could never understand, took it's tole on me. She also didn't say I love you ever, nor give any physical and very limited verbal affections. I slowly became untrusting toward her. There was no solidarity to our relationship for me and arguments started but never finished. She always somehow made things okay just enough. Or for the most part I didn't want to lose someone I fell in love with again and did everything for her. I cooked, I grabbed her water, I massaged her feet almost everyday. Like a fool I kept trying to get her to want to love me the way I feel I should. The old me would not have put up with many things, and in the end I didn't. I don't trust who she is. Maybe I'm wrong; many friends have been telling me to leave for five or six months all for the same reasons.

In either case these woman didn't really want to swing. The first enjoyed several threesomes together. But for the most, it was just us, and I'm a firm believer in this. The problem is, it's bought me nothing but pain. I feel as though I'm not worth it, though eveyone tells me I am. Will I love again...I'd like to hope so. But for now I am content with having no one and getting my life and career in order.

PS There are several problems I think exist. I don't put career over love. A lot of messages are sent and ruin the true existence of what I consider love to be.

 

[jazey_43]

mail

Metal......I sent it to the addy you gave me...I'll try again...

 

[jazey_43]

mailed

Metal...check again sweetie!!!!

 

[metalpalace]

I got it! ok im writing you back in reply righ tnow... i await your reply to my reply.

 

[metalpalace]

k i wrote ya back, go and check hurry! hehe

 

[freshrope_69]

Been in here for just a short time now...and am wondering

(after reading a bunch of threads)...are there any men out there

who still believe in Love?...and Romance?...and making love

instead of "fucking"? I am 42, and after being truly in love only

once in my life, , it looks to me as if Romance has been pushed

out the door.

I have decided to give my opinion to this thread without reading any other post, but the opening post.

I believe in "love" and once it was "truly" love in my heart, soul, spirit, mind, and body.

My wife died 16 months after our marriage. Since as a boy of 7 years old I knew the kind of woman I would marry. I didn't look for her par se, but I always felt I would know her when the time was right.

She was in love with me and knew the first night she met me that I was to be her husband. It took me two days to know...that is the truth.

We were married 5 months later.

Four months after our marriage, my wife was discovered to be ill with cancer. Our son's permature birth happened a week later.

My wife died two days after our sons first birthday. I have raised him nearing alone most of his life. He is now 16 and I love him with all my heart. I see in him his mother everyday. It was a sad day when she passed away, yet she taught me so much. The world, her friends and family lost a talented, courageous, and a true friend when she died.

She is never forgotten and memories do last a life time.

I will forever miss her, but not look to replace her. I was blessed with a wonderful lover, great friend and beautiful wife. I could only hope that God was jealous of what we had together and felt the need for her and took her. If I was to "lose" her, as there was no greater man in her eyes than I, it had to be God's well.

I have always hope that there wasn't just one "soulmate" for a life time...cause if so...I had mine and I miss my friend...Linda...wife, mother, friend...

Do I believe in true love and romance? You damn right I do and will always know that it is true and possible.

 

[jazey_43]

sigh

Freshrope

Honey, I am so sorry for your loss. I too hope that we are not alotted just one Soulmate....becuase like you, if we were...mines gone. Thankfully not in the same way as yours, but gone none the less...and my Heart still yearns for him. I am hoping to someday, fill that aching, empty void that was left by my best friend, my soul, my heart!
I can only hope that as I recover from what I deem as my first real heartbreak, that I can hold onto an attitude such as yours....you give me inspiration!!!!!...and for that, I thank-you....I need damn near every bit I can grab onto.................Good luck, you very special man!!!

 

[Guest]

True love can happen more than once.

I posted this on another thread and thought that this thread is the place it should be.

Freshrope, I am sorry for you loss. I have lost friends and family many times, but the loss of true love can be devistating. In your case, part of your true love is always with you in your son. Be with him in mind, body and spirit and your true love is in your life for ever.

On with my origan post

Thomas

True love, happens MAYBE, once in a life time. I feel that in this grand ole world that we live in, there are 2 yes 2 true loves for every person.

Now, I believe you are very very lucky to find true love once. However, there is a second true love waiting in the wings for you. I don't believe you will find your 2nd true love while you are with your 1st true love. In order to find your 2nd true love, your 1st will have departed from this earth. It may take 1 month to 25 years or more to possibly find your 2nd true love and it could be you may never will, but a 2nd one is out there.

I consider myself very lucky to already have it with my wife.. I have been married twice and both times was with the same woman. I have never been divorced, but felt about 7 years ago that I wanted to marry her all over again. So, I did.(sounds a bit cornie, but that's me)

I know that what I have is true love because of the little things. For one example, she gets up at a very early time in order to get ready for work. I don't go into work sometimes until 2pm, but I get up with her almost every single day and eat breakfast with her. She constantly says that I don't have to get up that I need my rest and I just kinda grumble and say that we don't see much of each other because of our work schedule. The fact is, I don't know when the last time I will eat breakfast with her will be. One day we will eat breakfast and that will be the last time. Hopefully, that will be a long time to come.

 

[freshrope_69]

Love, Romance and SOULMATES...

Jazey_43

The way to get through, is One day at a time.
Realize that you are entitiled to your emotions, so cry when you feel the need to cry. Laugh at the silly shit that happens with your day. Smile always, it seems to help in that people ask less questions of you.

Most of all, allow yourself to let go when you want to let go and not before. Jazey_43, I don't know the details of your lost, but never forget, yet always know it was best to had love, than not loved at all...those words are so true.

If you ever need to release those emotions and need someone who is non-judgemental...I would listen....I wish you the best and hope only the best for you.

Have a beautiful day and know it isn't wrong to enjoy life.

Your new friend thru Lit BB's...Freshrope

 

[freshrope_69]

Re: True love can happen more than once.

I posted this on another thread and thought that this thread is the place it should be.

On with my origan post

Thomas

True love, happens MAYBE, once in a life time. I feel that in this grand ole world that we live in, there are 2 yes 2 true loves for every person.

I consider myself very lucky to already have it with my wife.. I have been married twice and both times was with the same woman...

I know that what I have is true love because of the little things... The fact is, I don't know when the last time I will eat breakfast with her will be. One day we will eat breakfast and that will be the last time. Hopefully, that will be a long time to come.

Thank you and such a beautiful testimory of the love you have for your wife.

My son asked me one day recently, that if his mother was still alive, would we still be married and in love? I never paused, I answered YES....I loved her, I will always have a special place in my heart for her.

I have had a great life. My son and I have lived in Europe and Asia. We have a simple home here in Kentucky, but it is warm and comfortable. We live on a "hill" where we can see for 20 miles in either direction. I have done the best I could in raising my son. He is well behaved and matter. He is a gentleman, who knows how to treat a woman (as far as he is experienced - lol), so I believe someday he will find his own SOULMATE and be happy forever.

For me, I continue to believe that someday...I, too, will find another...but in the mean time...I life each day to the fullest...

oh and a little ...lmao

 

[English Lady]

I'm quite obviously not a guy but I am going to add my words to this thread as the people before have inspired me to do so.

I am in love right now, He is my soulmate and I knew that from the first day we met. know it is love because He is part of me. I do not exsist as a whole person without him.


freshrope_69 you have truely been blessed with a great love in your life and you have such a wonderful way of retelling that love, I can tell it still burns in your soul and it always will


Love conquers all!

 

[Carp]

Jaz- there is true love, whole and encompassing- the kind that burns so bright within you that it consumes- leaving something new and wonderful in its place.


You, Jaz, are a god and kind person. Don't get discouraged or impatient. Love will find you again.

Just remember, if it was easy, everybody would be doing it...


Carp

 

[phoriner]

Here's How I Feel...

I wirte this after talking with a young Latino gang member in L.A. and sums up what thhis "tough" guy and I talked about regarding love and life...

This world can be hard, it sure as hell is cold;
It's not easy to admit I've got a sentimental side.
Cause life teaches us to never let it show;
And in the game of love, I've lost and I've tried.

Still, there's part of me that I wanna give away;
It's a crazy little feeling I can't explain.
I want someone who's cried in the sun -
I want somebody, who's made love in the rain...

So to hell with what everybody says -
I want to be in love, is that such a crime?
I listened to thos lies - had me mesmerized;
But I opened my eyes, and you were there all the time...

Snuggling by a fire still feels good -
A walk on the beach can lead to a kiss.
Holding someone in the dark still makes you feel safe;
And a dream come true, is better than a wish...

I long for a lover who takes my breath away;
Someone whose heart beats in rhythm with mine.
I listened to those lies - they kept me paralyzed;
Then I opened my eyes...you were there all the time...

Well, you can go through life tryin' to be hard -
But you'll still know that you're scared inside.
It's infinately better to have loved and lost;
Than to rot away alone...because you never tried...

 

[bozinka]

Oh, dear.. well, jumping right in here... and kick me right back out if you'd like, kay.

First, obviously, not a man, but there a quite a few women on here who also talk of just fucking... etc.. myself included....

I get tired of people who assume that is all I am about though. There is so much more to me than what I post, the pics I do. I am a real person, who has feelings, etc.

And, as for love... I believe in Love.... I am in a wonderful marriage to a wonderful, sweet, loving man.

Do I believe in True Love - NO!

What do I believe in - COMMITMENT! I believe that a lot of people have experienced love, in lots of ways. I have been "in love" with many people, and know a few I could have spent the rest of my life with. Why? Not only because they made me feel happy, in love, etc... but because I knew I would be Committed... to them. For better or for Worse... etc. I love my husband, don't get me wrong. But there are also times when I have hated him.... so was I still in love with him? I think we place too much importance on "love" these days.... love is great, friendship and attraction even better, but commitment is what makes a relationship work - if two are committed to each other, improving the relationship, etc....

Okay, so my two cents.... moving on now.... and of course, this is never said to offend... I just think part of our high divorce rate these days is due to the fact that people 'lose that loving feeling' and don't have the commitment to see it through... it does come back... really... if you are committed to making it.

Ah well, I'll shut up now!

 

[freshrope_69]

The expression of "LOVE"...



Thank you English Lady.... a for your kind words.

My is full of love still for Linda, but like I said...

I live every day to the fullest...I have fond memories...

Hell, our first Christmas together...Linda stated that she had always wanted to make love in front of the Christmas tree...

Her wish was mine to fulfill...Plus, being a Christmas baby, herself... there were more gifts to open...

I strongly believe that Linda was a gift to me and the gift I received in return was a beautiful baby boy who forever would be a reminded of that gift.

I send out these licks, cause I have had a great day...

 

[English Lady]

freshrope_69

yes you have recieved a great gift and you give it back out in the wonderful attitude you have about life!

Thankyou!