Do you loan you slave???

[scooterbum]

Serious thread... If you have a collared slave do you think it is your pervue to loan your slave out???

And if you do... what would be the conditions... or restrictions

What would be possible complications????

B/sb

 

[Rantalith]

When I had a slave, I never loaned her out. I wanted to know that she was taken care of. Even if you know the one you are loaning her to, you can never be sure how they will treat her.

Besides, my slave requested that I do not loan her out, and it was a request that I understood, so I granted it for her.

 

[Wizard]

When I had a slave, I never loaned her out. I wanted to know that she was taken care of. Even if you know the one you are loaning her to, you can never be sure how they will treat her.

Besides, my slave requested that I do not loan her out, and it was a request that I understood, so I granted it for her.

I agree but we needed to ad or him...

 

[Netzach]

I share.

It makes something feel much more MINE when I can move it around like that.

I don't share with assholes though, as a general rule. Though the idea of being lent to someone one doesn't especially LIKE is very erotic for me as lender.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Can identify with Netzach's thinking perfectly. There is a certain eroticism also from a (or this one's) slaves POV in being loaned, rented, etc., to one they find more abhorrent than the rest....it certainly tests the depth to which you submit. I have been shared before and will be again and partly the challenge and attraction for him is that it is not something I enjoy for the sake of being used by another so to speak, but find appeal in that I do it to please him against all my natural instincts and desires to remain exclusively his. If I was eager for my own physical/emotional needs to have sex with another, I daresay it would never appeal to him or happen.

That being said, he does at all times do his best to ensure my safety in all ways, which also includes listening to any concerns I might have on health or emotional issues and deciding from there whether he agrees or not, or can improve the situation in a way which increases safety. One of those safeguards is that he be present when I am used by another. That helps increase safety as well as feeds his desire to have ultimate power over me in this way and humiliate me further in having me perform as he wishes in his presence.

That may change in the future if he finds someone he trusts beyond compare and if he wants to test me in this way, which I am sure also appeals to his control needs, but even in his absence there will be no doubt as to who is in control. He will always be my ultimate and only controller, the others just tools to assist in his enslavement and domination of me as he designates and desires.

Catalina

 

[Shadowsdream]

Serious thread... If you have a collared slave do you think it is your pervue to loan your slave out???

And if you do... what would be the conditions... or restrictions

What would be possible complications????

B/sb

That depends on the original agreement between You and the slave. If it is a hard limit that he or she can not get by and it is a desire that the Dominant has..then there never should have been a collar in the first place.
In My house it is My right and also My responsibility to ensure to the best of My ability that said loan is a safe loan...but a smart Dominant would also be wise to consider the slim possibility that said (loaner) can bring more magic to the fantasy of Your submissive and cause them to look at You a little differently
Ya Ya Ya I know...never happen!
The restrictions would differ from sub to sub slave to slave and Dominant to Dominant as well as the whim of the day.

 

[Rantalith]

I agree but we needed to ad or him...

I stand corrected Wizard. I was talking from my own experience, and did not think about others who might read this.

Thanks for pointing it out to me.

 

[ethereal~minx]

Re: Re: Do you loan you slave???

... a smart Dominant would also be wise to consider the slim possibility that said (loaner) can bring more magic to the fantasy of Your submissive and cause them to look at You a little differently...

just had to keep this one for the books : )
You are sooo good!!!

 

[ownedsubgal]

my Master "loans" me out i suppose it could be called...only to other men, but not always Dominants. i am to serve men period, not simply Dominant men of the D/s lifestyle. it's something he does fairly often and that fulfills needs within us both. His need to have a true slut, someone he can have serve even the most vile of men if he so chose, or a dog or a horse for that matter, and my own need to be used completely devoid of anything personal or intimate..to be a complete object, basically. His limits for the others who use me vary, depending on many things, but in general they are: no fluid intake (on my part, obviously), no heavy beating, no permanent markings/scarring, no blood, no scat, no heavy bondage, no electro-play. there have been men who have been permitted to break some of these limits, as i said it all depends. i would say for my Master the greatest complication in this would be handpicking the men and going thru the sometimes tedious process of deciding whether or not a particular man would be appropriate for what my Master wishes of me. loaning me out is very different from my casual use and service when we go out to clubs and parties and such...when i am loaned out i will be spending a significant amount of time, perhaps alone, with who will to me be a total stranger. Daddy must get to know the person a bit, get a feel for them, see if they are mentally stable and such and if they can be trusted for even a short time with his property.

to me the most difficult part of being used by others in such a manner is having to mold myself to each particular man's needs and desires. but then that is partially the point...as a slut, i need to learn how to please many, not simply One. my Master has taught me that every Man (not male, but Man) is my superior, that i must submit to all and serve all as eagerly and thoroughly as i do him.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[Shadowsdream]

Re: Re: Re: Do you loan you slave???

Oh I agree in the reverse also. If the Dom has that hard limit but the sub wishes to have different experiences. That is why this limit should be clearly understood and if not agreeable then one should not pursue that relationship.

Exactly

 

[JoseIsWild]

I have never loaned mine out (nor have I been loaned out), but I MIGHT if its someone I knew pretty well.

 

[fallon2]

Let me think

No, never and nver will. For me the Master/slave
is a very special bond. Yes, I have worked with other slaves before and enjoyed them but I am very selfish and hate to share!

 

[scooterbum]

Thanks all for posting

I was wondering how i would i would feel if i was loaned out and wondered if ther was some opinion on the subjuct....

scooter

 

[sabersedge]

Never would I loan my sub out.

The bond is too special.

The interaction of a relationship is difficult enough with out bringing other people into it.

 

[lark sparrow]

I've never been loaned out... possession in the opposite sense was always too strong for loaning... but it does have some appeal, at least in fantasy. I am like that 'one dog person' and it could be an interesting experiment in following direction.

 

[FungiUg]

I've never had a slave, although it may yet happen. For the submissives I have had, the opportunity has never arisen. Hypothetically... it would depend to some degree on the submissive or slave, but if someone were my slave, then yes, I would expect I might lend her out at some point.

 

[TigerClaw]

Can o worms here.

Ok, you dont want to loan, share your sub out.

Your sub has expressed this desire but says it does not have to be fulfilled.

If your sub started to work on this fantasy with out your knowledge, in my book that is instant dismissal.


What if she worked on you to get to think about trying it. (When I was younger this was a fantasy I might have allowed back then, not now.) If you tried allowed it there are a whole lot of variables.

If givien and out of site. How will your sub be treated?

How can you really trust even someone close to you with your sub?

if it is within site how would you enjoy seeing your partner with soemone else?

For those of you who want this do you consider your sub your partner in life?

If you didnt like it, and want no further part of it how many subs would stay with there Dom?

Those are just a few that come to mind.

 

[FungiUg]

It's a complex issue, and one that can normally be solved only for each unique relationship. It's a broader issue than D/s -- partner-swapping, swinging, key parties, etc.

Again, it comes down to honest communication and respect. Essential to make any relationship work.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Tend to not put partner swapping, swinging etc., in the same category as sharing or loaning in the D/s sense as I think there is a misconception they are of the same thing. To me they are not. Sharing/loaning is usually a humiliation or submission exercise, and usually involves only one partner of the relationship being shared by the more Dominant partner, whereas swapping and swinging I understand as an equal base type arrangement where both partners may select other sexual partners usually out of desire or attraction or experimentation, and not necessariy a practice limited to D/s. At least that is my understanding and definition. The mindset seems to be from a different focus.

Catalina

 

[FungiUg]

Tend to not put partner swapping, swinging etc., in the same category as sharing or loaning in the D/s sense as I think there is a misconception they are of the same thing. [...] The mindset seems to be from a different focus.

You many be right, although for myself personally they fall into the same category. Whichever, I still stand by my point -- it's something that has to be dealt with on an individual relationship basis, and falls back on communication and honesty.

 

[JooJoo]

if you've seen any of my posts you prolly know that i'm sub, and while ive never had a bdsm relationship irl, i've had several IRL, and i always got terrified if my dom would loan me to his friends, and he actaully used to use it as a punishment

 

[esclave_PP]

If you don't mind me replying on this one Master explicitly put into my contract that he was not going to loan me out or share me -- he is in the greedy stages right now. Well most of the time It is okay with me though -- whatever he decides either way. If he was to pass away he does have me going to another Master brother of his.

 

[MastrJ]

I'm not sure I could loan out my submissive to another Dominant. Perhaps if I were in a 24/7 TPE relationship, that might be something I could consider. However, since I think of my current sub as someone I want to take out for a nice evening as well as have her serve me, I don't think I could. In any even it would have to be something that my sub agreed upon with me and not a situtation in which I merely handed her off to another for an hour/evening.