Do you live with a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde type person?

[Tryharder62]

It's exhausting.

 

[Busybody]

Yes

 

[Busybody]

NO

 

[Busybody]

Im not sure

 

[cookiejar]

Yes, every day of my life.

 

[dolf]

used to. it made me ill so i decided i was better off living along.

 

[Tryharder62]

Im not sure

OK, I laughed. Classic.

 

[Busybody]

OK, I laughed. Classic.

tee hee

 

[bronzeage]

I once did. It got harder and harder to keep things peaceful. Eventually I realized it was a very elaborate manipulation. It was my job to keep things calm, or else face the rage of Mrs. Hyde. When I finally told her I was not in charge of her self control, and she could scream and break things, all she wanted. I wasn't going to stop her. Things changed after that. She left.

 

[Tryharder62]

You hit it right on the head. I am tired of keeping the calm. Or trying. Did the outside world think that she was wonderful?

 

[pete]

kath you only have 1 life. don't spend it being the janitor of someone else's life, mopping up after their mess.

 

[Tryharder62]

 

[bronzeage]

You hit it right on the head. I am tired of keeping the calm. Or trying. Did the outside world think that she was wonderful?

It's only after someone is gone when you find out what your friends and family truly think of your partner. After 10 years of marriage, I discovered no one liked her but me.

 

[glynndah]

Not quite Jekyll and Hyde, but an "in denial of a undoubtedly bi-polar diagnosis Gemini" probably comes close.

 

[run_silent]

Not quite Jekyll and Hyde, but an "in denial of a undoubtedly bi-polar diagnosis Gemini" probably comes close.

I understand.

 

[Busybody]

everybody shoulda just shut the fuck up in this thread

after my 3 posts

 

[Busybody]

did I say that

 

[Tryharder62]

Honey, is that you? LOL

 

[Busybody]

no!

 

[Busybody]

maybe, lemme ask myself

 

[Busybody]

yup, it was

 

[coffeelover5]

It is so tiring trying to keep the peace. Some of the things that she says makes me want to just tell her to get the fuck out!

 

[Treasured]

Been down that road. For years I listened to the kids say, "Does dad work tonight?". We spent many nights in a different room so we didn't have to listen to him be critical, yell or scream. We would be quiet until he was sleeping on the couch and then tiptoe back in and quietly watch TV.
My kids felt like they needed to protect me from his filth and I needed to protect them from the crap he always dished out.
I always said I would wait until my youngest graduated from high school and leave but it was to much for all of us to handle. We all deserve to live in happiness and it definitely wasn't going to happen there.

Life is short, don't spend it being unhappy.

 

[butters]

dear tryharder - if there's one thing i learned from my second marriage it's this: someone can only treat you as bad as you allow them to.

when it gets so walking on eggshells is the norm, it's time to make changes.