Do you ever feel shame, regret or guilt from your fantasies? I do...

[Jovenes_Latina]

I do allot and I feel bad about it but I'm very inexperienced and extremely shy as a person so that hurts me I guess

 

[troubledone]

I do allot and I feel bad about it but I'm very inexperienced and extremely shy as a person so that hurts me I guess

Guess that is not reason enough t feel low

 

[klippert]

At times I do.

 

[makemewet69]

A nonjudgmental husband might say it makes you a very good wife if you were to share what makes you tick.

Yes, but mine is judgemental, jealous and possessive

 

[hotoldrguy]

no because they are just that fantasies

 

[Dreamer110]

no because they are just that fantasies

Exactly!

 

[TomBoner]

Can't say that I've ever had regrets or guilt over fantasies. I have some I know I would never actually do in real life, but that doesn't lead to regrets or guilt if I fantasize about it.

 

[Desiremakesmeweak]

As a Christian, I realize that the one thing Jesus left out previously was extensive discussion on this matter...

And then lo!

He sent you me.

 

[KinkStevens]

Yes

I've had bouts with guilt for some of my fantasies and experiences. I got over it.

 

[shrek100]

I did once upon a time. With an ex.
I am I guess kinky ( want of a better term) I always felt like a sick pervert my ex was very straight (again forgive the term)
When I met Mrs Shrek I was totally honest and it has worked.
I still feel occasionally funny with my Bi side but luckily I have explored this a bit with MMF. I enjoyed it a lot but not sure if I should lol

 

[Mr. Briggs]

Wow thanks for all the replies. Nice to see

 

[Mr. Briggs]

I've had bouts with guilt for some of my fantasies and experiences. I got over it.

NICE

 

[newcouple1128]

Have moments, post cum, where I feel like my wife is going to regret being with me or think I am "gay". Honestly, all the stuff around my bi-curiosity is so new that I am unsure of how she will feel when I make certain comments. She swears she loves me and it doesn't bother her and she actually think it is a turn on but I still get that "weird" feeling from time to time post cum.

 

[sidonie45]

Hi Mr Biggs, sorry Briggs.
It’s not just a thing for men, but I’m sure some women would be feeling this as well.
My experience with Lit is a heady feeling, the excitement, the rush, the buzz, the fevered elation. And yes the orgasms are intense.
It was all new to me, and I had to work through it to understand it. And I needed to under the intensity of these actions and reactions I was experiencing..
But still, certain things may happen during the course of interacting with a special person, and I’m thrown in a loop. I work through it, try to understand it, then everything is fine.
So, since my husband is still delayed in coming home, I do masturbate thinking of that special person, and not my husband.
I've never felt shame, regret nor guilt.
My sexuality has soared to new heady heights, but I do keep things into perspective, and perhaps that's the key to it all, and keeping your marriage in tact without feeling guilty.

 

[seamus221]

Hi Mr Biggs, sorry Briggs.
It’s not just a thing for men, but I’m sure some women would be feeling this as well.
My experience with Lit is a heady feeling, the excitement, the rush, the buzz, the fevered elation. And yes the orgasms are intense.
It was all new to me, and I had to work through it to understand it. And I needed to under the intensity of these actions and reactions I was experiencing..
But still, certain things may happen during the course of interacting with a special person, and I’m thrown in a loop. I work through it, try to understand it, then everything is fine.
So, since my husband is still delayed in coming home, I do masturbate thinking of that special person, and not my husband.
I've never felt shame, regret nor guilt.
My sexuality has soared to new heady heights, but I do keep things into perspective, and perhaps that's the key to it all, and keeping your marriage in tact without feeling guilty.

You make me blush talking about me like that and all I did was say Hi, its the fur coat ,woman love the fur coat!

Hey I can dream right!

 

[DarkrSide]

Unfortunately yes, I have felt guilty about fantasies. I have fantasies about a girl I went to high school with. We have become friends again after many years apart. The problem is she is married to someone else from our high school that I'm also friends with. So I feel guilty about how bad I want to fuck her.

If I wasn't friends with the husband, I probably wouldn't care.

 

[sidonie45]

Unfortunately yes, I have felt guilty about fantasies. I have fantasies about a girl I went to high school with. We have become friends again after many years apart. The problem is she is married to someone else from our high school that I'm also friends with. So I feel guilty about how bad I want to fuck her.
If I wasn't friends with the husband, I probably wouldn't care.

I feel for your quandary. Its an unfortunate predicament you find yourself in. But ultimately, between the three of you, only you know. It’s all in the perspective, and your mindset.

You make me blush talking about me like that and all I did was say Hi, its the fur coat ,woman love the fur coat!
Hey I can dream right!

Thats all you can do Seamus. Dream on

 

[Iwasagoodgirl]

I come from a very strict Catholic background - my mother dreamed I'd become a nun. Then I was conned into bed, told my priest to fuck off when he condemned me for using the morning after pill and became a bed hopping wild child.

I'm in several erotic fiction threads on here and enjoy the fantasy. Since meeting my Mr Right I still fantasise because as serving soldiers we spend so much time apart. He knows and we're even writing a thread together.

Roll on March. I'll have 5 days when I won't need to fantasise

 

[Stevewal35]

Hell, No! The greater the fantasy, the greater the joy.

 

[betabrad]

Hi. Hopefully this turns into a good discussion where we can help each other out. If not I'll probably get ridiculed. Here's hoping for the best

I'll start by laying out a little bit about myself to paint a better picture. I'm a happily married with a young family and a sexy wife. Sex was great before marriage (Some kinky stuff like outdoor sex, strapon play) but is now once a month and it's just quickies.

Over the past 10 years my online activity has picked up. Thanks to porn and some good erotica I got off harder and harder online and was watching dirtier and dirtier stuff. Stuff I would have never thought of doing in real life but after reading or seeing it i'd consider it if my wife were up for it.

Many of you have seen my posts. Some of the things I like and fantasize about are Strapons, creampies, CEI videos, pleasing women, MMF scenarios, BI MMF scenarios, female in charge, trannies, big cocks, cock sucking etc. Often times before I cum I really get consumed by these thoughts. After I cum I can find myself feeling ashamed or guilty about what I just fantasized about to cum.

So my question to you is how do you deal with those feelings and thoughts (if you feel them). I recently took a long break from online porn and literotica. It helped a lot. I found myself not thinking the dirty thoughts on a day to day basis. Then recently I got back on and the thoughts come rushing back. The orgasms are so amazing. But I'm left wondering whether it's healthy or not.

Anyhow just wondering how you guys dealing with it.

Thanks!

Yes , all this is true for me too (unfortunately not the married part). I have all the same fantasies of being dominated by a woman who enjoys watching me suck a big cock, get fucked , lick her cream pies and forced fem. Also , when I jack off I just feel like I need something in my ass, so I buy a butt plug and a dildo to fuck myself with. My biggest fear is that I'll die and my family and my daughter will find these items and then just think of me as some kind of pervert, so, due to this fear, I'll throw all my kinky toys away ... only to find myself a month or 2 later having the same fantasies, yearning for the toys and running out to my local Adult porn store and buying the items once again.

I have been seeing a therapist for a couple of years now - just dealing with chronic mild depression and a couple of other issues. One time I mentioned that I have these fantasies that often cause me shame and I was worried about it. Since this wasn't really my main cause of being there and more of just something that was currently causing me worry, we didn't spend much time on it. She just told me that I was normal and that I should read the Kinsey Report on Sex to see that lots of people have kinky fantasies.

All of this is fresh to me right now, cause I just went out yesterday to buy another butt plug and 6in realistic dildo to fuck myself with again.

I have to say that its good to have Literotica here to help me get off to my kinky fantasies and find other people like me who have similar fantasies. Nice to know I'm not all that unusual after all.

 

[monanympho]

i never do - i am utter shameless

 

[cuckolddaddy]

timing

Mr. Briggs,
Thanks for your thread, the timing couldn't have been better. After spending another Friday and Saturday night having cyber sex and role playing with strangers seeing who could out kink the other one I finished talking a biguy to climax from the phone sex room. Is this what I have become? I have a ton of real life commitments that wait for me to get out from behind the computer screen and have started to get deeply disturbing thoughts and bad dreams.

Anxiety sets in and combines with my depression. My roommate is gone every weekend to her boyfriend's place. What if I have a cardiac arrest and she comes home to find me behind a chat room screen where people are getting off on pissing? (I actually do have it in my will that she is to destroy the Toshiba laptop if something happens to me, no questions asked. Don't want my kids to find out just how perverted their father was.)

So then as I can't sleep again due in part to my guilt over my choices I am watching Joel Osteen as he preaches to me telling me that God has a plan for me and it's already in place and in process. Pretty sure God doesn't want me spending my time talking about extreme taboo topics and if he read the stories I posted about cuckolding/taboo/incest that he would not be pleased. Again, timing? Is this part of the big plan?

I think back to those who are chatting who are looking for a support system and how good it felt to talk to the lady yesterday about her experiences as a family nudist and how her dad "groomed her" to be part of his incest ways. She said she felt better about herself talking about it realizing that it wasn't her fault. I have seen so many of the nudists who not only practice incest but rationalize that it's a special kind of "family love" that makes it ok. Pretty sure all the gals I know that are products of molestation would disagree.

So back to timing and seeing the signs before I walk into one of them:

Reminds me of the story that the guy was stranded at sea and kept praying for God to save him. He turns away two boats and a plane saying that God will save him and after he drowns and heads to the pearly gates he asks why didn't God save him? God said "I sent you two boats and a plane." Thinking this may be my plane gang. Already quit facebook as it was making me a crabby old guy.

Think I am going to say my goodbyes to my regular partners and head out into this thing they call life. Wish me luck please. Take care!

 

[DarkrSide]

I feel for your quandary. Its an unfortunate predicament you find yourself in. But ultimately, between the three of you, only you know. It’s all in the perspective, and your mindset.

Yeah, I agree. Though there's a part of me that says she knows. There's also a part of me that says she feels the same way. She made it clear the last time I saw her that "she has never cheated on her husband". She was telling me a story from her past, but somehow snuck into the story. Oh well. It doesn't matter.

 

[Simplyafemme]

Hmmm

As a T gurl I get hit on a lot by men who are conflicted, and it seems the conflict fuels their desire. The feeling of taboo spikes their libido. Then they see me as an image, not a real person, and I can tell when they start to treat me as real, it lets the steam out of the boiler lol.

For me, being myself is a no brainer - who else should I be............and sex is fun in the same way as I love games and dancing anything that lets me be happy and enjoy expressing myself. I know huge parts of society are appalled at someone like me, but it looks from my place more like fear of their own inner desires, than the religious or moral stances they take.

Each to their own. How can it be shameful to be yourself.........

 

[Mikeawh]

Regret

My biggest regret is not what I do....but all the time I waste, I could have cured cancer or solved world hunger in the time I've wasted looking for sex/porn....