Do LDR'S really last?

[vic25]

hello all

I have been in a LDR for about a year and sometimes we do really good in keeping in touch but then other times I have a feeling I am not the only one in his life. Has anyone been thru this either by still going thru it or one of you has broken it off. I am a flight Attendant so it's hard to spend much time with him because of my grueling schedule. I have some passengers who that I meet that say beware of LDR's. Would appreciate anyones opinions?

 

[Shingen]

IMHO, LDR's do not last. You never know what the other person is up to...

 

[Sillyman]

LDR's can work, but they take a lot of labor and trust to run smoothly. It helps if you can see each other at least once in a while since face time is important to a relationship. If circumstances are that you will only be able to see each other if something extraordinary happens, I reccomend keeping away.

 

[SilkyCaramelThighs]

I agree with Shingen. LDR's are hard to keep up. Hell, normal relationships are hard to keep together. It's much easier to lie in writing or over the phone. Be careful and good luck.

 

[Monazwx]

They can work, but there's so much trust required, that usually it's not worth it in the long run.
It helps if you can have people checking up on them, but then it's back to the trust issue again . . .

 

[Rubyfruit]

Why would you want it to last as it is?

Why should anybody settle for human contact, love, sex, companionship and friendship on a part-time basis?

 

[Nora]

I think that if you think he's not sitting at home pining for you, he probably isn't.

Confront him. Don't assume he'll tell you. Besides, asking now is better than finding out later that you've been played for a fool.

 

[honeylick]

sometimes it all you can have. and you hold onto it with all your heart.

 

[Shingen]

I say turn your LDR into a fuck buddy and leave the emotions at home...imho.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Sillyman]

Re: Re: Do LDR'S really last?

Why would you want it to last as it is?

Why should anybody settle for human contact, love, sex, companionship and friendship on a part-time basis?

Because they know it's the best the can ever hope for in a world that doesn't accept them and never will be able to.

 

[Zaudika]

In general my opinion has always been that its very difficult to make a LDR work. I've been in them also.. and have been in one the last couple of months. I'm also very happy that in a little over a week the 3000 miles that separate us will no longer be there.
I think that with the distance comes concern, worries, especially when it lasts a long time. When one person has a bad day, or is just not in the mood to talk, etc,.. its sometimes very hard to deal with. It takes an amazing amount of patience and trust in a relationship I think to make one of these even come close to working.
My other thought is that when in LDR ... hopefully.. the couple would have eventual plans of it not staying a LDR forever.

 

[Gusty Wind]

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