divorce...too easy?

[paganangel]

i'm VERY against divorce as a general rule. when it does happen i think it's completely mishandled by all involved.

i leave this open ended.
discuss.

 

[penguindance]

 

[seXieleXie]

i'm all for divorce. i'm against marraige.

 

[MissTaken]

i'm VERY against divorce as a general rule. when it does happen i think it's completely mishandled by all involved.

i leave this open ended.
discuss.

If getting married were as difficult and required as much soul searching as getting a divorce done, you would see a lot less of both.

 

[sufisaint]

The problem is marraige, it has become nothing more than a legal means to own joint or martial property and a get a tax breaks..

 

[paganangel]

Eeek. I am going to back out of this thread slowly before I say anything at all....

pussy

 

[penguindance]

 

[His_kitty]

As someone who is currently going through a divorce currently I would have to say no it isn't easy.

I stayed probably a good 5 years or more in the marriage longer than I should have. But I did so for my son. I didn't take my vows lightly, I never wanted to get divorced.

If things had been different, if he had been willing to get counselling and worked on certain problems, then maybe we wouldn't be where we are today.

 

[paganangel]

Not a pussy so much as in the middle of a divorce that is DEFINITELY the right thing to do. I'm with Miss Taken on this one, if marriage was harder, divorce wouldn't be such a big issue.

try it my way.

if DIVORCE were harder people would think a lot harder about marriage, and then about divorce once they were in.

and why was it definetly the right thing to do?

 

[Rambrat]

Sure, let's keep two mismatched people together who hid behind a mask until they accomplished some fucked up scene to acquired property or who knows what or married too young to know exactly what they wanted.

As far as handling divorce...it will never go well until we reach an equality between the sexes and a persons financial status.

 

[freakygirl]

Good thread.. but I'm keeping my opinion to myself.

 

[penguindance]

 

[Rex1960]

Re: Re: divorce...too easy?

If getting married were as difficult and required as much soul searching as getting a divorce done, you would see a lot less of both.

so so true

I'd rather see an additional permission to raise kids...

 

[penguindance]

 

[paganangel]

Re: Re: divorce...too easy?

As someone who is currently going through a divorce currently I would have to say no it isn't easy.

I stayed probably a good 5 years or more in the marriage longer than I should have. But I did so for my son. I didn't take my vows lightly, I never wanted to get divorced.

If things had been different, if he had been willing to get counselling and worked on certain problems, then maybe we wouldn't be where we are today.

allow me to elucidate.

by"to easy" i did not in any way mean to imply it was a simple decision. i'm aware that for most, it is extremely difficult. but, is the process too simple and are the reasons it is allowed valid?

 

[penguindance]

 

[greybeard]

it doesn't have to be hard............

at least in this country.......well, my only experience is California........it is only as hard as the participants make it.......and I think the more difficult that is is only an indication of how inappropriate the mariage was in the first place.........but I realise there are all kinds of variables and every situation is different...........

greybeard

 

[penguindance]

 

[paganangel]

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=133567&highlight=lance

There ya go Paganangel, that is why my divorce is definitely the right thing. Of course, this is only PART of the reason, but you'll get the general idea.

ahem....
speaking of general ideas....please read my first post again.

 

[penguindance]

 

[greybeard]

That's probably true, Greybeard...but my experience is with someone who likes to make EVERYTHING difficult.

sorry pretty..........I do hope you get beyond it all...........

greybeard

 

[penguindance]

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

i'm VERY against divorce as a general rule. when it does happen i think it's completely mishandled by all involved.

i leave this open ended.
discuss.

In my experience, divorce is not too easy. What is too easy is marriage.

 

[His_kitty]

Re: Re: Re: divorce...too easy?

allow me to elucidate.

by"to easy" i did not in any way mean to imply it was a simple decision. i'm aware that for most, it is extremely difficult. but, is the process too simple and are the reasons it is allowed valid?

I understand you a bit better now.

I'm not sure how other peoples divorces go but mine has been far from easy. lol

There are certain subjects I have struggled with even bringing into the court room, but I have been adviced to do so. Once the threat of having him go for custody of our son occured, I agreed with those advising me.

What I think is unfair.. and yeah I know this is really even silly to think it would happen... is how one party has the money to hire a better attorney than the other. Shame it can't be more of an equal playing ground.

 

[fgarvb1]

Is there any such thing as a good divorce?

Having been on both sides of them, at least to me they suck!

There is no winning a divorce. The most you can say is that you had one with as little pain as possible.