Distance Domination-Support Thread

[Miss Sixxy]

And I would have you despite all the complications that our lives present.

complications, heartache, miles upon miles - yes, so would I Dr. J, so would I.

 

[Dr_James]

complications, heartache, miles upon miles - yes, so would I Dr. J, so would I.

You are worth it, my dear.

 

[GoldunAngel]

One week!!?? Lucky, lucky!

I've always said, I would rather have this and the heartache than not to have him at all.

i know EXACTLY what you mean. i have told Him this...many times. i want to have Him in whatever capacity i can.

We will be in my bed for the first time, making out, in exactly one week from now. I need a good hard fuck like you wouldn't BELIEVE.

And also, good luck to you both, GoldunAngel and Sixxy! The LDR is a hard road, but the rewards are well worth the heartache as I'm sure you've found.

Thank you....I'm jealous..to share a bed *sigh*...cherish and enjoy every minute.

Big hugs for both of you. I wish you well through your rough times.

We are hoping to get together before the end of the summer. At least now we live a train distance apart instead of a plane ride. We can be a little more spontaneous.

I need a visit soon, I am getting cranky

Cranky? lol....don't ask Master how i've been...

 

[the captians wench]

Big hugs for both of you. I wish you well through your rough times.

We are hoping to get together before the end of the summer. At least now we live a train distance apart instead of a plane ride. We can be a little more spontaneous.

I need a visit soon, I am getting cranky

I am beyond cranky. I'm starting to get down right pissy.

 

[Miss Sixxy]

i know EXACTLY what you mean. i have told Him this...many times. i want to have Him in whatever capacity i can.

Thank you....I'm jealous..to share a bed *sigh*...cherish and enjoy every minute.

Cranky? lol....don't ask Master how i've been...

I am soooo glad I found this thread. It feels good to be surrounded by people that know my situation, how I'm feeling and what I'm going through.

and btw, I'm jealous about the 'sharing a bed' part as well.....

I am beyond cranky. I'm starting to get down right pissy.

do you sometimes get so frustrated that you want to scream? that's kind of where I was last night.

 

[the captians wench]

I am soooo glad I found this thread. It feels good to be surrounded by people that know my situation, how I'm feeling and what I'm going through.

and btw, I'm jealous about the 'sharing a bed' part as well.....




do you sometimes get so frustrated that you want to scream? that's kind of where I was last night.

All of the time anymore. Especailly when trying to plan visits.

We will be celebrating 5 years together in September. . . 3500+ miles apart. In that time we've been face to face once, for 9 days. That was 2 years ago, and after 6 failed attemps I'm starting to feel like I'll never get back over there.

So I've been a bit of a Debbie Downer lately, and avoiding this thread. I'm afraid I'm just not as "you have to have rain to see a rainbow" as I usually am.

 

[wicked woman]

Anyone else notice this pattern?

Our relationship has gone through various changes. There was a time when we'd go most of the year without seeing each other and then over a couple of months see each other more often. During that period, the long spans of time apart were difficult, but I'd get into an acceptance of that's what our relationship was. When the time to get together was getting near, the distance got harder and harder to take and then the last month was full of anticipation, which was wonderful. After the couple of months when we'd see each other, the last parting and the time after was difficult. Then we'd eventually get to the point of being comfortable with the distance again.


This pattern changed when we were fortunate to see each other with some regularity over a longer period of time. It was wonderful to be able to be together. That being said though, I was surprised to find the shorter periods apart were more difficult for me. I felt like I was constantly on a roller coaster...the highs of seeing him...the lows of being apart. The lows seemed worse than when we weren't able to see each other for longer periods of time. It didn't seem to get any easier either. Didn't make sense to me.

We're back again to longer periods between seeing each other and I've reverted back to the old pattern. Much as I dislike being apart and not being able to see him more often, those times apart are easier than when we were seeing each other more often.

Definitely not what I expected.

Anyone else in a LDR find this roller coaster versus not?

 

[the captians wench]

I can't comment fully because I haven't had periods of back and forth.


I can say that it feels like this 2 years has been harder to deal with than the first two. And I think it relates to what you are saying.

I have noticed that pattern when it comes to time we get together on IM, text, or phone. When the we get to chat everyday, or almost every day for any extended period of time, going a day or two with nothing is a lot harder than when we have periods where we chat once a week.

Not sure why that is.

 

[KoPilot]

Not sure why that is.

We get spoiled.

 

[Miss Sixxy]

Anyone else notice this pattern?

Our relationship has gone through various changes. There was a time when we'd go most of the year without seeing each other and then over a couple of months see each other more often. During that period, the long spans of time apart were difficult, but I'd get into an acceptance of that's what our relationship was. When the time to get together was getting near, the distance got harder and harder to take and then the last month was full of anticipation, which was wonderful. After the couple of months when we'd see each other, the last parting and the time after was difficult. Then we'd eventually get to the point of being comfortable with the distance again.

Anyone else in a LDR find this roller coaster versus not?

I haven't had the luxury of being with him multiple times yet, but I do know it was so hard to leave him and the days/weeks after that were so difficult. I didn't want to work, I didn't want to do anything other than spend time with him online. And then, not having another date to count down to when we could be together again was unbearable. When we finally did get a date I had something to look forward to again.

81 days!!!!!

I can't comment fully because I haven't had periods of back and forth.


I can say that it feels like this 2 years has been harder to deal with than the first two. And I think it relates to what you are saying.

I have noticed that pattern when it comes to time we get together on IM, text, or phone. When the we get to chat everyday, or almost every day for any extended period of time, going a day or two with nothing is a lot harder than when we have periods where we chat once a week.

Not sure why that is.

I have such a hard time when a day goes by and we don't communicate. Although, I can be a very private person and often need time alone, away from the computer, and yes, even him. But when I come back and he's there waiting for me and so happy to see me, I just fall in love even deeper.

We get spoiled.

So very true, KP, so very true. And who doesn't love to be spoiled?

 

[GoldunAngel]

i can't relate to the "not seeing Him" either. However, there was a time when we spoke all the time, everyday. Almost non-stop. Some things would come up and we wouldn't talk much for one day, or the weekend, and i was fuming! i missed Him so damn much. i couldn't not talk to Him, i was miserable.
Then some things came up and we've had to slow down our "talk" time. Now that we don't talk as often as we use to, the times in between are not as hard. i believe is due to the fact that we are "creatures of habit". We get use to anything and everything, which may not always be a good thing.
i hate that i've gotten use not talking to Him as much.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Anyone else notice this pattern?

Our relationship has gone through various changes. There was a time when we'd go most of the year without seeing each other and then over a couple of months see each other more often. During that period, the long spans of time apart were difficult, but I'd get into an acceptance of that's what our relationship was. When the time to get together was getting near, the distance got harder and harder to take and then the last month was full of anticipation, which was wonderful. After the couple of months when we'd see each other, the last parting and the time after was difficult. Then we'd eventually get to the point of being comfortable with the distance again.


This pattern changed when we were fortunate to see each other with some regularity over a longer period of time. It was wonderful to be able to be together. That being said though, I was surprised to find the shorter periods apart were more difficult for me. I felt like I was constantly on a roller coaster...the highs of seeing him...the lows of being apart. The lows seemed worse than when we weren't able to see each other for longer periods of time. It didn't seem to get any easier either. Didn't make sense to me.

We're back again to longer periods between seeing each other and I've reverted back to the old pattern. Much as I dislike being apart and not being able to see him more often, those times apart are easier than when we were seeing each other more often.

Definitely not what I expected.

Anyone else in a LDR find this roller coaster versus not?

Not quite the same roller coaster.

I think simply the passage of time that we have been together has made separations easier. It's the feeling of security that makes the distance shorter. We will be together for the rest of our lives even if we never see each other again.

When we see each other more often there is more turmoil. I get frenzied, he reacts, etc etc. Just alot of intensity. Maybe if we got to see each other every week or more we would calm down. But since it goes back and forth between 4 weeks in between visits to sometimes as long as 6 months...well the intensity needs some time to chill and get back to a routine.

Right now we are hoping to get together real soon. But lately it has had to be last minutes preparations which are great because we can pull it together quickly, but they can also get cancelled at the last minute. So we will just wait and see.

 

[wicked woman]

Thanks for the comments. I'm finding it interesting reading them.

I can't comment fully because I haven't had periods of back and forth.


I can say that it feels like this 2 years has been harder to deal with than the first two. And I think it relates to what you are saying.

I have noticed that pattern when it comes to time we get together on IM, text, or phone. When the we get to chat everyday, or almost every day for any extended period of time, going a day or two with nothing is a lot harder than when we have periods where we chat once a week.

Not sure why that is.

Makes sense to me that you relate to the pattern for the change in your mode of communication. I don't find that the change in our communication affects me as much, but then except for once that I can think of, there hasn't been a lot of fluctuation in it.

I haven't had the luxury of being with him multiple times yet, but I do know it was so hard to leave him and the days/weeks after that were so difficult. I didn't want to work, I didn't want to do anything other than spend time with him online. And then, not having another date to count down to when we could be together again was unbearable. When we finally did get a date I had something to look forward to again.

81 days!!!!!

ah I hear you. I never like leaving...ever. I'm pleased with myself though that I don't let thinking about our parting spoil our time together. You're right though, having a return date makes it easier though...woo hoo!

i can't relate to the "not seeing Him" either. However, there was a time when we spoke all the time, everyday. Almost non-stop. Some things would come up and we wouldn't talk much for one day, or the weekend, and i was fuming! i missed Him so damn much. i couldn't not talk to Him, i was miserable.
Then some things came up and we've had to slow down our "talk" time. Now that we don't talk as often as we use to, the times in between are not as hard. i believe is due to the fact that we are "creatures of habit". We get use to anything and everything, which may not always be a good thing.
i hate that i've gotten use not talking to Him as much.

'creatures of habit', eh? Could be.

Not quite the same roller coaster.

I think simply the passage of time that we have been together has made separations easier. It's the feeling of security that makes the distance shorter. We will be together for the rest of our lives even if we never see each other again.

When we see each other more often there is more turmoil. I get frenzied, he reacts, etc etc. Just alot of intensity. Maybe if we got to see each other every week or more we would calm down. But since it goes back and forth between 4 weeks in between visits to sometimes as long as 6 months...well the intensity needs some time to chill and get back to a routine.

Right now we are hoping to get together real soon. But lately it has had to be last minutes preparations which are great because we can pull it together quickly, but they can also get cancelled at the last minute. So we will just wait and see.

Interesting comment. We've been friends for a number of years now and we're both pretty secure in our relationship. I agree that makes the long times apart easier.

Maybe if we got to see each other every week or more we would calm down.

That could be it. The time apart is easier only because we're secure in our relationship and we've grown used to it. We weren't as used to seeing each other more often so hadn't gotten a chance to acclimatize to it as well.

I hope you get together real soon too. Not sure when we'll be able to see each other. *sigh*

 

[KoPilot]

I pick him up from the airport in 4 hours. FFFFFF-

 

[Miss Sixxy]

I pick him up from the airport in 4 hours. FFFFFF-

You must be in heaven right now.

 

[GoldunAngel]

I pick him up from the airport in 4 hours. FFFFFF-

aawwww.....lucky you! Hope you are having the time of your life...

 

[KoPilot]

And just like that, he's gone again.

But yes, we did have the time of our lives, GoldunAngel! Our visits get better and better as we bond, and while this one seemed like possibly the best week I could ever have, I know that there will be even more awesome ones in the future.

Sigh... miss him already.

 

[the captians wench]

*huggles*

Leaving was the hardest part for me. Shopping in the duity free zone I pondered the consiquences of "accedentally" missing my flight. I decided I probably wouldn't be allowed outside the airport so bought my brother's bottle of whiskey and made my way to my flight.

Try to take extra special care of yourself for the next few days. I know the crash was really bad for me and I got to the point where I didn't want to get out of bed at all.

Lots of hugs for you.

 

[ecstaticsub]

This time tomorrow I will either be in Daddy's arms or kneeling at his feet. (or turned over his knee lol)

It was some last minute planning and it's going to be a very quick trip but I am so excited

 

[KoPilot]

This time tomorrow I will either be in Daddy's arms or kneeling at his feet. (or turned over his knee lol)

It was some last minute planning and it's going to be a very quick trip but I am so excited

Lucky! Have a good time!

 

[GoldunAngel]

And just like that, he's gone again.

But yes, we did have the time of our lives, GoldunAngel! Our visits get better and better as we bond, and while this one seemed like possibly the best week I could ever have, I know that there will be even more awesome ones in the future.

Sigh... miss him already.

Yeih you! i'm so glad ya'll had a good time! Wenchie is right, take care of yourself in the aftermath.

This time tomorrow I will either be in Daddy's arms or kneeling at his feet. (or turned over his knee lol)

It was some last minute planning and it's going to be a very quick trip but I am so excited

oh wow...lucky you. Enjoy your time.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Lucky! Have a good time!

oh wow...lucky you. Enjoy your time.

Thanks. I'm sitting here drinking a cup of coffee before doing my last minute bath, shaving, foot care to get ready and the thought came to me oh, no...

We have 4 months of loving and sex to make up for, but also 4 months of my sometimes not perfect behavior. I am not really into pain play. But he's into discipline. (so am I kinda sort of...but he hits hard )

I'm nervous but I'm also excited. I can't wait to see him. We need this reconnect, this refocus. We need to fit alot into the next 24 hours.

 

[ShyVixen]

Thanks. I'm sitting here drinking a cup of coffee before doing my last minute bath, shaving, foot care to get ready and the thought came to me oh, no...

We have 4 months of loving and sex to make up for, but also 4 months of my sometimes not perfect behavior. I am not really into pain play. But he's into discipline. (so am I kinda sort of...but he hits hard )

I'm nervous but I'm also excited. I can't wait to see him. We need this reconnect, this refocus. We need to fit alot into the next 24 hours.

I hope everything went well!

 

[ecstaticsub]

I hope everything went well!

Yes, thank you. (and I still have the ass bruises to prove it )

Unfortunately I am dropping worse than ever before

 

[tastychococakes]

Unfortunately I am dropping worse than ever before

HUGS!!!!