Distance Domination-Support Thread

[BlitzKrieger]

uh oh...was singed in on Master's account...

 

[HisSexyPet]

I sit here collared and smiling. This has been the most wonderful weekend! One more full day...where has the time gone...it seemed to crawl last week and now it is almost gone.

 

[the captians wench]

Good morning all

Well Daddy and I are about to start 3 weeks with little or no contact, this is probably going to be our hardest time to date and I am not looking forward to it in the slightest, but then neither is he. So I apologise in advance for being a moody mare, we both have things planned, Daddys principal one is that his daughter is getting married, I will have friends and my home life to keep me occupied but its still going to be hard.

Huggles to all those missing people.

If there is one thing I've had to learn to deal with, it's lack of contact.

With a 5 hour time difference, and my swing schedule, combined with his uncanny ability to get invited to travel all over that fucking island, some times comunication can be difficult.

I have become better at it, but we both know what my limit is...one week. If I don't get a text or offline IM or something after one week, I start to get hysterical. I start wondering if he's hurt, if I would know if he was, who he's with, did he find another girl, is he angry with me and so on and so on. So he's real good at sending me some sort of message after one week.

But the past two weeks I've not only had contact every day, I've been able to talk to him on the phone several times a day. This is the first day in two weeks that I didn't talk to him on the phone. it's been such a treat. I can not express enough how much I love vontage. Nothing calms me down like his voice.

 

[HisSexyPet]

... Nothing calms me down like his voice.

quoted for truth!

 

[sadangel]

Nothing calms me down like his voice.

Also quoting for truth.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Well I have just had the worst week of my life here at home and Daddy has not been able to be by my side so to speak.....good news is.....I survived. Just.

We have had a couple of 3 minute calls but nothing like what I wanted or needed. I miss him, I miss his voice.

Wenchie, I know exactly what you mean about voice.

I cant deny it, he is my heart and soul.

 

[CurlyKat]

Well I have just had the worst week of my life here at home and Daddy has not been able to be by my side so to speak.....good news is.....I survived. Just.

We have had a couple of 3 minute calls but nothing like what I wanted or needed. I miss him, I miss his voice.

Wenchie, I know exactly what you mean about voice.

I cant deny it, he is my heart and soul.

But you DID survive. He's got to be proud of your strength from that. And being able to say that you made it though, you've got to feel good about yourself, too. Having him not there when you need him the most really does suck, but you should both be proud that you were able to make it through.

 

[Hisbeauty]

But you DID survive. He's got to be proud of your strength from that. And being able to say that you made it though, you've got to feel good about yourself, too. Having him not there when you need him the most really does suck, but you should both be proud that you were able to make it through.

i so agree. i have had a tough week due to a work situation...and Sir is proud of how i behaved and handled it. He has helped me so much with it...and i am glad to do the right thing too.

The situation has calmed down for now. But for some reason i work with people the maturity of third graders on a bad day...

 

[bruisedangel]

Really. This sucks. I'm in one of those moods. You know, one of those moods that you can't pin down to something so simple like happy, sad, angry, elated...It's just plain old confusion. On so many levels. I'm wanting so much to tell him exactly what he means to me. I'm scared to death that he's going to think I'm a big weirdo. You know, there's more anguish in being so far away, physically, but so close mentally, than there is in any amount of physical punishment he could dish out. It sucks that there's five hours in time difference. It makes it harder to sync up a timetable of when we can even have enough time to talk! Not that there's ever enough time. I'm not sure if I wish for a teleporter or a time machine. A teleporter would let me be with him, NOW. A time machine would let me be with him, permanently. If that's what he wants. I think it is. There I go, again, questioning things. Ugh. Like I said, I'm in one of those moods.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

But you DID survive. He's got to be proud of your strength from that. And being able to say that you made it though, you've got to feel good about yourself, too. Having him not there when you need him the most really does suck, but you should both be proud that you were able to make it through.

Oh I am proud of both of us, very proud. He walked his daughter down the aisle today, had I been there I would have been fit to bust. But I wasn't and I was never supposed to be. 2 weeks to go. We will be fine

 

[the captians wench]

Really. This sucks. I'm in one of those moods. You know, one of those moods that you can't pin down to something so simple like happy, sad, angry, elated...It's just plain old confusion. On so many levels. I'm wanting so much to tell him exactly what he means to me. I'm scared to death that he's going to think I'm a big weirdo. You know, there's more anguish in being so far away, physically, but so close mentally, than there is in any amount of physical punishment he could dish out. It sucks that there's five hours in time difference. It makes it harder to sync up a timetable of when we can even have enough time to talk! Not that there's ever enough time. I'm not sure if I wish for a teleporter or a time machine. A teleporter would let me be with him, NOW. A time machine would let me be with him, permanently. If that's what he wants. I think it is. There I go, again, questioning things. Ugh. Like I said, I'm in one of those moods.

Oh lordy do I know this!

The 5 hour time difference is a bitch. When we met, I worked 4ams, so it worked out and we were online at the same time. But when I got my first promotion I had to go to swings. So now my schedule is all flippy and getting on at the same time can be near impossible.

Before the vontage I would call him every saturday morning when I woke up, around 7am my time, and every sunday on my way to work, about 4pm my time. Some times I'd get him, some times not. Since the vontage, I can call him when ever I like, and him me, these past two weeks we have been taking major advantage of this. And with him not working, it's been easier to just sit and chat.

I don't know what I would do with out him.

 

[CurlyKat]

Really. This sucks. I'm in one of those moods. You know, one of those moods that you can't pin down to something so simple like happy, sad, angry, elated...It's just plain old confusion. On so many levels. I'm wanting so much to tell him exactly what he means to me. I'm scared to death that he's going to think I'm a big weirdo. You know, there's more anguish in being so far away, physically, but so close mentally, than there is in any amount of physical punishment he could dish out. It sucks that there's five hours in time difference. It makes it harder to sync up a timetable of when we can even have enough time to talk! Not that there's ever enough time. I'm not sure if I wish for a teleporter or a time machine. A teleporter would let me be with him, NOW. A time machine would let me be with him, permanently. If that's what he wants. I think it is. There I go, again, questioning things. Ugh. Like I said, I'm in one of those moods.

Oh I so get this!!! The seven hours difference right now is driving me up the wall. I don't want to be one of those needy, can't go without talking to him types, but it's sad when I don't get to just because our times are off.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Popping in to say hi to ALL my friends Hugs to all who are missing their others right now.

So much has changed ( for the better) and I cant wait until I can share the news.. Sir has said to wait.. but a few know and if you know.. YOU know I am estatic..

Wenchie.. Ill be there on the 19th to get measured.. I cant wait to see you ..

 

[ecstaticsub]

Popping in to say hi to ALL my friends Hugs to all who are missing their others right now.

So much has changed ( for the better) and I cant wait until I can share the news.. Sir has said to wait.. but a few know and if you know.. YOU know I am estatic..

Wenchie.. Ill be there on the 19th to get measured.. I cant wait to see you ..

Tease!! LOL Welcome to being an ecstatic sub I'm very happy for you.

Let us know the good news as soon as you can, please.

 

[the captians wench]

Popping in to say hi to ALL my friends Hugs to all who are missing their others right now.

So much has changed ( for the better) and I cant wait until I can share the news.. Sir has said to wait.. but a few know and if you know.. YOU know I am estatic..

Wenchie.. Ill be there on the 19th to get measured.. I cant wait to see you ..

I know!

Just wish you were in longer. You MUST plan time next month to stay with me longer! But I'm happy to get started soon, and so happy for you.


In other news, I was so totally spoiled for the two weeks while I was having major issues with my job. Jouar and I were on the phone every day at least once a day, for two weeks streight. That has never happened before. But now when we miss a day or two or 4, with out even text or IM, I just miss and crave him so much more! When I told him this he just laughed his amused little laugh. I guess I'll always be a little attention whore. Least he deals with it well. *giggles*

 

[Hisbeauty]

i am happy for all of you...but Sir is not pleased. There is a poly situation and there is some jealousy...it is difficult and i am sad...


i could just use a hug and kiss.

 

[CurlyKat]

i am happy for all of you...but Sir is not pleased. There is a poly situation and there is some jealousy...it is difficult and i am sad...


i could just use a hug and kiss.

*hugs*

We're all here with open ears if you need to vent or just talk things out to make sense of them.

 

[HisSexyPet]

i am happy for all of you...but Sir is not pleased. There is a poly situation and there is some jealousy...it is difficult and i am sad...


i could just use a hug and kiss.

Hugs and Kisses
Poly is a difficult situation. One that is great in fantasy and in real life, but the aftercare is a much needed practice (same as in any scene). After all, we are only human with human emotions and jealousy. It is how we deal with them with our partners that make it work.

 

[sadangel]

i am happy for all of you...but Sir is not pleased. There is a poly situation and there is some jealousy...it is difficult and i am sad...


i could just use a hug and kiss.

*angel hugs*

 

[BlitzKrieger]

i could just use a hug and kiss.

-big warm bear hugs and soft gentle cheek kiss-

Work things out with him, darlin. The seriousness of this issue can not be stressed enough. And, it can't be said enough: The key is communication.

 

[HisSexyPet]

I just wanted to send some love to everyone. My boyfriend (now Master too) have been in a LDR for 5 years and it's only recently that we've started to explore this fantasy which was orginally mine but he's really taken to it.
It can be hard, but it's worth it

Wow, this almost mirror's mine and B's relationship. But we have only been LDR for 4 years. If you or your master need some advice or comfort just drop me or BlitzKreiger a pm. And good luck on this wonderful journey.

 

[fit2betied]

Sub training

I had several years ago when I was going through college, started up a distance domonation relationship with a gent who gave me instructions of things to do during the day at school, and then report back to him and at that point he would give me further instructions live as he treated me to the replay of the day. I would love to intertain the idea of having another dom either male or female, instruct me and train me. I want to learn things about me and be a better lover to my wife who doesnt seem to see my need to be domanated, although Ive tryed to show her, I want her to control me as we have sex.
Anyway thanks for opening up the room i will be back often.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Well. What a 3 weeks or so this has been. My entire life turned on its head for the want of someone I believed to be a friend and trustworthy. My relationship with Daddy put on the line over and above anything I could have believed possible. Friends in the lowest of places within their heads, me helplessly watching them, praying that they did not self destruct. Other friends, well lets just say I am watching and waiting, still there waiting at the end of the tunnel. I will gather them up as I always do and when the dust settles, I'll dust them down and give them a hug.

And now, Daddy is home. Back with me, vocally, in type (typically?) unfortunately not in body but I can live with that. My rock is back and by my side, I close my eyes and he is there, his voice, his breath, his love.

Eyes open or closed.....he is always there. My constant.

 

[HisSexyPet]

Well. What a 3 weeks or so this has been. My entire life turned on its head for the want of someone I believed to be a friend and trustworthy. My relationship with Daddy put on the line over and above anything I could have believed possible. Friends in the lowest of places within their heads, me helplessly watching them, praying that they did not self destruct. Other friends, well lets just say I am watching and waiting, still there waiting at the end of the tunnel. I will gather them up as I always do and when the dust settles, I'll dust them down and give them a hug.

And now, Daddy is home. Back with me, vocally, in type (typically?) unfortunately not in body but I can live with that. My rock is back and by my side, I close my eyes and he is there, his voice, his breath, his love.

Eyes open or closed.....he is always there. My constant.

Glad things are settling down for you.
Aren't our PYLs great?

 

[sadangel]

I am so glad to have Sir in my life. I had something happen yesterday, and knew I could call Sir to ask His advice. He gave me His advice, which actually mirrored what I was feeling, so I was able to send a message off to the person I needed to say something to and be done with it. I knew that it was going to be a hard thing to talk to Sir about, because it was something very triggering. Sir was with me though it all and helped me so much. Today, He helped me when it started to trigger again. The person I needed to send the message to, responded very positively and that really helped. (My mom, it was) and things will be okay. I'm having a hard time with the being triggered, but Sir is right there with me, and lets me know He will be!

It isn't easy being in a LDR, but in many ways it is so rewarding. We are learning so much about one another in ways that if we had met offline first, I wonder if we would have. We've made it through some rough patches already and we know that with Trust, Honesty and Communication, we have a fighting chance of making it through anything, because we also have Love and Respect on our side.