Distance Domination-Support Thread

[mistyrydher]

Ditto ! How was the move?

Long, but so worth it! MP came to the US to get me so the poor Man was subjected to my family but they behaved for the most part. i gave Him a tour of DC and the surrounding areas and then we were off to NZ. His family had moved the furniture in for us. The house looked amazing when we arrived. The first week we had His kiddos with us but this week it is just Him and i *beams* and it has been wonderful...minus me flooding the house with the washer...you would think i have never done a load of laundry in my life *giggles* but after the emotional meltdown, i can laugh about it now.

All in all...it is simply perfect! i feel like i am finally home *smiles brightly*

 

[ecstaticsub]

Long, but so worth it! MP came to the US to get me so the poor Man was subjected to my family but they behaved for the most part. i gave Him a tour of DC and the surrounding areas and then we were off to NZ. His family had moved the furniture in for us. The house looked amazing when we arrived. The first week we had His kiddos with us but this week it is just Him and i *beams* and it has been wonderful...minus me flooding the house with the washer...you would think i have never done a load of laundry in my life *giggles* but after the emotional meltdown, i can laugh about it now.

All in all...it is simply perfect! i feel like i am finally home *smiles brightly*

I'm very happy for you both

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Congrats Misty...

Just checking in, not been in for a while. Me and Daddy have struggled the last couple of weeks, mostly because I have been very low, to the point of not wanting to have any contact with anyone at all. Its been all about memories, dating back to childhood, the things that hurt me and I normally keep locked away, obviously thought they needed to come up for some reason. Am putting them away bit by bit, they obviously thought they needed sorting out for whatever reason.

So am climbing out of my hole, if anyone wants to throw choklit down feel free

Oh and just to make life really interesting, I now have unconfirmed Swine Flu. Bugger

 

[the captians wench]

Well as I think all of you know I've been trying to raise money and find ways to cut costs so I can keep my October trip.

I've found 12 apts in the city center that let by the day. Most have a kitchen that looks very comprable to mine at home. It's also right around the same price as a city center hotel, no more than $20 a night more. This is a great find. If there's one thing in Dublin that's pricie, it's dining out. Being in the city center will also save on transportation, buses are much cheaper than taxies.

Costumes are steady, but while I'm making twice what I was, I'm only getting paid about the same.

And I've lost all bids on my hair.

So if any one has any buget tips, everyday and travel, I'm all ears.

 

[tastychococakes]

Always on edge

Hi everyone. I’ve been with my Master for a little over 5 months now, and it’s been the best relationship I’ve had thus far. Yes, we are long distance. We met on another kink-friendly site and have been inseparable (so to speak) ever since. We have yet to meet (it will happen soon), and because of that, we have not had the opportunity to have physical contact. To date, I haven’t been touched sexually in over 6 months, and I’m about to lose my mind. He likes that I’m constantly on edge for him, and so do I, but it is still hard. And it doesn’t help when he speaks of what he’ll do to me and how he’ll take me. I have no doubt that we’ll be together, and when it happens, it will be awesome. But, in the meantime, I need something to take my mind off this aching desire that I have.

So tell me, what do you do to help keep the feelings at bay until you see your special one? Any and all suggestions are welcome.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

I fail miserably lol - sorry honey.

Its very very difficult prior to the first meet. Daddy and I met for the first time in April and for us, it is if anything, more difficult now, I miss him constantly, ache for his touch. Luckily we have contact just about every day but I am always on the edge, he loves listening to me cum for him and likewise he does for me on occasion which just makes me cum harder.

All I can do is sympathise with you babe, empathise. But then, thats what this thread is for.

 

[tastychococakes]

I thank you for your sympathies Lady_Fiona. Just to know that I am not alone in my suffering is a great comfort. I will have to find things to occupy my time and keep my busy enough that I don't think about it often. It amuses Master that I ache for him the way that I do, but I hope that soon he will call me to him, and I can finally give in to this need. Oh well, wish me luck!

 

[Lady_Fiona]

I thank you for your sympathies Lady_Fiona. Just to know that I am not alone in my suffering is a great comfort. I will have to find things to occupy my time and keep my busy enough that I don't think about it often. It amuses Master that I ache for him the way that I do, but I hope that soon he will call me to him, and I can finally give in to this need. Oh well, wish me luck!

You will always have good lucks in here luvvie.

 

[the captians wench]

Hi everyone. I’ve been with my Master for a little over 5 months now, and it’s been the best relationship I’ve had thus far. Yes, we are long distance. We met on another kink-friendly site and have been inseparable (so to speak) ever since. We have yet to meet (it will happen soon), and because of that, we have not had the opportunity to have physical contact. To date, I haven’t been touched sexually in over 6 months, and I’m about to lose my mind. He likes that I’m constantly on edge for him, and so do I, but it is still hard. And it doesn’t help when he speaks of what he’ll do to me and how he’ll take me. I have no doubt that we’ll be together, and when it happens, it will be awesome. But, in the meantime, I need something to take my mind off this aching desire that I have.

So tell me, what do you do to help keep the feelings at bay until you see your special one? Any and all suggestions are welcome.

*giggles* I'm not even allowed to cum myself. But I love being built up on the edge all of the time. I'll some times play until I'm about to explode, and then stop and beg him to let me finish....he usually doesn't.

I think the orgasm control has just made our bond stronger. He's such a sadist, I love him so much.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I might be seeing Daddy next week!! This is a last minute if all ducks are in a row, planets align correctly what ever the saying is situation. I almost don't want to even think that it really might work out. It will only end up being for a day or even less but it sure is better than nothing.

I start a new job in a couple weeks and won't have vacation for a while after that so this may be the only chance we get for a while.

I have to slow down and just wait to see if everything works out.

This being having to be patient is getting really old ...lol

 

[tastychococakes]

*giggles* I'm not even allowed to cum myself. But I love being built up on the edge all of the time. I'll some times play until I'm about to explode, and then stop and beg him to let me finish....he usually doesn't.

I think the orgasm control has just made our bond stronger. He's such a sadist, I love him so much.

Ah, what exquisite torture! I also love that feeling. I just wish it were He who was finishing me off, and not myself. I'm almost to the point that I don't even want to play with toys because they're not Him.

I worked into the wee hours of the morning today, so by the time I got home I was exhausted and was able to fall asleep right away. But, as soon as I woke up, that familiar aching was back. Now, I must again occupy myself today to keep from going mad. But I must say, talking with you all is doing a very good job. Keep it coming!

 

[ecstaticsub]

Hi everyone. I’ve been with my Master for a little over 5 months now, and it’s been the best relationship I’ve had thus far. Yes, we are long distance. We met on another kink-friendly site and have been inseparable (so to speak) ever since. We have yet to meet (it will happen soon), and because of that, we have not had the opportunity to have physical contact. To date, I haven’t been touched sexually in over 6 months, and I’m about to lose my mind. He likes that I’m constantly on edge for him, and so do I, but it is still hard. And it doesn’t help when he speaks of what he’ll do to me and how he’ll take me. I have no doubt that we’ll be together, and when it happens, it will be awesome. But, in the meantime, I need something to take my mind off this aching desire that I have.

So tell me, what do you do to help keep the feelings at bay until you see your special one? Any and all suggestions are welcome.

What do I do? Fuck my husband while thinking of Daddy. (yes, both Hubby and Daddy know where my mind is...my husband will tease me about it, but doesn't mind)

I know that doesn't help you any though. I have said this before but I would go crazy if my Daddy was into orgasm denial/delay etc. I need to orgasm at least once a day either by myself and/or with someone or else I'm miserable.

Now as far as the emotional longing to be with Daddy...that's another story. The only thing that makes that better is spending time with him.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Congrats Misty...

Just checking in, not been in for a while. Me and Daddy have struggled the last couple of weeks, mostly because I have been very low, to the point of not wanting to have any contact with anyone at all. Its been all about memories, dating back to childhood, the things that hurt me and I normally keep locked away, obviously thought they needed to come up for some reason. Am putting them away bit by bit, they obviously thought they needed sorting out for whatever reason.

So am climbing out of my hole, if anyone wants to throw choklit down feel free

Oh and just to make life really interesting, I now have unconfirmed Swine Flu. Bugger

Instead of throwing chocolate down I'll just dangle it up here and force you to climb out of your hole and get it

I hope you don't have Swine Flu, but if you do take care of yourself! <<Hugs>>

Sorry to hear you and your Daddy are struggling. I find that is one of the difficulties with an LDR. When I'm in a really low time not because of anything relationship-wise it affects the relationship. If he were closer than weI could lean on him more for support and he wouldn't get so frustrated about not being able to help me. It'll get better, just try to keep steady and patient.

 

[DiscusDave]

Well as I think all of you know I've been trying to raise money and find ways to cut costs so I can keep my October trip.

I've found 12 apts in the city center that let by the day. Most have a kitchen that looks very comprable to mine at home. It's also right around the same price as a city center hotel, no more than $20 a night more. This is a great find. If there's one thing in Dublin that's pricie, it's dining out. Being in the city center will also save on transportation, buses are much cheaper than taxies.

Costumes are steady, but while I'm making twice what I was, I'm only getting paid about the same.

And I've lost all bids on my hair.

So if any one has any budget tips, everyday and travel, I'm all ears.

One suggestion I always have for lowering costs, is look at what you use every day, and then figure out if the same things (i.e. soap, tooth paste, q-tips, etc.) can be found at dollar stores instead of buying them at places like Walgreens, CVS, and other one stop shop kinds of places.

It's not much of advice, but it may help. A buck or two here and there always does.

 

[the captians wench]

Ah, what exquisite torture! I also love that feeling. I just wish it were He who was finishing me off, and not myself. I'm almost to the point that I don't even want to play with toys because they're not Him.

I worked into the wee hours of the morning today, so by the time I got home I was exhausted and was able to fall asleep right away. But, as soon as I woke up, that familiar aching was back. Now, I must again occupy myself today to keep from going mad. But I must say, talking with you all is doing a very good job. Keep it coming!

It is.

The other day I got some phone time with him. He had me play with my favorite toy. It was so hot telling him all the things I want to do to him, what we have done, what I want him to do to me, and listening to him tell me the same types of things. I started pleading him to let me cum, and he said no! *giggles* it was the first time he's ever made me hold it in for him. OMG did I love it!

What do I do? Fuck my husband while thinking of Daddy. (yes, both Hubby and Daddy know where my mind is...my husband will tease me about it, but doesn't mind)
.[ /QUOTE]

I had a friend in a simular situation. Her PYL wanted to do orgasm control and she was complaining about it slightly. Of course he didn't put any restrictions on her husband's access to her. I told her I had no sympathy for her, because if I was her I'd just fuck his brains out everytime I got hot and wanted to cum.

*giggles* her hubby seemed to like that solution.

 

[tastychococakes]

It is.

The other day I got some phone time with him. He had me play with my favorite toy. It was so hot telling him all the things I want to do to him, what we have done, what I want him to do to me, and listening to him tell me the same types of things. I started pleading him to let me cum, and he said no! *giggles* it was the first time he's ever made me hold it in for him. OMG did I love it!

What do I do? Fuck my husband while thinking of Daddy. (yes, both Hubby and Daddy know where my mind is...my husband will tease me about it, but doesn't mind)
.[ /QUOTE]

I had a friend in a simular situation. Her PYL wanted to do orgasm control and she was complaining about it slightly. Of course he didn't put any restrictions on her husband's access to her. I told her I had no sympathy for her, because if I was her I'd just fuck his brains out everytime I got hot and wanted to cum.

*giggles* her hubby seemed to like that solution.

@wenchie--I occasionally do edge myself, but it's more for me than him. I would love for him to take control in that department - to make me bring myself to the edge again and again, and then deny me release until he was ready. *sighs* Maybe this ache isn't such a bad thing after all!

@ecstaticsub--lucky girl! I would no doubt do the same if I had it your way.

 

[Hisbeauty]

i understand all the posts lately...

Some things have been happening in my life, and you know, even Sir wrapping His arms around me would be enough...but damn i am too far away.

i just want a hug and to be told it will be all right.

 

[the captians wench]

One suggestion I always have for lowering costs, is look at what you use every day, and then figure out if the same things (i.e. soap, tooth paste, q-tips, etc.) can be found at dollar stores instead of buying them at places like Walgreens, CVS, and other one stop shop kinds of places.

It's not much of advice, but it may help. A buck or two here and there always does.

That is a great idea....the only problem is that the only dollarstore close to me is right next to the fabric store and I just can't resist great fabric.

 

[missy_me]

25 days until the move. It's a move across the Europe, but I've done similar moves before, so I'm not panicking over packing or any of the practical things. I'm not really panicking over moving to another country either, because I have lived there before and I already have friends there. It's the living together again part that's freaking me out.

It's been such a long time since I have been with him 24/7, except for our trips back and forth, which usually last no longer than a week. My feelings about submission have definitely waxed and waned during the spring and summer that we have been apart, and I'm afraid I'll need a lot of time before I adjust to the idea of being there 24/7 for him and his needs again. I have talked to J about my feelings and he's been more than supportive and comforting, so I'm sure things will turn out just perfect. I just always start to doubt myself when we are apart for a longer period of time. But soon that will be over, and this time hopefully there are no new twists and turns ahead of us that will take us to different countries again.

J is still making one trip over here before my move, so that he can sort his things that are still here and see what he wants to keep and what he wants to throw away. I said that if he hasn't missed this belongings during this time, it isn't likely that he will miss them in the future either. But hey, it's a reason for him to come over, so I'm definitely not complaining.

So, 25 short days left. I'm starting to get really excited, because not only will we be together again, but I have an interesting, although slightly terrifying, new job waiting for me as well. Time will fly during these last weeks and I still have a ton of things to do before the move, but lately I've mostly occupied myself with picking out curtains for our new apartment. In about a week's time I will reach the slightly surreal state of happy that will make me a super efficient packer, so at the moment I can focus on the curtains with a clear conscience. Right?

 

[tastychococakes]

i understand all the posts lately...

Some things have been happening in my life, and you know, even Sir wrapping His arms around me would be enough...but damn i am too far away.

i just want a hug and to be told it will be all right.

*Hugs* I know I'm not your One, but you definitely have my support.

 

[Hisbeauty]

*Hugs* I know I'm not your One, but you definitely have my support.

Awww shucks, thank you...i appreciate support, and it is just as important from you! It actually is much better as i got to talk to Him today. We talked the situation through, and boy did that help.

But He is now going to be unavailable for a week...good thing (as He says too) that i am usually strong and capable. i am, if i just believe it!

Thanks, and i support you guys too.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I might be seeing Daddy next week!! This is a last minute if all ducks are in a row, planets align correctly what ever the saying is situation. I almost don't want to even think that it really might work out. It will only end up being for a day or even less but it sure is better than nothing.

I start a new job in a couple weeks and won't have vacation for a while after that so this may be the only chance we get for a while.

I have to slow down and just wait to see if everything works out.

This being having to be patient is getting really old ...lol

I usually don't quote myself but...

I spoke too soon. It's not going to work out. There are just too many things I need to take care of before I start work. I was crying last night while I was talking to him because I had really been looking forward to somehow fitting a trip in. He always has a way of making me laugh, making me feel better about a situation. He also reminded me of everything I had been able to accomplish over the last 6 months. Things that really my family just expects of me because...well I'm the mom, I'm superwife I always take care of everyone and make sure everything works out. It was nice to hear Daddy say how proud of me he was and how impressed he was.

A couple more months and this ordeal should be settled and life can resume some sort of routine again. Hopefully I can take a floating holiday and do a quick trip.

 

[the captians wench]

I usually don't quote myself but...

I spoke too soon. It's not going to work out. There are just too many things I need to take care of before I start work. I was crying last night while I was talking to him because I had really been looking forward to somehow fitting a trip in. He always has a way of making me laugh, making me feel better about a situation. He also reminded me of everything I had been able to accomplish over the last 6 months. Things that really my family just expects of me because...well I'm the mom, I'm superwife I always take care of everyone and make sure everything works out. It was nice to hear Daddy say how proud of me he was and how impressed he was.

A couple more months and this ordeal should be settled and life can resume some sort of routine again. Hopefully I can take a floating holiday and do a quick trip.

I'm sorry you don't get to make this trip. *hugs* But how your Daddy handled your crying sounds like the same way Jounar does *giggles*.

I remember the last night I was there, I had been trying the few days before that to not be upset, even that day, but as we curled together in bed that night my pending flight back just overwhelmed me. I started softly sobbing, trying desperately to not let him know. I'm still not sure if he heard me, felt my tears, or what, but he held me just a little tighter, looked down at me and said. "Hey are you crying? You shouldn't be crying, you should be fucking me".

He still makes me laugh every time something upsets me.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Ho hum.....things came to a head yesterday. We haven't really been the same since we met in April, to be expected really, but something has simply not been right, not singing of the same hymn sheet etc.

Jealousy was the main culprit and I suppose selfishness (Daddy). Couple that with my inability to refuse anything that is requested and its not a recipie for heaven. I am patient and it takes a lot to frustrate me, even more to make me voice that frustration but yesterday I finally snapped.

I seriously went into one, put my best brat head on and went to town on Daddy. Am not proud of doing it but whats done is done. The net result is that I felt better for ranting like a 2 yr old and he went away and thought about the demands he is making of me. We seem to have turned a corner. Isn't it amazing what compromise will achieve?

Spoke to him on the phone for a few minutes today, am still in quarrantine but I laughed, we laughed about the same thing for the first time in ages. Then the texts started and we seemed to step back in time about 4 months. Damn Daddy knows how to make me weak at the knees.

I do believe I can see the top of the hole.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Lady_Fiona -- We've had those kind of "conversations" too. In general I keep my mouth shut. I am not a brat at all. But sometimes the frustration of him not being able to see an issue the way I see it and I go for a while just internalizing it until I let explode with total defiance. Not a pretty sight. lol But it does help. It also doesn't happen but twice a year or so, thankfully.

I hope things continue to get better for you.