Distance Domination-Support Thread

[Homburg]

post visit depression

This is surprisingly present in me as well. While I'm moody, I'm not one for depression. I don't think I would classify myself as actually depressed right now, but I am sure as hell down and a bit emotionally brittle.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I am an adult, I totally understand reality, I know the situation has to be this way. But why, oh why am I having just a difficult time with it right now? (besides, of course the fact we haven't seen each other in longer than ever before)

I feel like I am going through a real physical withdrawal, like an addict. It is driving me crazy. I am having trouble sleeping, concentrating at work...damn, it is even affecting sex with my husband which it has never affected before.

And the worse part is that there is nothing either of us can do about it.

The best part is that the situation is not breaking us apart.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I am an adult, I totally understand reality, I know the situation has to be this way. But why, oh why am I having just a difficult time with it right now? (besides, of course the fact we haven't seen each other in longer than ever before)

I feel like I am going through a real physical withdrawal, like an addict. It is driving me crazy. I am having trouble sleeping, concentrating at work...damn, it is even affecting sex with my husband which it has never affected before.

And the worse part is that there is nothing either of us can do about it.

The best part is that the situation is not breaking us apart.

Ahhhh ES... I am sorry you are going thru this... {{{{ES}}}} Stay strong... WE are here for you... Im sending you a PM... to update you on me..

 

[HottieMama]

**walks in quietly...**

 

[KayKat]

Just dropping in to say hello..hope that all of you in LDR relationships are doing good..For those going through rough times I send you *HUGS*

 

[myinnerslut]

*distributing hugs for all involved in LDR*

 

[MasterPhoenix]

This is surprisingly present in me as well. While I'm moody, I'm not one for depression. I don't think I would classify myself as actually depressed right now, but I am sure as hell down and a bit emotionally brittle.

*buys a round for my buddy, Homburg.*

I know that feeling. Every time I have come back after spending time with mine, I have crashed hard core...

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I feel like I am going through a real physical withdrawal, like an addict. It is driving me crazy. I am having trouble sleeping, concentrating at work...damn, it is even affecting sex with my husband which it has never affected before.

Sounds liek a type of sub drop...

Sounds like rose when I left the first time... She crashed BAD....

Be careful with it, and be sure to talk to your Dominant about those feelings... That kind of crash is no joke...

 

[MasterPhoenix]

**walks in quietly...**

Waves....

LOVELY av...

Damn, I miss living in the Bay Area...

Was just in San Leandro last weekend, but its been forever since I have made it over to the City.

 

[EmpressFi]

I am an adult, I totally understand reality, I know the situation has to be this way. But why, oh why am I having just a difficult time with it right now? (besides, of course the fact we haven't seen each other in longer than ever before)

I feel like I am going through a real physical withdrawal, like an addict. It is driving me crazy. I am having trouble sleeping, concentrating at work...damn, it is even affecting sex with my husband which it has never affected before.

And the worse part is that there is nothing either of us can do about it.

The best part is that the situation is not breaking us apart.

I was thinking of how familiar I am with this and it reminded me of the first time I visited my Master where he lives. I was coming back and I literally started crying in the line for the security scan and didnt stop until I reached O'Hare airport. I cried in the line, I cried while waiting to board the plane, I really cried when it looked like I'd be stuck there overnight (with hope...) and I was still crying on the plane as we sat on the runway, unable to take off. Finally this well-meaning woman came over and asked if I'd be ok. I said, I just miss someone. She saw my wedding ring and started on about how much she missed her husband when she travelled and how I'd get used to it eventually.

The little evil person inside of me wanted so badly to say, "Thank you ma'am but while I miss my husband, I'm crying because I just spent a wonderful weekend with my lover and I miss him terribly and I live so far away I dont know when the next visit will be"

but I didnt want to kill her.. she was old..

 

[ecstaticsub]

Ahhhh ES... I am sorry you are going thru this... {{{{ES}}}} Stay strong... WE are here for you... Im sending you a PM... to update you on me..

Thanks so much! It is appreciated. I look forward to hearing from you.

Sounds liek a type of sub drop...

Sounds like rose when I left the first time... She crashed BAD....

Be careful with it, and be sure to talk to your Dominant about those feelings... That kind of crash is no joke...

A type of subdrop...hmmm. Interesting idea. Other than after the first meeting I have never had a problem with any degree of subdrop. But it certainly does have some similiarities. Daddy does know how I am feeling. The cam was on the other night went I really just lose it and started crying. I got home from work last night at midnight and we were both up until 3 am talking. He knows me so well.

I was thinking of how familiar I am with this and it reminded me of the first time I visited my Master where he lives. I was coming back and I literally started crying in the line for the security scan and didnt stop until I reached O'Hare airport. I cried in the line, I cried while waiting to board the plane, I really cried when it looked like I'd be stuck there overnight (with hope...) and I was still crying on the plane as we sat on the runway, unable to take off. Finally this well-meaning woman came over and asked if I'd be ok. I said, I just miss someone. She saw my wedding ring and started on about how much she missed her husband when she travelled and how I'd get used to it eventually.

The little evil person inside of me wanted so badly to say, "Thank you ma'am but while I miss my husband, I'm crying because I just spent a wonderful weekend with my lover and I miss him terribly and I live so far away I dont know when the next visit will be"

but I didnt want to kill her.. she was old..

LOL! Thanks so much for the laugh this morning. The plane ride home I am always a mixed bag of emotions. Part of me is feeling guilty for leaving my children and husband to have this naughty fun, and a big part of me is achy in that sweet sore way and wishing I could have one more hug...and wondering when I will be able to see Daddy again.

 

[sub_in_spain]

i would be up for a distant dom, id prefer some1 local who i could really please but that might not be possible here. i would submit on webcam if needed or provide pictures, this would be more for proof as im not really an exhibitionist, but its pointless pretending to do something if you're not doing it - IMO anyway

 

[SubKekiLee]

i would be up for a distant dom, id prefer some1 local who i could really please but that might not be possible here. i would submit on webcam if needed or provide pictures, this would be more for proof as im not really an exhibitionist, but its pointless pretending to do something if you're not doing it - IMO anyway

POst this in the personals section youll have better luck

 

[MasterPhoenix]

LOng distance SUCKS...

My thought for today.

 

[shy slave]

I may be in danger of being verbally beaten, but I like LDR.

Of course some aspects are hard to deal with, the being apart when you really want/need/desire being in each others presence.

This is my third LDR.

The first one lasted 10 months, he was only a three hour drive away.
The second one lasted 2.5 years, he lived in another country

I have been in this new relationship for three months. He lives in Ireland and I am in England.

I never planned to have LDR's, but it takes time to find someone you 'click' with, and if they live a distance away then you have choices; move on and find someone else or go into an LDR knowing that it has drawbacks.

I love living in the 'now' it isn't easy but it gives me a mental freedom for not going down a route of 'if only'

I don't want to be in a situation towards the end of my life with a head full of 'if only' I want to be able to say 'We had a great time'

It has been about five years since I lived full time with a man. I work long hours, by choice, and is important to me. As important as a relationship? Probably, I could not be the slave I am without the release of the job I do. It is a balance of two aspects of who I am.

I don't want to do LDR forever, but whilst I am getting to know someone, and they are getting to know me, it can be a good time.

I love the anticipation of knowing we will see each other soon, and the planning of what we will do together; including laying in bed doing nothing at all or listening to music whilst sitting at his feet.

I love the joy I feel when I see him again and the knowing I belong wherever he wants me to be.

It took a long time for me to get over my ex, I needed time alone to be sure I was over him and this was not a rebound thing. LDR has given me that space and time. I know I want to be with this man, he is not a substitute for someone else.

LDR makes putting time aside to focus on each other easy. It is not a case of fitting each other into our day-to-day life, it is a section of time purely for each other.

There are days I crave the normality of a relationship where we would be together every night, but right now I love the feeling that the time with him is special and not an everyday reality.

LDR is wonderful, it lifts my Spirits to know he cares enough to put up with the distance between us. It is equally wonderful to know that this is a special time of anticipation and joy for ever meeting.

Once you are together, elements of that are lost into every day life.

LDR isn't easy, but I intend to make the most of every positive aspect of it.

Of course, you may feel differently <grin>

 

[Homburg]

I may be in danger of being verbally beaten, but I like LDR.

Not from me, shy. Each of us has different tastes and needs. Personally, I can't honestly express my dislike for LDR, but I can express how rewarding it is the have her in my life, and there is NO way I would interrupt her pursuit of education, so I accept the LDR as necessary right now. Regardless of my unhappiness with the distance, I'm not going to beat you up for liking your situation. I'd like to think that no one else will.

Honestly, that switch from laser-focused, hyper-intense visits to the quieter sort of day-to-day routine is kind of scary. Will our relationship translate to that? I'd like to think so, but it is still something to be concerned with.

 

[shy slave]

Not from me, shy. Each of us has different tastes and needs. Personally, I can't honestly express my dislike for LDR, but I can express how rewarding it is the have her in my life, and there is NO way I would interrupt her pursuit of education, so I accept the LDR as necessary right now. Regardless of my unhappiness with the distance, I'm not going to beat you up for liking your situation. I'd like to think that no one else will.

Honestly, that switch from laser-focused, hyper-intense visits to the quieter sort of day-to-day routine is kind of scary. Will our relationship translate to that? I'd like to think so, but it is still something to be concerned with.

I guess this is why I like LDR for now, it is scary to wonder if it will translate into day-to-day.

I hope it does, but past experience shows me that it may not.

LDR takes alot of work, but so does living nearer or together.

I have had two marriages, both husbands felt in competition with my job (and honestly, they often came second or third to it, depending on my sons and their needs), I am realistic enough to appreciate that time apart gives me time to focus on my job and my son as he gets ready to spread his wings in life.

LDR means I can be different things to different people without the conflict or guilt of being pulled in too many directions.

The other side of that is not having his hand to hold on a sunny day, not being able to share a moment in time with him (I think MIS wrote about that recently), not being able to serve, submit and instantly demonstrate how much I care for him.

I don't want to dwell on the downside, it makes my life lesser if I do. I want to be joyous that I am fortunate enough to be in a relationship with someone I respect, admire and love; and have those things given back in return from him.
Being apart on a day-to-day level is off set by the knowledge that we may be apart, but we are not alone in life

 

[Homburg]

The other side of that is not having his hand to hold on a sunny day, not being able to share a moment in time with him (I think MIS wrote about that recently), not being able to serve, submit and instantly demonstrate how much I care for him.

I don't want to dwell on the downside, it makes my life lesser if I do. I want to be joyous that I am fortunate enough to be in a relationship with someone I respect, admire and love; and have those things given back in return from him.
Being apart on a day-to-day level is off set by the knowledge that we may be apart, but we are not alone in life

Excellent words, shy. Thank you.

 

[intothewoods]

I guess this is why I like LDR for now, it is scary to wonder if it will translate into day-to-day.

I hope it does, but past experience shows me that it may not.

LDR takes alot of work, but so does living nearer or together.

I have had two marriages, both husbands felt in competition with my job (and honestly, they often came second or third to it, depending on my sons and their needs), I am realistic enough to appreciate that time apart gives me time to focus on my job and my son as he gets ready to spread his wings in life.

LDR means I can be different things to different people without the conflict or guilt of being pulled in too many directions.

The other side of that is not having his hand to hold on a sunny day, not being able to share a moment in time with him (I think MIS wrote about that recently), not being able to serve, submit and instantly demonstrate how much I care for him.

I don't want to dwell on the downside, it makes my life lesser if I do. I want to be joyous that I am fortunate enough to be in a relationship with someone I respect, admire and love; and have those things given back in return from him.
Being apart on a day-to-day level is off set by the knowledge that we may be apart, but we are not alone in life

I'm not in an LDR, but I can completely relate to this post, since sometimes I feel like I have two separate lives. I haven't introduced Mister Man to my kid yet, and I don't want to do so until we feel confident that we want to get married. I don't want him to become a fixture in my kid's life, and then we break up and my kid has to deal with it too. So I have my life with kidlet, and my life with Mister Man.

As you said, shy, living together is hard. My ex also felt he came in second and third sometimes to other things in my life. I don't think Mister Man is needy in that way, but taking a hard look at daily life and deciding whether we want to be a family, with all that it entails in reality, is something that I'm taking my time to sit with before I make the choice.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I am in a LDR and have been for over 6 months Is it what I truly want ? Maybe Maybe not, but at this point I wouldnt change it for a million dollars and he knows this and so do I. When we first met we lived about 3.5 hours apart would have been perfect so we could see each other fairly regularly.. Then I moved to the west coast and through hard work,lots of emails, Im's texts and phone calls. We have made this relationship work.. I adore him and he adores me. Now with my new job it might even make things work a little better cause Ill be traveling for work even more.. If I could be back in the area where we lived a few hours apart ID be happier but right now I am happy PET anyway I could get it.. He is MY Dom and I am HIS Sub and I wouldnt change a thing.. and I dont think he would change a thing either...

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'm not in an LDR, but I can completely relate to this post, since sometimes I feel like I have two separate lives. I haven't introduced Mister Man to my kid yet, and I don't want to do so until we feel confident that we want to get married. I don't want him to become a fixture in my kid's life, and then we break up and my kid has to deal with it too. So I have my life with kidlet, and my life with Mister Man.

Bit off topic, but while I can relate to you doing the not introducing thing (I did the same with people I dated until it became more substantial for the same reasons), I wouldn't leave it until you had definitely decided to marry for a few reasons. One is it can make a child feel resentful, left out, pressured, another is that it might not go as well as expected and require time without pressure on either partner or child to make it work (or not).

I think once you are in a relationship that becomes more than a few dates and looks to be continuing, introducing gives both child and partner time to get to know each other an form the foundation of their relationship just as you are forming your own. Children do handle these things a lot better than we expect at times given the chance, and just as you don't want them to have to go through getting used to someone being around and then maybe no longer, you can't always protect them from this as it is a part of life with your friends, other family members, school friends, neighbours, teachers, all who might move or die...it is part of growing and learning to cope with both good and bad.

Catalina

 

[intothewoods]

Bit off topic, but while I can relate to you doing the not introducing thing (I did the same with people I dated until it became more substantial for the same reasons), I wouldn't leave it until you had definitely decided to marry for a few reasons. One is it can make a child feel resentful, left out, pressured, another is that it might not go as well as expected and require time without pressure on either partner or child to make it work (or not).

I think once you are in a relationship that becomes more than a few dates and looks to be continuing, introducing gives both child and partner time to get to know each other an form the foundation of their relationship just as you are forming your own. Children do handle these things a lot better than we expect at times given the chance, and just as you don't want them to have to go through getting used to someone being around and then maybe no longer, you can't always protect them from this as it is a part of life with your friends, other family members, school friends, neighbours, teachers, all who might move or die...it is part of growing and learning to cope with both good and bad.

Catalina

Thank you, Catalina, and I do agree. I shouldn't say definitely, or imply that it would be, you know the day before a wedding or anything. I think a better term to use would be, to be sure that we're serious. And we are. Another thing that makes it easier, I think, is that Mister Man won't be replacing kidlet's dad. He already has an excellent one, so there isn't that issue.

Anyway, I don't want to derail the thread anymore, so I'll just leave it at that...

 

[EmpressFi]

tickets are booked at $100 less than I was quoted last week

hotel is booked...

tickets for excursion are booked

7 weeks from Friday.... c'mon sun and moon.. work your magic in the sky.. bring us together, my lover and I

 

[SubKekiLee]

tickets are booked at $100 less than I was quoted last week

hotel is booked...

tickets for excursion are booked

7 weeks from Friday.... c'mon sun and moon.. work your magic in the sky.. bring us together, my lover and I

YAY! I am so happy for you Fi.....

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Just bumping those threads...