Distance Domination-Support Thread

[intothewoods]

When I began learning the intricacies of such relationships, one of the things which was taught to me from the beginning was there are certain things which may happen which you do not reveal to others (especially many others and publicly) and chancing his reputation being damaged by the view of him people might form from that revelation...and the same goes for a PYL revealing a pyl's difficulties publicly when it is deeply intimate and possibly damaging. It is not always easy to do, especially in the moment on a bad day, but it is possible and you do it well.

I've actually always felt strongly about this, in vanilla relationships as well. You can reveal some things, and you can vent, but the relationship is sacred. You don't sell that out.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I've actually always felt strongly about this, in vanilla relationships as well. You can reveal some things, and you can vent, but the relationship is sacred. You don't sell that out.

Ditto. In all my relationships there are just some things I wouldn't talk about publicly out of respect for my partner's right to privacy, and the way the world views them. It is sort of one of those situations where you look at how you would feel if the situation were reversed. Would it damage your self image/self esteem? Would it damage the trust and relationship? Would it really help whatever the issue was? Would you feel comfortable sharing and/or revealing your inner self to your partner in future knowing the risk was that at some point others, possibly many others, would also know whatever it was you chose to share, or were having a problem with?

Catalina

 

[myinnerslut]

LOL, I don't think anyone can honestly say their relationship is perfect 100% of the time and doesn't require work, but what I see with your postings is not only the ability to sometimes talk about having difficulties in some way, but doing so without revealing all A's most intimate secrets and possibly breaching his trust by doing so, and in the process making him, you, or your relationship look bad.

When I began learning the intricacies of such relationships, one of the things which was taught to me from the beginning was there are certain things which may happen which you do not reveal to others (especially many others and publicly) and chancing his reputation being damaged by the view of him people might form from that revelation...and the same goes for a PYL revealing a pyl's difficulties publicly when it is deeply intimate and possibly damaging. It is not always easy to do, especially in the moment on a bad day, but it is possible and you do it well.

Catalina

thank you, that means a lot to me.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Just stopping in to say hi...

Still with Master...Craving and needing physical touch though

Glad to hear from you all

Mis love your new AV!

 

[myinnerslut]

Just stopping in to say hi...

Still with Master...Craving and needing physical touch though

Glad to hear from you all

Mis love your new AV!

thank you.

it actually wasnt my first choice (or even my second) but its the one A approved.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

thank you.

it actually wasnt my first choice (or even my second) but its the one A approved.

It is very nice..Glad that he allowed you to change it

 

[SubKekiLee]

HI DWB!!
checking In i see you are well and okay.... I am glad.. I am sure you need masters hands and physical being I just saw mine.... but still never enough.... HUGS to all

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

HI DWB!!
checking In i see you are well and okay.... I am glad.. I am sure you need masters hands and physical being I just saw mine.... but still never enough.... HUGS to all

Hey SKL..Yeah do need his touch so bad..

 

[SubKekiLee]

Hey SKL..Yeah do need his touch so bad..

I feel ya DWB... my Sir is sick.... and havent been able to talk to him to today which makes the distance even worse.... but looks like it will be june before we see each other again.... how about you? When do you get to see master?

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

I feel ya DWB... my Sir is sick.... and havent been able to talk to him to today which makes the distance even worse.... but looks like it will be june before we see each other again.... how about you? When do you get to see master?

Thank you hon!

Sorry to hear your Sir is sick...

I honestly don't know when we will get to see each other..Beginning to think the way it is going not for a long time and I dont' know how much more of that I can take...

 

[myinnerslut]

this distance is fucking killing me!!!!

 

[EmpressFi]

this distance is fucking killing me!!!!

*hugs*

In the beginning, the visits made the difficulty of being apart a little better...

now that we're so close, it's almost that it makes it worse as I get used to being able to see him talk, or watch TV with him, etc.

*hugs to you, MIS*

 

[myinnerslut]

*hugs*

In the beginning, the visits made the difficulty of being apart a little better...

now that we're so close, it's almost that it makes it worse as I get used to being able to see him talk, or watch TV with him, etc.

*hugs to you, MIS*

thanks. im in a bit of a tough spot.

 

[EmpressFi]

thanks. im in a bit of a tough spot.

I kinda gathered from a couple of other posts.. *hugs* my PM box is open. I might not have suggestions or answers..but I'm good for venting

 

[SubKekiLee]

Wow couldnt sleep last night.. tossed and turned and now up already.... missing him already alot. this week... some reason somehow... this is just so he knows how much I miss him when we are apart...... We are miles apart alot of the time... BUT never in my heart I just close my eyes and I can hear his voice in my mind.... *sigh*

I hope everyone else here in LDR is doing okay.....

 

[myinnerslut]

Wow couldnt sleep last night.. tossed and turned and now up already.... missing him already alot. this week... some reason somehow... this is just so he knows how much I miss him when we are apart...... We are miles apart alot of the time... BUT never in my heart I just close my eyes and I can hear his voice in my mind.... *sigh*

I hope everyone else here in LDR is doing okay.....

eh, there is good and there is bad.
then there is some really good and some really bad.

i hope you get a chance to sleep for a bit today.

 

[SubKekiLee]

eh, there is good and there is bad.
then there is some really good and some really bad.

i hope you get a chance to sleep for a bit today.

yes I do too.. but with the "other" job I have.. I doubt I will since i have a grant writing meeting , a drs appt and then a meeting with my grandfather and then normal life... sigh.. but thanks for your thoughts.. I appreciate it.. kisses MIS

 

[UK_Strawberry]

Hey guys

Not sure I should be posting at all - I haven't been around these parts in a while - not since Cream and I split.

Well that said and all. Read on if you wish - feel free to ignore.

Life has been up and down - well more down than up - some really rough times when we finished - tough Christmas and then I thought I was flying - right back up there - right up until Feb 14th !!!! Woke up just like any other day - life ok....... got into work and smack bang in the face with flowers, teddy bears, chocolates and cards ........ for everyone else but me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

On the face of it I was jealous but that wasn't it at all...... I enjoyed everyone getting stuff, I just knew that should have been me too....

So I tried to put it all behind me and to be honest I'm doing ok but Cream (Master) and I were meant to meet this weekend for the first time.

I can't help but wonder - it's natural I guess, I miss him, I still love him (always will).

Not sure where life goes from here.....

Happy St Pat's to the Irish and to all the plastic paddy's too - have a good one x

 

[~His Kitten~]

I might as well update, lol.

Lately Lit hasn't interested my much but...It will be a year for El_C and I next month. A whole year. Its a first for me and I doubted I'd ever be able to experience it with anyone, let alone Him. He was right and here we are, almost 12 months later and going strong. Even on days, like today, when we weren't able to connect He still manages to help me. Its strange, when He says it will be okay it will be.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

JUst a drive by hello to all...

doing fine, except for my toothache.... long story...

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Hi All

Just stepping in to say hi

 

[myinnerslut]

A is coming to visit today!!!!
he'll be here till friday

 

[Heylee]

Hi all. i'm new here, and in a long distance relationship which we are trying, somewhat unsuccessfully, to make D/s. He doesn't really know a lot about being Dominant, and i'm not sure if he's interested because i'm so interested in being submissive or if he's genuinely interested because he's enjoying the power. the thing is that he doesn't read much, and so i don't know how to explain to him what this is all about - he doesn't really understand what i'm talking about. so i was just wondering if anyone here has any ideas, i guess.

thanks.

 

[EmpressFi]

A is coming to visit today!!!!
he'll be here till friday

YAY!!! I'm glad you'll get the nice long visit

 

[00Syd]

I've been seeing my bf so much lately that our relationship almost feels normal! Its amazing. He's coming back up here for Easter, so I'll get to see him again! After Easter I'm probably not going to see him for a few months, though.