Distance Domination-Support Thread

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minx1 said:
Thanks Rose,

I will have to discuss with Him what we can put in place, because I know I would be out of my mind with worry just as tdls is, if I suddenly didn't here anything
i think i will be asking him the same thing when i speak with him again as i do not want to have to go through this again, it's awful. i called him again on his cell phone and could only leave another weepy message. :(

the last time we actually spoke was at 5am my time Saturday morning. He left an email for me at 6 my time last night, and i haven't heard a thing since. i just wish i would hear something very soon.

:rose:
 
tenedaveslilslut said:

i think i will be asking him the same thing when i speak with him again as i do not want to have to go through this again, it's awful. i called him again on his cell phone and could only leave another weepy message. :(

the last time we actually spoke was at 5am my time Saturday morning. He left an email for me at 6 my time last night, and i haven't heard a thing since. i just wish i would hear something very soon.

:rose:

was everything ok the last time you talked to Him? i mean between you two? i just thought maybe if it wasn't, this is His way of 'punishing' you, though it's a very shitty way, and i'd hope that no Dom would ever do it, but it was just a thought. again i'm sure that He's fine, and that you'll hear from Him soon. i can't imagine how you're feeling right now ::hugs:: and a :rose: you have my Yahoo ID if you need me.....
 
Where to begin? First and foremost, Thank u 4 this forum.

I have recently been introduced to the possiblility of a LDMS relationship. I have so many questions..and it is not that I cant ask my..potential Master.. i do fear displeasing him.. i can be annoying..so the least bit i say the better 4 now..lol.

He lives down South and we met through his first and so far only BITCH(as he says) who is male. I am female and live up East.

I have some knowledge of the lifestyle.. but none in a long distance aspect.
What can I expect? Should I always agree with what my Master says? I know trust is important and for some odd reason I do...

Any suggestions or advice would be appreciatted. In the meantime I will read as many threads as I can handle.

thanks

NiKkI D
 
nikkidarling said:
Where to begin? First and foremost, Thank u 4 this forum.

I have recently been introduced to the possiblility of a LDMS relationship. I have so many questions..and it is not that I cant ask my..potential Master.. i do fear displeasing him.. i can be annoying..so the least bit i say the better 4 now..lol.

He lives down South and we met through his first and so far only BITCH(as he says) who is male. I am female and live up East.

I have some knowledge of the lifestyle.. but none in a long distance aspect.
What can I expect? Should I always agree with what my Master says? I know trust is important and for some odd reason I do...

Any suggestions or advice would be appreciatted. In the meantime I will read as many threads as I can handle.

thanks

NiKkI D

everyone is different. we can't tell you what you 'should' do, it's what He expects of you. as far as always agreeing with your Master, hmm..well, i can't say that i ALWAYS agree with Master, and when i dont' i tell HIm so in a respectable manner and we discuss it. be careful trusting too much too fast. i have no idea as to what you can expect, as i don['t know your Master or His wants, needs, etc...it's all really on an individual basis. there are many flavors to this lifestyle.....good luck
 
nikkidarling said:
Where to begin? First and foremost, Thank u 4 this forum.

I have recently been introduced to the possiblility of a LDMS relationship. I have so many questions..and it is not that I cant ask my..potential Master.. i do fear displeasing him.. i can be annoying..so the least bit i say the better 4 now..lol.

He lives down South and we met through his first and so far only BITCH(as he says) who is male. I am female and live up East.

I have some knowledge of the lifestyle.. but none in a long distance aspect.
What can I expect? Should I always agree with what my Master says? I know trust is important and for some odd reason I do...

Any suggestions or advice would be appreciatted. In the meantime I will read as many threads as I can handle.

thanks

NiKkI D

Everyone is different and every couple is different.

However in my opinion if you don't know what your soft and hard limits are you need to think about this. You and he need to discuss this. If he doesn't have an interest in what you want and what your limits are then he isn't likely to do good things for you.

I don't quite understand about the bitch thing could you explain?

Fury :rose:
 
lil_slave_rose said:
was everything ok the last time you talked to Him? i mean between you two? i just thought maybe if it wasn't, this is His way of 'punishing' you, though it's a very shitty way, and i'd hope that no Dom would ever do it, but it was just a thought. again i'm sure that He's fine, and that you'll hear from Him soon. i can't imagine how you're feeling right now ::hugs:: and a :rose: you have my Yahoo ID if you need me.....
Everything was perfect when we last spoke. i did nothing to warrant any punishment. i hope you are right rose...this not knowing anything is absolutely killing me. :(

:rose:
 
tenedaveslilslut said:

Everything was perfect when we last spoke. i did nothing to warrant any punishment. i hope you are right rose...this not knowing anything is absolutely killing me. :(

:rose:

i imagine it is, and i agree with wenchie that you need to do something to get your mind off of it for a while. i'm sure it was just a family emergency or work emergency ..... :rose:
 
lil_slave_rose said:
i imagine it is, and i agree with wenchie that you need to do something to get your mind off of it for a while. i'm sure it was just a family emergency or work emergency ..... :rose:
just how do i do that though...my mind is racing and i can think of nothing else right now :(

:rose:
 
tenedaveslilslut said:

just how do i do that though...my mind is racing and i can think of nothing else right now :(

:rose:


take a walk or something. Just get out and away from the computer. Exersize is great for this because it releases a lot of good chems in the body. Doing these other things won't make it so you're not thinking aobut it, but it will shift your focus a bit which is what you really need. Just try it, that'll go a lot better then just saying it won't work. :rose:
 
the captians wench said:
take a walk or something. Just get out and away from the computer. Exersize is great for this because it releases a lot of good chems in the body. Doing these other things won't make it so you're not thinking aobut it, but it will shift your focus a bit which is what you really need. Just try it, that'll go a lot better then just saying it won't work. :rose:
Maybe i will find a movie to watch on tv tonight. i just don't want to be away from the computer too long because i don't want to miss a yahoo message or an email.

:rose:
 
tenedaveslilslut said:

Maybe i will find a movie to watch on tv tonight. i just don't want to be away from the computer too long because i don't want to miss a yahoo message or an email.

:rose:

I can understand that. And a movie would also be a good idea. The thing is that you do need to be taking care of yourself durring this time. I'm sure your master would not be happy knowing that his property was not well maintained durring this trying time. I've been there, many times, more times than I'd like so I do understand what you're going thru. I just also know that it can really take a nasty toll on your mind and body to do nothing but fret. :kiss:
 
the captians wench said:
I can understand that. And a movie would also be a good idea. The thing is that you do need to be taking care of yourself durring this time. I'm sure your master would not be happy knowing that his property was not well maintained durring this trying time. I've been there, many times, more times than I'd like so I do understand what you're going thru. I just also know that it can really take a nasty toll on your mind and body to do nothing but fret. :kiss:

I think thats a really good point Wenchie.

Perhaps thats how you need to look at it tdls.
Why not take a walk to the local shop or anywhere, just for 10/15 minutes and get some fresh air, do some house work (a good stress reliever), take a bath and then watch your movie.
I find writing really cathartic and I know you keepa journal. You could write your Master a page about how you felt, and more importantly how you dealt with it.
I bet he would be really pleased to read that you had handled it well and it might just serve to help you too. You need a distraction hon
 
the captians wench said:
I can understand that. And a movie would also be a good idea. The thing is that you do need to be taking care of yourself durring this time. I'm sure your master would not be happy knowing that his property was not well maintained durring this trying time. I've been there, many times, more times than I'd like so I do understand what you're going thru. I just also know that it can really take a nasty toll on your mind and body to do nothing but fret. :kiss:
you are right wenchie :rose: i need to take care of myself...i haven't eaten all day and i've been sitting by the computer waiting for a yahoo or email message.

:rose:
 
minx1 said:
I think thats a really good point Wenchie.

Perhaps thats how you need to look at it tdls.
Why not take a walk to the local shop or anywhere, just for 10/15 minutes and get some fresh air, do some house work (a good stress reliever), take a bath and then watch your movie.
I find writing really cathartic and I know you keepa journal. You could write your Master a page about how you felt, and more importantly how you dealt with it.
I bet he would be really pleased to read that you had handled it well and it might just serve to help you too. You need a distraction hon
i do plan on writing about this in my journal tonight, but i'm not handling it well...i'm a wreck. *cries*

:rose:
 
tenedaveslilslut said:

you are right wenchie :rose: i need to take care of myself...i haven't eaten all day and i've been sitting by the computer waiting for a yahoo or email message.

:rose:

See, there, that's no good. Take just 20 mins and run out and get some dinner. I'm sure if he does happen to pop on he'll wait for you to show back up. It's getting late there anyway, so if he has had some sort of emergency he'll prolly come home and want to go streight to bed. As much as, I'm sure, he'd love to stay up and talk to you, if he's had anything stressful enough to keep him away from you happen, then it would be best for him to rest as well. And we also must think about what's healthiest for our masters.
 
FurryFury said:
Everyone is different and every couple is different.

However in my opinion if you don't know what your soft and hard limits are you need to think about this. You and he need to discuss this. If he doesn't have an interest in what you want and what your limits are then he isn't likely to do good things for you.

I don't quite understand about the bitch thing could you explain?

Fury :rose:


Thank u 4 your response Fury :rose:
As I stated.. it is a "possibility" we are feeling one another out as u say and we both want to make sure this is for me.I understand your comments and have taken them to heart. :)
The "BITCH" thing is.. instead of SLUT , SLAVE or what have u.. nothing more
 
Yeah it is late here...so I'm off to bed. Night all :rose:

Hope he calls soon tdls, got my fingers crossed for you *hug*

And by the way, welcome to the thread Nikkidarling :)
 
lil_slave_rose said:
everyone is different. we can't tell you what you 'should' do, it's what He expects of you. as far as always agreeing with your Master, hmm..well, i can't say that i ALWAYS agree with Master, and when i dont' i tell HIm so in a respectable manner and we discuss it. be careful trusting too much too fast. i have no idea as to what you can expect, as i don['t know your Master or His wants, needs, etc...it's all really on an individual basis. there are many flavors to this lifestyle.....good luck


I realize that.. i guess i should have asked for some of your initial experiences with LDMSR.. i have been reading and so far havent read anything like that.. I CAN question him.. i just spend more time carefully wording my questions than I would someone else.. this is a precursor.. he isnt my Master..yet... ;) I am trying to be careful with trusting to soon...

thanks 4 the response :rose:
 
Do any of u have relationships outside of your LDMSR's?

How is that working for u? Does your S.O know?
What does your Master think of your S/O?
 
nikkidarling said:
I realize that.. i guess i should have asked for some of your initial experiences with LDMSR.. i have been reading and so far havent read anything like that.. I CAN question him.. i just spend more time carefully wording my questions than I would someone else.. this is a precursor.. he isnt my Master..yet... ;) I am trying to be careful with trusting to soon...

thanks 4 the response :rose:

I'm sorry but I don't understand this.

If he's not your master yet, then why choose your words so carefully? I mean I understand some times I have to be careful what I say to my master else he tack this cheeky bitch's ass *giggles*, but I still don't take great time in my wording. Comunication is key in any relationship, and if you can not comunicate freely with your partner it will not work.

Boy has that been a lesson for me this week. :rolleyes:
 
the captians wench said:
I'm sorry but I don't understand this.

If he's not your master yet, then why choose your words so carefully? I mean I understand some times I have to be careful what I say to my master else he tack this cheeky bitch's ass *giggles*, but I still don't take great time in my wording. Comunication is key in any relationship, and if you can not comunicate freely with your partner it will not work.

Boy has that been a lesson for me this week. :rolleyes:

By precursor.. i meant i am relearning.. learning how to speak more respectfully.. i am not a rampant ass or anything in "life" im just a cheeky bitch myself.. im VERY sarcastic all the time.. i always have a "cute" comment..this will not do...so..when i am speaking with him now.. i have decided to think b4 i speak.. sometimes shyt just flys with me is all.. lol..we communicate alot..and i speak freely..just not assed out anymore.. if u get my drift.. bc he has already informed me that if i was his.. i would already be in line for some discipline. :eek:
I have a killer headache and i am trying to get as much out by saying as little as possible bc my brain literally hurts.. lo.. .i will come back when i am feeling better.. :)
 
Hello all..Hope that you had a good weekend..

LS...I hate that you still have not heard from your Master..I hope that you will before the night is out as i know you are worrying yourself sick.

intheknow so glad that your Master is back! I know you missed him!!

Wench may I ask what kind of store you are opening?

Welcome nikkidarling..This is the best thread around.

As for your question I am only in a relationship with my Master and no one else...Don't have the need nor want for someone else....He is my one and only..:)

Hope everyone has a good night...

I had a good time with my nephews yesterday..Today master had a delicious task for me and I loved it so! :D Had a wonderful time performing for him and then the reward was awesome!
 
DomWharfsBitch said:
Hello all..Hope that you had a good weekend..

LS...I hate that you still have not heard from your Master..I hope that you will before the night is out as i know you are worrying yourself sick.

intheknow so glad that your Master is back! I know you missed him!!

Wench may I ask what kind of store you are opening?

Welcome nikkidarling..This is the best thread around.

As for your question I am only in a relationship with my Master and no one else...Don't have the need nor want for someone else....He is my one and only..:)

Hope everyone has a good night...

I had a good time with my nephews yesterday..Today master had a delicious task for me and I loved it so! :D Had a wonderful time performing for him and then the reward was awesome!

I'm getting promoted and opening a brand new mcd's at the end of may. I'm very excited aobut it because it means that I'll have the money to travel like I want to. Also this new store is going to be state of the art, so all the new stuff is exciting as well.
 
Great thread. I've been involved in a LD D/s relationship for over 7 years. And to the same Master. :) We live about 2,000 miles apart. We each have our own lives, family, jobs, etc. Still, we find time to enjoy each other. We do get together in person when we can. We email some. Mostly we talk on the phone. I use my home phone and he uses my cell. That way we can talk all we want (24/7) for just $35 a month. Usually, 3 or 4 nights a week, we have our alone time (laughter/sex time) that lasts for 2 or 3 hours. Amazingly, we still have enough to talk about after all these years. Though, we've had to be very creative. It may seem like a strange arrangement for many people, but what we have with each other, enhances our lives.
 
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