Distance Domination-Support Thread

[minx1]

i am in an LDR as my Master lives across the ocean. Right now i am worried sick. i would like to know how you all handle it when you don't hear from your Masters.

Last night He asked that i meet him online on yahoo at 2am my time this morning and i waited until 4:30am i left a message for him on yahoo and an email and then "tried" to go back to bed...i couldn't sleep very well. i then went back online at 7am and waited for over an hour and still he wasn't there. Again i tried going back to sleep...i managed to get some in and woke at 12:10. i still haven't heard from him. This is not like him. We chat every single day and he always emails me when he can't meet me at the time he's specified.

i called his cell phone, but all i got was his voicemail. i did leave a message but i couldn't help weeping because i am scared that something happened to him.

How do you all handle something like this?

*hugs* god you must be sick with worry. I really don't know what to suggest sorry, apart from what you have already done.
I would echo what Rose has said though and I am sure he is ok and that he will be in touch. Perhaps something has come up such as a problem at work or a family member being poorly etc, that means he is unable to contact you.

I am sure you will here from him soon though I know thats not much comfort at the moment. Whatever, I hope it happens soon

 

[tenedaveslilslut]

*hugs* god you must be sick with worry. I really don't know what to suggest sorry, apart from what you have already done.
I would echo what Rose has said though and I am sure he is ok and that he will be in touch. Perhaps something has come up such as a problem at work or a family member being poorly etc, that means he is unable to contact you.

I am sure you will here from him soon though I know thats not much comfort at the moment. Whatever, I hope it happens soon

Thanks for the hugs minx...i am very sick with worry. i am trying not to cry, but i'm not doing a good job of it at the moment.

 

[minx1]

Thanks for the hugs minx...i am very sick with worry. i am trying not to cry, but i'm not doing a good job of it at the moment.

Have you got any friends nearby who are aware of you and your Master? It might be good to have some company...

 

[myinnerslut]

i am in an LDR as my Master lives across the ocean. Right now i am worried sick. i would like to know how you all handle it when you don't hear from your Masters.

Last night He asked that i meet him online on yahoo at 2am my time this morning and i waited until 4:30am i left a message for him on yahoo and an email and then "tried" to go back to bed...i couldn't sleep very well. i then went back online at 7am and waited for over an hour and still he wasn't there. Again i tried going back to sleep...i managed to get some in and woke at 12:10. i still haven't heard from him. This is not like him. We chat every single day and he always emails me when he can't meet me at the time he's specified.

i called his cell phone, but all i got was his voicemail. i did leave a message but i couldn't help weeping because i am scared that something happened to him.

How do you all handle something like this?

he probably just lost internet connection or something and is okay, but that makes in no less hard tp sit and wait.

sending you hugs and good thoughts

i made sure my parents and very close friends have A's phone number in case i end up in the hospital or something and cant tell him myself. it makes me feel more secure.

 

[tenedaveslilslut]

Have you got any friends nearby who are aware of you and your Master? It might be good to have some company...

i do have one one friend. i will probably give her a call later because i do want to get together with her for dinner and a "shopping trip." Thank you.

 

[tenedaveslilslut]

he probably just lost internet connection or something and is okay, but that makes in no less hard tp sit and wait.

sending you hugs and good thoughts

i made sure my parents and very close friends have A's phone number in case i end up in the hospital or something and cant tell him myself. it makes me feel more secure.

losing the internet is one thing...but he has a cell phone. i know something must have happened, because i would think he would be smart enough to use the phone if his internet connection was out. The longer time goes on, the more worried and scared i am. i am at my wits end right now.

 

[the captians wench]

i am in an LDR as my Master lives across the ocean. Right now i am worried sick. i would like to know how you all handle it when you don't hear from your Masters.

Last night He asked that i meet him online on yahoo at 2am my time this morning and i waited until 4:30am i left a message for him on yahoo and an email and then "tried" to go back to bed...i couldn't sleep very well. i then went back online at 7am and waited for over an hour and still he wasn't there. Again i tried going back to sleep...i managed to get some in and woke at 12:10. i still haven't heard from him. This is not like him. We chat every single day and he always emails me when he can't meet me at the time he's specified.

i called his cell phone, but all i got was his voicemail. i did leave a message but i couldn't help weeping because i am scared that something happened to him.

How do you all handle something like this?

Something simular happened to me recently. Jounar went a week with out so much as an off line message. Now not coming on for a day is normal, but I'll notice that he has visited lit, and if it's been 2 days he most often will leave me an offline message. But when 4 days had gone by I started to worry.

I worried myself sick. I sent ims, emails, pms, text, and rang his mobile and heard nothing. I realized there really wasn't anything else I could do and tried to just hope for the best.

When he came back online he told me he spent a week with some family to the north of him. I had a very unsubbie moment and really laid into him, telling him how worried and how scared I was. I asked him if something did happen to him how would I even know? He said some one would answer his mobile.

My only advice is to try not to think about the worst. Things happen, family emergencies and what not. And I'll hope for the best for you.

 

[FurryFury]

Something simular happened to me recently. Jounar went a week with out so much as an off line message. Now not coming on for a day is normal, but I'll notice that he has visited lit, and if it's been 2 days he most often will leave me an offline message. But when 4 days had gone by I started to worry.

I worried myself sick. I sent ims, emails, pms, text, and rang his mobile and heard nothing. I realized there really wasn't anything else I could do and tried to just hope for the best.

When he came back online he told me he spent a week with some family to the north of him. I had a very unsubbie moment and really laid into him, telling him how worried and how scared I was. I asked him if something did happen to him how would I even know? He said some one would answer his mobile.

My only advice is to try not to think about the worst. Things happen, family emergencies and what not. And I'll hope for the best for you.

This is GREAT advice and really, all you can constructively do.

I hope you hear from your Master soon TDLS.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Oh, my only point about age is that if you're in your 30s, for example, you're more likely to have lived with someone before than, say, if you're 19. I dunno, when I was 19, I was in school. I wasn't thinking about living with someone in my immediate future. But hey, to each his own.

My opinion about age and relationships is that the better you know yourself the better you can find the sort of person you truly want and make a good relationship.

When I was young I thought I knew what I wanted. I thought I was mature. In some ways I did and was but in a lot of ways I was blind. It's taken years to be as comfortable and aware with myself as I am now. I imagine will take quite a few more yet to learn more.

To my way of thinking this is why life is interesting. You can never know yourself much less anyone else as well as we imagine we do. Partly, this is because we are always changing is some ways but remain constant in others.

I truly believe that it is best to not get married if at all (since this is merely a convention created by men for men) until you are past 30. I also believe it is very important to live by yourself for a year or two before you move in with a lover. I skipped those steps and I'm sorry for it.

If I could go back in time. I'd try to get to know myself better before hooking up with husband number one.

Therefore I'd have a quite different life that likely, would not include children or my current husband. It would like include a Master in RT though.

Fury

 

[tenedaveslilslut]

Something simular happened to me recently. Jounar went a week with out so much as an off line message. Now not coming on for a day is normal, but I'll notice that he has visited lit, and if it's been 2 days he most often will leave me an offline message. But when 4 days had gone by I started to worry.

I worried myself sick. I sent ims, emails, pms, text, and rang his mobile and heard nothing. I realized there really wasn't anything else I could do and tried to just hope for the best.

When he came back online he told me he spent a week with some family to the north of him. I had a very unsubbie moment and really laid into him, telling him how worried and how scared I was. I asked him if something did happen to him how would I even know? He said some one would answer his mobile.

My only advice is to try not to think about the worst. Things happen, family emergencies and what not. And I'll hope for the best for you.

i am trying not to think about it wenchie, but i can't help it. it is on my mind. i can't shake it. i just wish he would email or call or something.

When i was working, i made a point to email him every morning when i got to work so he would know i arrived safe, and one day he didn't receive my email for whatever reason...but he called me later that day to see if i was all right. Everything was fine. In early March, i ended up in the ER because of some pain i had on my way to work and never got to send my morning email to him, but i was able to phone him from the hospital to let him know i was ok and to not be worried.

i am just scared right now. i just wish someone would call or email or anything.

 

[tenedaveslilslut]

This is GREAT advice and really, all you can constructively do.

I hope you hear from your Master soon TDLS.

Fury

Thank you FurryFury...i hope so too...the more time goes on, the more worried i am getting.

 

[Toa_lin]

Thank you FurryFury...i hope so too...the more time goes on, the more worried i am getting.

Well, the only time I ahd like this, was not veyr long ago at all, when i mentione dthe fire with my sub... I didn't hear from her the entire day, and I KNEW what was going on... which only made it worse... how did i get by?..... ireally have no clue.... I did everythimng I could, and i even talked to friends who didn't knwo aobut her, i simply told them somone close to me etc. etc. So That could help, they don't need to knwo the specifics to be-able to help. Good luck and I hope he's okay.

 

[tenedaveslilslut]

Well, the only time I ahd like this, was not veyr long ago at all, when i mentione dthe fire with my sub... I didn't hear from her the entire day, and I KNEW what was going on... which only made it worse... how did i get by?..... ireally have no clue.... I did everythimng I could, and i even talked to friends who didn't knwo aobut her, i simply told them somone close to me etc. etc. So That could help, they don't need to knwo the specifics to be-able to help. Good luck and I hope he's okay.

Thank you. i just called and left another message on his cell phone and no answer. it has been almost 24 hours now since i last heard from him. i sooo hope he is ok too.

thanks everyone for all your well wishes.

 

[the captians wench]

i am trying not to think about it wenchie, but i can't help it. it is on my mind. i can't shake it. i just wish he would email or call or something.

When i was working, i made a point to email him every morning when i got to work so he would know i arrived safe, and one day he didn't receive my email for whatever reason...but he called me later that day to see if i was all right. Everything was fine. In early March, i ended up in the ER because of some pain i had on my way to work and never got to send my morning email to him, but i was able to phone him from the hospital to let him know i was ok and to not be worried.

i am just scared right now. i just wish someone would call or email or anything.

I know it's hard sweetie, I never said it would be easy. But it doesn't do any good to tie yourself in knots about something you really can't do anything about. It sucks. It's miserable. It's a not so nice sort of tourture, but you can't do anything more than what you already have. You have to get away from the computer, and stop waiting for your phone to ring. Go have dinner with a friend or watch a movie. Will you still think about it? Yes I'm sure you will, but any little distraction will be helpful. All you are accomplishing by sitting and waiting is working yourself into a panic, and that's just not healthy.

It's not easy, it's a real bitch, and it feels wrong to do anything but wait for him to respond in some way, but it's what we need to do in times like this in order to keep our sanity.

And it really sucks but it's these times when we start to seriously think about if we would really know if our loved one was hurt in some way. This is when I took the op to really talk to Jounar, and he really didn't satisfy my concern. *shurg* he just really hates thinking about the worst. But I have a plan all laid out on how he would know if something happened to me. Mom has his phone number, address, and email should the worst happen to me. She also has my passwords to lit and my email in a hidden file so that all of my friends online would know what was going on as well. But I'm just considerate that way.

 

[FurryFury]

Thank you FurryFury...i hope so too...the more time goes on, the more worried i am getting.

*HUGS*

Fury

 

[minx1]

But I have a plan all laid out on how he would know if something happened to me. Mom has his phone number, address, and email should the worst happen to me. She also has my passwords to lit and my email in a hidden file so that all of my friends online would know what was going on as well. But I'm just considerate that way.

Hey Wenchie

Hope you are good hon. Its a good idea to have a plan...all this that poor tdls is going through and indeed what you went through with Jounar has made me realise I would in completely the same boat.

I would be really interested to hear what plans others have in place, if any at all.

 

[the captians wench]

Hey Wenchie

Hope you are good hon. Its a good idea to have a plan...all this that poor tdls is going through and indeed what you went through with Jounar has made me realise I would in completely the same boat.

I would be really interested to hear what plans others have in place, if any at all.

I'm great and actually looking forward to going back to work tomarrow. It's been a very nice week and i feel very well rested.

 

[minx1]

I'm great and actually looking forward to going back to work tomarrow. It's been a very nice week and i feel very well rested.

Thats great hon, glad you had a good week

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Hey Wenchie

Hope you are good hon. Its a good idea to have a plan...all this that poor tdls is going through and indeed what you went through with Jounar has made me realise I would in completely the same boat.

I would be really interested to hear what plans others have in place, if any at all.

Master's mom and sister have my cell phone and home number (i think) in case something happens to Him they will call me and let me know what's up. it makes me feel MUCH more secure. i couldn't imagine not knowing anything, especially since He always answers His cell phone, even when He's at work and if He doesn't He calls me RIGHT back, even if He has to go into the bathroom to do it, because He knows if i'm calling Him AT work that something is wrong.....as far as something going wrong with me, Vickie (my best friend) will call Master and let Him know what's going on.

 

[intothewoods]

Hey Wenchie

Hope you are good hon. Its a good idea to have a plan...all this that poor tdls is going through and indeed what you went through with Jounar has made me realise I would in completely the same boat.

I would be really interested to hear what plans others have in place, if any at all.

We talked about this sort of, but then never made a plan. Definitely a good idea!

Hugs, tdls - I hope you hear from him soon.

 

[intothewoods]

On a completely selfish note... hey la, my boyfriend's back.


And just this once, though I hate this emoticon:

 

[FurryFury]

No plan here.

Fury

 

[minx1]

Master's mom and sister have my cell phone and home number (i think) in case something happens to Him they will call me and let me know what's up. it makes me feel MUCH more secure. i couldn't imagine not knowing anything, especially since He always answers His cell phone, even when He's at work and if He doesn't He calls me RIGHT back, even if He has to go into the bathroom to do it, because He knows if i'm calling Him AT work that something is wrong.....as far as something going wrong with me, Vickie (my best friend) will call Master and let Him know what's going on.

Thanks Rose,

I will have to discuss with Him what we can put in place, because I know I would be out of my mind with worry just as tdls is, if I suddenly didn't here anything

 

[minx1]

On a completely selfish note... hey la, my boyfriend's back.


And just this once, though I hate this emoticon:

*laugh* thats good news itw

 

[intothewoods]

My opinion about age and relationships is that the better you know yourself the better you can find the sort of person you truly want and make a good relationship.

When I was young I thought I knew what I wanted. I thought I was mature. In some ways I did and was but in a lot of ways I was blind. It's taken years to be as comfortable and aware with myself as I am now. I imagine will take quite a few more yet to learn more.

To my way of thinking this is why life is interesting. You can never know yourself much less anyone else as well as we imagine we do. Partly, this is because we are always changing is some ways but remain constant in others.

I truly believe that it is best to not get married if at all (since this is merely a convention created by men for men) until you are past 30. I also believe it is very important to live by yourself for a year or two before you move in with a lover. I skipped those steps and I'm sorry for it.

If I could go back in time. I'd try to get to know myself better before hooking up with husband number one.

Therefore I'd have a quite different life that likely, would not include children or my current husband. It would like include a Master in RT though.

Fury

Fury, methinks we have a whole lot in common.