Distance Domination-Support Thread

[minx1]

I'm a perfectionist on some things, I admit. I'm especially critical of my body. And I just know that is going to get me into trouble with him. It's hard for me to keep my mouth shut, and just say, thank you, Master.

But I KNOW none of the other subbies in this thread have THAT problem. No, you're all much too sweet.

OMG you are just like me. I am soooo critical about my body..infact it made me start a thread on being on cam! *laugh*

I know he thinks I'm lovely, but I just can't help myself...he will say something like you have lovely shoulders (I'm using a clean example!) and my response will always begin...well they are ok apart from or thanks but not really......!

 

[intothewoods]

*tries not to laugh and to look very sweet*

Fury

hee hee

 

[intothewoods]

OMG you are just like me. I am soooo critical about my body..infact it made me start a thread on being on cam! *laugh*

I know he thinks I'm lovely, but I just can't help myself...he will say something like you have lovely shoulders (I'm using a clean example!) and my response will always begin...well they are ok apart from or thanks but not really......!

Well, if I can wear cute lingerie, but funny thing, men seem to have a thing for nudity. Who knew?

 

[minx1]

Well, if I can wear cute lingerie, but funny thing, men seem to have a thing for nudity. Who knew?

Yeah I know....how odd is that! *laugh*

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I have a feeling this was probably adressed somewhere erlier in this thread, but I'll admit, i simply don't have the patience to skim through all 70+ pages from before I joined it

But, has anyone else ever had a massive ache/pain to hold/be held by there PYL/pyl? Just curious if it's common, or if I'm once again weird, if I'm weird, oh well, I knew I was, just not by how much

Its very common.... I go though that all the time.

 

[Toa_lin]

OMG you are just like me. I am soooo critical about my body..infact it made me start a thread on being on cam! *laugh*

I know he thinks I'm lovely, but I just can't help myself...he will say something like you have lovely shoulders (I'm using a clean example!) and my response will always begin...well they are ok apart from or thanks but not really......!

Yeah, my pets the same way... she has dealt with the asses her whole life soo much, she doesn't think she's even average looking... but god she's gorgeous... now just trying to figure a way to get her to start beliving it.... I think that'll be the ultimate challenge lol.

 

[minx1]

Yeah, my pets the same way... she has dealt with the asses her whole life soo much, she doesn't think she's even average looking... but god she's gorgeous... now just trying to figure a way to get her to start beliving it.... I think that'll be the ultimate challenge lol.

yeah same here really Tao Lin...unfortunately you have to undo all their harmful 'work'. I am getting much better and its all because of my Master...he always tells me he thinks I am lovely and slowly I am beginning to believe it a little more each time. I bet your pet will too...

 

[Toa_lin]

yeah same here really Tao Lin...unfortunately you have to undo all their harmful 'work'. I am getting much better and its all because of my Master...he always tells me he thinks I am lovely and slowly I am beginning to believe it a little more each time. I bet your pet will too...

I think she is... but I have ALOT of work to do... and alot of anti-progress people around her... Her family doesn't appreciate her at all.... she still finds herself surrounded by the asses who continue to make her feel worthless... So it's a hard fight, but there's no way I'm gonna lose it

 

[myinnerslut]

i never used to believe A when he said i was pretty. in fact id argue with him. id say i wasnt pretty, i wasnt even ok... im not worth it.. not good enough for him.. etc etc... finally he told me i was insulting him by saying i wasnt pretty becuase surely he would only pick the best and prettiest. his twisted logic made me stop and think. even though i dont exactly agree with him, i can look in the mirror now and try to see the wonderful pretty girl he sees in me.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

i am the same way. i have ALOT of issues with my body, it's not so much that i don't think i'm pretty, because honestly and not to toot my own horn *smiles* i know that i am 'pretty' but i am WAY overweight and that causes alot of issues inside me and when Master wants me to go naked on cam, or hell when He's here and wants me to be naked in front of Him, i have issues, not so much anymore as He makes me feel the most comfortable about myself that i ever have, but those negative feelings and thoughts are still there in the back of my head, nagging at me.....it sucks.....

 

[FurryFury]

I think it must be difficult to for the other person who must patiently ( once again) reassure us. I wouldn't want to be that person. Why do they bother?

I'd go nuts if someone were constantly putting themselves down. In fact I once dated a guy like that. He was smart and rich but I just couldn't handle the constancy of his seeming self disgust. Poor dude. I ended up "washing my hair" a lot.

Thankfully my husband doesn't seem to feel the way I do. He's helped me a great deal and still seems to think I have a hot body, am pretty and all that. He's gotta be NUTS. LOL.

The truth though is that I only feel good about me when I'm productive, am positively judged by strangers, am eating right and exercising.

OTOH, because he likes to look, we always fuck or scene (on far too rare occasion lately) with the lights on, always have. It was way out of my comfort zone from the get go (and I was preggers) but hey, it makes him happy. I can adapt. I did so.

Fury

 

[MasterPhoenix]

i am the same way. i have ALOT of issues with my body, it's not so much that i don't think i'm pretty, because honestly and not to toot my own horn *smiles* i know that i am 'pretty' but i am WAY overweight and that causes alot of issues inside me and when Master wants me to go naked on cam, or hell when He's here and wants me to be naked in front of Him, i have issues, not so much anymore as He makes me feel the most comfortable about myself that i ever have, but those negative feelings and thoughts are still there in the back of my head, nagging at me.....it sucks.....

Well, I love your body just as it is... And yeah, you are beautiful...

I have my own body issues, and have for a long ass time... When I am with her, I feel perfectly comfortable in my own skin...

I'll just have to make sure you are naked more next time so you get used to it

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

*smile* well things are really good with my Master right now!

and he loved the story I wrote for him, infact I have been instructed to write the next bit!

Not great on the job front but thats a long story and one that I need to get a grip on and get sorted lol

Hope you have fun with your M hon

So glad that things are good with your Master right now! WOOHOO

So glad that he loved the story you wrote for him...That is wonderful that he wanted it continued

I will keep my fingers crossed tha the job hunt goes better and you find one soon..

I had a great time with Master..why I never made it back..LOL

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

On the body issue stuff...

Oh I have lots of issues too all..I am not as bad as what I was once upon a time..Before I met Master I was really bad..Still some days I am too...I will say something and he has to straighten me out..it is just because of a previous relationship that I do this to myself...But I can't help it..Master loves my body the way it is and I need to keep reminding myself of that from time to time which is often hard when you beat yourself up about it...

 

[minx1]

On the body issue stuff...

Oh I have lots of issues too all..I am not as bad as what I was once upon a time..Before I met Master I was really bad..Still some days I am too...I will say something and he has to straighten me out..it is just because of a previous relationship that I do this to myself...But I can't help it..Master loves my body the way it is and I need to keep reminding myself of that from time to time which is often hard when you beat yourself up about it...

your right DW, it is difficult to break that mindset particularly when you are having an ugly day. I think my insecurity stems back to a couple of my previous relationships.
I have to say that there is a stark contrast between how my Master makes me feel and how they did. My relationship with him has been a very positive experience. I am changing in allsorts of ways, including my confidence about my body and in the main that is because of him

Hope you enjoyed your time with your Master hon

 

[lil_slave_rose]

your right DW, it is difficult to break that mindset particularly when you are having an ugly day. I think my insecurity stems back to a couple of my previous relationships.
I have to say that there is a stark contrast between how my Master makes me feel and how they did. My relationship with him has been a very positive experience. I am changing in allsorts of ways, including my confidence about my body and in the main that is because of him

Hope you enjoyed your time with your Master hon

my issues come from my ex husband. 10 years of being told how unsexy, fat, lazy, worthless, etc. that you are, you tend to start believing it. i've been divorced now for about 7 years and i'm still working on the damage he did to me. Luckily Master is patient and understands what it feels like to be uncomfortable in your own skin and He helps me alot with my body issues, just by simply making me feel so comfortable and telling me how beautiful i am. it's really hard to get that self hate out of my mind sometimes and realize that yea, i'm overweight, but big deal, who cares? lol...just not that easy. but i'm workin on it

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

your right DW, it is difficult to break that mindset particularly when you are having an ugly day. I think my insecurity stems back to a couple of my previous relationships.
I have to say that there is a stark contrast between how my Master makes me feel and how they did. My relationship with him has been a very positive experience. I am changing in allsorts of ways, including my confidence about my body and in the main that is because of him

Hope you enjoyed your time with your Master hon

It is very difficult to break that mindset...I catch myself slipping from time to time...

So glad that your master makes you feel good...It is wonderful that your relationship has been very positive....

I too have confidence in my body that I never had before...I wear thongs something I never did for anyone else because of my body....

It helps that our Masters see in us what we sometimes donn't want to see and brings it to our attention..In the beginning Master had me going to the mirror and look in it and say I am pretty..That was so hard to do...But I did it and it did help..

I had a GREAT time with master last night

 

[lil_slave_rose]

It is very difficult to break that mindset...I catch myself slipping from time to time...

So glad that your master makes you feel good...It is wonderful that your relationship has been very positive....

I too have confidence in my body that I never had before...I wear thongs something I never did for anyone else because of my body....

It helps that our Masters see in us what we sometimes donn't want to see and brings it to our attention..In the beginning Master had me going to the mirror and look in it and say I am pretty..That was so hard to do...But I did it and it did help..

I had a GREAT time with master last night

glad you had a great time with your Master last night

i still do not and probably never will, wear thongs. there are just some things that women with my body type should not wear, and thongs is one of those things *smiles* but that's just me and my insecurities, hell i'm not even sure they make them in my size anyway. luckily, it's not something Master wants to see me in either. But He has helped me a WHOLE lot to feel like being 'naked' is ok and i'm not disgusting without clothes on. He likes the light on also when we are 'scening' and that's hard for me, but i'd rather have it on so He can see what the hell He's hitting on me, then to have it off and the flogger miss and hit me somewhere it shouldn't LOL just something i had to learn to deal with.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

my issues come from my ex husband. 10 years of being told how unsexy, fat, lazy, worthless, etc. that you are, you tend to start believing it. i've been divorced now for about 7 years and i'm still working on the damage he did to me. Luckily Master is patient and understands what it feels like to be uncomfortable in your own skin and He helps me alot with my body issues, just by simply making me feel so comfortable and telling me how beautiful i am. it's really hard to get that self hate out of my mind sometimes and realize that yea, i'm overweight, but big deal, who cares? lol...just not that easy. but i'm workin on it

I agree rose it is very hard to get that self hate out of your mind....Me too I am overweight but he loves me for who I am and that helps out so much..

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

glad you had a great time with your Master last night

i still do not and probably never will, wear thongs. there are just some things that women with my body type should not wear, and thongs is one of those things *smiles* but that's just me and my insecurities, hell i'm not even sure they make them in my size anyway. luckily, it's not something Master wants to see me in either. But He has helped me a WHOLE lot to feel like being 'naked' is ok and i'm not disgusting without clothes on. He likes the light on also when we are 'scening' and that's hard for me, but i'd rather have it on so He can see what the hell He's hitting on me, then to have it off and the flogger miss and hit me somewhere it shouldn't LOL just something i had to learn to deal with.

Thank you Rose..

I am still getting used to thongs..Master likes my ass in them....so just have to get used to them and most times I do forget I have them on..LOL...Master too helped me with going around naked is good..so I do that all the time anymore..Even sleep that way and I never used to do that...

That is great that you can have the light on when you scene and so you can see what your Master is hitting you with and not hitting you were it shouldn't..LOL

 

[minx1]

my issues come from my ex husband. 10 years of being told how unsexy, fat, lazy, worthless, etc. that you are, you tend to start believing it. i've been divorced now for about 7 years and i'm still working on the damage he did to me. Luckily Master is patient and understands what it feels like to be uncomfortable in your own skin and He helps me alot with my body issues, just by simply making me feel so comfortable and telling me how beautiful i am. it's really hard to get that self hate out of my mind sometimes and realize that yea, i'm overweight, but big deal, who cares? lol...just not that easy. but i'm workin on it

I had one of those too, actually a couple of relationships like that and add to it those immortal words that I am sure you have heard 'who else would want you'. No matter how strong a person you are...it can leave a legacy eh

Now my confidence is growing again I would end a relationship if I ever got the slightest hint that it was going down that road. I think I was just in relationships with quite weak, insecure men...perhaps thats what is so different this time.

Like MP with you Rose,my Master has always told me I am beautiful and I know that there are parts of him that he isn't completely happy with. In fact on one occassion when I was having difficulty with myself, he pointed them out to me and made me giggle...it was so sweet *laugh*

For me someones physical appearance is totally irrelevant. I really didn't care what he looked like, I loved the person he was, his intelligence, humour and loving dom nature, so its funny that I find it hard to accept that he loves me for the person I am rather than based on what I look like

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I had one of those too, actually a couple of relationships like that and add to it those immortal words that I am sure you have heard 'who else would want you'. No matter how strong a person you are...it can leave a legacy eh

Now my confidence is growing again I would end a relationship if I ever got the slightest hint that it was going down that road. I think I was just in relationships with quite weak, insecure men...perhaps thats what is so different this time.

Like MP with you Rose,my Master has always told me I am beautiful and I know that there are parts of him that he isn't completely happy with. In fact on one occassion when I was having difficulty with myself, he pointed them out to me and made me giggle...it was so sweet *laugh*

For me someones physical appearance is totally irrelevant. I really didn't care what he looked like, I loved the person he was, his intelligence, humour and loving dom nature, so its funny that I find it hard to accept that he loves me for the person I am rather than based on what I look like

*smiles* same here. Master has struggled with His own body image problems for a long time as well, but together we are the most comfortable we've ever been. i love Him for Him, and that includes every bit of Him, inside and out *grins* it's great to have someone you just click with on every level..and don't have to feel 'embarrassed' to take your clothes off in front of them in fear they will not like what they see, because they see you as beautiful no matter what! 'tis a great feeling!

 

[minx1]

It is very difficult to break that mindset...I catch myself slipping from time to time...

So glad that your master makes you feel good...It is wonderful that your relationship has been very positive....

I too have confidence in my body that I never had before...I wear thongs something I never did for anyone else because of my body....

It helps that our Masters see in us what we sometimes donn't want to see and brings it to our attention..In the beginning Master had me going to the mirror and look in it and say I am pretty..That was so hard to do...But I did it and it did help..

I had a GREAT time with master last night

*hugs* glad you had fun

What a good idea of his to make you keep saying it to yourself. Constant reaffirmation is supposed to work...lol I might give it a go

Repeat after me....'you are HOT, you are HOT...' *giggle*

 

[minx1]

*smiles* same here. Master has struggled with His own body image problems for a long time as well, but together we are the most comfortable we've ever been. i love Him for Him, and that includes every bit of Him, inside and out *grins* it's great to have someone you just click with on every level..and don't have to feel 'embarrassed' to take your clothes off in front of them in fear they will not like what they see, because they see you as beautiful no matter what! 'tis a great feeling!

see thats why I started the thread on the cam...me Master has seen me naked...but not all together! *laugh* For me the cam thing makes it so much worse..I would find in difficult in person but he would be there naked too and I think I would feel completely at ease. Not to mention the fact my mind would be very much on other things
But what you just said really helps actually and now that my confidence is growing I think that the time he will see me au natural will be very soon

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

*hugs* glad you had fun

What a good idea of his to make you keep saying it to yourself. Constant reaffirmation is supposed to work...lol I might give it a go

Repeat after me....'you are HOT, you are HOT...' *giggle*

Thanks hon

Yes it does help to do that especially when I am having a down day..

Yes repeat that girl..That would be so good to do!