Distance Domination-Support Thread

[the captians wench]

Hey wenchie

excuse my naivety but remember I'm pretty new to all this! When you say objectification what do you mean?

I mean, I know understand what the word means but how does that translate into ...er, practice?

Well, in essence, we're moving towards me being an object for his amusement more so than me being my own person, some times. *giggles* I'll be his toy that he can pick up and play with when ever and how ever he wishes with little regard to how I may feel about it, if I want to do some thing or not like.

obviously we are not going to be able to carry out things like me being a footstool or what not, but he does want me to be prepared to be his ashtray.*whimperish face* I'm not as excited about that one. He won't put out the cig on me, but just flick off his ashes like.

In some ways I'm hesitant about the idea, my own since of person and importance coming out. But I love how free it lets me be. I will have no voice in those situations, I will just listen and obey.

does that help?

 

[minx1]

Well, in essence, we're moving towards me being an object for his amusement more so than me being my own person, some times. *giggles* I'll be his toy that he can pick up and play with when ever and how ever he wishes with little regard to how I may feel about it, if I want to do some thing or not like.

obviously we are not going to be able to carry out things like me being a footstool or what not, but he does want me to be prepared to be his ashtray.*whimperish face* I'm not as excited about that one. He won't put out the cig on me, but just flick off his ashes like.

In some ways I'm hesitant about the idea, my own since of person and importance coming out. But I love how free it lets me be. I will have no voice in those situations, I will just listen and obey.

does that help?

*giggles* blimey! It certainly does wenchie thanks

I don't think I'm ready for anything like that just yet. Though in fantasy some of the elements appeal to me.....like being His toy, to use how and when He wants. I guess I am at the stage though where I like the fact that if I am really not in the mood, because say I am ill or feeling upset about something, that He will take that into account.
Does that still happen with objectification or is it a case of tough luck if your not in the mood?

I definitely wouldn't like a cig put out on me...Ouch! I bet it hurts and not in a good way! and flicking ash on me....well if it was cool ash, I think I'd just giggle. I tend to find humour in most things and it would land me in trouble I think! *sniggers*

God I am so naive...its embarrassing! *giggle*

I'm gonna read some more on it. Thanks hon

 

[the captians wench]

*giggles* blimey! It certainly does wenchie thanks

I don't think I'm ready for anything like that just yet. Though in fantasy some of the elements appeal to me.....like being His toy, to use how and when He wants. I guess I am at the stage though where I like the fact that if I am really not in the mood, because say I am ill or feeling upset about something, that He will take that into account.
Does that still happen with objectification or is it a case of tough luck if your not in the mood?

I definitely wouldn't like a cig put out on me...Ouch! I bet it hurts and not in a good way! and flicking ash on me....well if it was cool ash, I think I'd just giggle. I tend to find humour in most things and it would land me in trouble I think! *sniggers*

God I am so naive...its embarrassing! *giggle*

I'm gonna read some more on it. Thanks hon

I say that he will have no regard for how I feel, but it's more I will have no say. We've played before when I was so sick I couldn't take more that 5 slaps with my steel cored slapper before I was in tears. He pushed me then, but he realized I was sick and needed to rest so we didn't even skim the surface of what I could normally take. I can't imagine him not keeping my feelings and well being in the back of his mind, which makes it a lot easier to submit to this.

Thankfully he feels putting a cig out on flesh is too much. *sigh of releaf* and I have a feeling when I'm preparing for this I'll end up with the giggles as well. I mean it's one thing to be kneeling at his feet with and open mouth to collect his ash, it's another to turn the cig around and do it yourself.

 

[minx1]

I say that he will have no regard for how I feel, but it's more I will have no say. We've played before when I was so sick I couldn't take more that 5 slaps with my steel cored slapper before I was in tears. He pushed me then, but he realized I was sick and needed to rest so we didn't even skim the surface of what I could normally take. I can't imagine him not keeping my feelings and well being in the back of his mind, which makes it a lot easier to submit to this.

Thankfully he feels putting a cig out on flesh is too much. *sigh of releaf* and I have a feeling when I'm preparing for this I'll end up with the giggles as well. I mean it's one thing to be kneeling at his feet with and open mouth to collect his ash, it's another to turn the cig around and do it yourself.

*laugh* oh god can you imagine!

Actually you hit the nail on the head though wenchie....as usual its all about trust eh. You trust Jounar enough to know he wouldn't push you to breaking point and in the knowledge he will take your health and wellbeing into account.

 

[minx1]

Wenchie, I was just reading your writings...they are great hon! I loved the stories and god I would love to be able to write poetry!

I have just completed a task for my Master...it was to write a story of a conversation we had. Am gonna show it to Him later, so wish me luck.

I am quite unsure about my writing skills and am slightly worried He may want me to submit it. Its other people comments that I worry about. Silly really I guess. I mean generally speaking people on here seem pretty supportive.

But I'm no writer

Is that something that worried you....or did you just think to hell with it?

 

[the captians wench]

Wenchie, I was just reading your writings...they are great hon! I loved the stories and god I would love to be able to write poetry!

I have just completed a task for my Master...it was to write a story of a conversation we had. Am gonna show it to Him later, so wish me luck.

I am quite unsure about my writing skills and am slightly worried He may want me to submit it. Its other people comments that I worry about. Silly really I guess. I mean generally speaking people on here seem pretty supportive.

But I'm no writer

Is that something that worried you....or did you just think to hell with it?

Oh lord child don't go by me *giggles*. I do a lot of things with the attitude "This is what I like and fuck what other people think or say". I designed my own binkini when I was in highschool and a size 16 (sorry I don't remember my euro convertions atm). You couldn't buy two pieces for plus sized girls then, so I made one with the triangle top and a skirt on the bottoms to hide my tummy. People looked at me like wtf? but I didn't care, I wanted to wear a two piece like all my other friends and damn it I did!

I write what I feel at that time. Each story I've posted has had a story attached to it. Some are easier to figure out than others. I post them for the same reasons I post anything else. To get things out in the open, it's just releasing. If some one happens to enjoy it then great. If they don't like it, fuck 'em, it's not like it was written for them anyway. My Master loves my writing, and the series I've written for him. If he thought "the slave should get really used", then he'd tell me and I'd change it.

There are some wonderful editors around on the editors forum, and some here that would be happy to help you along, should you choose to post something. I have one I've used for a lot of my stories. While I don't proclaim myself a writer, I do take great pride in my work, as with anything I do. I want it to be the best it can be, so sometimes an extra eye can help perfect things I might miss. And let's face it, my love is going to be a lot like my step dad and love every piece of crap I show him. *giggles*

 

[minx1]

Oh lord child don't go by me *giggles*. I do a lot of things with the attitude "This is what I like and fuck what other people think or say". I designed my own binkini when I was in highschool and a size 16 (sorry I don't remember my euro convertions atm). You couldn't buy two pieces for plus sized girls then, so I made one with the triangle top and a skirt on the bottoms to hide my tummy. People looked at me like wtf? but I didn't care, I wanted to wear a two piece like all my other friends and damn it I did!

I write what I feel at that time. Each story I've posted has had a story attached to it. Some are easier to figure out than others. I post them for the same reasons I post anything else. To get things out in the open, it's just releasing. If some one happens to enjoy it then great. If they don't like it, fuck 'em, it's not like it was written for them anyway. My Master loves my writing, and the series I've written for him. If he thought "the slave should get really used", then he'd tell me and I'd change it.

There are some wonderful editors around on the editors forum, and some here that would be happy to help you along, should you choose to post something. I have one I've used for a lot of my stories. While I don't proclaim myself a writer, I do take great pride in my work, as with anything I do. I want it to be the best it can be, so sometimes an extra eye can help perfect things I might miss. And let's face it, my love is going to be a lot like my step dad and love every piece of crap I show him. *giggles*

*laugh* yeah I know my Master will love it...if only because I wrote it for him!

One of the hardest bits for me was to describe the sex scenes...I guess I will improve with practice....the writing I mean not sex...or er do I mean both?!! *giggles*

You are right to think the way you do wenchie...I wish I could be more like that. I have never taken criticism well...even the constructive type lol.

But I really enjoyed writing it...I didn't think I would. I thought it would be a bit of a chore to be honest. But by the end of it I felt like I had really achieved something. I'm glad He set me this task

 

[xseraphimx]

Good Morning

I bid You all a very Good Morning. *waves* I just thought I would pop in, breifly to see how You all are. Tis funny ~ but I feel kinda drawn to this group/forum and this thread. To update You all who commented on my previous post. Master and I are talking again, taking it slowly....baby steps. My emotions are still very raw as some rather mean things were said between Us, that last fight *grimaces* But this morning, I feel gloriously alive, for the first time in many weeks, some of this good feeling I believe, is because I came here an unburdened myself on here. It will take me a wee while to get past my natural shyness, but, I feel good about bearing my thoughts and troubles to those that read. ThankYou all. I must go now, time waits for no one eh....Have a great day all.

 

[Toa_lin]

First off, yes I'm glad she's safe too, secondly, I have no intention of stoping showing my soft side, just figured I'd warn ya ahead of time

And finally, as wenchie mentioned, if u need an editor there's plenty in the editor's forum, but if u want to save urself the trouble, I'm one of them And have no qualms about adding more jobs to my current list. But feel free to look at your large choices, for I know I may not be the editor you're looking for.

 

[minx1]

I bid You all a very Good Morning. *waves* I just thought I would pop in, breifly to see how You all are. Tis funny ~ but I feel kinda drawn to this group/forum and this thread. To update You all who commented on my previous post. Master and I are talking again, taking it slowly....baby steps. My emotions are still very raw as some rather mean things were said between Us, that last fight *grimaces* But this morning, I feel gloriously alive, for the first time in many weeks, some of this good feeling I believe, is because I came here an unburdened myself on here. It will take me a wee while to get past my natural shyness, but, I feel good about bearing my thoughts and troubles to those that read. ThankYou all. I must go now, time waits for no one eh....Have a great day all.

Thats really good news xseraphimx

I empathise my Master and I had a bit of fallout the other day...or rather I had one and He just watched! *laugh*
But it can leave you feeling a bit delicate and wounded for a while eh.
Thats part of the reason I wrote the story last night...it was really cathartic and it was a way of me expressing my feelings about us and concentrating on the really good things rather than the misunderstanding we had.

and you are right..having this thread and a place to unburden really really helps.

Anyway I am glad that you and he have made up. Have a great day yourself

 

[minx1]

First off, yes I'm glad she's safe too, secondly, I have no intention of stoping showing my soft side, just figured I'd warn ya ahead of time

And finally, as wenchie mentioned, if u need an editor there's plenty in the editor's forum, but if u want to save urself the trouble, I'm one of them And have no qualms about adding more jobs to my current list. But feel free to look at your large choices, for I know I may not be the editor you're looking for.

thankyou for the offer Tao Lin, I may well take you up on it if He decides He would like me to submit it. If He doesn't I might just keep it to myself! *laugh*

 

[Toa_lin]

thankyou for the offer Tao Lin, I may well take you up on it if He decides He would like me to submit it. If He doesn't I might just keep it to myself! *laugh*

Hehe, but of course, I don't expect u to involve me in something soo personal as a story u wrote to him, unless he's told u to make it public by posting here. I may have a slight ego from time to time, but not to the point I think any world revolves around me except my pyl's

 

[minx1]

Hehe, but of course, I don't expect u to involve me in something soo personal as a story u wrote to him, unless he's told u to make it public by posting here. I may have a slight ego from time to time, but not to the point I think any world revolves around me except my pyl's

*laugh* I was suggesting that honestly! Really thankyou for the offer, I really appreciate it

 

[Toa_lin]

*laugh* I was suggesting that honestly! Really thankyou for the offer, I really appreciate it

Hehehe, your welcome minx, I mean this IS the support thread, and it's just anoher service I can offer to help you and your PYL's relationship stay strong

 

[intothewoods]

Stilllllllll missing him. Just in case anyone was, um, wondering.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

yeah, planes, or for those of us in the same coutnry ((cus i know some of us aren't)) u could take a road-trip.. but that'd be even harder considering the fact that time is normally of the essence.

Gotta love science-fiction.... now only to make it real

We are both in the US, but it would take 36 hours to drive straight through, and with gas at 3 bux a gallon its cheaper to fly.

But the plan is when I move, I am going to fly her out here, and we will road trip back together.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

sry for posting this big of an issue, after like JUST joining the thread, but I currently have no-where else to turn........

Any of you in Florida right now probably know about the recent wild-fire there..... well.... it's less then 5 miles from my pet's house/farm.... and heading her way... and though I know I shouldn't worry too much, she's smart enough to take care of herself, i still can't help it.... Not when they just issued an evacuation warning for her area.... She simply means too much for me to not worry...

Don't be sorry, that is what we are here for.

Hell, if rose hears about an earthquake anywhere in Cali she will panic until she hears from me, and will likley be on this thread worrying.

(And that would only be a 4.5 centered in LA, and I am a long way from there.)

I hope she is ok, bro...

 

[MasterPhoenix]

*smiles* i'm glad she is ok, how scary that musta been. no need to be sorry for sappy, Master is the same way..but shhhh dont' tell Him i said that, He doesn't want me to ruin His 'Sadist' rep ya know *giggles*

:raises eyebrow

*shakes head* I'll show you sappy get...mutterssomethingunintelligableaboutsubbiestellingeverything....

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Was so sweet, he was more upset about it than I was even.

I got confused about rose's birthday well before her birthday, and now YEARS later she won't let me live it down.... (not like I forgot it on her birthday, like she did to me in 2k6)

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Just thought I would introduce myself in this thread, since I have started a LDR with my Mistress about a month ago. We actually are both quite new to BDSM, and actually met on a game called Second Life. We are taking things past SL now though, and getting into assignments, and phone, and IMing. Learning a lot about my self through all of this. This thread is a wonderful idea for long distance, and I hope I will be able to contribute.

Welcome to the thread...

This is a great and helpful bunch, except that that smartass MasterPhoenix. Never listen to him, he will lead you in the wrong direction because he don't know what he is talking about most of the time, and will just make smartass comments...

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Welcome to the thread...

This is a great and helpful bunch, except that that smartass MasterPhoenix. Never listen to him, he will lead you in the wrong direction because he don't know what he is talking about most of the time, and will just make smartass comments...

hmmm..does this mean His precious property and loving submissive, lil_slave_rose should be scared that she's being lead down the wrong path?

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I got confused about rose's birthday well before her birthday, and now YEARS later she won't let me live it down.... (not like I forgot it on her birthday, like she did to me in 2k6)

*giggles* i so did NOT forget Your birthday!! You didn't give me time to get over my computer issues, and i was going to say Happy Birthday and you said, wow, i don't even get a Happy Bday.....and now you continue to give me shit about it...that's the true story of what happened.....*nods,nods*

by the way, when IS my birthday?? i'll give You a hint, it's NOT April 26th nor is it April 28th

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Hehe, but of course, I don't expect u to involve me in something soo personal as a story u wrote to him, unless he's told u to make it public by posting here. I may have a slight ego from time to time, but not to the point I think any world revolves around me except my pyl's

What about your recent petition to have this thread renamed the ToaLin Distance Domination Thread? on the ToaLin BDSM Talk Forum on ToaLinsliterotic.com on the ToaLin Internet.

LOLOL... Just messin with you bro, its all good!

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Stilllllllll missing him. Just in case anyone was, um, wondering.

Thats what we are here for. Either that or the keg in the corner.

A few suggestions:

* treat everything you do as if it is for him. Even tho he is out of contact for a bit, when you shower you are cleaning yourself for him, when you eat you are sustaining yourself for him, etc....

* If you are inclined to write, maybe write a story of you two together. Maybe a chance to outline some fantasy you have but haven't tried...

I will post more as I think of them.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

hmmm..does this mean His precious property and loving submissive, lil_slave_rose should be scared that she's being lead down the wrong path?

You snuck up on me.