Distance Domination-Support Thread

[the captians wench]

Thank you for your thoughful response Wenchie. I was specifically interested in orgasm denial over an extended period of time, as opposed to orgasm control which many of us practice. I see the two as totally different. Anyway, I was hoping you'd offer your POV. I understand much better now. My situation is the opposite of yours as Daddy lives 5 minutes away and he is very generous with orgasms. As such, I was having trouble wrapping my brain around a month long dry spell. I understand now. Thanks again!

You know, he says he did his last sub this way too....took her down to only masterbating once a month. And they were close to each other from what I understand. It's just another thing that he really enjoys, and you know, I do too.

I love having to beg for each orgasm. I love checking with him on the first of every month for how many I'll be allowd and rationing them out (if there's more than one). I really love being in such an aroused state that I nearly hump everything in sight. I love when he tells me that I still have a few weeks before my next one. And I love when he's in a good mood and gives me a free-bee.

Now I will say this. I do have stress passes. When I get too stressed out I tend to eat, so I asked him to help me with this problem. So he told me when ever I'm stressed, I can cum as many times as I like with in 5 mins. But I have to give 50 swats to my ass and 50 to each tit with my steelcored slapper. That beats the fuck out of ice cream when you only get to cum once a month!

I know he really like hearing me beg as well. And I think that's another reason he makes me go so long....If I'm really hot, then I tend to be a little less shy on the phone.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

You know, he says he did his last sub this way too....took her down to only masterbating once a month. And they were close to each other from what I understand. It's just another thing that he really enjoys, and you know, I do too.

I love having to beg for each orgasm. I love checking with him on the first of every month for how many I'll be allowd and rationing them out (if there's more than one). I really love being in such an aroused state that I nearly hump everything in sight. I love when he tells me that I still have a few weeks before my next one. And I love when he's in a good mood and gives me a free-bee.

Now I will say this. I do have stress passes. When I get too stressed out I tend to eat, so I asked him to help me with this problem. So he told me when ever I'm stressed, I can cum as many times as I like with in 5 mins. But I have to give 50 swats to my ass and 50 to each tit with my steelcored slapper. That beats the fuck out of ice cream when you only get to cum once a month!

I know he really like hearing me beg as well. And I think that's another reason he makes me go so long....If I'm really hot, then I tend to be a little less shy on the phone.

during the times you are not allowed to cum or masturbate, are you allowed to do it while He's on the phone? or are you truly denied orgasm. because the way i see it, if He is still letting you cum while on the phone with Him, then it is still orgasm control, as that is how Master does it with me also, i cannot cum on my own i cannot Masturbate without Him on the phone, was just curious if it was the same with you or if when He says 'not allowed to cum' He means not even with Him.....

 

[the captians wench]

during the times you are not allowed to cum or masturbate, are you allowed to do it while He's on the phone? or are you truly denied orgasm. because the way i see it, if He is still letting you cum while on the phone with Him, then it is still orgasm control, as that is how Master does it with me also, i cannot cum on my own i cannot Masturbate without Him on the phone, was just curious if it was the same with you or if when He says 'not allowed to cum' He means not even with Him.....

Usually it means period. I get to cum once a month whether it's with him on the phone, on cam, or by myself.

Very rarely will he let me have an extra on cam, and even more rarely with him on the phone. The number he gives is it, with or without him. And most often it's spent with him that first night. The rest of the month is full of him torturing me in what ever way he pleases, which usually results in me pleading for an orgasm, and most often denied.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Usually it means period. I get to cum once a month whether it's with him on the phone, on cam, or by myself.

Very rarely will he let me have an extra on cam, and even more rarely with him on the phone. The number he gives is it, with or without him. And most often it's spent with him that first night. The rest of the month is full of him torturing me in what ever way he pleases, which usually results in me pleading for an orgasm, and most often denied.

yowsa..i could not imagine only coming once a month..wow wow wow..LOL...i'm glad it works out for you though, *smiles* i've never been truly denied orgasm, and hopefully i'm not though sometimes i wonder what it would be like to be completely denied (lord i know Master is reading this going ..hmmm...really? and giving Him an idea) it's true though..anyway,thanks for explaining

 

[myinnerslut]

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[the captians wench]

yowsa..i could not imagine only coming once a month..wow wow wow..LOL...i'm glad it works out for you though, *smiles* i've never been truly denied orgasm, and hopefully i'm not though sometimes i wonder what it would be like to be completely denied (lord i know Master is reading this going ..hmmm...really? and giving Him an idea) it's true though..anyway,thanks for explaining

*giggles*

It's a bit easier because he doesn't tease me first, but only a bit. But I'm not expected to do things that will excite me every day and then not be allowd to follow thru. Except for when I'm spanked or tacked or something, which gets me very hot. If I cum from pain, that's allowd, but direct stimulation not unles I'm told.

I guess I really don't look at it as denial, because it's not that often that I ask for extras. But I guess that's more because I know I won't get them than me not wanting them.

But I have noticed, the fewer orgasms I'm allowd in a month, the more time I take in achieving them. Like the past two months I've been allowd one a day, and other than yesterday when my new toys came in, after the first two weeks, I just started into them to cum and didn't enjoy the ride and the scenery on the way. When I'm only allowd one, I plan it out for when I know I'll be at my hottest (if I'm allowd to). I set some music, candle light, and really work slowly, building and building, pausing so I can last a bit longer and then playing some more. Really enjoying each sinsation, each movement, until I can't stand it any longer and bam the big one!

I think he enjoys this more too because I have to send him a detailed email of the event and so there's a lot more to tell. *giggles*

Each orgasm is a gift to me from him, so I really can't see as he's denying me anything.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

thats gotta be the downside of having a SO on the boards.. i can say whatever i like without fear of giving Sir any ideas, but i admit im jelouse of the support you two show each other

but i digress

back to orgasm denial, i like to be controlled, given only a few a week or a month or however long. i hate being denied. not given any at all. with or without him. Sirs sadistic streak really comes out when im being punished this way becuase he will do anything he possibly can to ensure i am horny and miseable the entire time.

be careful what you wish for

oh, i'm not wishing lol...just wonder..ya know? complete orgasm denial is used as punishment and well, i've never really been in trouble where He's needed to use that punishment. as far as the downside of being on the board with Him you're right, i can't use the Forum as a sounding board or whatever if i'm upset with Him, but i enjoy that He is here on the board with me.

*sighs* He got a new 'toy' today to bring with Him and He won't tell me what it is..He says it's something i've wanted to feel, and it's long....hmmmm...a single tail perhaps? i guess i'll find out Tuesday!

 

[lil_slave_rose]

*giggles*

It's a bit easier because he doesn't tease me first, but only a bit. But I'm not expected to do things that will excite me every day and then not be allowd to follow thru. Except for when I'm spanked or tacked or something, which gets me very hot. If I cum from pain, that's allowd, but direct stimulation not unles I'm told.

I guess I really don't look at it as denial, because it's not that often that I ask for extras. But I guess that's more because I know I won't get them than me not wanting them.

But I have noticed, the fewer orgasms I'm allowd in a month, the more time I take in achieving them. Like the past two months I've been allowd one a day, and other than yesterday when my new toys came in, after the first two weeks, I just started into them to cum and didn't enjoy the ride and the scenery on the way. When I'm only allowd one, I plan it out for when I know I'll be at my hottest (if I'm allowd to). I set some music, candle light, and really work slowly, building and building, pausing so I can last a bit longer and then playing some more. Really enjoying each sinsation, each movement, until I can't stand it any longer and bam the big one!

I think he enjoys this more too because I have to send him a detailed email of the event and so there's a lot more to tell. *giggles*

Each orgasm is a gift to me from him, so I really can't see as he's denying me anything.

*nods* makes perfect sense......

 

[myinnerslut]

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[lil_slave_rose]

i have to do the same thing for every time i cum, and i algree that Sir probably enjoys it more when there is more to tell

only time i have to do that is if Master allows me to masturbate without Him , usually if i'm going to bed early and He's at work....i then have to send Him an email telling Him what i thought about it, or whatever He wants....

 

[myinnerslut]

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[littleone77]

Daddy lets me play whenever I want however if He is not about I have to write it down either in a email or save it for later. If I am with Him I have to ask permission. Early on I learned that...came before asking once and He denied me the ablity to play with my clit for a whole dang month.

 

[myinnerslut]

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[MasterPhoenix]

oh, i'm not wishing lol...just wonder..ya know? complete orgasm denial is used as punishment and well, i've never really been in trouble where He's needed to use that punishment. as far as the downside of being on the board with Him you're right, i can't use the Forum as a sounding board or whatever if i'm upset with Him, but i enjoy that He is here on the board with me.

*sighs* He got a new 'toy' today to bring with Him and He won't tell me what it is..He says it's something i've wanted to feel, and it's long....hmmmm...a single tail perhaps? i guess i'll find out Tuesday!

It WAS a singltail as you know,p but the dammed thing fell apart as I was practicing with it.... and they didn't have a decent replacement to exchange it wit

 

[MasterPhoenix]

i wonder about this topic in other realtionships. i mentioned it once, a bit earlier, but nothing ever came of it, and im curious. PYLs, do you allow your pyls to mastubate? how often? are they allowed to cum? pyls feel free to answer, this question isnt meant to specifically address the Dom/mes.

my contribution is in the link below, with the exeption of im back to eamiling since Sir decided he hated reading my livejournal.

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=20912632&postcount=987

As rose stated above, she is not allowed to without permission. PERIOD. Long time hard and fast rule.

OF course when we are together, she has to beg for them usually, although I do have her voice trained to cum on command. I had fun with that last night. We would eb talking, then I would tell her to do it out of the blue... and of course she would...

 

[MasterPhoenix]

once when Sir was feeling particularly evil and i was already not allowed to cum for three days, he had me write down what i would have done to myself if i could and then e-mail THAT to him.

evil. pure evil. it made me hornier then ever and i still couldnt do a thing about it

Hmmmm.... Now there is a good idea...

 

[serijules]

I am only allowed to orgasm when with Ma'am in person...which sometimes can be 3-4 months between visits. Orgasm denial is absolutely one of my most favorite methods of distance control. She often has me fuck myself, touch myself...whatever to amuse her, but I am not allowed the release of orgasm. It's frustrating as hell, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I feel her control physically on a daily basis because of this rule and all the frustration is worth that tangible feeling of closeness and ownership.

 

[myinnerslut]

Hmmmm.... Now there is a good idea...

sorry rose

 

[lil_slave_rose]

sorry rose

*smiles* no worries, He would have come up with something else on His own anyway, He IS a Sadist after all

 

[myinnerslut]

He IS a Sadist after all

as is mine... and i wouldnt have it any other way

 

[lil_slave_rose]

as is mine... and i wouldnt have it any other way

*grins* same here. i love that He is a Sadist, though sometimes He is a bit too Sadistic for me or at least some of His fantasies are but, ask me again in a year and see where i'm at LOL....

 

[MasterPhoenix]

*grins* same here. i love that He is a Sadist, though sometimes He is a bit too Sadistic for me or at least some of His fantasies are but, ask me again in a year and see where i'm at LOL....

Much further along in masochism.

 

[Athanasia]

i for one think that to be an awesome concept. ;P hehe

 

[MasterPhoenix]

i for one think that to be an awesome concept. ;P hehe

EAch step in this journey is awesome, IMO

 

[lil_slave_rose]

EAch step in this journey is awesome, IMO

*nods,nods* i agree, and in 3 short days i will be taking the journey even further *smiles* but why oh why do the days now seem to be dragging on???????