Distance Domination-Support Thread

[the captians wench]

*giggles* i am the same way, i cannot talk dirty to Him on the phone, or in person, but if we are 'playing' online, i can type it all so much so that i surprise myself sometimes..LOL....sucks that He didn't answer, but i'm glad that you enjoyed the morning anyway. i didn't get to play last night because basically i stayed up all night on the computer and by the time He laid down, it was time for me to get my son up and take him to my dad's house so i am horny as hell and won't get to do anything about it until He gets home from work tonight, because i forgot to ask permission before He went to sleep *sighs*

Sokay, I'm trying to decide if I want to try again here in a min or two. If nothing else I've gotten 2 rooms cleaned up today *giggles*

You know, I'm starting to question how nice it was of him to give me to free months.....it's going to make it soooo much harder going back to asking again. Them Doms are pretty tricky characters sometimes!

 

[Bandit58]

It's different for me seeing I live with Him now, but He has never restricted my orgasms for days. When we were online I wasn't restricted in any way - in fact I was encouraged to play and explore myself. My history with sex is limited and I was able to cum with masturbation but found cumming with a partner difficult if not impossible, until I met Him and He showed me my G spot

My sex drive is lower than His, so it doesn't worry me much if I'm not given an orgasm when we play. I seem to have the ability (or curse depending on how you look at it) to switch myself off, due to my ex husband's emotional abuse. I 'm happy to pleasure Him for as long as He likes. However He loves to reciprocate and seeing me in a quivering heap on the bed just gives Him an excuse to torture me with the tickle feather, crop and cold water (and one time ice )

I am able to go for 2-3 weeks without an orgasm and it's not a problem to me

 

[the captians wench]

It's different for me seeing I live with Him now, but He has never restricted my orgasms for days. When we were online I wasn't restricted in any way - in fact I was encouraged to play and explore myself. My history with sex is limited and I was able to cum with masturbation but found cumming with a partner difficult if not impossible, until I met Him and He showed me my G spot

My sex drive is lower than His, so it doesn't worry me much if I'm not given an orgasm when we play. I seem to have the ability (or curse depending on how you look at it) to switch myself off, due to my ex husband's emotional abuse. I 'm happy to pleasure Him for as long as He likes. However He loves to reciprocate and seeing me in a quivering heap on the bed just gives Him an excuse to torture me with the tickle feather, crop and cold water (and one time ice )

I am able to go for 2-3 weeks without an orgasm and it's not a problem to me

See some of the girls at work say the same thing. One even goes as far as to say she really only needs sex period about one time a month and then she's good! My ex used to get frusterated with me cause I wanted it at least once a day. I have an extreamly high libido, I sometimes think I think about sex as much as the teenage boys at work. *giggles*

When we first started out he really encouraged my self-exploration. Before that I only ever masturbated for my ex. He liked to watch me cum, and like hearing about me playing durring the day, so that was the only time I ever did anything myself. I always wanted to feel him, self pleasure really just wasn't satisfying.

Once I got used to it, and could really give myself a good work out we started talking about orgasm control. I think that was the real kick. Before I discovered how much fun I could have all by my lonesome, I never really craved it, maybe once a week or so after my ex and I stopped going back for "free sex". Now there's days when I just want to spend the whole day in bed with a few of my favorite toys.

I tease Jounar some times that he just likes to get me hooked on things and then take them away. *giggles* But I think there's a lot more truth to that than he's letting on.

 

[FurryFury]

My sex drive is currently higher than my husband's. We are also often both lazy as hell.

*sigh*

Fury

 

[ima6uldv8]

Tonight...

Master and I decided to take time apart. I needed time to figure things out. I love him so much and the pain of us never being together hurts so much.

I want nothing else, but to be strong enough for him and the moments we have. To be in his arms and look in his eyes.

But, I'm so confused. He is so amazing to understand and allow it.

My heart is broken and I can't stop crying. I know he is there, but I feel so fragile right now.

I understand how you feel but for totally different reasons. My Master and I didn't want to take time apart but a bad illness with him has forced it on us. He won't get better and doesn't want any contact with anyone. I haven't talked to him since the middle of November and it wasn't a good conversation. I just met him here last February and he was the love of my life. My sympathies with you as I know how much your heart hurts.

 

[nowgirl]

My sex drive is currently higher than my husband's. We are also often both lazy as hell.

*sigh*

Fury

omg - that made me smile. sometimes, too true!

 

[FurryFury]

omg - that made me smile. sometimes, too true!

*chuckles*

I'm glad it made you smile. Such is life, yanno?

Fury

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I understand how you feel but for totally different reasons. My Master and I didn't want to take time apart but a bad illness with him has forced it on us. He won't get better and doesn't want any contact with anyone. I haven't talked to him since the middle of November and it wasn't a good conversation. I just met him here last February and he was the love of my life. My sympathies with you as I know how much your heart hurts.

I wish you all the best...

and hope things work out as they should.

 

[callinectes]

I have a question for those of you in LDR (or even not LDR) that are restricted from having orgasms for extended periods of time. Why??? What does your PYL get out it and how/why do you handle it? My question is asked sincerely and I am not flaming. I am just interested in the how and why.

 

[the captians wench]

I have a question for those of you in LDR (or even not LDR) that are restricted from having orgasms for extended periods of time. Why??? What does your PYL get out it and how/why do you handle it? My question is asked sincerely and I am not flaming. I am just interested in the how and why.

I asked him once why he liked taking me down to once a month. His answer: "It's fun " Damn sadists *giggles*

On my end, I really enjoy him controling that part of my life. It's just one more step in giving everything over to him. He owns me, and he owns what pleasure I'm allowd to have. He owns every moan, every whimper, every sigh that I produce, and when he wishes to have one, he'll let me know.

I find my orgasms are more powerful and more meaningful now. Before when I masterbated, it felt empty at times, and I'd end up in tears missing him and wishing he was with me. The loneliness would kick in and I'd be miserable. Now it's almost like I'm connected to him in some way. I know every time I cum that he's thinking or listening, or watching me do it, and is likely to be sharing the moment with him on his end. Some how, that bridges the gap between us, even if just a bit, and for just a few minutes.

 

[SECRETDOM]

I have a question for those of you in LDR (or even not LDR) that are restricted from having orgasms for extended periods of time. Why??? What does your PYL get out it and how/why do you handle it? My question is asked sincerely and I am not flaming. I am just interested in the how and why.

Hello, I have restricted pet from orgasms for several reasons:

1) punishment
2) to increase her desire/frustration/readiness to "earn her cums"
3) in preparation for a visit together. (We have one coming up, the 10 or so days prior to that visit she will be teasing herself but not cumming. That will ensure that she is on the edge of going a bit crazy when we do see each other!)
4) because I am a sadist and enjoy her torment.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I have a question for those of you in LDR (or even not LDR) that are restricted from having orgasms for extended periods of time. Why??? What does your PYL get out it and how/why do you handle it? My question is asked sincerely and I am not flaming. I am just interested in the how and why.

for me, it's not 'extended periods of time' my orgasms are 'owned' by Master and He says when i can or can't have one. i have to beg in a scene to have release also. for us, it's all about control. being that He is 2000 miles away, this is one way He can assert that control, though i'm almost positive it will be the same when He's living here also. He has not denied me for long periods of time, actually for no periods of time, other than half an hour or so during a scene when He feels like watching me writhe and almost cry from not being able to cum. the reason He enjoys it i believe is because He is a sadist, and my torment pleases Him....seeing or hearing me moan and knowing that i'm almost on the edge but also knowing that i will NOT do it without Him telling me i can.....the only time i've ever been denied orgasm it was because i had masturbated without asking HIs permission and again that was not a long period of time, it was until He was done. i guess i'm speaking more of orgasm control than Denial. you asked how/why handle it? how, well that's the hard part, but being in the mindset to KNOW He owns my orgasms and if He doesn't want me to have one, then that His right, usually works. why?? because i gave my orgasms to Him when i gave Him control of me. He owns every part of me, including those things which come natural. i am not allowed to masturbate without permission either. *shrugs* i hope i was of atleast a little help, and i KNow others are going to explain it much better than me.....

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Hello, I have restricted pet from orgasms for several reasons:

1) punishment
2) to increase her desire/frustration/readiness to "earn her cums"
3) in preparation for a visit together. (We have one coming up, the 10 or so days prior to that visit she will be teasing herself but not cumming. That will ensure that she is on the edge of going a bit crazy when we do see each other!)
4) because I am a sadist and enjoy her torment.

*grins* sounds like my Master, especially #4

 

[FirmLovingDaddy]

What a wonderful thread. Like many, my goal and desire is to find that one special to embark into a realtime realtionship. But as some have already stated, realtime is not always possible or practicle. I'll be checking in as often as possible and hopfully learning some things and well as sharing my own experiences.
Regards,
Firm

 

[lil_slave_rose]

What a wonderful thread. Like many, my goal and desire is to find that one special to embark into a realtime realtionship. But as some have already stated, realtime is not always possible or practicle. I'll be checking in as often as possible and hopfully learning some things and well as sharing my own experiences.
Regards,
Firm

welcome! and good luck in finding what You are looking for

 

[myinnerslut]

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[MasterPhoenix]

i get this as a punishment. for making myself throw up (i am a recovering bulimic) 2 weeks minimum (he can increase it if he wanted to). for hurting myself in any way that leaves marks without his permission, 2 weeks minimum. for forgetting to wear my collar when i masturbate, several days besed on what he sees fair. i hate the punishment, and try to avoid it as much as possible

that is an effective punishment, IMO...

fortunately for rose, she hasnt pushed far enough to get that one... yet....

 

[myinnerslut]

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[the captians wench]

You know, I've never gotten this as a punishment.

Then again, I've only really been punished a hand ful of times. *shrug*

 

[lil_slave_rose]

that is an effective punishment, IMO...

fortunately for rose, she hasnt pushed far enough to get that one... yet....

*smiles* well there was the one time, but it wasn't complete denial, so i guess it doesn't count, though honestly i would have rather been completely denied, then made to cum after you did.....

 

[lil_slave_rose]

You know, I've never gotten this as a punishment.

Then again, I've only really been punished a hand ful of times. *shrug*

same here wench..i've been punished probably 3 times....

 

[MasterPhoenix]

What a wonderful thread. Like many, my goal and desire is to find that one special to embark into a realtime realtionship. But as some have already stated, realtime is not always possible or practicle. I'll be checking in as often as possible and hopfully learning some things and well as sharing my own experiences.
Regards,
Firm

I hope you find what you are looking for.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I have a question for those of you in LDR (or even not LDR) that are restricted from having orgasms for extended periods of time. Why??? What does your PYL get out it and how/why do you handle it? My question is asked sincerely and I am not flaming. I am just interested in the how and why.

I have not denied My little one for long periods of time, but I will comment on orgasm control.

She does not cum without My permission, as part of My ownership of her I own her right to cum. During a scene I normally make her beg sometimes several times before she is given release at My consent. I do this to reaffirm that even her most basic primal urge is under MY control.

If she wants an orgasm and I am not availble to give her one, she must ask My permission to please herself to have said orgasm. I normally attache conditions when I grant permission. Agan, that is a reminder that her sexuality is Mine.

Frankly, I love that I have that control over her. I love leaving her on that brink where she NEEDS to let go, but is struggling to hold it back because I have not allowed her. I love knowing that she is struggling with it because she has surrendered that essence of herself to Me. It is a distinct sadistic pleasure to make her hold back that which comes most natural becuase I am not ready to allow her to have it.

 

[callinectes]

I asked him once why he liked taking me down to once a month. His answer: "It's fun " Damn sadists *giggles*

On my end, I really enjoy him controling that part of my life. It's just one more step in giving everything over to him. He owns me, and he owns what pleasure I'm allowd to have. He owns every moan, every whimper, every sigh that I produce, and when he wishes to have one, he'll let me know.

I find my orgasms are more powerful and more meaningful now. Before when I masterbated, it felt empty at times, and I'd end up in tears missing him and wishing he was with me. The loneliness would kick in and I'd be miserable. Now it's almost like I'm connected to him in some way. I know every time I cum that he's thinking or listening, or watching me do it, and is likely to be sharing the moment with him on his end. Some how, that bridges the gap between us, even if just a bit, and for just a few minutes.

Thank you for your thoughful response Wenchie. I was specifically interested in orgasm denial over an extended period of time, as opposed to orgasm control which many of us practice. I see the two as totally different. Anyway, I was hoping you'd offer your POV. I understand much better now. My situation is the opposite of yours as Daddy lives 5 minutes away and he is very generous with orgasms. As such, I was having trouble wrapping my brain around a month long dry spell. I understand now. Thanks again!

 

[callinectes]

I have not denied My little one for long periods of time, but I will comment on orgasm control.

She does not cum without My permission, as part of My ownership of her I own her right to cum. During a scene I normally make her beg sometimes several times before she is given release at My consent. I do this to reaffirm that even her most basic primal urge is under MY control.

If she wants an orgasm and I am not availble to give her one, she must ask My permission to please herself to have said orgasm. I normally attache conditions when I grant permission. Agan, that is a reminder that her sexuality is Mine.

Frankly, I love that I have that control over her. I love leaving her on that brink where she NEEDS to let go, but is struggling to hold it back because I have not allowed her. I love knowing that she is struggling with it because she has surrendered that essence of herself to Me. It is a distinct sadistic pleasure to make her hold back that which comes most natural becuase I am not ready to allow her to have it.

I think most of us in a relationship practice orgasm control. Daddy certainly owns mine. I was interested in the dynamic of being denied for long periods of time. Thanks though.