Distance Domination-Support Thread

[myinnerslut]

Thank you both. I really do appreciate it, and it has helped a lot. He and I talk allll the time, and text as well. I am supposed to go see him this weekend for the first time. He has also told me that i will make him happy by just obeying him and not worrying about it. He might be moving closer (because of work, not just me ) and we're really hoping this works to make it a fully committed relationship as well.

good luck with the future move!!!!

and i LOVE your AV

 

[KayKat]

Welcome newbies to the thread....This is a helpful place when you are in a LDR...In the PAST I have had lots of help here but sometimes you get overlooked and ignored....

Hope that you get help when you ask a question. It is a friendly bunch of helpful people...

 

[Adakgirl]

ohhh maaaannn, I don't think I can even post about it right now...but i have too I think. My gut instinct told me NOT to post in here about my new Dominant, because if I did it would jinx the relationship. I should have listened to my gut.
He released me today because apparently when he was away from me at his grandmothers, both last time and this time, he realized he did not have the same desire he had at home, to get on-line and spend time with me. Even though when I questioned him on that topic (if he still wanted me, ect) he did not say anything to me about it.

When we spoke a few days ago before he went back, when I asked him, he said he had missed me. When I told him I wished he had affection for me, he told me that just because he did not show affection, did not mean he didn't have any. Then he tells me today that it wasn't "right" for him to not have the same level of affection for me that I do for him. (what's that about?)

I am not going to whine about this, if he doesn't have any feelings for me and think's he probably won't. develop any. then it would be unsatisfying for us both. But he always told me he enjoyed being with me. I had asked him if he liked being my Master, if he wanted me and if he was getting his needs fulfilled. He said yes to all my questions of that kind.

Then BOOM I get blindsided and in an e-mail no less. I told him that he could have at least shown me some respect by telling me while we were together on-line...for christ sakes. How utterly humiliating it is to be released in an e-mail like that. Well at least I learned how to record, edit, publish personal vids and upload them onto xtube... all by myself.

 

[myinnerslut]

*hugs*

i am so sorry adakgirl!

*more hugs*

thats a really awful way to do it.

*even more hugs*

 

[the captians wench]

ohhh maaaannn, I don't think I can even post about it right now...but i have too I think. My gut instinct told me NOT to post in here about my new Dominant, because if I did it would jinx the relationship. I should have listened to my gut.
He released me today because apparently when he was away from me at his grandmothers, both last time and this time, he realized he did not have the same desire he had at home, to get on-line and spend time with me. Even though when I questioned him on that topic (if he still wanted me, ect) he did not say anything to me about it.

When we spoke a few days ago before he went back, when I asked him, he said he had missed me. When I told him I wished he had affection for me, he told me that just because he did not show affection, did not mean he didn't have any. Then he tells me today that it wasn't "right" for him to not have the same level of affection for me that I do for him. (what's that about?)

I am not going to whine about this, if he doesn't have any feelings for me and think's he probably won't. develop any. then it would be unsatisfying for us both. But he always told me he enjoyed being with me. I had asked him if he liked being my Master, if he wanted me and if he was getting his needs fulfilled. He said yes to all my questions of that kind.

Then BOOM I get blindsided and in an e-mail no less. I told him that he could have at least shown me some respect by telling me while we were together on-line...for christ sakes. How utterly humiliating it is to be released in an e-mail like that. Well at least I learned how to record, edit, publish personal vids and upload them onto xtube... all by myself.

*huggles*

 

[Jenny6565]

good luck with the future move!!!!

and i LOVE your AV

thank you!! His idea. I'll be taking more pix soon...maybe some more of those since they please Him so much. It might be changing soon...and again when i see Him this weekend. *squeak*

 

[KayKat]

ohhh maaaannn, I don't think I can even post about it right now...but i have too I think. My gut instinct told me NOT to post in here about my new Dominant, because if I did it would jinx the relationship. I should have listened to my gut.
He released me today because apparently when he was away from me at his grandmothers, both last time and this time, he realized he did not have the same desire he had at home, to get on-line and spend time with me. Even though when I questioned him on that topic (if he still wanted me, ect) he did not say anything to me about it.

When we spoke a few days ago before he went back, when I asked him, he said he had missed me. When I told him I wished he had affection for me, he told me that just because he did not show affection, did not mean he didn't have any. Then he tells me today that it wasn't "right" for him to not have the same level of affection for me that I do for him. (what's that about?)

I am not going to whine about this, if he doesn't have any feelings for me and think's he probably won't. develop any. then it would be unsatisfying for us both. But he always told me he enjoyed being with me. I had asked him if he liked being my Master, if he wanted me and if he was getting his needs fulfilled. He said yes to all my questions of that kind.

Then BOOM I get blindsided and in an e-mail no less. I told him that he could have at least shown me some respect by telling me while we were together on-line...for christ sakes. How utterly humiliating it is to be released in an e-mail like that. Well at least I learned how to record, edit, publish personal vids and upload them onto xtube... all by myself.

So sorry to hear this Adakgirl! Many hugs to you!!

 

[mistyrydher]

newbie here...

Just wanted to stop in and say hello. i read the thread from time to time but have never had the nerve to write.

a little about me...i have been in an online D/s relationship with my Master for about 15 months. i had the pleasure of visiting Him about 5 months ago and it confirmed the feelings we had for each other. He asked me to move to be with Him, so *big smiles* i will be moving there in 3 months.

i thought it might help to chat with others who have been through the LDR thing and the nerves of moving to be with their Master.

Sorry for the ramble...thanks for listening!

~angel

 

[myinnerslut]

Just wanted to stop in and say hello. i read the thread from time to time but have never had the nerve to write.

a little about me...i have been in an online D/s relationship with my Master for about 15 months. i had the pleasure of visiting Him about 5 months ago and it confirmed the feelings we had for each other. He asked me to move to be with Him, so *big smiles* i will be moving there in 3 months.

i thought it might help to chat with others who have been through the LDR thing and the nerves of moving to be with their Master.

Sorry for the ramble...thanks for listening!

~angel

im moving down in two months, and i have my fair share of moving nerves. for one, ive never moved before. for another, everybody around me is trying to convince me (some more subtly then others) that its a bad idea. personally, i am nervouse, but excited and cant wait.

 

[mistyrydher]

im moving down in two months, and i have my fair share of moving nerves. for one, ive never moved before. for another, everybody around me is trying to convince me (some more subtly then others) that its a bad idea. personally, i am nervouse, but excited and cant wait.

wow...i am getting the same thing from my family, so much for unconditional love, right? lol

two months huh? are you moving far? are you scared? sorry for all the questions, i guess you can tell i am a bit on edge...i know i want to be with Him more than anything but moving away is hard.

nice to meet you btw!

 

[Bandit58]

Just over 5 years ago I moved from my small North Island rural area of New Zealand to the city of Sydney to live with Sir.

It was relatively easy for me, although I did leave my children behind (my son was 20 and my daughter just turned 16 at the time - she was living with my ex husband and my son was working and had his own life). My parents had moved a couple of months before to live near my brother and his family in Christchurch. I was unemployed, and renting a one bedroom unit, so I had no job or property other than household chattels.

All I took with me was my clothes (and I got rid of a lot of them first), some favourite books, my computer and my music and some linen. The rest I gave to my kids and friends or sold for what I could get for it (which wasn't much!).

Sir and I had met in person a couple of months before I moved. We had known each other online for several months before that - in fact we met here on Lit I stayed with Him for 3 weeks and within 3 days we both knew we wanted to be together permanently. It was a lot of organisation to get me here six weeks later, but it was so worth it - we have been married now for just over 2 years

I have had to adapt to city life from being rural all my life beforehand- it has been quite a culture shock and I still avoid driving here other than to the shopping centre and hospital (Sir has ongoing health problems which mean I cannot work outside the home).

 

[mistyrydher]

Just over 5 years ago I moved from my small North Island rural area of New Zealand to the city of Sydney to live with Sir.

It was relatively easy for me, although I did leave my children behind (my son was 20 and my daughter just turned 16 at the time - she was living with my ex husband and my son was working and had his own life). My parents had moved a couple of months before to live near my brother and his family in Christchurch. I was unemployed, and renting a one bedroom unit, so I had no job or property other than household chattels.

All I took with me was my clothes (and I got rid of a lot of them first), some favourite books, my computer and my music and some linen. The rest I gave to my kids and friends or sold for what I could get for it (which wasn't much!).

Sir and I had met in person a couple of months before I moved. We had known each other online for several months before that - in fact we met here on Lit I stayed with Him for 3 weeks and within 3 days we both knew we wanted to be together permanently. It was a lot of organisation to get me here six weeks later, but it was so worth it - we have been married now for just over 2 years

I have had to adapt to city life from being rural all my life beforehand- it has been quite a culture shock and I still avoid driving here other than to the shopping centre and hospital (Sir has ongoing health problems which mean I cannot work outside the home).

*giggles* i am moving from the US to NZ to be with my Master...leaving my son behind is the hardest, he is 18 years old and in college but still at home and he is my only child, he wants me to be happy, which i truly am for the first time in i don't know how many years but adjusting to a new life in a new country...that scares me.

Thanks so much for posting this...it helps so much. We met here on Lit also i only got to spend 6 days with Him when i visited NZ but it was amazing and i knew the moment i stepped into His arms that i did not want to leave, still working on the paperwork to get permission to stay in NZ...that's been fun LOL

nice to meet you!

~angel

 

[Lady_Fiona]

ohhh maaaannn, I don't think I can even post about it right now...but i have too I think. My gut instinct told me NOT to post in here about my new Dominant, because if I did it would jinx the relationship. I should have listened to my gut.
He released me today because apparently when he was away from me at his grandmothers, both last time and this time, he realized he did not have the same desire he had at home, to get on-line and spend time with me. Even though when I questioned him on that topic (if he still wanted me, ect) he did not say anything to me about it.

When we spoke a few days ago before he went back, when I asked him, he said he had missed me. When I told him I wished he had affection for me, he told me that just because he did not show affection, did not mean he didn't have any. Then he tells me today that it wasn't "right" for him to not have the same level of affection for me that I do for him. (what's that about?)

I am not going to whine about this, if he doesn't have any feelings for me and think's he probably won't. develop any. then it would be unsatisfying for us both. But he always told me he enjoyed being with me. I had asked him if he liked being my Master, if he wanted me and if he was getting his needs fulfilled. He said yes to all my questions of that kind.

Then BOOM I get blindsided and in an e-mail no less. I told him that he could have at least shown me some respect by telling me while we were together on-line...for christ sakes. How utterly humiliating it is to be released in an e-mail like that. Well at least I learned how to record, edit, publish personal vids and upload them onto xtube... all by myself.

Oh I am SO sorry to hear this Adakgirl. What a horrible way to let you go as well and as you said, after talking to him online too. I hope you find someone else worthy of your trust and vice versa who will treat you as you deserve to be. Lots of huggles luvvie.

*giggles* i am moving from the US to NZ to be with my Master...leaving my son behind is the hardest, he is 18 years old and in college but still at home and he is my only child, he wants me to be happy, which i truly am for the first time in i don't know how many years but adjusting to a new life in a new country...that scares me.

Thanks so much for posting this...it helps so much. We met here on Lit also i only got to spend 6 days with Him when i visited NZ but it was amazing and i knew the moment i stepped into His arms that i did not want to leave, still working on the paperwork to get permission to stay in NZ...that's been fun LOL

nice to meet you!

~angel

WOW thats a LONG move, and SO brave. I think those of you that have moved and are moving are..... well, you have my absolute admiration. Unfortunately I cannot see Daddy and myself in any situation where that can happen. I can only wish for it.

 

[Bandit58]

*giggles* i am moving from the US to NZ to be with my Master...leaving my son behind is the hardest, he is 18 years old and in college but still at home and he is my only child, he wants me to be happy, which i truly am for the first time in i don't know how many years but adjusting to a new life in a new country...that scares me.

Thanks so much for posting this...it helps so much. We met here on Lit also i only got to spend 6 days with Him when i visited NZ but it was amazing and i knew the moment i stepped into His arms that i did not want to leave, still working on the paperwork to get permission to stay in NZ...that's been fun LOL

nice to meet you!

~angel

Hi angel
It does take a bit of adjusting to get used to a new country, or city in my case. I had no friends or family here so Sir's friends are now my friends, but most of them live an hour's drive away so it's difficult to maintain some form of social life apart from meeting them for the occasional bbq and during the speedway season.

I'm a bit socially isolated because I don't get out much other than to the gym (a few minutes away luckily) and the usual shopping etc. Sir's health means sometimes He doesn't feel like doing much, and I'm rather shy which makes meeting other people a bit difficult However we both love each other's company which makes up for it, and I'm not much of a social butterfly anyway!

I didn't need a visa other than a stamp in my passport to live here - Australia and NZ maintain close relations and people from both countries are able to move back and forth freely. I receive a carer's payment from the Australian social security (known as Centrelink) because there's an international social security agreement between the two countries which enables their citizens to receive limited benefits (off the top of my head age pension, disability support and carers).

I don't envy you the immigration red tape! I have thought about becoming a permanent resident here and eventually have dual citizenship but the amount of paperwork is staggering. After 5 years here though there's usually no two year waiting period so I will try and save up the over $2000AU and apply in the next year or so.

Would love to know where in NZ you'll be located - PM me if you like if you'd rather not share on the boards (just the general area will do )

 

[Bandit58]

ohhh maaaannn, I don't think I can even post about it right now...but i have too I think. My gut instinct told me NOT to post in here about my new Dominant, because if I did it would jinx the relationship. I should have listened to my gut.
He released me today because apparently when he was away from me at his grandmothers, both last time and this time, he realized he did not have the same desire he had at home, to get on-line and spend time with me. Even though when I questioned him on that topic (if he still wanted me, ect) he did not say anything to me about it.

When we spoke a few days ago before he went back, when I asked him, he said he had missed me. When I told him I wished he had affection for me, he told me that just because he did not show affection, did not mean he didn't have any. Then he tells me today that it wasn't "right" for him to not have the same level of affection for me that I do for him. (what's that about?)

I am not going to whine about this, if he doesn't have any feelings for me and think's he probably won't. develop any. then it would be unsatisfying for us both. But he always told me he enjoyed being with me. I had asked him if he liked being my Master, if he wanted me and if he was getting his needs fulfilled. He said yes to all my questions of that kind.

Then BOOM I get blindsided and in an e-mail no less. I told him that he could have at least shown me some respect by telling me while we were together on-line...for christ sakes. How utterly humiliating it is to be released in an e-mail like that. Well at least I learned how to record, edit, publish personal vids and upload them onto xtube... all by myself.

I'm really sorry Adakgirl, I was so hoping that this would not happen However the lack of communication when he was away from normal contact with you sorta raised red flags with me. And to tell you in an email after chatting with you, and already knowing his decision and hiding it from you, that is low.

I know how you feel, and it's not nice (understatement) but be assured you will feel better eventually, and I'm hoping that you will find the person who is worthy of your submission

 

[Sexualinnocent]

I'm really sorry Adakgirl, I was so hoping that this would not happen However the lack of communication when he was away from normal contact with you sorta raised red flags with me. And to tell you in an email after chatting with you, and already knowing his decision and hiding it from you, that is low.

I know how you feel, and it's not nice (understatement) but be assured you will feel better eventually, and I'm hoping that you will find the person who is worthy of your submission

This is what i was thinking. Obviously, even though it hurts, this person was not worth your time or your submission. In time you will heal and find something great, and consider yourself fortunate!

Hugs.

 

[Adakgirl]

I really do appreciate all of you who have given me your sympathy and support, it helped me so much to read that right now. Yep bandit you were right, you clearly saw this coming and I would have been much wiser to have heeded your warning.

Something I did ..that I did not want to do but I made myself do it anyway.....and when I did.. it felt like I was releasing him like he released me, was
delete all of our convos I had saved from day one, all the yahoo convo's all the paltalk convos, all the vids I made for him, the three pictures I had of him, all the sent e-mails and all his replies I had saved in drafts. Then I cut out all the pages of notes I had taken and his instructions and punishments I had written down in a small binder and put them in the woodstove.

So even though tears are streaming down my face right now..and have been on and off all day...I feel much better because of that and because of all you understanding, caring, kind hearted, people in this thread. I will get over it..I am a big grown up girl, I turn 51 in a few months.

I was caught in the middle of a crying fit by a man who is a good friend and neighbor of mine today. How could I possibly tell him that I was THat upset over the loss of a brand new on-line D/s relationship. He held me in a hug and kept asking me what was wrong? what had happened?, did someone die? what is the matter, let me help you...tell me, are you sick or what? A
ll I could do is shake my head...he would think I had completely lost my mind and was freaking out if I had told him why I was crying. He left still not knowing what was wrong and without me being able to say anything but thank you.

 

[the captians wench]

Adakgirl~ Fire can be very cleansing. I've burned my fair share of ex lover's memories. With my ex husband tho I chose to sell it. *giggles*

Men are "fixers" they can't just listen to a problem, they have to find the solution. And most people don't understand how you can feel so strongly for some one you've only talked to online. I don't think anyone could blame you for not telling him what was wrong. Of course I'm just weird and I prolly would have blabbed out the entire story and freaked the poor guy out.


Angle~ I really understand the fear and worry of a move like that. I'm not even close to actually making my move, but my family is trying hard to talk me out of it. My mom keeps telling me that I don't understand how hard it will be to leave my family. I keep telling her there is no way to, but I do have some idea.

And it's Ireland, not Mars. I should be able to visit from time to time.

Well, anyway, welcome and good luck.

 

[mistyrydher]

WOW thats a LONG move, and SO brave. I think those of you that have moved and are moving are..... well, you have my absolute admiration. Unfortunately I cannot see Daddy and myself in any situation where that can happen. I can only wish for it.

*giggles* i don't feel so brave sometimes...but i do appreciate the post. i wish you and your Daddy the very best! *hugs*



the captains wench - thanks for the warm welcome...wow Ireland, that's cool! my mom keeps making comments like my Master is a seriel killer or something, trying to scare me out of going...then of course there is the guilt, my personal favorite LOL

Thanks again for the welcome here, it means alot! *hugs*


adakgirl - i am sorry to read about your break up...my very best to you! *hugs*

 

[the captians wench]

*giggles* i don't feel so brave sometimes...but i do appreciate the post. i wish you and your Daddy the very best! *hugs*



the captains wench - thanks for the warm welcome...wow Ireland, that's cool! my mom keeps making comments like my Master is a seriel killer or something, trying to scare me out of going...then of course there is the guilt, my personal favorite LOL

Thanks again for the welcome here, it means alot! *hugs*


adakgirl - i am sorry to read about your break up...my very best to you! *hugs*

Yup, went thru the seriel killer bit when I visited him last October. She was so freaked out that not even a full discription of him, his photo, and the phone number to the american embasy calmed her down. My whole plight with that is floating around in the cafe.

Now she's just leaving subtle reminders of what I'll miss if I move. Like I didn't know that already. I spent the winter morning the snow, and like I said, I'm not even close to moving yet. Lots of legal mumbo jumbo to wade thru. She's even trying to talk me into just spending an extended visit first, insted of getting married first. The problem with that is that my job is not going to give me 2 months off to see if I might want to leave them. So we go back and forth, her trying to talk me out of it knowing it won't do much good, and me trying to sooth her knowing I'm having about as much impact.

At least she knows that I am well informed on how to go about things, the cultural differences, the average income and so on. She still thinks it's going to be a greater emotional strain than I think it will be, she just doesn't quite beleive me when I tell her I know it will be harder than I can even imagine.

 

[myinnerslut]

Now she's just leaving subtle reminders of what I'll miss if I move.

my mother is doing this, both subtly and not so subtly. i really honestly hate it.

 

[sinnocence]

my mother is doing this, both subtly and not so subtly. i really honestly hate it.

So do I. My mother still does this even though I moved in with my dad over a year ago. And the question I hate the most: "Which place is better to you? Really."
Um, apparently the place I chose to go?


I can't WAIT until I move in with Master. *sigh* I know my dad will be the same way...if not worse.

 

[KayKat]

I really do appreciate all of you who have given me your sympathy and support, it helped me so much to read that right now. Yep bandit you were right, you clearly saw this coming and I would have been much wiser to have heeded your warning.

Something I did ..that I did not want to do but I made myself do it anyway.....and when I did.. it felt like I was releasing him like he released me, was
delete all of our convos I had saved from day one, all the yahoo convo's all the paltalk convos, all the vids I made for him, the three pictures I had of him, all the sent e-mails and all his replies I had saved in drafts. Then I cut out all the pages of notes I had taken and his instructions and punishments I had written down in a small binder and put them in the woodstove.

So even though tears are streaming down my face right now..and have been on and off all day...I feel much better because of that and because of all you understanding, caring, kind hearted, people in this thread. I will get over it..I am a big grown up girl, I turn 51 in a few months.

I was caught in the middle of a crying fit by a man who is a good friend and neighbor of mine today. How could I possibly tell him that I was THat upset over the loss of a brand new on-line D/s relationship. He held me in a hug and kept asking me what was wrong? what had happened?, did someone die? what is the matter, let me help you...tell me, are you sick or what? A
ll I could do is shake my head...he would think I had completely lost my mind and was freaking out if I had told him why I was crying. He left still not knowing what was wrong and without me being able to say anything but thank you.

Ada even though it no doubt hurt when you were getting rid of all the things I hope you feel better now..Been there done what you have done.it does help to cleanse yourself of all the reminders!

It is nice that you had a mail friend come around and talk to you and be there for you when you are hurting!

Many hugs for you!!

 

[sinnocence]

I really do appreciate all of you who have given me your sympathy and support, it helped me so much to read that right now. Yep bandit you were right, you clearly saw this coming and I would have been much wiser to have heeded your warning.

Something I did ..that I did not want to do but I made myself do it anyway.....and when I did.. it felt like I was releasing him like he released me, was
delete all of our convos I had saved from day one, all the yahoo convo's all the paltalk convos, all the vids I made for him, the three pictures I had of him, all the sent e-mails and all his replies I had saved in drafts. Then I cut out all the pages of notes I had taken and his instructions and punishments I had written down in a small binder and put them in the woodstove.

So even though tears are streaming down my face right now..and have been on and off all day...I feel much better because of that and because of all you understanding, caring, kind hearted, people in this thread. I will get over it..I am a big grown up girl, I turn 51 in a few months.

I was caught in the middle of a crying fit by a man who is a good friend and neighbor of mine today. How could I possibly tell him that I was THat upset over the loss of a brand new on-line D/s relationship. He held me in a hug and kept asking me what was wrong? what had happened?, did someone die? what is the matter, let me help you...tell me, are you sick or what? A
ll I could do is shake my head...he would think I had completely lost my mind and was freaking out if I had told him why I was crying. He left still not knowing what was wrong and without me being able to say anything but thank you.

Adakgirl, I know it's easier said than done, but getting rid of the things that remind you of him really does help in the long run. They won't be there in the back of your mind anymore, threatening to upset you or tempt you into living in the past. Believe me, I know. I had several things from my ex that took me a while to get rid of. But when I did, I felt a significant weight being lifted off of me. Sure, it was terribly hard at first. I'm not going to go into the lecture "that with time, you'll get over it". When things like this happen, we need some time to feel sorry for ourselves and to just cry. But the time *does* come. And when it does, you'll be a much stronger person.

I'm sorry things happened the way they did with you. I'm wishing you all the best.

 

[mistyrydher]

Yup, went thru the seriel killer bit when I visited him last October. She was so freaked out that not even a full discription of him, his photo, and the phone number to the american embasy calmed her down. My whole plight with that is floating around in the cafe.

Now she's just leaving subtle reminders of what I'll miss if I move. Like I didn't know that already. I spent the winter morning the snow, and like I said, I'm not even close to moving yet. Lots of legal mumbo jumbo to wade thru. She's even trying to talk me into just spending an extended visit first, insted of getting married first. The problem with that is that my job is not going to give me 2 months off to see if I might want to leave them. So we go back and forth, her trying to talk me out of it knowing it won't do much good, and me trying to sooth her knowing I'm having about as much impact.

At least she knows that I am well informed on how to go about things, the cultural differences, the average income and so on. She still thinks it's going to be a greater emotional strain than I think it will be, she just doesn't quite beleive me when I tell her I know it will be harder than I can even imagine.

the red tape is loads of fun isn't it? my mom is not trying to be nice about it, she has told me that she doesn't want any of my extended family (grandmother, aunts, uncles etc) to know that i am moving in with "some guy you picked up off the internet* or that i got a divorce. my personal favorite is that He will leave me in a few years because i am 4 years older than Him and He won't stay. my poor Master is coming to the US to pick me up for the move, because my son and brothers want to meet Him first, He has to meet my mom too. i have told her to behave but with her i never know. Then she uses her good ol back up...i can't believe you are leaving your son. (this one actually hurts bad)

Thankfully, when my ex decided to tell his family i was into BDSM he did not tell my family too...i was horrified when his sister called me to tell me it was "okay, cause she likes BDSM too" i almost choked to death.

i am sorry that your mom is being rough on you, but it sounds like you have done your homework and even though they think we are living in some kind of dream world, we know it will take some adjustment but will be sooooooo worth it. Thanks so much for sharing your story...it helps to know i am not alone. *hugs*