Discussion

[wetandslave]

This is more of a discussion board, rather than posting event times and places?

 

[Quint]

Yep, although event postings do show up in both this and the Cafe; not really sure which they are better suited for.

This section is strictly reserved for discussion...heated arguments, anecdotes, emoticons, hijacks, and pretty much whatever else you can think of. Welcome aboard!

 

[ethereal~minx]

cool cool, just what i need! ; )
thank you!

 

[MissTaken]

Yep, but perhaps we need a thread devoted to BDSM events where people can post and bump the thread for visibility.

It might also make a nice chronological log for someone who is interested.

 

[cellis]

Just stopping in to say hi to the new person!

 

[ethereal~minx]

question for submissives

do any of you, in telephone conversations, email, I suppose even in person... keep your comments/thoughts to yourself until a later conversation?

do you ever think you need to get to the bottom of whatever's on your mind right away & actually call back though the last comment was: we'll talk later, which clearly meant ~not tonight?

: )

 

[ethereal~minx]

am the only impetuous submissive?


edited to read:


am i
the only impetuous submissive?
*embarrassed*
jeeeminy christmas~~ even the thread i started didn't read the way i wanted it... my thoughts were quicker than my fingers *rolling eyes at self*

*if i cry, it'll only hurt me~~ if i vent, it'll only show impatience and insolence and grrrrrrrr~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ aghhhhhh ..can i just focus on something else more productive? and why can't i?????*

is it tooo much to ask for--- should i ask for--
nevermind

 

[ethereal~minx]

the Dom that introduced me~~~ or rather that was hesitant to have anything to do with me did so because of my persistance... because as He said, 'once you go there, you don't look back...'
basically. well, personally~ I think it was the most precious gift I could have been given~ this introduction! and what an experience it has been... it has been filled with wrought, ups and downs, extreme highs and extreme lows but without the introduction I wouldn't be where I am today. I truly believe this is NATURE~~ this is what life is~~ and I THANK GOD for this experience and though He is truly not in my life, this awareness is..

do any of you know what I'm talking about?

 

[Etoile]

I am so confused.

 

[sunfox]

I am so confused.

Okay. I don't feel so bad about being lost now.

 

[ethereal~minx]

discussion board... perhaps I should look up the definition~~ I was thinking~ a place to converse... k. brb. well, on second thoughts~ if I'm wrong~ maybe not. *red faced* maybe I'll just hide & never ever ever ever come back *smiling*



*dang, is it supposed to be this flippin difficult?*

 

[Etoile]

discussion board... perhaps I should look up the definition~~ I was thinking~ a place to converse... k. brb. well, on second thoughts~ if I'm wrong~ maybe not. *red faced* maybe I'll just hide & never ever ever ever come back *smiling*



*dang, is it supposed to be this flippin difficult?*

You might have better luck posting your question in a thread of its own. Just a thought.

 

[sunfox]

Nothing bad meant, ethereal~minx.. apologies if you took it
badly. I'm just wondering what exactly the discussion in
question is?

 

[wetandslave]

Discussion/attending events

It just seems to us that so few here are posting times,events.

we dont consider ourselve new,but thanks.

 

[ethereal~minx]

Nothing bad meant, ethereal~minx.. apologies if you took it
badly. I'm just wondering what exactly the discussion in
question is?

ah hah! I get it now~~ or I see why you dont *laughing*



my thoughts are sooo all over the place & jumbled. I'll have to try again. or or--- were you even talking about what I wrote? *embarrassed*

I'm just so dang impetuous. "He'll" say something on the phone~~~ and I'll be thinking about what He said...then we'll hang up~ end of conversation until the next time, like tomorrow.

but the more I think about what he said, the more I have questions, like~~~ what did you mean????? and I am just sooooo wanting to call back and I --I am soo bad about this!
whether it's on the phone, email or even in person, I just neeeed to know NOW & it really gets me in trouble...
so, my question was~~~ am I the only person like this?

what happens when you do this and it's not acceptable?

 

[cellis]

Minx dear.... not by a long shot....

I have a huge problem with this... I question and question until He sometimes has to say that He is not answering anymore questions...

I am then told that I have to stop... count and then ask... it is very difficult... I have an idea or a random thought and it escapes... I interrupt and then I am in trouble...

Oh my I knew what you were talking about from the beginning....

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: question for submissives

do any of you, in telephone conversations, email, I suppose even in person... keep your comments/thoughts to yourself until a later conversation?

do you ever think you need to get to the bottom of whatever's on your mind right away & actually call back though the last comment was: we'll talk later, which clearly meant ~not tonight?

: )

I have a bad habit of saying 'why', which is sometimes thought to mean I am questioning his authority when in fact it is just my lifelong passion to learn and understand, and though I often already understand, I like to make sure I am not misinterpreting from my own POV so I get to know him even better. He is getting used to it and understanding better it is not a question of obedience, and I am beginning to learn to not respond quite so instantly with such monosyllables, instead framing it better and making my intention clear. Of course, this does not mean it is always favourably accepted and answered immediately, sometimes he wants me to sweat, sometimes to wait and see, sometimes he just doesn't think it requires an answer, and then there are those times he just is too tired to respond. It varies.

Catalina

 

[ethereal~minx]

Minx dear.... not by a long shot....

I have a huge problem with this... I question and question until He sometimes has to say that He is not answering anymore questions...

I am then told that I have to stop... count and then ask... it is very difficult... I have an idea or a random thought and it escapes... I interrupt and then I am in trouble...

Oh my I knew what you were talking about from the beginning....

thank you
*tears welling*
I have to know I'm not the only one that struggles with this but sometimes it feels soooooo awful and alone. I have to believe I'm too hard on myself as well because I just feel like it's the end of the world when he expresses his frustration or upset...

thanks. that's it.

 

[ethereal~minx]

Re: Re: question for submissives

I have a bad habit of saying 'why', which is sometimes thought to mean I am questioning his authority when in fact it is just my lifelong passion to learn and understand, and though I often already understand, I like to make sure I am not misinterpreting from my own POV so I get to know him even better. He is getting used to it and understanding better it is not a question of obedience, and I am beginning to learn to not respond quite so instantly with such monosyllables, instead framing it better and making my intention clear. Of course, this does not mean it is always favourably accepted and answered immediately, sometimes he wants me to sweat, sometimes to wait and see, sometimes he just doesn't think it requires an answer, and then there are those times he just is too tired to respond. It varies.

Catalina

learning eachother is key I think : )
thanks catalina for responding

 

[ethereal~minx]

by wetandslave [/i]
This is more of a discussion board, rather than posting event times and places? [/QUOTE]

will anyone indulge me? : )
This is a question for the dominants here~~
before you realized or became aware that there is this awesome world of d/s~~ where there can be levels of formality to dominance/submission--
how did you dominate in your relationships? or did you?
Were you ever in a relationship where you both knew you were dominant~ the other knew he/she was submissive but you as the dominant established boundaries & set up rules by behavior & not words?
I realize this is not very clear but neither are my thoughts...


thanks for any feedback

 

[ghosst_K&H]

am the only impetuous submissive?


edited to read:


am i
the only impetuous submissive?
*embarrassed*
jeeeminy christmas~~ even the thread i started didn't read the way i wanted it... my thoughts were quicker than my fingers *rolling eyes at self*

*if i cry, it'll only hurt me~~ if i vent, it'll only show impatience and insolence and grrrrrrrr~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ aghhhhhh ..can i just focus on something else more productive? and why can't i?????*

is it tooo much to ask for--- should i ask for--
nevermind

no

 

[ethereal~minx]

no

that makes me laugh~~~~what confusion that was!!!
*squeezin eyes shut tight in embarrassment*

 

[snoozebutton]

Re: Re: Discussion

by wetandslave [/i]
This is more of a discussion board, rather than posting event times and places?

OK I was told was bossy in bed and that I automatically just chose where we went out to and ate. I did share the movie picks. But was very take charge in the things we did for fun. It was pointed out to me and I mellowed a bit. But I always had the fantasies of spanking and tieingup women. I even brooched subject to one girlfriend. She liked the fantasy aspect but we never got to actual bondage. Hope that helped.







will anyone indulge me? : )
This is a question for the dominants here~~
before you realized or became aware that there is this awesome world of d/s~~ where there can be levels of formality to dominance/submission--
how did you dominate in your relationships? or did you?
Were you ever in a relationship where you both knew you were dominant~ the other knew he/she was submissive but you as the dominant established boundaries & set up rules by behavior & not words?
I realize this is not very clear but neither are my thoughts...


thanks for any feedback [/QUOTE]

 

[ethereal~minx]

I guess these replies are hints huh? perhaps I should check the library rather than use this discussion thread...


thank you though for responding

 

[MissTaken]

Naw...I think the confusion was that the thread starter was asking about how to use the forums even though the title seemed to imply open discussion on any topic.

I am glad you found a place for those questions though.
I eagerly await the answers.