Disappointments................

[gottaBme]

~~~~~snicker~~~~~

I really think Bash nailed that one on the head there also, Native and Roman.......And after enjoying that ritual of chest thumping and clubbing us over the head,even the dragging to the cave.....LOL, perhaps is the main reason for the let down in my humble opinion.
I don't mind being teased and baited, but when it comes time to reel in the catch,I would rather be told the truth as Native says, but yeah I believe it is the fragile ego.Myself included here so not just doggin' the fellas.I am upfront as to what I can "deliver" so to speak, and will keep an open mind to the possibilities the future holds.
As a follow up, the gentleman who caused this initial disappointment was brave enough to get in touch and apologized. And I am a rational person that accepted it with no hard feelings.But am still enjoying everyones comments.............

 

[Native Alien]

i am still waiting to see what is said about this past week.

 

[mayi]

Re: Humor aside

It is my belief that most men lack the self confidence to be open and honest. Many men fail to meet their own standards so they cannot fathom meeting the standards of another...especially someone who is confident and self aware. It is my contention that is why most men find an honest, confident, intelligent, and sexually uninhibited woman so intimidating.

Men are raised on posturing. Beating our chest, clenching our fists, raising our voices...all are meant to mask our fears and cause "flight" in those that intimidate us. Interesting to note that this also the way that nature teaches us to attract a female.

Posturing, boasting, etc. Equivilent to bluffing. When the bluff is called and it's time to show the cards, most men are afraid of what they are holding.

In the end, it all boils down to ego...or lack thereof.

Just my 2 cents.





Bash

bash.........you don't have a problem with your ego so you must be seeing this from another perspective??..........tell me why men find strong women so attractive and yet want to protect them to the point of taking away the strength that attracted them in the first place?

 

[Native Alien]

a very good question there mayi. one that i would like to hear the answer to.

 

[bashfull]

Re: Re: Humor aside

bash.........you don't have a problem with your ego so you must be seeing this from another perspective??..........tell me why men find strong women so attractive and yet want to protect them to the point of taking away the strength that attracted them in the first place?

Hmmm...if I am to be totally honest with myself, then I must confess to having a fragile ego. However, I do accept who I am and only listen to the opinions of those whom I respect. As for the attraction to strong women, I believe that many men are intimidated by a strong women. However, the attention is usually established with weak males b/c the strong woman initiates? But I do not mind aggressive, sexually strong women. I actually prefer them as I lack confidence and competence.

As for failing to be honest from the beginning, I think Roman said it best in that the person thinks they will be able to "bull" their way through the lie. In the meantime, they posture as much as possible in order to get to that meeting. Personally, I can't stand such dishonesty. And many hide behind this virtual facade to mask their insecurities. The most hatefull ones here are probably the ones that still live at home long into their 30's and beyond and cringe at the thought of a real life confrontation.

As for protecting, I do not see that as a problem. I want a woman who is strong enough to let me be a man. E.g. I am a romantic and want a woman to feel (or at least allow me to believe) she is secure and comforted in my arms. I want her to be strong enough to enjoy me stroking her hair, rubbing her back, wrapping my arms around her and telling her that I will make her world a better place. To smile if I send flowers and write a poem. To laugh with me. To seek my shoulder for comfort and tears. To allow me to hold the door. My desire is to place her on a pedestal and treat her as my queen. To do what I can to bring mirth to her day, passion to her life, and desire to her loins...and, like a queen, to keep from attracting her ire. This is not to detract from her strength. Rather, it accentuates it. To remove her strength is to remove all that attracted me. Why would I do such a thing? Alas, I know that there are men who would.

As for sexually strong women...wish I had known about you all 10 years ago!

Now that I've rambled so much, time to let someone else have a word.



Bash

 

[Native Alien]

bashful, can i copy that post and paste it onto a banner for the living room. that is about as honest that you can get don't think there mayi?

 

[bashfull]

bashful, can i copy that post and paste it onto a banner for the living room. that is about as honest that you can get don't think there mayi?

Hmmm....is that good thing? And what part?



Bash

 

[Native Alien]

ummmm...the whole thing maybe...it wouldn't be as good if i tried to just use a part of it....

 

[bashfull]

ummmm...the whole thing maybe...it wouldn't be as good if i tried to just use a part of it....

And is that a good thing? Or did I stick my foot in it again?

 

[Native Alien]

that is a very good thing. take it from me. you rate right up there with the "ten commandments done the Native way".

 

[bashfull]

that is a very good thing. take it from me. you rate right up there with the "ten commandments done the Native way".

(blush) Thanks, darlin'.



Bash

 

[Native Alien]

now that i would like a pic of...a blushing bashful...

 

[bashfull]

now that i would like a pic of...a blushing bashful...

What's short, stumpy, ugly, and red all over? A blushing Bashfull!



Bash

 

[Native Alien]

somehow, i think that is just not true sir bashful.

how about a real look?

 

[bashfull]

somehow, i think that is just not true sir bashful.

how about a real look?

Don't have any pics, darlin. Perhaps someone who has met me can vouch for me.



Bash

 

[mayi]

i think i have found the man of my dreams!!!!!!!!! thanks bash.....you are one in a million.

 

[Native Alien]

well, here i am again to blow a little steam about men again. no, i am not bashing men, i am just trying to fathom what the hell goes on in the male mind and what women need to do to change it so that they know that we ain't buying the bull anymore.

it isn't all men, just lately seems to be most of them that i have to deal with. i want a prince, not a frog.

bashful, where are you located again?

 

[bashfull]

i think i have found the man of my dreams!!!!!!!!! Anyone I know? thanks bash.....you are one in a million. Probably a good thing.

 

[bashfull]

well, here i am again to blow a little steam about men again. no, i am not bashing men, i am just trying to fathom what the hell goes on in the male mind and what women need to do to change it so that they know that we ain't buying the bull anymore.

it isn't all men, just lately seems to be most of them that i have to deal with. i want a prince, not a frog.

bashful, where are you located again?

At a pond near you.

Sorry about your troubles, darlin. Wish I could help.



Bash

 

[Native Alien]

ahhh...it's okay bashful. just blowin steam about something that someone said is all. nothing that i won't get over or learn to ignore eventually. funny how i am learning to ignore so many things at this stage in my life.

 

[bashfull]

ahhh...it's okay bashful. just blowin steam about something that someone said is all. nothing that i won't get over or learn to ignore eventually. funny how i am learning to ignore so many things at this stage in my life.

I know what ya' mean, darlin. I keep having to ignore this funny feeling I get in my pants all the time. Perhaps I should go to the doctor and have it checked out. hmmm.



Bash

 

[BlueDaisy]

Ahhh, to hear "Hey, no games, no strings...just hours of mind blowing sex. This is what I like and am willing to do and here are the boundaries..." Whooo Doogggy! Not a lot of women out there who are that forward and probably not many guys who could be comfortable with such a woman.

Oh Bash, honey. I've got something to say to you:

"Hey, no games, no strings...just hours of mind blowing sex. This is what I like and am willing to do and here are the boundaries..."



Blue

 

[BlueDaisy]

Re: Re: Re: Humor aside

Hmmm...if I am to be totally honest with myself, then I must confess to having a fragile ego. However, I do accept who I am and only listen to the opinions of those whom I respect. As for the attraction to strong women, I believe that many men are intimidated by a strong women. However, the attention is usually established with weak males b/c the strong woman initiates? But I do not mind aggressive, sexually strong women. I actually prefer them as I lack confidence and competence.

As for failing to be honest from the beginning, I think Roman said it best in that the person thinks they will be able to "bull" their way through the lie. In the meantime, they posture as much as possible in order to get to that meeting. Personally, I can't stand such dishonesty. And many hide behind this virtual facade to mask their insecurities. The most hatefull ones here are probably the ones that still live at home long into their 30's and beyond and cringe at the thought of a real life confrontation.

As for protecting, I do not see that as a problem. I want a woman who is strong enough to let me be a man. E.g. I am a romantic and want a woman to feel (or at least allow me to believe) she is secure and comforted in my arms. I want her to be strong enough to enjoy me stroking her hair, rubbing her back, wrapping my arms around her and telling her that I will make her world a better place. To smile if I send flowers and write a poem. To laugh with me. To seek my shoulder for comfort and tears. To allow me to hold the door. My desire is to place her on a pedestal and treat her as my queen. To do what I can to bring mirth to her day, passion to her life, and desire to her loins...and, like a queen, to keep from attracting her ire. This is not to detract from her strength. Rather, it accentuates it. To remove her strength is to remove all that attracted me. Why would I do such a thing? Alas, I know that there are men who would.

As for sexually strong women...wish I had known about you all 10 years ago!

Now that I've rambled so much, time to let someone else have a word.



Bash

Ahhh.....to find a man like that! *big sigh*

I follow Bash around Lit just to read his romantic posts.

Blue

 

[Native Alien]

there is that cowboy again...

i do so like that cowboy and it makes all the blowing steam and the things that i have to learn to ignore worth every minute.

 

[BlueDaisy]

there is that cowboy again...

i do so like that cowboy and it makes all the blowing steam and the things that i have to learn to ignore worth every minute.

Yeah, Bash is such a sweetie. We need more men like him around!

Blue