dildo question...

[James G 5]

Hee! And you know me, I'm the type to prefer something painful rather than giving up trying. But I try to be universally understanding on this board...not everybody is into the games we are.

Just part of my ongoing effort to bring them over to the Dark Side

 

[sloan]

ID LOVE to be a mouse...........

in the corner.............of the BED!

Lust Engine I'm not sure but I think Etoile & her partner could double dutch using that thing.



Slaon......

 

[Etoile]

Gapcapgrl hasn't posted since October 6th. I've sent her an e-mail through her profile to try to entice her back.

 

[gapcapgrl]

wow

who knew that one question would get so many replies?! thank you for enticing me back, dear... i appreciate it. my computer has been silly the past couple of weeks... i hate technology.

enough about that... the update is that after taking the advice of everyone that was sweet enough to post suggestions, i have been able to enjoy it more thoroughly... i also got a "hand" from a friend that helped to get it in... and it's been wonderful!!! i love the feeling of being filled... yum....

and about the pictorial... i'll have to wait until i get my new digital camera i promise to keep everyone updated on that!

leslie

 

[MagicFingers]

Re: wow

who knew that one question would get so many replies?! thank you for enticing me back, dear... i appreciate it. my computer has been silly the past couple of weeks... i hate technology.

enough about that... the update is that after taking the advice of everyone that was sweet enough to post suggestions, i have been able to enjoy it more thoroughly... i also got a "hand" from a friend that helped to get it in... and it's been wonderful!!! i love the feeling of being filled... yum....

and about the pictorial... i'll have to wait until i get my new digital camera i promise to keep everyone updated on that!

leslie

Great news. Welcome back. I'm SO glad it worked out (in) for you and you are enjoying it! That gives us all warm fuzzies I'm sure.
And a big thanks and hugs to Etoile, not only for the help getting GapCapGrl back, but sharing her Monster cock stories and pics with us. I can tell by that wry smile on your face that you must enjoy it too.
Umm, I have a digital camera....

 

[ChasingShadowsX]

Working in an adult bookstore, I met a guy who regularly bought even larger sized dildoes. I asked him what the trick was, and he explained that the best plan was to buy a model with a large base (suction cup optional) and a reinforcing wire running up the middle of it. Heat the toy to slightly warmer than body temperature (hot water or microwave will do the trick), lube it up generously, and bear down on it with steady pressure.

He bought 2 or 3 a month, with heads larger than an average fist! I remarked that he must have some very interesting stories, and he replied "That's nothing! You should see the video tapes!"

Sounds like a lot of work to get off

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: wow

who knew that one question would get so many replies?! thank you for enticing me back, dear... i appreciate it. my computer has been silly the past couple of weeks... i hate technology.

enough about that... the update is that after taking the advice of everyone that was sweet enough to post suggestions, i have been able to enjoy it more thoroughly... i also got a "hand" from a friend that helped to get it in... and it's been wonderful!!! i love the feeling of being filled... yum....

and about the pictorial... i'll have to wait until i get my new digital camera i promise to keep everyone updated on that!

leslie

See what happens?? Stay away for a little bit and EVERYONE jumps onboard your thread! Welcome back & by all means, send pics in future & don't be such a stranger. Who knows where this thread will end up.

 

[gapcapgrl]

Re: Re: wow

Great news. Welcome back. I'm SO glad it worked out (in) for you and you are enjoying it! That gives us all warm fuzzies I'm sure.
And a big thanks and hugs to Etoile, not only for the help getting GapCapGrl back, but sharing her Monster cock stories and pics with us. I can tell by that wry smile on your face that you must enjoy it too.
Umm, I have a digital camera....

So... you have a digital camera, eh? Are you suggesting something, Magic....?

 

[gapcapgrl]

one more thing....

I forgot to post this with the last one... sorry!

So, this guy that I'm "seeing" (in a very loose, just met, not had sex yet type of way) and I were talking the other night and he asked me if I had any toys. I told him yes, and started telling him about them, especially my new favorite one that I can FINALLY use. (kudos and thanks to you all) He got kinda quiet and was like, ya know... I really wish you wouldn't use that one anymore cause I can't compare at all to it. I laughed and I said that I'd be surprised if most anyone could and told him that I loved it and wanted to keep using it. However, I think that it's given him a complex... Should I stop using it for his sake or keep using and just forget about what he said?

Guys, what's your input on this?

Leslie

 

[rick_j21]

In my humble opinion I'd strongly state that any guy who tried to compare his skills in bed to any toy you have is silly. It's sort of unfair because in the masculine view you as a female wouldn't need a toy because a guy would always be able to pleasure you. I say that only because there are guys who believe that. I personally know this just isn't the case. Not only is my cock not the right shape for each and every one of your needs, but my cock isn't always around either. As a guy I always want my woman to be happy and to recieve pleasure. I'd never have a problem with a woman using toys or ever be jealous of them, unless you get to a point where you replace the man with a toy. As long as you have satisfying intercourse and a good sex life with him or any man then toys have their place. Thats just this male's 2 cents.

 

[Guest]

That's what I've always found funny. I'm used to dildos being measured as diameter, but most human men measure their girth as circumference. I've been told it's because (a) it's hard to measure a real dick's diameter and (b) they're frequently not round as dildos sometimes are.

RAMBONE, for the record, has a circumference of just under 8 inches. And he's a monster.

I took a measuring tape to mine and I'm an exact 6". I'd LOVE to be 7.5-8 around. I'm hoping if I keep banging it against the desk the swelling will remain permanent lol!!!


And while I have an mpeg of Dick Rambone fucking the bejesus out of Amber Lynn, I don't nor did I ever think he was 15" long. Now he is probably the biggest I've ever seen but looks more like 12" maybe. I'll have to go back and watch the clip now that I've seen Etoile's toy

 

[Etoile]

In my humble opinion I'd strongly state that any guy who tried to compare his skills in bed to any toy you have is silly. It's sort of unfair because in the masculine view you as a female wouldn't need a toy because a guy would always be able to pleasure you. I say that only because there are guys who believe that. I personally know this just isn't the case. Not only is my cock not the right shape for each and every one of your needs, but my cock isn't always around either. As a guy I always want my woman to be happy and to recieve pleasure. I'd never have a problem with a woman using toys or ever be jealous of them, unless you get to a point where you replace the man with a toy. As long as you have satisfying intercourse and a good sex life with him or any man then toys have their place. Thats just this male's 2 cents.

Now that is an awesome, enlightened view. Can we get you teaching sex ed?

 

[infinityoverzero]

Re: one more thing....

I forgot to post this with the last one... sorry!

So, this guy that I'm "seeing" (in a very loose, just met, not had sex yet type of way) and I were talking the other night and he asked me if I had any toys. I told him yes, and started telling him about them, especially my new favorite one that I can FINALLY use. (kudos and thanks to you all) He got kinda quiet and was like, ya know... I really wish you wouldn't use that one anymore cause I can't compare at all to it. I laughed and I said that I'd be surprised if most anyone could and told him that I loved it and wanted to keep using it. However, I think that it's given him a complex... Should I stop using it for his sake or keep using and just forget about what he said?

Guys, what's your input on this?

Leslie

I think you should keep enjoying yourself ...

Seriously, I think rick hit the money with his answer. After all, even us guys who in relationships enjoy some manual stimulation from time to time. Just because we like that doesn't mean that we no longer enjoy a nice mouth or pussy.

My advice is tell the guy that toys don't replace guys any more than a guy'shand replaces a girl. If he still can't handle the thought, that's his loss .

 

[MagicFingers]

Re: Re: Re: wow

So... you have a digital camera, eh? Are you suggesting something, Magic....?

Yeppers!
I'd love to see you fucking yourself with that big monster toy
And we could document with pictures it for all to see that you were not just exagerating about it
Like Etoile sharing her pic - I don't care that she prefers women and big dildos over the likes of me. I think it was a very loving and caring thing to share it with us.

And, yes some of do/have been feeling inadequate next to those monster-cocks. Long ago, I used to date someone who's ex had a big one. She was like a cavern. Even though she said it didn't bother her that I wasn't as big as him, I still wondered a bit.

But NOW, I love seeing monsters in tight, juicy twats, especially when the women attached are really excited about getting it inside them, as you say you were/are. So, if I was that guy you are dating, I would just help you with it, and enjoy it with you.

 

[Etoile]

Re: Re: Re: Re: wow

Like Etoile sharing her pic - I don't care that she prefers women and big dildos over the likes of me. I think it was a very loving and caring thing to share it with us.

Aww, you're welcome! That makes me really glad that I did.

 

[MagicFingers]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: wow

Aww, you're welcome! That makes me really glad that I did.

 

[WriterDom]

I have a vibrating thing I guess you'd call a dildo, though it isn't cock shaped. I love using it. It gives you a different perspective on the power of pussy muscles. Your hand is much more sensitive to this since it's not backed up by your torso.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

To be blunt--

It's not all about the fucking. *sigh*. There's so much he could be doing with you, and that dildo, that doesn't involve a direct comparison between him, and that dildo, you get my drift? It can be an addition to what goes on between you and him, not something that is just a replacement for him.

A little imagination, and happy faces for both of you

~anelize

 

[bashfull]

~snip~

Girth means a LOT more then length.

~snip.

{sulking} suddenly feeling very inadequate. So 2 inches is adequate girth, not length. Shucks, just when I was feeling superior!



LOL
Bash

 

[rick_j21]

Now that is an awesome, enlightened view. Can we get you teaching sex ed?

I dunno that I'd like to go that far. I just know what I like and I wish to goodness to know what women like. It might just be the subby in me though to want to do anything possible to please my partner.

 

[Guest]

I agree with Rick. If he can't handle it well he's just gonna have to learn. Me myself, I would enjoy using it on you. Just something else to enhance the experience. I can understand him being self-conscious especially not knowing you that well. But I'm sure once he enjoys it with you he'll get over it. I'm getting turned on by just the thought of it!!!! Hell, drop him, I'll come over lol!!!

 

[gapcapgrl]

sigh

if only i still lived in austin, texas... i'd be in houston in a heartbeat

i'm going to talk to him tomorrow... or perhaps just read some of what you all told me... either way, it'll be resolved then!

thanks everyone!

les

 

[dcraz]

More of the same advice

Les,

Do not change how you feel about using toys. Even if they are 'large'.

All you can do for your bf is be passionate, understanding and tell him you want to be with him for who he is. And of course, never compare him to your monster or say anything direct or indirect that might be construed as a comparison between him and your toy.

After that, it will be up to him. You cannot change people's insecurities. You can help by being passionate and understanding, but at the end of the day he is the one that must become secure in his own sexuality.

Everyone has insecurities and some are more outwardly visible. Men are often insecure about the size of their manhood. Or how long they can last. If we compare ourselves to toys that are as large as you want them to be and hard and ready all the time, we will forever feel inadequate. It is only after you become confident in your lovemaking ability (something that comes with lots of practice) that you will be comfortable with something like a monster toy in your presence.

Like any good battle (men are always so strategic), there are strengths and weaknesses. While men have their weaknesses (size and endurance compared to toys), we have many offsetting strengths. The ability to arouse desire while fully clothed. The capacity for comfort, love and general conversation. The warmth and protection of a firm hug and gentle snuggles while sleeping. The ability to cook and serve breakfast in bed the morning after! Let's see a monster toy do that!

The best way to a get a woman to reach orgasm is through her mind. And men (or women in the case or lesbians) are uniquely suited for that task.

Understand that women too can fall into these same traps. Women are just as likely to be insecure about their own perceived inadequacies. It will all be a matter of self esteem. But women may feel their breasts are too small or too big. Their ass too big. Their height too short or too tall. Their hair red instead of blonde. The list is often longer for women because society tends to place the importance of physical beauty more on men than women. Like I said above, the only thing we can do is be understanding and supportive to help them become more secure in their own sexuality.

But ultimately, they will have to learn to deal with this insecurity. I dated several women that were so insecure as to make any long term relationship nearly impossible. After months of trying to convince them how much they pleased me and how much I lusted after them, they still could not get over sever feelings of inadequacy. There was a point at which it finally became too much work. It ultimately ruined the passion between us and the relationships failed.

Sorry for such a long disertation. Once I started writing a response, it brought back memories of the same situation (having a lover that felt insecure or inadequate). Just wanted to share my expereiences and thoughts with you.

Good luck.

DC

 

[UEMcGill]

Wife loves her toys

We love the toys in our bedroom. Have the Kevin Dean life like dildo, about 11" X 2.5. We start out with my dick and get her good and wet, before using the dildo, then she strokes herself while I work on her clit with my tounge. She always cums like crazy, with this combination. Then I hop back in the saddle, slide in and out very easy.

Wife has never considered anything bigger, than her dildo. We know a lady who doesn't back down from anything. Seen her take a fist, baseball bat, and wine bottle. I entered her once after a wine bottle, I didn't feel much, but she seemed to enjoy it, can't say it felt real good for me. That may be why some guys don't like seeing girls use huge dildos. It's a hard act to follow.

 

[papadrew]

7.5" long and about 5.75" around, measured wiht one of those flexible cloth sewing tape measures