Depression support Network

[Gypsybyrd]

Hello everyone. I'm at the lowest point I've ever been in my life. At one point, I just about lost what little grasp I had left. I made it through that but still trying to cope. I'm bypassing the holidays this year. Christmas is normally my favorite time of year.

{{{{{{{ima}}}}}} If you need an ear ...

 

[lady*laura]

That's one of the reasons I'm on this site, honestly, because I love my husband and he loves me but the depression and anxiety meds are just draining his libido. We had a fantastic sex life for years, but then he started having a few health problems, then the depression and poof...sex life is MIA. Dammit!

What to do? I need wisdom, advice, something!!!

How long has he been on meds? Which ones is he taking? Can he switch to something that isn't as invasive on his libido? Is he beating himself up becasue he feels he is somehow "letting you down"? You know the brain is the biggest sex organ we have and sometimes one can be their own worst enemy. Is he getting any talk therapy along with the meds?

 

[Gypsybyrd]

So ... why is it that I spend Thanksgiving with the family (17 people including me) ... yet I'm lonely as all get-out which then depresses me? Holidays suck!

 

[ShinigamiSama]

I should probly go to a phyc one of these days
but as of present I've no time money or energy to spend on mental health
I just need enough to get through this last half(2/3actualy) of my last year of post-secondary...

so yeah
I'm a gemini but its not so much two but three variations
the thrid being somewhat of a medium 'twixt the other two and my normal state
usualy every 7 months or so I slide from one side to the other and then back again before settling in the middle for another 7 or so months

but as my stress levels rise it gets increasingly unstable and I've a hard time sleeping eating or doing any sort of real work.
I also tend to get more easily irritated, agressive and generaly ready to put someone through a wall
thankfully I havn't done that in a while

 

[lady*laura]

So ... why is it that I spend Thanksgiving with the family (17 people including me) ... yet I'm lonely as all get-out which then depresses me? Holidays suck!

I totally know how you feel. I'm the middle child of 8 sibs and holidays got crazy when you added in spouses and nieces, nephews, etc....I totally felt invisible from the rest of them and would feel very lonely. That has gotten better. The family doesn't get together in a big herd anymore and I have lowered my expectations of holiday gatherings as well so there isn't his big pressure or build up.

 

[lydia63]

I totally know how you feel. I'm the middle child of 8 sibs and holidays got crazy when you added in spouses and nieces, nephews, etc....I totally felt invisible from the rest of them and would feel very lonely. That has gotten better. The family doesn't get together in a big herd anymore and I have lowered my expectations of holiday gatherings as well so there isn't his big pressure or build up.

The operative phrase for me is 'lowered expectations.' It's no longer a question of 'Will there be an argument over the holiday?' but 'When will it happen, who will it be, and what will it be about?'
About 3 hours before my husband's family was due to arrive for Thanksgiving, he suddenly started yelling about how he was doing all the preparations and why didn't the rest of us get off our asses and help? My son got into it with him, and wanted to know why I didn't get ticked off. I said, "I see this every year. He'll calm down, realize he's being an ass, and apologize in an hour or so." And he did.
Again, lowered expectations are the key.

 

[lydia63]

Bump

Either people aren't posting b/c we're all too depressed, or we all got well and have better things to do. I certainly hope it's the latter. I'm doing great right now, although lack of sunlight does get to me around the end of the day. Hope everybody is doing ok. Happy Saturday to all, in any case.

 

[elizabeth22673]

I would post here more...I guess it'd be great if it was semi-private. . . know what i mean?

But, I do want to offer some hugs if anyone would like....


Liz

 

[ShinigamiSama]

Either people aren't posting b/c we're all too depressed, or we all got well and have better things to do. I certainly hope it's the latter. I'm doing great right now, although lack of sunlight does get to me around the end of the day. Hope everybody is doing ok. Happy Saturday to all, in any case.

I Was wondering if people just didn't wanna deal us depressed people D:

anyways
I'm doing better as well
it snowed and I got/took a few days off school and slept

 

[football_stud]

I had a rough week last week as i was very depressed and felt lonely and felt like i didn't belong and almost killed myself but fortunately my only real friend came to help and some friends i didn't know cared as much as they did helped too

 

[Gypsybyrd]

Either people aren't posting b/c we're all too depressed, or we all got well and have better things to do. I certainly hope it's the latter. I'm doing great right now, although lack of sunlight does get to me around the end of the day. Hope everybody is doing ok. Happy Saturday to all, in any case.

I wouldn't count on it being the latter ... but maybe that's just me.

 

[Gypsybyrd]

I had a rough week last week as i was very depressed and felt lonely and felt like i didn't belong and almost killed myself but fortunately my only real friend came to help and some friends i didn't know cared as much as they did helped too

You're very lucky to have friends that care and that you could let know you were needing them. I know those feelings of depression, loneliness, and not belonging well.

 

[football_stud]

You're very lucky to have friends that care and that you could let know you were needing them. I know those feelings of depression, loneliness, and not belonging well.

i am just glad they repsonded to my plea for help

 

[lydia63]

asking for help

i am just glad they repsonded to my plea for help

When I had my worst episode 5 years ago, I called on friends I hadn't spoken to in years, friends I hadn't been so good to. It was no time to be proud.
Some of the people I wouldn't have counted on really came through for me. It's hard to ask for help, but somehow it's also liberating to relinquish control and admit that sometimes you just can't do it alone.
I'm so glad you had friends to turn to. Hope you feel you have friends here too.

 

[lady*laura]

Ok so I got this book published by this small inde publishing company. It's about growing up different. As in not really fitting in and always feeling alone even though I was surrounded by ten sibs*. It's about depression and it's a very hopeful book. Sales of it are really good and the responses are all positive. So I should be like really happy right? I'm not. It's like I am standing outside of myself watching this happen and it's all good and positive but there's this invisible layer of saddness over it all. That's what sucks the most about depressions. It's tints your world just enough so things never seem to be as bright as they really are. I hate that about depression.


* I realize there is that element out there that will say wait a second she said 8 sibs just a few posts earlier. I actually have 10 sibs but only 8 are still living- oh and math has never been my strong point.

 

[lydia63]

Ok so I got this book published by this small inde publishing company. It's about growing up different. As in not really fitting in and always feeling alone even though I was surrounded by ten sibs*. It's about depression and it's a very hopeful book. Sales of it are really good and the responses are all positive. So I should be like really happy right? I'm not. It's like I am standing outside of myself watching this happen and it's all good and positive but there's this invisible layer of saddness over it all. That's what sucks the most about depressions. It's tints your world just enough so things never seem to be as bright as they really are. I hate that about depression.


* I realize there is that element out there that will say wait a second she said 8 sibs just a few posts earlier. I actually have 10 sibs but only 8 are still living- oh and math has never been my strong point.

There's an old song/saying about "Looking at the world through rose-colored glasses," meaning that a person refuses to see the dark side of things. With depression I feel like I'm wearing grey-colored glasses - everything is tinted cloudy and dismall.
I think I've had that feeling you describe too - like I'm seeing my life go by without me actually being there. But try to believe there will be brighter days.

 

[blindhound]

I think you two have characterized it well. I would also add that there is a feeling of restlessness that comes as "this just isn't working, I have to do something different" and then the feeling that anything different is only going to be worse!

I am so thankful that there is a thread here to talk about this.

 

[virgin_not]

Talking about depression..oh boy,been there almost 2 decades ago. For few months was suffering from it due to my ex hubby and almost came to the time that I was hooked with drugs to conquered that feeling...escape from problems and even from life itself. I felt life was hopeless and worthless. Suicidal thoughts were lurking in my minds.

One time was so stoned..I looked on the mirror and saw a devil...yup..was scared I did even broke my mirror...hands was bleeding...just cried all nite and next day...realise just throwing my life for a worthless guy..so I went stand up and fight for it...how..?? I did not take any pills or see a counselling..just pray and ask for a strenght and I just look up and think of my sons's future..I told myself my kids needs me..have to be strong for them..so here am I now...happy and finally found the life of my man.

 

[Shivanhellkite]

Depression

Hi all, I'm also bi-polar and depressive. I am having a hard time finding medications that will work for either the mania or depression for more than a month or two. I've also started having several migraines a week in the last month, so a support community would be very appreciated.

 

[cymbline]

Just started to read this thread wish I had more time, but off to work. Just wanted to say that I know and feel a lot of what has been said so far. And for me around the holiday is the worst.

 

[RocknRoll]

Im glad this thread is helping so many people

its good to support one another... those who dont suffer genrally dont understand what its like.... not helped by many so called depressed people out there who are mildly upset for about 20mins and claim to be depressed...

sorry had a few of those in my life recently...

 

[lydia63]

Merry Christmas

I know this can be a hard time of year for some, but I've had a good holiday so far, and hope all of you have as well.
One bit of good news for those of us who suffer with Seasonal Affected Disorder - Friday was the Winter Solstice, so we'll gradually be getting a bit more daylight! Hooray!

 

[DwayneDibley]

Think I'll bump this thread, reading some of the comments left here and a lot of them sound very very familiar and I can relate to!

I'm currently in the middle of a month off work due to depression, also got some tablets for it too, first time I've taken anything like that! Bit ironic really, considering I'm a bloody psychiatric nurse myself!

I think I have a fairly depressive personality, the comment about 'grey-tinted glasses' I can really understand as I seem to have them on as well! Been finding motivation to do anything really hard, been sleeping all the time, though am just starting to feel better now and forcing myself to do stuff, went with a mate last night and gave fencing a try, great fun! Walking is helping too, bit of excercise and fresh air, been taking my digicam out too, trying to develop photography as more of a hobby too.

Great thread this, hope it continues!

 

[Gypsybyrd]

Think I'll bump this thread, reading some of the comments left here and a lot of them sound very very familiar and I can relate to!

I'm currently in the middle of a month off work due to depression, also got some tablets for it too, first time I've taken anything like that! Bit ironic really, considering I'm a bloody psychiatric nurse myself!

I think I have a fairly depressive personality, the comment about 'grey-tinted glasses' I can really understand as I seem to have them on as well! Been finding motivation to do anything really hard, been sleeping all the time, though am just starting to feel better now and forcing myself to do stuff, went with a mate last night and gave fencing a try, great fun! Walking is helping too, bit of excercise and fresh air, been taking my digicam out too, trying to develop photography as more of a hobby too.

Great thread this, hope it continues!

Glad to hear you're getting out and about Dwayne. Good luck!

 

[Gypsybyrd]

Im glad this thread is helping so many people

its good to support one another... those who dont suffer genrally dont understand what its like.... not helped by many so called depressed people out there who are mildly upset for about 20mins and claim to be depressed...

sorry had a few of those in my life recently...

{{{{{{{{{{{{Rock}}}}}}}}}}}}}} better late than never with the hugs